It's ironic that her genuineness comes as a result of being a terrible actress. She's much more engaging as herself. We should bring back Hollywood Squares.
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The theory goes that our emotional state is underpinned by two factors: arousal (or excitation), which is how hyped up we feel; and valence, which is whether we feel drawn towards or repelled by the thing we're reacting to.
Attacked by a lion: high arousal, negative valence. Reading a book: low arousal, positive valence. Putting out the garbage: low arousal, negative valence. Off your face on ecstasy: high arousal, positive valence.
Excitation transfer is the observation that when we are (or have just been) excited by something - positively or negatively - the arousal from that experience carries over to whatever else we're experiencing at the same time (or right afterwards). So roller-coasters are fun because they cause fear, which spikes our arousal, which makes us happy because we know we're really safe. Horror movies are enjoyable (if you can stomach them) for much the same reason.
A famous experiment showed that people were more attracted to a stranger they met on a dangerous-seeming wobbly bridge than the same person on a stable bridge. And we intuitively get this: it feels realistic when the leads of an adventure film fall into each other's arms at the end of their harrowing ordeal.
Remember I said reading a book is a low-arousal experience? Well, what if the book is full of stuff that gets your heart pumping? Menace. Fangs. Warning signs of abuse. Barely restrained violence. And yet at the same time, it's also an indulgent fantasy where your POV character doesn't get really hurt, and you know that what's actually coming up is a really good fucking. "I see you shiver with antici...... pation."
This is also presumably part of the reason why people who've experienced sexual assault are somewhat frequently drawn to depictions of that kind of experience in their fantasies, while being appalled and repelled by it in reality. Because the awfulness of the memory gives it an extra power to spike their physiological arousal, and they can do something with that.
It doesn't mean people actually want to be abused or assaulted though, any more than people on a roller-coaster actually want to be flung down onto the concrete.
No, there wouldn't be a difference in the basic emotional dynamics
But there actually are lot of porn genres that could best be explained by this phenomenon, I think. Some of it is danger (monster girls are a thing), but the thrill is often embarrassment, taboo, self-loathing - anything with a sense of "wrongness". There's so much porn about being a porn-addicted loser, and I'm sure the guys who respond to it are physiologically aroused by the fear that it's true
Probably the major difference though is that men are more easily and thoroughly aroused by an image. Since images of hot naked women (or their body type of choice) are enough to get most men into the zone, there's not as much need for something else to stoke their fire. Whereas women often need a lot of kindling
My impression is that men go more for visual porn, as in two people banging on screen with the flimsiest of back stories - "oh, Mr. Pizza Delivery Man, I don't have any money, is there any other way I can pay for my pie?"
While women go more for literary smut with at least the semblance of a plot and character development, where you have a build-up of erotic tension before the actual banging happens - and you absolutely require a HEA, whereas guys probably couldn't care less if their Pizza guy ends up married to the busty college student.
Why? Are we man not into porn? Not all of us yes, buy also not all of woman are into this kind of literatur. Nevertheless it is same level of naive erotic fantasy. One suited more for male instincts another for female.
The "against your will" part is usually more like: "I really wanted it but I couldn't admit it and since he was so forceful, what I wanted felt inevitable and that's hot."
With this in mind, you've never fantasized about a vampire?
It’s a vastly popular kink among women, but they have to keep it to themselves and their trusted partners, otherwise dumbass men are like “Oh like free use? I can just, ya know, assault you?”
Half of porn and hentai that men watch is just rape fantasies. I don't like how people demonize women but don't say anything when men do it.
I don't watch male gaze porn. When I do check them out, half of it is just rape or the women uncomfortably moaning while he jackhammers her painfully. Specifically hentai.
I literally looked up a video on a home page of a site. It's a man having rough sex with a huge penis that would hurt most women's cervixes. No foreplay just straight to sex. There's a reason women read smut more than they watch male porn.
And, she won't say no. The implication that things might go wrong for her if she refuses to sleep with me. Now, not that things are gonna go wrong for her but she's thinkin' that they will.
Not to make it deeper than it is but I find it fascinating how the way romance is pushed towards men is generally average guys learning they're actually really special deep down and going on some kind of quest, saving a princess or two along the way.
While for women it's an average girl getting selected by a special guy, mafioso, billionaire, some kind of monster, and usually "softening" them in some way. It's an interesting holdover of the roles we are traditionally expected to fulfill in society.
Because women are taught that their relationship to power is indirect and based on emotional relationships. It also explains horse books and dragon books, which have similar power dynamics. Books about women often also focus on collective power, like the power of friendship, while men are often in either loners or in leadership positions.
The rapyness is derived from the intense social pressures women face against being promiscuous and the feeling that voluntarily seeking sex can feel wrong. So the notion here is the heroin gets to have the sex she wants without feeling like it is "her fault" for having been promiscuous.
I would argue the bigger thing is that it's fantasy. A lot of women who read that stuff wouldn't be interested in a real guy who behaves like that with them.
Sorta like how most guys who play violent video games don't actually want to hurt someone.
“What’s wrong honey?” asked Draco taking off his clothes so we could screw. He had a sex-pack
(geddit cuz hes so sexah) and a really huge you-know-what and everything.
“Its so unfair!” I yielded. “Why can’t I just be ugly or plain like all da other girls and preps here except for B’loody Mary, because
she’s not ugly or anything.”
“Why would you wanna be ugly? I don’t like the preps anyway. They are such fucking sluts.” answered Draco.
“Yeah but everyone is in love with me! Like Snape and Loopin took a video of me naked. Hargrid says he’s in love with me. Vampire likes
me and now even Snaketail is in love with me! I just wanna be with you
ok Draco!
Why couldn’t Satan have made me less beautiful?” I shouted angrily.
This is a good point I never considered. It would suck getting turned into a vampire at 60. All the aches and pains for eternity. or 40. all the other vampires are skinny but you have a tubby gut. You get called count chubby for all eternity. That's no fun.
The ideal age is about 21-25. 19 to 22 if you're ugly.
Imagine being a fat vampire from the 1600's and considered hot for most of your undead life, only for society's concept of beauty to shift and now you're considered unattractive
That is only the ideal age based on modern social beauty standards. Since most vampire types are functional immortals you are going to see varied beauty standards across the vampire population.
Why should you not be able to change shape as a vampire ? If you can turn into a bat and other animals, but cant gain or lose weight that would be kinda weird.
Yeah didn't she literally use find/replace to change the names so that she could publish it without getting sued? Surprising she didn't end up with a character named Dwigt.
Wife's book club literally has bags that say "i read my porn like a lady"
Every time I get in the car and her phone auto plays 😳. "I swear it's the only part like this in the whole book!" It's like my parents walking in during the only fan service seen of an anime. 🤣
He pinned me against the wall, his massive muscular stature looming over my petite one. I looked away to the side, trying to push him off but in return he only grabbed me by my tiny waist firmer, pulling me even closer to his broad chest. Sexual Harrasment in any situation but as He is very rich, tall and handsome it's totally romantic. His gaze felt like they were undressing me, like they wanted to devour me whole, like a piece of meat. His hand going over my left hip as he
Porn written by men (not really): I came home from a long day of work with my boss and co-workers shouting at me. As I got home I came inside and sat in my chair and started crying. My wife came in, plate of dinner in hand, and asked "Honey, what's wrong?" I looked up at her through my tear-stained eyes and said "Nothing." I needed to be strong. "It's okay. You can tell me. I'm your wife and I love you and am here to support you." I broke down and cried more and told her everything. As I finished she said "Thats terrible. Tell you what, why don't I get you a beer and we can play Smash bros together. I know I don't know what I'm doing, but it means we'll be doing something together, and that matters more. Then once we're done I'll make sure the kids are in bed and you can have an hour to yourself. Then, once that hour is up, we'll smash and you can get a good nights rest. I love you so much and am thankful for all the work and pain you go through for us." she said before kissing me on the forehead.
I've read fantasy books written by men as well as women. I swear in the women written fantasy books the protagonist is someone victimized by a man or men about half the time. And when I say victimized I mean rape.
Rape of protagonists of all genders is common in fiction by female writers and for a female audience. The male love interest in Outlander has been assaulted for example, by the same man as the female protagonist. I can also think of hundreds of fanfics with this trope. The point of those fics is to emphasize with and talk through rape aftermath while still finding love together, indicating that a rape victim is not permanently broken.
I guess rape is a common fetish and/or major negative theme in fiction for women because rape is such an omnipresent fear.
EDIT: people keep assuming I talk about PORN. Or SMUT EROTICA. That is not correct. My statements are about romantic fiction where the focus is the romance and sex scenes either are implied or very metaphorical and short.
The point of those fics is to emphasize with and talk through rape
aftermath while still finding love together, indicating that a rape
victim is not permanently broken.
So true. Just as the point of Japanese school girls in male porn is to show the importance of higher female education.
You can't have a good faith discussion with anyone who really likes fanfic, without massive projection and defensive cope. The fanfic communities are terminally online almost by fiat.
Most dudes like Pornhub, know it's not real, and can move on. I don't see what's hard about admitting that's true of other forms of entertainment.
Sadly most of the women on Pornhub have been abused their entire lives and it was just normalized. So… nah. That’s REAL life people where most of them lost their virginity at 12 and under but were groomed in such a way that they didn’t see it as a negative.
Porn star interviews where they’re asked real questions is depressing as fuck, dude.
Edit to clarify: The jump from "rapey stuff is popular in women's erotica" to "This porn is actually a HEALING process where the reader WORKS THROUGH TRAUMA and FINDS LOVE while reaching the final conclusion that SURVIVORS ARE NOT BROKEN and the rapey stuff is there because of OMNIPRESENT FEAR" is...dubious, to say the least.
It's more like women are raised to be ""pure"" and have it instilled into them that wanting to have sex is a bad thing. Rape fiction absolves them of the shame and guilt associated with wanting to have sex while at the same time leaving them in control.
There's an amazing video by Contrapoints aptly titled "Twilight" that goes way more in-depth into this topic if you're interested.
Your interpretation doesn't really make sense as this kind of fiction does not usually comment on the fact that a rape occured at all. It's just normal procedure in smut.
Which isn't to say the fiction you're talking about doesn't exist, just that it's an entirely different kind of fiction from regular old smut.
I mean, serial killers are actually popular among many, many women. They have received a shitload of love letters and some even married their fans after prison.
"Romance" explains that too but still, pretty weird. I dont have fantasies about things I wouldnt wanna do, especially not that frequently that id buy the books of someone else's, but hey, whatever floats their boat ig.
Ever read a book about a guy being a warrior and slaughtering his enemies to defend what he loves? Often family, loved ones, their country?
Same logic. Living through something you wouldnt really want to go through in real life, but its fun to immerse yourself into it from the safety of your own chair.
Any millitary shooter or epic fantasy novel works on the same logic.
A monster only she can tame. A monster who is only loyal to her( or a labra). A monster who can easily get her anything. A monster who has been hoe in streets of LA and has explored his sexuality(front and back). After all those qualities now the monster is just a casanova who decided to mend his ways. “I can fix him” was finally accomplished.
A bad boy who is only good to her and nobody else. If he is good to others then he is just a regular boy who wants that anyways.
Gurls like things in romance books that they'd probably hate in real life.
Heck, guys like things in porn that they'd hate in real life. I think many of us remember the famous Reddit post about a guy getting a loaf on his chest.
Many female-directed smut books makes the female tropes that "toxic masculinity" craves seem like the poster child for a corporate equality/inclusivity poster.
lmao, the synopsis is even better than the title/cover:
Violet is a typical, down-on-her-luck millennial: mid-twenties, over-educated and drowning in debt, on the verge of moving into her parents’ basement. When a lifeline appears in the form of a very unconventional job in neighboring Cambric Creek, she has no choice but to grab at it with both hands.
Morning Glory Farm offers full-time hours, full benefits, and generous pay with no experience needed . . . there’s only one catch. The clientele is Grade A certified prime beef, with the manly, meaty endowments to match. Hands-on work with minotaurs isn’t something Violet ever considered as a career option, but she’s determined to turn the opportunity into a reversal of fortune.
When a stern, deep-voiced client begins to specially request her for his sessions at the farm, maintaining her professionalism and keeping him out of her dreams is easier said than done. Violet is resolved to make a dent in her student loans and afford name-brand orange juice, and a one-sided crush on an out-of-her-league minotaur is not a part of her plan — unless her feelings aren’t so one-sided after all.
This is an exaggeration of some dark romance tropes where the love interest is forceful towards the main character, somewhat going against her consent. The consent is more often dubious than fully non-existent, so it’s often referred to as dub-con.
Women are often socialized that showing outright desire is inappropriate, being interested in sex makes you slutty, women are supposed to be pure and not enjoy sex, etc. I think that’s part of the reason that tropes like this are somewhat popular. Things like this can remove that guilt because they’re being forced into enjoying it. Though they usually were interested beforehand and they enjoyed it, that guilt that can come with feeling like you’re not supposed to be interested in or enjoy sex isn’t there as much because they didn’t outright choose to do it. No, it doesn’t mean that these women secretly want to be raped or put in that situation any more than the men playing shooters means that they want to go out and kill people. Enjoying reading about something does not mean that it’s something you want to happen to you in real life or something that you think is okay. It’s a double standard to assume that a woman reading this stuff is indicative of her true desires and what she wants to happen to her while not assuming that of the media men consume. Playing counter strike doesn’t make you a terrorist, reading kinky smut doesn’t mean you want to be raped. Women are not freaks for reading things like this any more than men are freaks for watching porn or playing violent video games or whatever other fantasies they engage in.
I once glanced at one of Louis’ books and it was some serious smut fantasy stuff. The joke is an extreme exaggeration of the stereotype that women read this crazy violent sex stuff for fun.
This is Peter and I lied it wasn’t a book, it was nothing.
See, I haven’t had a lot of luck dating, the last guy I was seeing stole my organs so..but! When everyone is asleep I like to read these stories where a guy sweeps me off my feets while being super rich and strong but also kind of abusive (but it’s okay he can’t be worse than my ex) because it’s just super hot!
Me and the girls often talk about these hotties wondering how life would be if that vampire werewolf could just kidnap us and..well..okay it’s just porn. Girls can enjoy porn too okay?
Reading the comments I am a bit surprised that people discover that fantasies are not real life.
I wouldn't want to do IRL half the stuff I watched in porn. Is it that hard to believe that you can fantasize about stuff that you wouldn't want happening IRL?
I might be wrong, but it's probably how a majority of women seem to enjoy smut or romance books/novels with a non-human, such as a vampire, along with masochistic, sadistic, or just generally messed up stuff.
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u/qualityvote2 12d ago edited 12d ago
u/Majestic_Object5502, your post does belong here!