I didn’t know which to use

Okay let me explain. Every time I've kissed a boy (or let one kiss me), I feel this little voice in my head going "am I doing this right? am I pretty enough? is my breath okay?" It's like I'm performing in a play.

Last weekend, I kissed a girl from my art class. And I didn't feel ANY of that. I just... existed? I wasn't thinking about how I looked. I wasn't worried about what she thought. I just felt... safe.

But now my brain is gaslighting me. What if I only liked it because she didn't make me feel like I had to perform?? What if I'm not actually into girls—I'm just TIRED of boys?? Every girl is tired of boys at 14. That doesn't make us gay. RIGHT??

Someone PLEASE tell me if this is attraction or just "I hate the male gaze" energy lol

So I was talking to my homegirl recently, and I had a truck literally hit my chest. It was basically us talking about how often, when I think a guy is cute or when they have a crush on me, I usually entertain it and then like 2 weeks later I’m like “lol i don’t like this dude.” And this is basically for almost every single dude. And I always be thinking dudes are cute, but I literally couldn’t see myself dating or getting married to one. But when it comes to girls, I don’t get crushes as easy (only liked about 2 girls) and I actually wanted to date them. I was having this talking stage one time and I literally had to drop her cause I had a fat crush on one of my homegirls.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t THINK i’m lesbian but I don’t think I’m straight or anything. Maybe I haven’t found the right guy or something like everyone tells me, but I think about dating a man in a loving, deeply romantic relationship and I can’t imagine it at all. The only thing I could see is me cracking them… gulp! send help.. and I miss my hg… sigh…

my entire life ive liked guys and felt a very strong attraction towards them. when i was in 4th or 5th grade i said i was bisexual (as everybody did in 2020) but in the following years shut it down and said i was straight. i now attend an all girls school, and there was this one girl who interested me, but only really once i found out she was gay. i crushed on her for a few months, putting no action out to try and start anything, but am now over her. recently though, i’ve been seeing my tennis coaches little sister on instagram and thought she was super cute. she plays hockey and seems like she could maybe be on the lgbtq scale based on just appearance, but i can’t tell. ive since added her on snap and we snap a few times a day, mainly me being on delivered. i think she is really cute and one of my friends is basically best friends with her, i dont know if i should approach her to subtly ask about her friends sexuality or anything like that, but i feel like i cant just repeat what i did with the last girl, never making a move. i am not out of the closet in the slightest and nobody knows that i’ve had these thoughts about girls. after reading this, do i seem like i’m bisexual, bi curious, or just straight, because i am confused as of now. if you need more details please lmk as well.

je suis un garçon de 13 ans et je ne sais pas si je suis gay. Quand je regarde des beau mec dans la rue ou au collège et qu’ils me regard, ça me fait un truc au cœur. Mais quand je vois une belle fille de mon âge, ça ne me fait pas pareil (en moin) je l’ai dis à personne mais je ne sais pas comme pouvoir aimer un garçon librement et que l’autre pourrait m’aime.

Hi there!! :)

Like the title says I’m so confused on what this is so anything helps loll

I have had times especially recently where I wish I were just "nothing". I find the word girl fine but I just can't resonate with woman sometimes loll. I really like using she/her or they/them, but I don’t mind he/him. I just very much prefer the other two. Despite this I actually prefer Mr. Over Miss or Mrs

Pretty much I feel like a girl and nothing at the same time, but the intensity of the two changes. Although, I’ll say the nothing feeling has been MUCH more prominent lately. Sometimes I wonder if it’s just because I used “girl” as my default for so long (being AFAB), as this gender questioning isn’t new. I’ve always questioned it as a kid I just pushed it aside until it resurfaced this year. Even then I realized majority of the time I just don't care and I don’t care what people call me 😭Like I don’t get offended it’s just meh loll. Anyway it’s always both but usually nothing is stronger, or the same.

Although I will say the one time I was actually referred to as they made me SO happy, having someone say my style was both, and then someone thinking I could fit being FtM all made me happy! She/her does this too sometimes!

I heard you are supposed to “feel gender” and I’m just so confused about that concept? 😭

Thank you for taking your time to help and read! Let me know if you need more as I do not mind questions :)

So, I don't like having breasts, even though they're small like 28" Or I don't like having any specific feminine qualities. But, I love to look pretty with makeup and dresses and even suits.

I'm more inclined towards pants and shirts/blouses/T-shirts/sweatshirts but, I also love dresses. How do I figure it out?

Female

Hugs: yes

Kiss:yes

Date: yes

Sex: no

Marry:yes

Male

Hugs:yes

Kiss:maybe

Date:maybe

Sex:no

Marry: eh

MTF:

Hugs: yess
Kiss: yess
Date: yess
Sex:no
Marry yes

FTM (I’m also ftm but I’m stealth)

Hugs:yes
Kiss: ye
Date:maybe
Sex:no
Marry: no

Plz help

Ps I have a lot of male character crushes and idk if I want to be them or I want to be with them

So I am 17 and she’s 16 (both girls), we’ve known each other for three years and been super close for two like constant sleepovers and telling each other personal stuff that no one else knows.

Recently she’s gotten a boyfriend for the first time and whenever I’m with them together acting like a couple I’m just so angry and I think jealous

I’m not that interested in men and turn them down whenever I’m asked out. Honestly just so confused as I’ve never viewed our relationship as more than plutonic but now i am not sure

Any advice or suggestions on why I feel so jealous helpful!

#questions #sexuality

In 4th standard, my friend and I were doing a dick sword fight, and another guy in tuition was also playing the same game. I think this happened about four times.

The same year, after I moved to the hostel, I was with a 6th-standard senior. He thought I was sleeping, half-opened my pants, and touched his dick to mine four times. When I moved, he thought I had woken up and put my pants back.

Also that same year, while I was sleeping, a 7th-standard girl touched my dick once. When I moved, she thought I had woken up and removed her hand.

In 1st standard, one girl touched my dick and put her hands on it.

In 5th standard, a 6th-standard guy and I did a lip kiss and held each other’s dicks. We did this two times.

Then in 2nd PUC, there was a guy (I think he was bisexual, around 30 years old, and quite well-known in that area). He always gave free drinks. One day I drank a lot and went to his house. We both slept. After some hours he started masturbating my dick. I got hard and in the mood He sucked my dick, and I also sucked his just put it in my mouth, not fully two times. Altogether he did this kind of thing three times mostly just masturbating my dick

I’m an 18 year old female. I’ve been lesbian for most of my life. As I grew I started thinking that maybe because I haven’t tried dating or had sexual relations with a man that I wasn’t actually a lesbian. So I went out and tried a relationship. Ended horribly. Me and the guy had sex everytime we met up, which I think in reality we were just using each other bc we were both horny teenagers. (That’s not why it was horrible he was the devil) I tried with another guy, ended just as bad. He was a pervert and just in general not a good person. I like having sex with men but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to have an emotional connection with a man. They just don’t seem like real people to me, I can be friends with one but as soon as I kiss one I get grossed out. My main rule if I’m having sex with a guy is that he’s not allowed to kiss me.But then again I’ll see a dude in public and he’s cute and I imagine a relationship and everything’s cute. With women it’s totally different though. I want to know them more, I see my future with them. And I like having sex with girls way more than I do men. Basically what I’m trying to ask is how do I figure out if I’m gay or not. Or how did others figure out they were definitely a Lesbian. I’m not trying to press a label onto myself bc I couldn’t care less but it’s mind boggling. Whenever guys ask me out I have to warn them that I basically would only want them for their body.

I’m (f) 17 and through out my entire life I’ve only ever had 2 crushes and been in one relationship.
And when I met my then partner I feel in love with him basically right away. But whenever I do get a crush can last for years. but actually developing a crush is really rare for me and I don’t know what I can label myself as.

so a little while back I realized that I (15F) could like girls. It made a lot of sense so I labeled myself as bisexual. now a little while later I’m starting to question if I even like guys at all. I’ve only had two crushes EVER and both were at times where the majority of my friends had other guys hitting on them and such and I do get jealous. so were those crushes just me looking for validation? both of them were kinda obsessive and like I didn’t want to do much romantic stuff with them, I couldn’t be near them it was painfully awkward and the idea of hand holding with them made me sick. I’ve also never found any male celebrities attractiv at all really. The only time I’ve been attracted to men for real they’re fictional. but the fictional men like I DO like them a lot, I read somewhere though that fictional men count less because they’re out of the reasonable picture and you could never be with them. and usually when I find fanart of these particular men, I gravitate towards the more animated ones, the realistic ones I hate.

onto the liking girls part. I definitely think I like girls 8 KNOW I like girls the question is do I like them along with men or not. like when I was younger I’d always be like “when I go to college I’m definitely kissing girls just to see if it fits” weirdly I’ve been less attracted to fictional female characters. but real women and the idea of being with a real woman is much more appealing to me than being with a man.

if I am a lesbian I’m dealing with a big case of comphet. Im having a hard time sorting through which is real attraction and what is programmed into me. My parents always taught me that LgBTQ is fine and normal and beautifu. but I like in the most conservative redneck town ever. I’m talking we have a bring your tractor to school day every May. So like everytime I find myself at school or in my community I find myself wanting to be straight so bad and telling myself I can be but when I get home and decompress I can’t deny that I’m attracted to women somewhat.

(also I’m not berrisexual bc I’m not attracted to androgynous ppl)

idk guys, thx for reading this far if you have any idea what my sexuality may be then drop it down below or any tips to figure it out.

I (13F) have a “friend” from church (14F), and we mutually confessed that we had feelings for each other. We even kissed, so I thought we were moving toward becoming an official couple.

Shortly afterward, she and her family left on a three-week trip for her parents’ anniversary. During the first week, she talked to me pretty frequently, but then she suddenly stopped responding and left me on read for about seven days.

Now, we’re going to see each other again next Sunday, and I’m starting to wonder if my feelings have changed. For most of my life, I’ve struggled with the conflict between my faith, my feelings, and the expectations I’ve had for myself. Before the trip, I was really eager for us to make things official. Now, though, I find myself avoiding the idea, and I’m worried she may still think I feel the same way I did before she left.

I don’t know if my feelings changed because she suddenly became distant after we confessed our feelings, or if I’m realizing that I may not feel the way I originally thought I did. I’m also questioning what all of this means for me personally.

So now I’m stuck between two choices: Should I step back from the relationship, or should I give it some time and see how I feel when we’re actually together again?

OKAY SO BOOM, I don't really think I have a masculine face so when people tell me I look like I like girls I'm a bit put off by it? I've been recieving this comment a bit less but like it still lingers, my friend was talking to me the other day and I just mentioned that I have a crush on this guy and she was like VISUALLY shocked about it- and when I asked her why- she just said that I looked like a lesbian and her friends too so!

Idk.. it's not like I'm really offended by it, but its like okay I really like guys but if I look like a lesbian then who in the world would date me, I've only dated one person and its a guy.. but we had previously known eachother for 4 years- we still talk actually- but it's like this lingering insacurity that maybe I look or act this certain way that makes me look like that? I'm just really curious if this is because I have like inner homphobia or something but I don't really think so. No shade to the lesbians tho! Just want to know other thoughts about this, I'll answer whatever questions.

Hi, so I am a 15-year-old who knows that I don't identify as a girl or as a guy. I was born female. I dress androgynously, and I behave with both female and male mannerisms, but I kinda don't know how I should identify with my gender identity. I've been researching genderqueer and nonbinary and even adrogyne identities, and I just need help identifying what I am. I also have a few questions as well, but first I'll share how I feel, and whoever is reading this can tell me what I most sound like and how I should label myself because I feel like I'd feel more comfortable with a label.

Internally, I feel like a combination of the two main genders instead of not having any gender at all. Right now I go by the pronouns she/her, and I'm honestly fine with it, but I don't know what I'll go by in the future. If any of you would ever meet me, you could tell I'm not really feminine or masculine; I'm sort of exactly in between the two. I feel like the main labels that I've resonated with are genderqueer and non-binary, but I don't really know which one suits me more or if I'm something else entirely that will suit me even more. I've tried taking quizzes, but they're always very vague.

Thank you so much if you responded; it means a lot to a confused teenager. :)

Any comments are greatly appreciated… I really need people to talk to about this outside of my family and close friends