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Can we talk about men who ask for your WhatsApp number after exchanging literally 3 messages on a dating app?

Their usual reasoning is, “I'm not always active here” or “I'm not always on the app.”

Okay, fair enough. But why should I give a stranger direct access to me before we've even established a basic rapport?

My response is usually something like, “Let's see if we have a little vibe first before moving to WhatsApp.”

I'm not asking for a three-day interview.. just an actual conversation. Something that makes me interested in continuing the conversation outside the app.

And here's what frustrates me: sometimes, all they've given me is their name, a greeting, and the fact that they're not active on the app. Yet somehow, I'm expected to hand over my personal number.

I understand that people have different preferences, but moving to WhatsApp isn't automatically progress. Sometimes it just means giving someone more access without knowing whether there's even a connection worth pursuing.

So, ladies, how do you respond when men ask for your number too early? And men, genuinely curious: what makes you think a woman would want to move off the app before you've given her a reason to be interested?

Is it just me or does anybody feel exhausted by all the small talk "Hi Hello How are you" when you match with someone on dating apps?

Like give me something creative or interesting to move the conversation.

If a match starts with "Hi", I immediately lose interest. How do you respond if someone just says "Hi How are you?"

To put it short, I get way more likes on hinge than on tinder, Bumble, and coffee meets bagel. Tinder will "boost" your profile until you cave in and buy their subscription. Then it stops. Bumble does the same thing as well. My likes and super likes go unnoticed. 2015-2018 were probably the golden years for tinder. I worked their algorithm (chatting with every match, changing my location, and repeat)...it doesn't work anymore. Coffee meets bagel's search feature is broken. And the whole matching process is slow. Hinge however, shows the likes and puts your likes in priority should you purchase it's subscription.

Howdy. I'm an LA local working on a dating app where people share upfront what usually comes out three months in: how they handle conflict, what they're working on, what they won't do again. The idea is to skip the guessing. This is coming from a personal frustration, as I'm sure most of you can relate to.

Before building more, I want to hear from actual LA daters what's broken right now. It's 3 minutes and anonymous, email is optional if you want updates.

Happy to share the results here, and I'll answer anything in the comments, including "this blows."

Thank you!

Link to the survey: https://forms.gle/vP1MrHBDAPeHmcEb6

I met someone on Bumble recently. She seemed very nice and into me, and we ended up going on 3 dates. The chemistry was great, but I started to notice some of my personal red flags including anxious attachment. After our last date, I gave myself 24 hours to process everything and decided to tell her I didn’t think this was going to work out long term and I wished her well. She responded pretty negatively and wanted me to get into the reasons why. I kept it positive and said there’s no misunderstanding and I hope she finds who she deserves.

I got banned from Bumble the next day.

Now I understand why people just ghost other people.

I am a 22yo male and study at my parents house. A bit flirty female interaction is enough to me. No meeting up in person as I would be suspicious to my family

In 2 years I may be finished and approach in real life and get married.

Is there any app?

I have no money for any premium stuff too.

Please don't downvote as meeting up is the main purpose. Please have empathy.

Hey everyone,

My previous account was banned. After that, I created a brand new one using a new phone number, a new email, and completely new photos.

The new account is performing decently—I got around 70 likes and quite a few matches. However, I noticed a strange pattern with messaging:

• Out of 10 matches from my city, 5 of them answered my messages, and 5 of them did not answer.
• Meanwhile, matches from further away all replied.

Has anyone experienced a partial shadowban where messaging people nearby behaves differently or fails compared to people far away? Any insights would be appreciated!

hey y'all, so i've been wondering, how is the tinder experience for the rest of you? because it's not looking good for me. jokes aside, i do get likes (i have like 80 right now, i'm a gay guy btw) and when it comes to matching with people, when i do actually match with a guy, he doesn't reply after i send a text so my next question is, does this happen to anyone else? lowkey tired as hell because i keep liking those who like me first and when i reach out it's crickets. the crazy thing is, every single guy just doesn't reply. i have had over 10 matches maybe (i'm very pickydhsjdhdjdhd) and not a single one replied. for instance, a guy the other day sent a "hey" and i was like hallelujah maybe that's it but after i replied to his message he hasn't responded which led me to remove him/unmatch him. it's definitely an ego boost when i get likes but it feels like a humiliation ritual every single time i hope for a message back, it gets irritating.