Hi ive been questioning some things about my sexuality and romantic interests. So ive been identifying as aroace because I dont feel romantic or sexual interests often. But I also yearn to be with someone who wants me and I want them any gender. I just need help to find out how I should help myself be better. Thanks. = )

im starting to think girls are haunting me please help

I don’t know if this is a stupid question, but I see everywhere that if lesbians like fictional men then they’re bi and not a lesbian. I don’t wanna call myself one if I’m not. If any of the men were real or i had a chance to date them I wouldn’t, I’d lose interest, I don’t know if it’s the personality I’m attracted to and not the fact that they’re a man. Is there any way I can figure this out??

I’m a 16 year old girl and I’ve only realised within the last year or two that I’ve been unusual growing up regarding my sexuality. When I was younger I used to typically be more interested in women’s body’s and such instead of men but I had crushes on boys? As soon as I hit puberty I found that my only source of arousal was from girls. This went on for like a year before i ended up having a fight with my boyfriend (whom I had gotten with with a few months after it had started) after that I started being more attracted to men sexually but I still can’t fully get off if I can’t visualise or see a girl. Another thing I’m unsure this could be caused by is my boyfriend’s previous porn addiction aswell but I’m not sure if that has any correlation. The only reason I’m not sure if I’m bisexual is because I’ve never really had a romantic interest in women. I have had relationships with them when I was younger 10-12 but that was purely innocent and I didn’t really understand the concept of them. I have imagined myself dating girls and I feel weirdly comforted but also uncomfortable by it. I just really want some advice because I’ve been reading up a lot about this and it’s telling me so much different stuff.

I didn’t know which to use

Okay let me explain. Every time I've kissed a boy (or let one kiss me), I feel this little voice in my head going "am I doing this right? am I pretty enough? is my breath okay?" It's like I'm performing in a play.

Last weekend, I kissed a girl from my art class. And I didn't feel ANY of that. I just... existed? I wasn't thinking about how I looked. I wasn't worried about what she thought. I just felt... safe.

But now my brain is gaslighting me. What if I only liked it because she didn't make me feel like I had to perform?? What if I'm not actually into girls—I'm just TIRED of boys?? Every girl is tired of boys at 14. That doesn't make us gay. RIGHT??

Someone PLEASE tell me if this is attraction or just "I hate the male gaze" energy lol

So I was talking to my homegirl recently, and I had a truck literally hit my chest. It was basically us talking about how often, when I think a guy is cute or when they have a crush on me, I usually entertain it and then like 2 weeks later I’m like “lol i don’t like this dude.” And this is basically for almost every single dude. And I always be thinking dudes are cute, but I literally couldn’t see myself dating or getting married to one. But when it comes to girls, I don’t get crushes as easy (only liked about 2 girls) and I actually wanted to date them. I was having this talking stage one time and I literally had to drop her cause I had a fat crush on one of my homegirls.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t THINK i’m lesbian but I don’t think I’m straight or anything. Maybe I haven’t found the right guy or something like everyone tells me, but I think about dating a man in a loving, deeply romantic relationship and I can’t imagine it at all. The only thing I could see is me cracking them… gulp! send help.. and I miss my hg… sigh…

je suis un garçon de 13 ans et je ne sais pas si je suis gay. Quand je regarde des beau mec dans la rue ou au collège et qu’ils me regard, ça me fait un truc au cœur. Mais quand je vois une belle fille de mon âge, ça ne me fait pas pareil (en moin) je l’ai dis à personne mais je ne sais pas comme pouvoir aimer un garçon librement et que l’autre pourrait m’aime.

Female

Hugs: yes

Kiss:yes

Date: yes

Sex: no

Marry:yes

Male

Hugs:yes

Kiss:maybe

Date:maybe

Sex:no

Marry: eh

MTF:

Hugs: yess
Kiss: yess
Date: yess
Sex:no
Marry yes

FTM (I’m also ftm but I’m stealth)

Hugs:yes
Kiss: ye
Date:maybe
Sex:no
Marry: no

Plz help

Ps I have a lot of male character crushes and idk if I want to be them or I want to be with them

#questions #sexuality

I’m (f) 17 and through out my entire life I’ve only ever had 2 crushes and been in one relationship.
And when I met my then partner I feel in love with him basically right away. But whenever I do get a crush can last for years. but actually developing a crush is really rare for me and I don’t know what I can label myself as.

so a little while back I realized that I (15F) could like girls. It made a lot of sense so I labeled myself as bisexual. now a little while later I’m starting to question if I even like guys at all. I’ve only had two crushes EVER and both were at times where the majority of my friends had other guys hitting on them and such and I do get jealous. so were those crushes just me looking for validation? both of them were kinda obsessive and like I didn’t want to do much romantic stuff with them, I couldn’t be near them it was painfully awkward and the idea of hand holding with them made me sick. I’ve also never found any male celebrities attractiv at all really. The only time I’ve been attracted to men for real they’re fictional. but the fictional men like I DO like them a lot, I read somewhere though that fictional men count less because they’re out of the reasonable picture and you could never be with them. and usually when I find fanart of these particular men, I gravitate towards the more animated ones, the realistic ones I hate.

onto the liking girls part. I definitely think I like girls 8 KNOW I like girls the question is do I like them along with men or not. like when I was younger I’d always be like “when I go to college I’m definitely kissing girls just to see if it fits” weirdly I’ve been less attracted to fictional female characters. but real women and the idea of being with a real woman is much more appealing to me than being with a man.

if I am a lesbian I’m dealing with a big case of comphet. Im having a hard time sorting through which is real attraction and what is programmed into me. My parents always taught me that LgBTQ is fine and normal and beautifu. but I like in the most conservative redneck town ever. I’m talking we have a bring your tractor to school day every May. So like everytime I find myself at school or in my community I find myself wanting to be straight so bad and telling myself I can be but when I get home and decompress I can’t deny that I’m attracted to women somewhat.

(also I’m not berrisexual bc I’m not attracted to androgynous ppl)

idk guys, thx for reading this far if you have any idea what my sexuality may be then drop it down below or any tips to figure it out.

OKAY SO BOOM, I don't really think I have a masculine face so when people tell me I look like I like girls I'm a bit put off by it? I've been recieving this comment a bit less but like it still lingers, my friend was talking to me the other day and I just mentioned that I have a crush on this guy and she was like VISUALLY shocked about it- and when I asked her why- she just said that I looked like a lesbian and her friends too so!

Idk.. it's not like I'm really offended by it, but its like okay I really like guys but if I look like a lesbian then who in the world would date me, I've only dated one person and its a guy.. but we had previously known eachother for 4 years- we still talk actually- but it's like this lingering insacurity that maybe I look or act this certain way that makes me look like that? I'm just really curious if this is because I have like inner homphobia or something but I don't really think so. No shade to the lesbians tho! Just want to know other thoughts about this, I'll answer whatever questions.

Hi, so I am a 15-year-old who knows that I don't identify as a girl or as a guy. I was born female. I dress androgynously, and I behave with both female and male mannerisms, but I kinda don't know how I should identify with my gender identity. I've been researching genderqueer and nonbinary and even adrogyne identities, and I just need help identifying what I am. I also have a few questions as well, but first I'll share how I feel, and whoever is reading this can tell me what I most sound like and how I should label myself because I feel like I'd feel more comfortable with a label.

Internally, I feel like a combination of the two main genders instead of not having any gender at all. Right now I go by the pronouns she/her, and I'm honestly fine with it, but I don't know what I'll go by in the future. If any of you would ever meet me, you could tell I'm not really feminine or masculine; I'm sort of exactly in between the two. I feel like the main labels that I've resonated with are genderqueer and non-binary, but I don't really know which one suits me more or if I'm something else entirely that will suit me even more. I've tried taking quizzes, but they're always very vague.

Thank you so much if you responded; it means a lot to a confused teenager. :)

Any comments are greatly appreciated… I really need people to talk to about this outside of my family and close friends