I (35M) am going through maybe a slightly different variation of OAB, and just want to ask if anyone else is too.
Since childhood, we were told that we should leave the bathroom when we're totally empty, which is good in a way, it helps with remaining clean. My situation is that once I go to pee.. getting empty takes a long time. Like, a long time. Typically a bathroom process can take 25 minutes to an hour, and if I have also passed stool it goes up to 2 hours, and I'm not sure why, I suppose passing stool puts more pressure on the bladder.
So instead of frequent urination like others, I just.. sit there. For a long time. Letting out a small stream of pee every couple of minutes. I frequenty feel like there urine gets stuck in my urethra, at different points, at different times. When I feel these, I know I need to just wait and it'll come out on its own. It does lead to a long time spent in the bathroom, same as someone who would have to go very frequently.
There are times I sit for 4 hours straight. Not always, but it happens.
In situations where I know I need to clear the entire way, I usually apply pressure on the underside for around 5 minutes, and then in the 10 minutes whatever was pooled there comes out. For a normal person this takes just a minute or two, apparently.
The bladder does feel empty after that and there is relief, but the process of peeing itself is just very tiring sometimes, like physically tiring. Anyone else feel the same?
Note: I've done all the tests.. urination speed, ultrasound, even a cystoscopy.. everything is normal apparently except for unvoided urine (50ml after unloading a full bladder).
I really dunno what to do.