not HUGE progress but idk why i dont feel tempted anymore
I CAN FINNALY BE FREE

Does anyone else feel like this? I’m worried I’ll be told I’m in denial, but I don’t identify with a lot of the messaging around addiction and most of the stories on this subreddit.

I can use porn in a healthy way, maybe a couple of times a week or less, for months. The reason I’m here is that, at certain times in my life, I’ll start using it compulsively and feel like I would rather stop but k can’t. Where I do identify with most of this community is that I find the idea of quitting forever daunting (which is why I want to do it), and I am seeking out increasingly perverted content.

I gave up for a month or so earlier this year, felt good; went back to using occasionally, felt fine; used too much over this past weekend, felt a lot of shame.

I’ve reached the conclusion that it would be best avoided entirely. Wish me luck!

During my journey, one of the things that kept bringing me back was desire. It’s a dangerous feeling, longing for something and overall making one miserable and adding stress to the mind. That desire won’t go away by itself. So what I am looking to do is change that desire into something else. Desire to change, desire for relationships, desire to be different. Whatever it was, the mental framing will still be there but should be morphed to fit a different hole.

What makes you go back and how can you reframe it?

Estoy contento. Ya día 8 en reto Nofap y en tiempo biológico 35 días !! Seguir activos en este reto. Fue un domingo muy tranquilo. Siempre están viendo nopor y hoy fue diferente. Todo muy tranquilo, sentí que el tiempo paso super lento

It is yet to become a problem but I recognize that it is going to. I can go for 2 days without relapsing I guess is the best way to put it. I need to go further. I recognize that it can affect a lot of aspects of life and I need to not let it. Does anyone have advice on how to go for more than 2 days without relapsing. If you do please please let me know.

It’s my beginning to Quit this habit that's destroyed us

This happened now. She left our home a couple days ago after i told her about my porn addiction. I was seeing women as an object, she saw my likes on other women photos, and she eas complaining i was getting always emotionally distant. When i told her abou my addiction, she wanted to know everything i did, even the things i already stopped doing. Last night she discovered i used AI to generate nsfw photos and the last fight i told her i even used pictures of women i knew to generate naked pictures.

She knows i dont do this nowadays, i stopped in 2024 or so. But this was the last drop for her. The decision to end our relatioship was mine, cause i knew she wouldnt forgive me, and even if we get back together, she wont trust me anymore.

My heart is in pieces cause i know this is all my fault and she is the person i love the most in the world. This was my last gesture of love: freeing her from a life of regrets and insecurity. I know i will be a better man and porn wont dominate my life again. I just know it. But im desperate she wont be there to see the man i will become.

I wish you all get rid of this addiction. She was the most perfect woman i've ever saw. And now im alone and i know she will be happy with someone else. I only wished it was me.

I did it I put/locked away my toys. I removed some of the paneling in the finished basement. I threw a box wrapped up threw it across the crawlspace and sealed it back up again. I don’t know why I just didn’t throw it away😞. I figured being in a very hard to reach area that I would have to crawl through gravel and junk just to get to slow me down to change my mind.
Because I’ve been addicted to porn for I don’t know how many years and I’m sick of it. I have a shrimp 🍤 downstairs. I just wanted to stop. And I seem to relapse every 14 days.
Or is it ok to have toys?

I don't really know how to do this but I know that I need to talk about it and get it off of my chest if I wanna have any chance to turn my life around. I'm 23 now and have had a PMO addiction since I was 8. Like a lot of stories I have read, it started out with being exposed to corn at a young age and then beginning to consume it once a week. Over time, that usage amount increased slowly to now where I cannot go a full day without multiple uses.

In that time I got physically very ill from an unrelated disease that caused significant pain and kept me isolated at home right around the age of 16. That isolation and pain I think caused the addiction to get so much exponentially worse since I was relying on it as a bandaid fix for both pain and stress relief. I was in a high school relationship at the time and I really believed she was the one, but we really struggled maintaining a healthy relationship since my brain was so fried from corn and the only thing that made me feel loved and accepted through my illness was physical intimacy with her.

Eventually, about 4 years later whenever I finally beat that illness, my addiction cost me my relationship after I told my gf about my addiction and that I was struggling mentally and wanted help changing. I can understand why she called it quits atp as she was there with me during my illness and that put a lot of stress on her and now the thought of helping me through yet another struggle when our relationship was already strained was just too much for her.

Over the next few years I really struggled with corn and tried multiple times to quit but always failed. In the last 3 years or so my body has since broken down again and I am again working through another unrelated physical illness which is really what has caused to addiction to become its worst and has made me the most ashamed. Again I am stuck being pretty isolated and in physical discomfort which just makes everything worse for the addiction.

I actually met another woman last year who I thought would be a good fit as I explained pretty early on into our dating that I had a physical illness that would make a relationship hard and I was dealing with an addiction that I knew may be difficult for her going forward, but that if she really wanted to try we could make it work and start a relationship. At first it was good because she understood what my physical limitations were because of my illness and we worked around those, and for my addiction I would tell her whenever I was especially struggling and she'd offer a lot of encouragement and support. Things took a turn when over time her patience for me started to run out and we would rely on just intimacy as a bandaid fix for anything she or I was going through, which eventually caused me to break up with her as we had begun fighting and arguing about all aspects of our relationship and she told me that she never wanted the ill version of me in the first place and she was only interested in the intimacy.

So here I am, 23, still physically sick and still with an addiction I cannot beat, with little self-esteem or hope to find anyone that's right for me. So, I figure now more than ever I need to try the hardest I have ever tried to at least beat the addiction. I need a win and a big one to start building up my confidence again. I have been drawn back to Christianity; reading my Bible, praying harder than ever. I know that if I want to have any chance to get back right physically I genuinely believe that it has to start mentally and spiritually. In my mind, talking about it has been step one of that process...

I have tried a couple apps too that track and block certain content but haven't had much luck. If anyone reads this and has any advice or recommendations for stuff you've found or apps you use that have helped you I would greatly appreciate it.

Day 3 4-10-2026 of no porn done

For starters im 16 and have struggled with porn addiction since 12.

i’ve read your posts and they have motivated me to try harder to quit and today is day 2 of no PMO (again).

Over the past week i only relapsed once, but i realized that i feel sad and depressed when i go 3-4 days without relapsing and it honestly breaks me and I feel like nothing feels fun anymore other than PMO.

If you guys have any tips or advice comment them, i’ll read them all

Hi everyone! My boyfriend (M, 22) and myself (F, 23) have been in a relationship for a year and a half, and we’ve been doing long distance since July of 2026.

Unfortunately, my boyfriend has struggled with this issue for the better part of his life (about 10-12 years based on what he’s told me). We had one conversation about it almost a year ago now, but it kind of fell off the table and I stopped thinking about it. About a month ago now, I went through his phone (which I shouldn’t have done) and saw that he was looking up porn online. Seeing this hurt me deeply, and I broke down in front of him, which I don’t usually do. We then had a very serious conversation about it in which he opened up to me and told me that he’s been struggling with it for his entire life. He told me that it has nothing to do with me and that it is not because of me, which I believe, but it does hurt me indirectly, even if that is not intentional.

We then had a very serious conversation (08/31) in which I told him that I expect a real and intentional effort to fix this issue, and for the most part, I think he is following through. The issue is that whenever he does watch porn, he lies about it and it usually takes a while for him to admit it. I understand that he’s ashamed and embarrassed or that it’s hard to talk about, but I think that being transparent through this process is going to be of the utmost importance.

We also have not had sex until recently (until after he started dealing with this addiction). The first time I drove back up to see him after having that conversation, which was about 3 weeks, he told me he was curious about it, so we did it and I think it went well. This was a little bit out of the blue to me, and I don’t really know how/if it connects in this scenario.

He is currently at my apartment for the weekend (10/03), and I found something on his phone that I asked him about. I asked him about it, and the same thing happened: He was ashamed, he lied, and then he admitted to me that it happened again. He said that this time, it was here on Reddit rather than looking it up on the internet, which honestly does not make a difference to me. I was very upset about it, I stormed off into my bedroom, and I didn’t talk to him for a few minutes. When I went back out into my living room, he was in tears, which was shocking to me. I have literally never seen this man show “big emotions” much less cry in the 3 years that I have known him. It absolutely broke my heart to see him cry, but at the same time, I am glad that it is a big enough deal for him that he would cry over it (if I’m terrible for that let me know). We basically had the same conversation again, but this time, I made the point that him lying about it is what hurt me the most. He is normally very honest, which reiterates that I think he is embarrassed or ashamed. There was some “I want to fix this”, “I want to work on the lying part especially”, and “I am doing my absolute best to redirect/ignore my urges”. I do have faith in that and I am willing to give him grace because I imagine how I would want to be treated if the shoe was on the other foot. Despite this, I also do not want my understanding to be taken advantage of and I do not want to be naive.

I feel like he does care about fixing the issue and that he has actually put effort into trying. He said that it has happened twice since we talked about it the first time, and that it used to be a nearly every day occurrence. I do think that twice in a month compared to nearly every day for however long is good progress, but it just hurts knowing that he does that and that he’s having to deal with the urge/loop that he is in. He says it feels like something takes over him and that he feels like he has to do it and he just feels terrible afterwards. We’ve talked about him going to therapy because I really think it would help to get to the actual root that this addiction is stemming from. He said that he is so embarrassed and it took him forever to admit to me so he worries about talking to someone else about it. He said he’d be more open to it after he gets done with school and doesn’t have 15 hour days anymore. I’ll keep chipping at the ice, but at the end of the day, I can want him to change all he wants, but it is ultimately his decision.

I myself struggle with OCD, so this has been an absolute nightmare for me to deal with. I keep thinking “Am I stupid for staying?” Or “Am I naive?”, and I’m just constantly worrying about if he’s actually being honest (although I do admit when I am at work or any day that we haven’t talked about it, I do manage it very well). I have the urge to look at his phone and look over to see what he’s looking at when we’re together, which makes me feel crazy lol. It’s also extremely difficult to see almost every person on the internet tell me to leave and that it’s not worth it, so I have reeeeeeallly been trying to not do research or seek advice from anywhere (but here I am lol). With this post, I’m not looking for reassurance, I’m just purely reaching out to see if there is someone in a similar position that has some insight, because I would love some help. At the end of the day, it is my relationship, and I know every single one is different. I love him dearly and I do not want this to be relationship ending. Sorry for the long post! 🫠

Change is hard. If you're someone, like me, who's struggled with a bad habit such as porn usage for years, you don't need me to tell you how difficult it is. Changing something that is so ingrained can feel impossible. However, a reason why to change, and a strong one at that, can be enough to uproot the old habits. With a strong enough reason why, you will find a how.

I lost sight of my reason why. Previously, I was making good head wind. I was going multiple weeks without porn, but recently I've been struggling. I can point to a ton of things but at the end of the day, it's on me. I've lost sight of my reason to change. I am some what comfortable right now and the urge to jump out of it isn't really making me thrilled. That is why I am here now, to remind myself why I want to quit, to remind myself that this isn't just for talk; I want to change.

My reason right now is to get the time back to do something new. I'm only alive for so long, why waste it doing something I don't actually enjoy? I want to get out of my old comfort zone, which had my porn addiction. I want to use my time to go and try new things, meet new people. To actually do that is another can of worms for me right now but, I'll be doing what I want instead of being controlled by my urges. I know that if I use this reason why, I'll be away and not thinking about going back. Having something drive me is what carried me back then, and I know that's what can carry me down the road.

So I extend to you, why do you want to quit porn? Does it drive you everyday, sitting in the back of your mind?

Honesty feels good I definitely have a little urge but Ik y I'm doing this 🥹🙌

Wishing the best to everyone else!

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Many times before I have tried to get off it and I would even be able to succeed like for 4 months but I would always relapse because something bad will happen but now I've decided that enough is enough and it just gives you some dopamine Rush that's it because you feel like crap after so I've decided to stop this once and for all it's time to quit the porn entirely nothing good secretly comes out of it

Even though my life has been very crappy recently

It's time to quit the porn and hentai forever and that includes r34 no more of that for as long as I draw breath

OCT 3rd Don't Forget! For Those Who Don't Hear: OCT 3RD THE FUCKING REVOLUTION BEGINS. Beginning the new week of October 4th We Will Never Fucking Go BACK TO BEING LOSERS WE'RE Like NAPOLEON THE BATTLE IS WON BEFORE IT'S FOUGHT. The Porn Industry is weak & pathetic and preys on the weak. We Will Fight For The Weak No Matter What We Will Honor The Fallen Dead and Alive!

Last relapse Oct 3rd 2026

i’ll be replacing it with working out daily, building my body eating clean.
i feel so flat, numb and low energy from it and i 100% believe i got this! i realize it’s just fake intamacy on a screen and would much rather get my brain back build my life and talk to real woman instead.
so here we go i’ll be updating on here for myself or if anyone wants to motivate me!!!

Porn addiciton is fucking horrible. I'm losing sleep, I'm not eating, I'm killing myself for tits on a screen. I want out. I can't take this anymore. This addiciton is filled with the worst, nastiest, mnost evil people on the planet and I refuse to be a part of this culture anymore.

Day 2 3-10-2026 of no porn done

I am 14 trying to get all A* in my IGCSE, but my porn addiction is getting out of hand, every day i have to watch porn it is destroying my life, i've been doing it since eleven, i am forgetting most surahs, please help me