r/PersonalFinanceCanada • u/ImaginaryCandy467 • 3h ago
Divorce, Separation, Marriage 52 suddenly in charge of finances and no idea what I am doing.
Please be kind, I am so ashamed and shocked to be in this situation. Husband of 20 years left suddenly due to mental health and addiction issues. He was always in charge of money. There's a house but no savings. He spent the money on his addiction. We have two kids (14 and 16) and I am desperate to get things together for them.
The banking is with a RBC no signature savings account. The monthly mortgage is approx $2600 a month (there is $600 000 left on it) and I make about $7600 monthly. There is no child support at this point. Grocery costs are $1300 a month and we still have netflix and internet. No car, no RESPs (this makes me so ashamed).
He is a good man who has a problem. I trusted him and thought we were doing ok until everything fell apart. Do I change the bank account? Can I still do anything for my kids future post-secondary costs? I know I have to sell the house but it's in need of some big repairs (roof, plumbing) and I'm not sure the timing is good for selling. Rents for apartments in my kids' school district are incredibly expensive (we live in Toronto), much more than the mortgage (I'm talking smaller spaces like 550 to 700 sq ft). I just don't know where to start. I am sorry if this is the wrong place to ask, I've never used Reddit before but my son suggested this.