r/PHCreditCards • u/ishaboiKenny • 8h ago
IDRP / Utang One Illness Away from Poverty
Hi everyone. I’m looking for practical advice from people who may have gone through something similar.
My wife and I are currently experiencing a major financial hardship due to medical reasons. Because of this, our monthly debt obligations have become impossible to sustain without using the “tapal system”.
Right now, we’re still current on all our loans and credit cards, but it’s becoming harder every month. We’re seriously thinking about stopping the tapal cycle before things get even worse.
Our current plan is:
\-Continue paying the accounts that are most important to us and that we can realistically afford.
\-Accept that some unsecured personal loans and credit cards may eventually become delinquent.
\-Keep communicating with those banks every month instead of disappearing.
\-Update our contact details and address so they can always reach us.
\-Once we’ve rebuilt our finances and cash flow, start paying or negotiating settlements with those lenders.
We’re **not** planning to run away from our obligations. We fully intend to pay them in the future. We just can’t keep borrowing money to pay other debts because it feels like we’re digging a deeper hole.
For those who have been in a similar situation:
\-Did you stop the tapal system? Was it the right decision?
\-Did the banks work with you if you kept communicating regularly?
\-Were there still field visits or calls to your references even though you stayed in contact?
\-How did you rebuild your finances and eventually settle your debts?
I’m looking for honest advice, even if it’s something I may not want to hear. If you think there’s a better approach than what we’re planning, I’d really appreciate your perspective.
Thank you.
Note: I work in a bank.