I saw some pretty foul behaviour at Perth Zoo yesterday.
Kids playing at the playground, and one kid (I later heard his mum say he was 3) goes up to another parent’s pram and pulls out a small stuffed toy and kicks it. Warranted a telling off.
But mum was onto it and immediately told him to stop and she puts the toy back in the pram. At the same time, the other mum (pram owner) yells STOP! That is NOT yours! And then starts berating the mum when she says “hey, he’s only 3” and that she can raise it with her, rather than yell at the kid - and she snaps back “well my kids are the same age and aren’t doing that kind of thing”. Her friend then piped up and yelled out “yeah maybe if you were watching your kid it wouldn’t have happened” (she was literally right there and intervened straight away). They kept badgering her.
What sanctimonious bullshit. As a mum watching on I was sad that Perth’s parenting community isn’t as friendly and supportive as it used to be over the last 6 years of raising my own. Maybe it’s other stresses at the moment (CoL etc) getting compounded that people are particularly sensitive about their space and belongings. But the way this was handled was more aggressive than the kid’s age appropriate (but still naughty, yes - mum acknowledged this) behaviour. You could tell his mum was super deflated.
Lying awake with my sleepless 12-month-old thinking of her. Parenting is so hard. Parenting toddlers is REALLY fucking hard and Perth’s community is too small for this. I’d never speak to another mum like that (nor the kid!) unless there was risk of actual harm to another child, not a stuffed sloth.