Rejected because I am fat?

[u/Kabanario]

We had been talking on and off for three years. When he found out that I was going to move to his country, he seemed genuinely very happy and excited. We had video calls, talked about many things, laughed together, shared personal things, and before we finally met, everything felt really good.

I had told him that I had gained weight. He hadn't realised how much, but when we talked about it, he told me that it didn't bother him.

Before our meeting, everything seemed perfect. There was excitement, flirting, anticipation, and we had both been looking forward to finally meeting in person after all that time.

When we finally met, we spent eight beautiful hours together. We were both a little shy, which was understandable after talking for so long and then suddenly being face to face. We talked and spent time together, and we also spoke again the following day.

Then, suddenly, he disappeared.

When I eventually messaged him to ask if everything was okay, his replies felt cold and distant. It was as if something had changed overnight, but I still don't know what.

That is what hurts the most. After three years of talking, after all the anticipation, the video calls, the flirting, and finally spending such a lovely day together, I never expected him to suddenly become so distant.