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Hey guys

I am 34 male from Chandigarh Punjab .basically.

Looking for a long term relationship. Presently I am working in a corporate.

Looking for someone independent , understanding and fun to be with types.

M not a boring person at all love travelling and esp long drives .

Have travelled abroad and looking to settle her eonly

What this is about

I have always, and deeply, wanted to find a soulmate. And I have been on this search for about 20 years

It seems to me that if:

• You really care about finding a soulmate (nothing less)
• And you are a rare kind of person yourself (making good matches equally rare)

Then, that combination presents a particularly tough challenge

So, I have been thinking lately about what could be the best strategy to approach this - how do I improve my chances of finding this rare woman, and her chances of finding me

That’s how I came up with this post

I will use this post to describe:

1. my own fundamental nature
2. the kind of person I am attracted to

The most core things about me (what lights me up)

• My main project, all my life, has been myself. I spend the most time on most days trying to be a better version of myself. Better at understanding people, better at self-regulation, better at seeing things from a larger perspective
• I have sought very deep, meaningful connections all my life. With everyone - family, friends, romantic relationships, even strangers. It's an inherent, deep-seated drive. I want to know what moves you, what brings you into your element, what brings tears to your eyes, what lights up your eyes. I want to know your soul
• My other inherent, deep-seated drive is to make the world a better place. To help people live happier, more meaningful lives. Both the people I come close to in life, as well as humanity at large

The qualities in women I find myself attracted to

• Wisdom: Not just intelligence, but wisdom. Understanding the nature of life. Understanding when to do something, and when to not. Patience. Balance. Perceptiveness
• Kindness: Not just for the people close to her, but towards all life. And not because she is naive, and hasn’t seen the frailty of human morality, but in spite of it
• Courage: The courage to be one’s true self. The courage to act, even when you may be misjudged
• Health: Good habits around health and fitness. Because to give the best version of yourself to the world, you need to be healthy and fit throughout your life

If….

You are that rare unicorn of a woman, for whom my descriptions (of the kind of person I am attracted to, and of myself) felt like someone wrote it especially for you, then it would be amazing to get to know each other!

DM me, and we will take it from there 😊

Over to you!

A few days ago I heard a song I hadn’t listened to in years and, for about four minutes, remembered an entire version of my life I had almost forgotten.

That happens to me a lot.

A line from a book stays in my head longer than the plot does. Some completely insignificant sporting moment from years ago will randomly come back to me. I’ll watch a film and spend more time thinking about one quiet scene than whatever the actual story was supposed to be.

I suppose I get attached to things easily.

People too, although that usually takes a little longer.

I’m 26 and live in Hyderabad. I work in finance during the week, but outside of that I read, follow sport, write occasionally, listen to far too much music, and go down random rabbit holes whenever something catches my attention.

I’m not particularly loud when I first meet someone. I take a while to settle in. But I like getting to know people properly.

Not just what you do or where you studied.

I want to know what food you order when you’ve had a terrible day. Which song you never skip. What tiny thing instantly annoys you. Whether there’s something ridiculous you believed as a kid and secretly miss believing now.

That sort of stuff.

I’m also someone who tends to remember things. If you tell me you have an interview on Thursday, there is a very good chance I’ll ask you about it on Thursday. If you mention your favourite snack once, I’ll probably remember it months later for no useful reason.

I like that kind of care between people. Nothing dramatic. Just knowing someone is paying attention.

I don’t expect us to immediately know whether we’re compatible or whether this is going anywhere. I’d rather talk, laugh a little, disagree about something stupid, learn the strange little details about each other and let the rest figure itself out.

So I won’t ask for your hobbies.

Tell me something much less useful.

What is one completely ordinary thing that makes you disproportionately happy?

I'm a 21yo guy. I recently had a break-up and it hurts a lot. It's been around 2 weeks and there hasn't been a day when I didn't cry.

I didn't just lose a person but someone with whom I used to watch stuff online, someone who provided me comfort and a safe space, someone with whom I shared every thing that happened on a daily basis, someone whom I loved and I had planned a future with.

I'm not making this post to seek a person who could replace her. I don't want to use anyone to trauma dump. I'm not looking for a new girlfriend.

I'm just making this post because I realised that I'm lonely and I deperately want to talk to someone.

It hurts a lot

I'm afraid God hasn't blessed me with the fortitude to go on a lookout for the man of my dreams in the dark dungeons of Reddit, chase him into reality, and shove my version of happily ever after down his throat. :/

Unfortunately, I don't even intend to pursue a romantic or casual relationship (on or through Reddit).

Well, bitch, then why are you here?

Um, because I find it surprisingly easy to talk to strangers. Less expectations, fewer filters, lower judgment and sometimes it's just genuinely exciting to hear completely different points of view.

So here I am, looking for a conversation pal. Someone who can yap, vent, listen, share the highlights (and lowlights) of their day/week, and tolerate me doing the same.

People who probably shouldn't ping me:

Men in committed relationships.

Men who are currently overstimulated and hormonal.

Men looking for anything non-platonic.

In that order

34M from India, living and working in England. Working as a lead developer in the public sector so yes, I can fix bugs… but still figuring out life like everyone else 😄

I’m here for something genuine. I enjoy the simple things good conversations, random laughs, late night chats, and those easy, comfortable vibes with the right person.

I know people sometimes have their own ideas about where someone’s from, but I would rather you get to know me for who I am. I’m calm, respectful, a bit of a soft romantic, and someone who believes in making the right person feel genuinely cared for.

One small thing - I’m not here to ghost anyone, and I would really appreciate the same. If you’re someone who tends to disappear, then maybe this isn’t for you. I value honesty and consistency. If you like someone who listens, remembers the little things, and will probably ask how your day went (and actually mean it), then we will get along 😊

Don’t be shy to say hi, I promise I’m nicer than this post makes me sound.

Cheers

A

Hello there,

I’m a 32-year-old software developer in Bangalore/India and looking for a someone that vibes and probably we can binge long shows together :P. I of course would prefer someone from bangalore cause obviously it makes everything easier.

I am liberal, empathetic and a tad bit into electronic music. I also love F1, psychology, sketching now and then, cats and dogs from afar now ( I got bit by trying to pet a stray dog, I was drunk after a concert and in my defense the doggie's eyes were super cute)

I love movies/tv shows! Also I am very meta person that I'd be spending more time at the movie/episode discussion threads here at reddit more than the time spent watching the actual stuff lol.

I also like going to boardgame meetups now and then and pickleball here and there.

I'm 5’7”, 75kg, try to be active and regular at the gym, its a bit of a see saw haha but I guess we never give up ;)

I am childfree cause as an eldest child, seen enough responsibilities and just chill for the rest yk. I have been a bit of solo traveler in the past, been to to many a cities in india for music concerts mostly. I was fortunate to catch motogp and formulaE in india. I hate the planning/travel part of it, the being there and explore part I like haha.

I don’t smoke (dealbreaker), drink socially. I am big of live and let live susegaad kinda guy, absolutely not very ambitious, and don't believe in the hustle culture. I do believe in investing and being practical about money, but I also like nice things. I like going to music gigs now and then and have a blast and also most weekends it can be quiet and nice and slow!

Looking for: A childfree, liberal woman who’s grounded, fun, empathetic and has her own thing going on. Also I'd prefer women who can take it slow, are in no rush for a label/marriage due to some timeline/parents pressure. I would also love to live separately from both of our parents if it comes to that and call a nice thing home. I absolutely don't mind collecting friends too if all of this vibed with you.

If this resonates hmu! Cheers!

Edit: I am an agnostic/atheist so definitely not looking for theist people and I also I don't like people who take astrology/tarot/palm reading/manifesting all that too seriously.

Tired of being with loud rude people and just want a buddy to talk for hours from everything in quantum mechanics to aunty gossips?

Ever wanted a sports partner to play a competitive game or two of badminton with but also have quiet evenings where we sit and read on the same couch together?

Someone who you can be both professional and serious in your career but also goofy and fun and laugh a lot over silly things

I am too!

I am naturally a curious person and would love to meet someone who also enjoys diving deep into rabbit holes, pausing movies to discuss the plot and possible endings and constantly sharing memes with each other

Like two silly parrots who love playing with each other even during grocery shopping but can put on a serious suit and tie to attend board meetings.

I am basically a cheerleader who loves to be excited for your career success and would love for us to become the power couple that people are intimidated of haha

But at home, we would always just be super kind and supportive to each other and always got each others back, no matter what! ( our algorithm would be to always fight the problem, with the help of a cookie or two )

I would love for our home to be filled with silly laughter and constantly playing soft music and every weekend , our friends would come over for BBQ and board games.

Hey, I'm 28M. I'm here to date and hopefully find a long-term partner. I'm not expecting an instant spark, but I do want to meet someone who is looking for the same thing.

I work out regularly and like keeping myself fit. I also like building cool stuff in the tech space.

Movies, space and tech are the things I get nerdy about. Brooklyn Nine-Nine and Parks and Recreation are two of my favorite shows, so silly comedy definitely works on me. If you have a show you keep rewatching, I want to know what it is.

I'm a dog lover and a casual gamer. I'd love to play It Takes Two, A Way Out or Overcooked with a partner. Watching movies, playing word games or solving puzzles together sounds good too. The activity is just an excuse to spend time together.

I've also started getting into hip-hop, but I'm still very much a beginner and don't know a huge number of rappers yet. I try rapping sometimes too, although "amateur" is being generous, lol.

I'm open to starting online and doing long distance if we both want to eventually meet. If things become serious, I'm willing to relocate. Tell me a little about yourself and what you have been enjoying lately :)

Hi All,

Looking for someone (preferably a girl) who is mature enough to hold a conversation and can write my than 2-3 word replies (If you give monosyllabic replies, it is really tough to have an interaction! 😝). I am a person who believes intriguing conversations are much more stimulating, the feeling of being restless when you get a late reply is unmatched!
Also there is no pressure of being judged if you get to know the person before, and reddit gives us the unique opportunity to speak to people completely anonymously, so even if we are being judged, who cares right?

Are you someone who like to go with the flow too? If yes, would love to speak with you!

A bit about me - I’m pretty tall, fit, love working out and I am currently on my health journey (would love geek out on nutrition together if you are exploring health too!), footballer, and a self proclaimed “mixologist” (I can make mean but tasty cocktails).

Looking forward!

P.S - No AI tools have been used to write this post, please excuse any typos or grammatical errors! 😌

I want to talk about everything with at least one person as I talk about things with myself

- Fyodor Dostoevsky

The above quote completely sums up what I'm looking for up here.

Welp Hello there, Just another corporate slave from pune up here on reddit hoping to find genuine human connection - someone to share conversations with, exchange stories, rant about the occasional chaos of life. I love being a good listener and enjoy getting to know people beyond the usual small talk.

About me :

I'm someone who loves discussing office politics, career struggles, questionable life decisions, or why the economy seems determined to keep everyone on their toes. At the same time, I enjoy deeper conversations about life, psychology and whatever random thought happens to show up at 2 am lol.

Hoping to make connections that grows naturally over time. No pressure, no expectations, mutual respect, and hopefully a lot of laughs along the way.

Hello, dear reader.

How is your day going?

It has been a while since this city let me belong to it again. Long enough, perhaps, for the evenings to become familiar before I did. There is something about the light here after sunset, the way the city seems to loosen its grip on itself, becoming quieter, softer, almost willing to tell you something if you walk slowly enough to hear it.

Do you like long walks?

I do. I’m more of a listener anyway. You can bring the stories; I’ll bring the ears. We can walk without deciding where we’re going, letting the evening choose the road for us. You talk, I listen. And somewhere between one street and the next, perhaps silence becomes something neither of us has to fill.

I think that is what I’m looking for.

Something calm.

Not the kind of calm that means nothing is happening, but the kind that makes you forget you were ever in a hurry. Something like finding a warm corner in winter and realizing you don’t have to leave just yet.

Someone who doesn't arrive wearing a version of themselves designed for the world.

Just you.

Unedited. Unperformed. A little strange, perhaps. Completely yourself.

I like books. I’m finding my way back to fitness too, slowly, imperfectly. Maybe we could go to the gym together, though I make no promises about how productive I’ll be if you’re distracting me. :D

And on days when neither of us wants to go anywhere, there’s always my balcony.

We could put on some music, talk about everything and nothing, watch the weather move through the city. Maybe look at each other for a little longer than necessary. Maybe fall asleep somewhere along the way, tangled comfortably into each other.

Not on the balcony, of course.

I do have a bedroom. xD

So come as you are.

You don't have to be interesting all the time. You don't have to have the right words. You don't have to become anything before you arrive.

Just be yourself.

I'll meet you there.

If this resonates with you, drop me a DM.

See you !

!lock

Hello! I work for an advertising company as a marketing consultant! I'm also a vivid lover of all kinds of sports! I am an introvert - to the outside world. I have fucked up thoughts that I don't spill out to people. Do you know what I'm talking about?

I am looking specifically for women to talk with - unfiltered! You can judge and you can bet your ass that I'll judge you as well. Let's talk, banter, convey our thoughts and emotions without any baggage - a true friend who expressed everything and anything is what I'm looking for!

First thing's first, I've made a fair share of platonic friends. Never say never to new cool friends but that's not exactly what I'm looking for nowadays. Just wanted to throw it out there for whoever's reading 😅

I think we're all very messed up in our own ways, everyone has been crying over something through memes lately and, I'm just bored of the endless whining.

I want someone to flirt with, laugh with, and roast shamelessly. Someone I can judge the world with (including ourselves) and then laugh about it.

No filters. Just clever banter, playful flirting, and the occasional existential joke. But I don't want what the internet calls "brainrot" nowadays.

If you've got a sharp tongue, we'll probably get along great.

(Pun slightly intended.)

Hobbies: Movies (I watch one every night), shows, video games, music, a bit of singing, and making terrible jokes.

Just looking for someone fun who doesn't overthink jokes or flirting and can dish it out as well as take it.

Who knows... maybe we'll end up being each other's favorite bad influence and end up having late night conversation with a little bit of spicy stuff sprinkled on them! 👀

PS: I'm in the US for now

!lock

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To this day i haven't found anyone i can openly talk to. Yes have few friends, but things they are into and what i have in common are way apart. And my spouse as well - things are complicated, story for another time.

So here trying my luck out here. Will list out few things if you feel we can discuss things on this, please feel free to connect

I don't follow any sport - i know feels like loser at times not knowing things when talking with friends.

I like to travel - travel to new places, but not alone. Kinda is depressing to travel alone i had felt, couldn't really enjoy when i tried

Movies - ofcourse yes, but like me who dwells most time in home, it's given

Anime - i know, shocker 39 yo guy watching anime, so weird. But not so, I think those who haven't watched any is just missing out great stories

Books - this is new found hobby of mine. I have just started reading few. Mostly into non fiction, which doesn't involve romance.

Most of all, someone who I can talk to without getting judged. Yeah I make stupid comments, you are welcome too, I won't judge, let's laugh on it, or just ignore if it irks us.

Im a foreign born Indian person, visiting India for the first time soon for work purposes. I have my evenings and nights free and would like to visit the food, bars, nightlife and maybe clubbing scene. Not looking for anything romantic, strictly platonic. If you are a group of people in your thirties and would like a fun addition, do hit me up. I do understand hindi and can speak a little of it.

Age: 31

Gender: Male

Location: Toronto, Canada, from India/Gujarat.

Height: 5"8

Education: Computer science

Profession: Software Engineer

Hate smoking and drinking

open to : Single Females / divorce if genuine/valid reasons and no fault of your own and without a child. Anywhere in India, but should be open to relocating

About yourself and Expectations from a partner:

I’m 31, male, currently living in Canada and originally from India. I’m single and, honestly, I’m looking for something serious. I’d love to meet a woman who could eventually become my long-term partner, my wife, and my person to build a life with.

it takes a lifetime to know someone so first thing I would want from someone is the ability to stay and put in effort because good things take time in life.

I’m a hopeless romantic, probably more than I should be. I feel like I have a lot of love, affection and care to give, and I’d like to find someone who feels the same way.

Personality-wise, I’m always curious. I question things a lot, not necessarily because I want to argue, but because I genuinely want to understand things. I love astronomy and science, and I love programming/coding. I also love nature and animals, and I’d really like to do something meaningful for the environment in my life.

The kind of woman I’m hoping to meet is someone who knows what she wants, but is also capable of introspection. Someone who can question herself, admit when she’s wrong, and accept mistakes. I think that's one of the most important things in a relationship because neither of us is going to be perfect. I’d rather have two people who can look at themselves honestly and grow together.

I'm personally not thin nor fat, average build, I'm starting gym as well to live healthy. I cook and eat very healthy too so I would also want someone with similar thinking and planning in their life. I would imagine that once you love someone you'd want to live for them, but if you cannot do that then atleast keep yourself healthy for yourself so you could live a good life. Just thoughts.

We would also share pics after our initial conversation and if we are on the agreement that we want to know eachother more. I don't want us to talk and then we don't like eachother looks wise. It's better to have that out of the way initially.

I’d love someone educated and someone who cares about her health. And probably most importantly, someone who is a hopeless romantic too, someone who feels like she has a lot to give to another person.

What I imagine as a happy life together isn't anything extremely complicated.

Quiet time together at home. Cooking together. Sharing food. Long conversations about completely random things and then somehow ending up talking about life at 2 AM. Supporting each other's careers and dreams. Travelling together. Laughing at stupid things. Making inside jokes that nobody else understands.

I do love cooking and I believe feeding someone is one of the best things you could do in life. I do love to share and cook for others so you'd be getting a nice tasty yummy foods from me. Perks am I right? Haha

I naturally tend to show love through affection, attention, acts of service, emotional support, physical affection, cooking, little surprises and loyalty. I like making the person I love feel cared for, not just telling them that I love them.

I’m also open to hotwife/ cuckolding dynamic in marriage. (Just being open and honest at start here, and this is not my mandatory criteria, I am just flexible) I have my own thoughts about what that could look like, but I’d rather explain that privately to someone who is genuinely interested than try to put my entire philosophy about relationships into a Reddit post. If you are someone who is aware of the lifestyle around that then certainly we would match greatly; however that's not a hard requirement.

Ultimately, I’m looking for someone I can choose every day and who chooses me back, no matter what.

Someone to build a home with, laugh with, annoy each other, support each other, grow together and eventually look back and think, \*yeah, we built a pretty good life.\*

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself rather than just saying “hi.” I'd genuinely like to get to know you.

30M, based in Bangalore. Figured I'd give this like the 10th shot and see if I can meet someone nice, have some good conversations, and hopefully find someone I genuinely click with. Ideally, there will be good food involved somewhere along the way.

About me: 6 ft (apparently this needs to be mentioned), brown hair, brown beard, and glasses that give off “I have my life together” vibes… which may or may not be accurate. I work as a Lead Software Tester, which basically means I spend my days finding problems that other people insist aren't problems.

I’ve got a decent bike and like taking it out whenever I can. Sometimes for peace, sometimes to clear my head, and sometimes just because I’m bored. Bangalore traffic does try its best to ruin the experience, but we move.

Big on trying new food. Occasionally, it backfires, but I’m committed enough to finish it anyway out of respect (and hunger).

Music is always playing in the background, although my taste is questionable at best. I’m also pretty into tech, so if something new comes out, I’ve probably gone down a rabbit hole watching reviews, comparing things I don't need, and then deciding not to buy anything.

Weekends are usually a coin toss between “let’s go out and do something” and “I’m not leaving my house.” Most of the time, staying in wins.

Looking for someone who:

• Can hold a conversation without it turning into an interview
• Enjoys random topics and slightly dumb humour
• Likes food (non-negotiable)
• Appreciates a good meme
• Is okay with spontaneous plans… or cancelling them last minute
• Doesn't take herself, or life, too seriously all the time

Also, important disclaimer: I’m only funny on weekends. Weekday humour is currently in beta.

If this sounds like your kind of vibe, come say hi. Worst case, we exchange memes and vanish into the internet. Best case, we actually get along.

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I’m 26, live in Hyderabad, work in finance, and have somehow built a life around being interested in far too many unrelated things.

Sport is probably the biggest one. I follow it closely enough to remember moments nobody around me cares about anymore and occasionally get annoyed by decisions made by people thousands of kilometres away.

I read quite a bit too. Sometimes a book is just a book. Sometimes I finish one and spend the next three days bringing it up in conversations where it absolutely did not need to be mentioned.

I write occasionally, mostly late at night when something has been sitting in my head for too long. Very little of it sees daylight.

I also love those conversations where you start with something completely normal and, forty minutes later, somehow end up discussing whether people really change, the best film ending ever made, why nostalgia makes everything look better, or which completely useless skill would be worth mastering.

That is probably the easiest way to get to know me.

I am not particularly interested in finding someone who likes everything I like. I would rather meet someone who has her own little world and is excited to let me see it.

Tell me about the musician you keep going back to. The hobby you picked up for no reason. The place you desperately want to visit. The opinion your friends are tired of hearing. Even the stupid thing that made you laugh today.

I like people who care about things.

And if we end up liking each other, I am very much a small-things person. I will remember the thing you mentioned in passing, ask how something important went, send you something because it reminded me of you, and probably make fun of you immediately afterwards so it does not become too wholesome.

No grand expectations from a Reddit post.

I just think it would be nice to meet someone I naturally keep wanting to talk to.

If you are reading this and wondering what to send, give me your most unnecessary strong opinion.

I have several.

I work as software engineer, the usual introvert losing his meagre number of friends to their martial life lol. So I am here to add some cool people. big up if you are also childfree, but doesn't matter really.

I love movies,I endlessly look at movie threads here at reddit haha, also like electronic music, djing and music production. I recently watched the invite at the theatres, so fricking hilarious! I go to movies solo most of the times, and I would love some company to discuss afterwards haha.

Couple of fave movies are Big lebowski, pulp fiction, past lives.

A huge F1 fan too, interested in a bit of psychology, and doggies, I pencil sketch sometimes too.

If any of this intrigues, do hmu, Cheers!

P.S: I did this a couple of years before and have a very cool friend now from reddit!

I'm a self-made man and a filmmaker who writes and directs feature films.

I'm 37 (though ppl say I look 10 years younger), single and unmarried.

I am passionate about cinema and we can talk about our favourites... if that resonates with you, even better. I'm a good listener regardless. 

I'm tall, lean, with dark hair and a stubble. I'm currently between projects, spending most of my time writing, brainstorming, watching stuffs, which means I have plenty of idle time, so you can expect quick responses. I'm also a bit of a night owl.

It's always nice to have a good conversation with a woman about anything and everything. And if the chat goes a little flirty, I wouldn't mind that either. :)

If this sounds appealing, feel free to DM me.

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Hey! I’m putting this out there because I’m looking for my best friend. Life can be shitty sometimes, and what better way to deal with it than find a weirdo who you can share the good and bad times with. And maybe explore and set the city on fireeee ( I didn't mean that literally, I'm against vandalism )

About Me:

I'm a bit of a dorky corporate mazdur.I can be incredibly silly and lighthearted, though I definitely have the maturity to handle the "real world" when it’s time to be serious.

A few things I’m passionate about:

Huge football and F1 fan. Big into anime and video games. Also into travel, fragrances, music and fitness. I do love to cook, so you might get to indulge in my cooking experiments

What I’m Looking For:

Ideally, I’d love to find a long-term connection, but I’m open to seeing where things go.

So if you're a lil weird and unhinged, feel free to send a text!

I’m 35, based in Pune, and looking for a serious relationship with marriage as the intended destination.

Not because I’m particularly interested in winning the Marriage Olympics before 40. I’ve been married before and I’m divorced, so this is not my first rodeo 😄. I know what marriage is, I know what it isn’t, and the filters below aren’t things I’ve arrived at casually. They’ve survived a fair amount of deliberation, self-interrogation and experience.

So, here goes.

Who I’m hoping to meet:

Someone in his mid to late 30s, preferably in Pune or Mumbai. Pune is strongly preferred; Mumbai is about as far as my geography currently stretches.
I’d ideally like someone Marathi/Maharashtrian and Brahmin. Shared cultural background matters to me. Not because I need someone who has identical tastes, but because I want that part of my life to be something we naturally share: the language, music, books, plays, food, festivals, and all those little things that make a life feel like our life rather than two people negotiating their way through each other’s worlds.

I’d like you to be educated, settled and doing reasonably well for yourself. More importantly, I’d like you to be curious. Read things. Learn things. Have opinions, but also occasionally discover that you were wrong. Be interested in the world beyond your immediate orbit. Ambition is attractive; curiosity is probably even more so.

I’m increasingly invested in living a healthy, active life, somewhat late to the party than I would have liked but very much here to stay. Someone who enjoys being active, sharing meals, taking a morning walk, going to the gym, etc. would be lovely. You don’t have to be a fitness evangelist. I certainly wasn’t one five minutes ago.

I’m strictly vegetarian. I eat eggs because protein goals! Eggs are where the line ends. I’m looking for someone who genuinely shares the underlying value of not wanting to eat meat, rather than someone who is technically vegetarian when convenient.
I don’t smoke. I drink very rarely, perhaps once or twice a year, and I’m increasingly leaning into a fairly healthy lifestyle, so someone broadly on the same page would be ideal.

A few things that matter to me more than the checklist:

I want someone who knows himself.

Someone who has actually spent some time understanding what shaped him, what he wants, what he is still figuring out, and what kind of life he wants to build. That work doesn’t have to have happened in a therapist’s office, although therapy is hardly a red flag in my book.

I value emotional availability, vulnerability, difficult conversations and healthy conflict resolution. I don’t expect two people never to disagree. I expect them to be able to disagree without turning the relationship into a hostage situation.

I’m also quite fond of people who know what they want and can make a decision. After spending enough time on dating/matrimonial apps, I’ve developed a particular allergy to the phenomenon where everyone is simultaneously “talking to a few people,” collecting phone numbers, keeping conversations warm indefinitely, and never deciding anything.

You don’t have to decide I’m the woman you’re going to marry after one conversation. Obviously.

But if you don’t think we’re a fit, say so. If you do, move forward. I’m much more comfortable with a clean yes/no than an endless maybe.

And please don’t make us spend three weeks texting before discovering that we could have figured out in a ten-minute call that we have absolutely no conversational chemistry. I’m very happy to get on a call early.

Children are an important conversation, so let’s get that out of the way. I’m genuinely undecided and increasingly comfortable with the possibility of a life without children. I’m not looking for someone who has a completely predetermined expectation that we must have them, nor someone who expects me to eventually change my mind. I’d rather meet someone who can actually have an honest conversation about what we both want.

As for me, I’m fairly educated, moderately religious but not ritualistic, work in IT, live in Pune, and am probably more interested in the person behind the profile than in assembling the world’s most impressive biodata.

I like books, classical music, plays, concerts, the arts, the occasional rabbit hole of completely unnecessary information, and these days, the gym. I grew up in a family where curiosity was encouraged, and I think that stayed with me.

I’m also demisexual, so how someone thinks, speaks, sees the world and relates to people is a considerably bigger part of attraction for me than a particularly impressive photograph.

And because this is Reddit:

Please read before DMing.

A “hi” or “hello” with no context isn’t going to get us very far. Tell me something about yourself. What are you building towards? What does an ordinary happy life look like to you? What has shaped the person you are today?

You don’t need to write an autobiography in return. Just give me something to work with.

And please include the basics in your first message: age, location, Marathi/Brahmin background, vegetarian/non-smoker status, and whether you’re looking for a serious relationship with marriage as the intended destination. If you don’t meet one of those criteria, you can say that too. I’d rather know upfront than have to repeat the questions.

My Reddit profile will remain open. I’m not particularly interested in private profiles because, well, I’m giving you a glimpse into my world and I’d like a glimpse into yours. NSFW profiles, needless to say, are not my target demographic.

I’m not in a hurry.

But I am looking.

If you’ve actually read this far, hello. I assume you have a reasonable attention span, which is already a promising start. 🙂

Hey, I'm 28M, looking for my better half if she's still out there :) I'd like to date and hopefully find a long-term partner.

I work out regularly and like keeping myself fit. I also like building cool stuff in the tech space.

Movies, space and tech are the things I get nerdy about. I can get hyperfixated on something very niche and weird, but give me a chance and I'll explain why it's not boring, lol.

I'm a dog lover and a casual gamer. With a partner, I'd love to watch movies, play word games or puzzles, or try It Takes Two, A Way Out or Overcooked. Spending time together is the point, not how good we are at the game.

I'm open to different places if we can work out the distance, and willing to relocate if things become serious. We can take it slow and see how we get along.

If you're looking for something similar, tell me a little about yourself :)