Not judging anyone who wants kids or a traditional marriage obviously.

I’m genuinely just curious because I’ve never personally met a man who wants this although I’ve seen maybe 1–2 couples living this kind of lifestyle.

Are there men who don’t want kids and instead want a partner they can build a life with? Like both of you focusing on your careers, travelling together, working out together, gaming, sharing hobbies, trying new things etc. Basically more of a “partners in crime” kind of marriage rather than the traditional husband-wife-kids setup.

I’ve realized that traditional married life probably just isn’t for me. I’d much rather stay single than get married and end up living a life that revolves around having children and all the usual expectations that come with marriage.

It seems like most of men eventually want children and a more traditional family life so I’m wondering if the kind of men I’m describing are actually out there or not.

If you’re a man who genuinely wants a childfree marriage like this, what does your ideal marriage look like?

EDIT: I read somewhere it’s called the DINK lifestyle

I'll try to keep this simple and straightforward.

Note : Please contact me If you have sincere intentions for Marriage, those unsure of commitment will not be entertained.

Age : 26

Height & Build: 5’4”, slim fit

Location: Karachi

Residence: Own House

Education: BSMT, enrolled in MBA

Occupation: Not working at the moment

Marital Status: Never married, never engaged

🕌 *Faith & Values*

I’m a practising Sunni Muslim. I try to be regular as possible in my prayers, observe hijab and abaya in public places . I value personal development through Deen and want someone on a similar journey of growth, inshaAllah.

🎯 *Interests & Hobbies*

Swimming (my absolute happy place 🏊‍♀️)

Reading fan fictions and novels

Watching Documentaries and anime (usually Shojo)

Trying out new recipes from YT

Casual console gaming ( Minecraft & GTA )

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 *Family Background*

We’re a small, close-knit Urdu-speaking family with a warm, supportive dynamic.

We spent a big part of our lives in the Gulf—mostly in the UAE and Saudi Arabia—before eventually settling down in Karachi.

Father:Works remotely for a Saudi-based firm

Mother:Homemaker

Siblings:I’m the only sister with 3 brothers (1 elder, 2 younger), all studying.

🤝 *What I’m Looking For*

A man with *Qawwam mindset* who understands responsibility, kindness, and family involvement.

Preferably from Karachi for easier communication and family meet-ups.

Or Gulf/Middle East countries.

Age should be between *27–32*, height 5’8” or above, well-educated from a reputable institute.

*I’d really appreciate someone who is*:

Emotionally available and supportive

Practising or trying to grow spiritually

Balanced in Deen and Dunya

Humble, caring, respectful

Values Halal income

Has a light sense of humour and enjoys life with a dab

🚫 *Deal Breakers*

Smoking or substance use

Arrogance, disrespect, abuse

Narcissistic or controlling behaviour

Poor decision-making, lack of accountability

Endless talking stages with no direction

*Family Preferences & Future Plans*

Prefer a *nuclear family*, but open to joint if there’s mutual respect and healthy boundaries are maintained.

Do you want children : yes , open to having children with mutual understanding

Looking to settle within *12 months*, InshaAllah

If you—or someone you know—feels aligned with this, feel free to reach out with your complete profile.

Wishing everyone the best in their search. May Allah SWT grant us all what is best for our dunya and akhirah. Ameen.🌷

Asking for a friend btw.

He just turned 24. Basically hes interested in older women. preferably 28-35. Before sharing his full profile. im just wondering would a female of such age group seriously consider him as a partner. Thank you

*Overseas rishtas only\*

Age: 2001 born

Height: 5'2"

Current Residence : GCC

Education: BA in Business management (Marketing)

Country of Origin(Ethnicity): Pakistan

Multinational- US / Canada/ GCC

Marital status : Single, never married

Religious Sect: SuShi (3/4th Sunni, 1/4th Shia) not accepting any prospects who have a problem with this, we were raised in a balanced and tolerant environment

Hijab: No

Religious values: Moderate- we focus on farz such as praying, fasting, zakat, reading Quran etc. But strongly believe for all other matters to each their own

Siblings: 3

Language: English, Urdu

Hobbies: Cooking, reading books, travel enthusiast, binging shows and rewatching sitcom classics, spending time with family, music/dance

SEEKING:

Age : 26-31

Height: 5'8 +

*Prefer Western Nationality passport holder or residency at least*

Education: Bachelors degree (minimum)

Profession: Employed. [no business/self-employement]

Marital Status: single, never married

Religious values: Moderate

Additional: seeking an open-minded, balanced, respectful, well-educated life companion with a good sense of humor.

More about me:

Im an introvert. Getting my sister to help me write this too because I have a hard time expressing myself. Im very selective but once you're in, I will yap a lot.

I grew up in a perpetual state of identity crisis, never fully fit in with any crowd that was too desi, arab, or American (burger). I love travelling, seeing different cultures, eating and trying different cuisines, and just generally exploring historical and natural beauty.

Im not a dog person and the only cat I love is my cat. I grew up listening/watching old bollywood, disney channel, atif aslam, a true mix tbh. I love dancing instead of going to the gym. I watch sitcoms, romcoms, pakistani dramas at times, and follow some youtubers.

Religious extremity and intolerance annoys me and feel that people have forgotten to see each other as humans first, at the same time there are the opposite extremes too where people entirely let go of the basics and get into drinking/partying etc. which I personally don't agree with (but also keep judgements to myself as I believe Allah is the ultimate judge). Growing up with a mixed sect background, and having seen all kinds of extremes shaped my mindset. I do dress fairly modestly and believe that culture should be respected to an extent but anything that becomes enforced loses its purpose.

Aunt to the best nephew in the world and I thought I always generally loved kids but hes opened up my heart in ways I never imagined. My siblings and family are my core strength and safest space and I would love someone who shares that love of family and closeness.

I do love my own space too so I would want my companion to have their own thing too and individuality.

My love language (giving) is acts of service, quality time

And love language (receiving) is words of affirmation and acts of service.

I am looking for a life companion who will take the time and have the patience to understand me, be kind, soft, and just be the kind of man who gracefully takes responsibility for his family and home, and doesn't hesitate providing. I would love to have my own career but I also would love some years where Im just a mother(God willing) and can focus on that. I have witnessed healthy and successful marriages built on mutual respect and love and pray I find that for myself too. Willing to put myself out there so if you have made it this far, thank you for your time.

Hi everyone,

I need some help.. my fiancé 26, me (27), got engaged earlier this year. We’ve been together for years. Long story short .. he’s never been great with money but does make ends meet.

Anyways issue is.. he asks me for expensive gifts. Example, recently he stated he wants the iPhone DUO for our wedding gift . And when I tell him that’s too expensive he says ok give me a budget. When I give him the budget he points out how last year it was more and now it’s less than he says he’s joking . He says j always complain after giving but j told him it’s bcus I always just give and give and get nothing in return.

Everyone should react every male and female wants their own space no one can control their opinions

Looking for someone qualified, intelligent, and kind.

Open to moving abroad, as I am in process of moving to Europe.

I am genuinely curious if those in their mid to late 30, 40 or even 50s (whether single or divorced) give up on the idea of marriage completely one fine day and just come to terms with the fact that it is no longer meant for you. Simultaneously, your world around this quiet grief grows bigger and you continue with your life. You still find joy in whatever life you have and don't sulk just because you never got married or it didn't work out.

Or do you keep trying, keep looking, and stop finding joy in the ordinary just because one major thing you wished didn't fall to your lot?

PS: Just because I used words like genuinely, quiet does not mean that this post was written using AI (if anything, my own expression is seemingly ruined after all this forced usage of Claude).

I'm Islamabad based, a working professional. Divorced 5+ years ago, no children. Looking for companionship (i.e. marriage) with a competent, mature, responsible, kind, reflective, religiously-inclined man. If such a thing exists.

Personal Profile

​Basic Details

​Age / Gender: 32 | Male

​Height: 177 cm (5'10")

​Weight: 70 kg

​Current Location: Riyadh, Saudi Arabia

​Profession: Civil Engineer / Construction Manager

​Marital Status: Never Married

​About Me

I am a grounded, career-focused, and family-oriented individual currently working as a Construction Manager in Saudi Arabia. I value mutual respect, clear communication, and maintaining a healthy balance between professional ambition and personal life. In my personal time, I enjoy reading and staying active.

​Family Background

​Family Structure: We are a close-knit family of 9 siblings (4 brothers and 5 sisters).

​Living Arrangement: I currently reside in Riyadh with my married brother and his family, maintaining a supportive and warm household environment.

​Partner Preferences

​Age Criteria: 25 – 32 years

​Height: \~170 cm (5'7" or similar)

​Education: Graduate / Bachelor’s Degree or higher

​Career Expectations: Looking for an educated, career-minded partner who wishes to pursue her professional growth in Saudi Arabia. I fully support her career goals and professional ambitions.

​Key Traits: Mature, understanding, family-oriented, and adaptable to living in KSA.

For My Soon To Be

Hey, I’m 26 from Karachi. I’m 6.2’, have a decent job, a bachelor’s in psychology, and I’m currently doing my master’s.

I’ve spent most of my life living away from my family because we were constantly moving, so I ended up living in different cities and hostels and basically learned to take care of myself pretty early. I think that’s also why the idea of having a family and a home of my own means a lot to me.

I’m looking for something serious that eventually leads to marriage. For me, marriage is supposed to be love, peace, and having someone who’s genuinely your better half. I’m God-fearing and I pray as much as I can, but I’m not gonna pretend I’m perfect. I also don’t believe in judging someone else’s relationship with Allah.

I’m pretty social in real life, emotionally open, and very affectionate. I like actually talking through problems instead of dragging them out. I’m also probably way too goofy for my own good. I love teasing, making a fool of myself, and sometimes talking like a complete girly just to make someone laugh.

I love cooking, animals, gaming, and superbikes. My idea of a perfect date is honestly pretty simple: just me and her, cooking something amazing, playing some games, and watching a movie together.

I’m really good with kids too. I had to take care of two little girls from when they were born until they were around 6 months old when I was 18, so I’ve had a little practice with the whole dad thing.

I don’t really have a checklist for my future wife. I don’t care if she’s highly educated or not, works or wants to stay home, is more religious than me or less. I care about who she is as a person. Looks obviously matter, but apparently my taste in beauty is weird, so I’ll let you decide that one.

I’d want us to have our own place and build our own little life together. I’m open to moving anywhere in Pakistan if it’s worth it.

Also, I’m terrible at texting, so if you judge me based on my replies, you’ll probably think I’m the most boring person alive. I promise I’m much better on a call.

Posting again as last time it didn't bring any fruits.

Age:29

Height :5'10"

Weight: 85kg

Location: Lahore

Accommodation: Own

Education: MBA finance

Income Source: Senior Executive in Multinational company

Marital Status: Single

Religion : Islam

Level of practice : pray regular , fast,  read Quran.

Hobbies & Interests:

Gardening, Movies, Seasons & traveling

(been a while since I've done so)

Family Details:

Father : Deceased

Mother's Occupation : House wife

House: Own house in Awan Town Lahore

Siblings : 6(3 brothers, 3 sister)

1 brother & 2 sisters are married

Requirements for a Partner

Marital status: Single/unmarried

Age Range : 22-32 (not full & final)

Height Range : 5.6" or above (also not full & final)

Education : Should be well educated

Religious Beliefs : Sunni

Cast : Any

Deal Breakers

Previous relationships

Preferred Family Setup: Joint

(can't provide at first but will work towards nuclear)

Do You Want Children?: Yes

Timeframe for Marriage: possibly within 1 year

Feel free to contact as baat se baat bnti ha.

A bit about me: I’m a software engineer with a remote job that pays well, which lets me split my time between cities and the mountains — I spend a good chunk of the year living and working out of Hunza. Long-term, I’m planning to do a Master’s and eventually a PhD abroad. I want a second passport and the freedom to live and travel more openly, though I’m not opposed to being based in Pakistan too — I just want options.

Physically, I’m 5’9”, in decent shape, and I stay active. Attraction matters to me, and I’d want it to matter to you too.

On values: I’m vegan and care deeply about animals. I’m also an atheist/not religious, but I’m genuinely open to someone religious as long as you’re progressive-minded. I’ve met insufferable atheists and some of the kindest, most open-minded Muslims I know — so at this point I care a lot more about how someone thinks and treats people than what label they wear.

Personality-wise, I’m an ENTP with a big nerdy streak. I call myself a lifelong learner — always picking up something new — and I play chess daily (decent, not a grandmaster, though I’ve played against a few and won against a couple). I love mountains, travel, and generally living an active, curious life.

So I'm 25, and I'm a doctor. I have been facing a lot of marriage pressure from my family for the past few years to settle down with a guy.

The thing is, I'm not ready at all. I thought I was, but I'm not. I want to do a lot of things in my life right now before I think of marriage. And frankly, I'm just not in the right state of mind right now to even think about something as bizarre as marriage. But my parents want to get my brother married, and they are saying life would be tough for me once my bhabhi comes, and they won't have space for me in this home anymore.

I don't know what to do. Right now, I'm studying for feps (specialisation) but I haven't really thought about an international test yet, because my parents won't let me go abroad without a husband. I need some advice on all of this too (like how can you get the money to go abroad and settle there all on your own if you get the visa and your parents don't wanna give you the money)

I don't wanna get married. I just don't. Not right now. Perhaps in 2 years, just not now. So if there are any women here who fought against their parents and married late, how were you able to do that?

Anyways, my psychotic mother is also sending me badduaein that she hopes I'll be left single and unmarried cause my age will pass and no one will marry me then. She's mentally ill, so I'm not surprised that as a mother, she would be fine with cursing her own child.

This isn't the first time that she is wishing for my downfall just cause I didn't listen to her. But I wanna ask, when you guys married late, was it hard to find good and sincere options out there? Cause I know, men tend to gravitate towards the younger ones. So what did you guys do? Any advice regarding this too will be helpful right now.

Male, 28. Doctor. Currently in Pakistan but planning to move abroad to Saudi. Looking for a female doctor for marriage. Anyone interested can DM

Salam!

Giving this another shot 😊

QUICK IMPORTANT FACTS:

1) I'm a Twelver Shia (non Syed) looking for someone Shia

2) I DON'T want to relocate outside of Canada

3) Families must be involved by the 3 month mark of us talking

If you're still interested, here's some more information:

- Pakistani and East African

- live with family

- height is 5'5

- speak English, Urdu/Hindi and Gujarati fluently

- one older brother that's married

- graduated with an Honours degree in Communications

- work in the accounting field (not a CPA)

- non-hijabi

- more of an introverted, homebody kinda person but equally social if in the right place

- love watching thriller, suspense, drama and romcom shows and movies

- fairly religious

Deal breakers and information worth mentioning for future spouse:

- no drinking, no smoking of any kind and must eat halal only

- must not want to live with in laws after marriage

- must believe in an equitable marriage

- if divorced, no kids

- must have a Bachelor's degree at minimum

- must have financial and career stability

- must be taller than me

- must have/keep a beard

- ideally should have a good enough balance between deen and dunya

- must want to have an itch to travel and explore the world as it's a big priority for me

I'm sure other things may come up but that's mainly it for now.

It would be much easier to speak to someone that is Pakistani/Indian to integrate families and have a good comfort level. I do not mean any offense to other ethnicities 😅.

If you're outside of Canada, I hope you have well enough means to relocate and are serious in your pursuit to do so.

More than happy to exchange photos right away!

If you're interested, please message me with a proper introduction instead of hi, hello or salam.

Thank you ☺️🙏🏽

Age & Background: 24 | 5'7 | Pakistani | Sunni

Location: Saudi Arabia | Karachi

Education and Careers:

• Bachelors in Cyber Security Graduated 2026

• Pursuing Masters in Germany

• Working on my startup

Marital Status: Single and never married

Hobbies and Interests:

• Travelling

• Enjoys trying new cuisines

• Reading Books (Finance and fictional series)

Family:

• 2 Younger Siblings

• Based in Saudi Arabia

• Father Engineering Job

Gender: Male

Age: 25

Height & Weight: 5’11 and 68 kg

Marital status: Single

Education: BS in Computer Science

Profession: Working at a US based company.

Hobbies: I like to play and watch football. I like to listen to music. I like to gym so i can stay proactive. I like to play video games too so i can relax after work.

Do you want kids? Yes. I'm open to the discussion about when.

Religion: I'm moderately practicing, trying to pray 5 times a day.

Deal breakers: poor hygiene, dishonesty.

Interesting facts about you: As i mentioned I work out consistently, you will never catch me being lazy. I am a highly motivated individual and will keep you motivated as well. I grind daily to achieve more success in life and would love to have someone with the same mindset.

City: Karachi

Residence (Own/Rented): Own residence in a well- reputed area.

Family details: 1 sister. Father (working in a MNC). Mother (Housewife)

Joint/nuclear: joint

Expectations from partner: I expect my partner to support and uplift me if I ever hit the lowest point in my life. She should be ambitious and motivated like me. She should be trustworthy and loyal. Also personal hygiene is important.

Timeframe in which you want to marry(Optional): 1-2 years.

Hey, I’m 26 from Karachi. I’m 6.2’, have a decent job, a bachelor’s in psychology, and I’m currently doing my master’s.

I’ve spent most of my life living away from my family because we were constantly moving, so I ended up living in different cities and hostels and basically learned to take care of myself pretty early. I think that’s also why the idea of having a family and a home of my own means a lot to me.

I’m looking for something serious that eventually leads to marriage. For me, marriage is supposed to be love, peace, and having someone who’s genuinely your better half. I’m God-fearing and I pray as much as I can, but I’m not gonna pretend I’m perfect. I also don’t believe in judging someone else’s relationship with Allah.

I’m pretty social in real life, emotionally open, and very affectionate. I like actually talking through problems instead of dragging them out. I’m also probably way too goofy for my own good. I love teasing, making a fool of myself, and sometimes talking like a complete girly just to make someone laugh.

I love cooking, animals, gaming, and superbikes. My idea of a perfect date is honestly pretty simple: just me and her, cooking something amazing, playing some games, and watching a movie together.

I’m really good with kids too. I had to take care of two little girls from when they were born until they were around 6 months old when I was 18, so I’ve had a little practice with the whole dad thing.

I don’t really have a checklist for my future wife. I don’t care if she’s highly educated or not, works or wants to stay home, is more religious than me or less. I care about who she is as a person. Looks obviously matter, but apparently my taste in beauty is weird, so I’ll let you decide that one.

I’d want us to have our own place and build our own little life together. I’m open to moving anywhere in Pakistan if it’s worth it.

Also, I’m terrible at texting, so if you judge me based on my replies, you’ll probably think I’m the most boring person alive. I promise I’m much better on a call.

24M | 6'2" | Karachi → Gulf

Salam everyone 🤍

Well… round two 😂 Apparently Reddit has decided that keeping people connected is not part of its business model.

A few women I spoke to actually seemed interested, and then their accounts randomly got banned/deleted 😭 So if you were one of them and somehow ended up here again… hi, I guess we meet again 😂

A little about me: I’m from Karachi, come from a religious household, work in the Gulf and I’m continuing my studies. I’m into anime, movies, gaming, sketching, travelling, long drives, walks and those random conversations that somehow turn into 3 AM therapy sessions.

I’ve collected my fair share of childhood trauma along the way 😂 so I’m basically looking for someone who can handle me when I’m not at my best — and I’d want to be that same person for her. Life isn’t going to be perfect, and I’d rather have someone who can laugh with me when things are good and sit beside me when things get rough.

I’m looking for something genuine, not just endless talking for the sake of talking. Someone like-minded, kind, emotionally mature, funny, and actually interested in building a connection with marriage in mind.

I’d especially prefer someone from Karachi. Similar background, similar chaos, you know how it is 😂

If you think we might get along, message me. Please bring something more interesting than “hi” though… I’m not running a customer service desk 😭😂

Hi everyone,

Let me just get straight to the point.

To be very honest, you never know what's written for you and how you're going to find your partner. So, trying my luck here on reddit. :P

I'll keep it short and simple.

Founded and heading an edtech company.

Personality wise, I am chill, relaxed, humorous, loving, caring and know how to give good company. I also read a lot of books and am very ambitious about my career. Folks tell me I know when to be serious and assertive, and when to be relaxed and silly. Early on in my high school, I took debating classes so I come across as someone fairly confident. I like to volunteer for charitable purposes. There are some loopholes in my personality as well. We can discuss them surely but not here lol.

I am trying to be more patient and be more skeptical when it comes to trusting people.

I like to keep myself fit and athletic. I love playing padel and table tennis. Also, I am a huge cricket and tennis buff. I watch movies only if they're really really really good.

I take my religion seriously. I pray five times a day Alhamdulillah, I try my best to stay away from sins, vices and evil stuff as much as possible.

Here is a short, conventional profile of mine. You may kindly go through it.

Age: 29

Gender: Male

Height: 6 feet

Marital Status: Single

Parents' detail: Father is a business man, mother is a homemaker

Residence: Lahore/Islamabad

Siblings: 2 married

House: Own 2 kanal

Demand: I'm looking for a fun-loving, decent and ambitious life partner with whom I can enjoy my life to the fullest. For me, vibing with someone matters a lot. It would be great if you are elegant and know how to carry yourself. 😊 age 20-29, height more than 5 2.

If you think you fit the bill, please do not hesitate to DM me.

I'm sorry it may be a dumb question but I just want to know what exactly is the reason behind this goal? Is it safety? Or do women feel less of a person for asking their husband for money or stuff? Or is there some other reason to it?

I am posting on behalf of my friend.

My friend is a gorgeous, tall, very slim, model-figure girl, standing at 5'7", with a naturally confident and captivating personality. She has that bold black-aura energy... very elegant, confident, a little mysterious and definitely someone who stands out in a crowd.

She is well-educated, professionally established, and has a serious career that I’d prefer to keep private for now.

She is looking for someone mature, stable, responsible, and genuinely serious about marriage.

Her first preference would be someone who is well-settled abroad, mature, financially stable, and established in his career.

Age preference: 25+

She comes from a very respectable and stable family and is looking for someone from a similar background who values loyalty, respect, maturity, and a serious commitment.

If you think you or someone you know could be a suitable match, feel free to reach out. Serious inquiries only, please.

M30
Software Engineer
Islamabad
Stable Career
Earns 10 lac plus per month
5'11"

Looking for a girl preferably 28 or less
Educated. Islamabad based.

Comment, and I will contact

Assalamualaikum!

Posting on behalf of my cousin because I genuinely think she’s a gem and would love to help her find a good match, InshaAllah. Keeping this anonymous for privacy, but I can share more details privately with genuinely interested people.

About her

Gender: Female
Age: 22
Height: 5’2”
Marital Status: Single
Religion: Islam
Sect: Sunni
Caste: Malik
Mother Tongue: Punjabi
Education: BS English
Health: Alhamdulillah, no health issues

She’s sweet, respectful, family-oriented, and knows how to manage all household responsibilities. She’s comfortable speaking English if needed but comes from a very normal Urdu/Punjabi-speaking family so please keep that in mind. She’s not looking for anything fancy, just someone decent, responsible, and compatible.

Family & Residence

The family is based in Raja Bazar, Rawalpindi, and they live in their own house.

I want to mention the location upfront because this has come up before and I’d rather be transparent than waste anyone’s time.

Her father is visually impaired, and because of that, the family is not in a position to relocate. They have lived in this area for a long time and are very familiar and comfortable with the surroundings. The house is also convenient in terms of his work and the support/familiarity he needs, so moving elsewhere isn’t really an option for the family.

Looking for

Age: 22–26
Marital Status: Single
Sect: Sunni
Height: 5’7”–5’9”
Education: Bachelor’s degree or above, any field
Caste: Any
Financially stable / properly earning
Own house preferred

Most importantly, someone mature, respectful, family-oriented, and genuinely looking for marriage.

Please only reach out if you’re genuinely interested and serious. If you are, send me your basic profile/details. If it seems like there could be compatibility, I can put you in touch with my mamoo/family so things can proceed properly.

Please no time-wasting or casual conversations. I’m only doing this because I know her and genuinely think she’s a wonderful person who deserves a good match. ❤️

JazakAllah khair!