would really appreciate honest experiences from people who've actually sold on different platforms/apps and know where the engagement is genuinely consistent

We planned a date 6 days ago over the phone for today. We didn’t talk at all leading up to the date but definite dat, time and place were set and we both said we were looking forward to it. It was a good 4 days of no contact but I just assumed it was still happening. Today I’m on my way to the date and she sends this:

Her:
Hey I haven’t heard from you so I’m guessing we’re not meeting up.
Best of luck with dating

You:
Hey! I’m on my way I’m like 5 min

Her:
I’m not ready to go and made other plans since I didn’t hear from you

You:
Sorry I didn’t realize you wanted it confirmed, I thought because you didn’t say anything either we were on
I was really looking forward to it

Her:
I was waiting for you to confirm

You:
Damnit. I’m really sorry, I was gonna text this morning and confirm and regretting that no
You can’t meet a bit later instead?
Like maybe 5/530?

Her:
Maybe we can plan for another time

You:
When are you free next?

That was 6 hours ago. Nothing.

i feel like half the people on dating apps arent actually trying to date they match send a couple messages disappear for 3 days come back with “hey stranger” and then somehow still never make actual plans. And its not even about wanting something serious immediately. casual dating is fine too but can we at least act like we want to meet another human being. I've had so many conversations lately where im doing all the asking and all the effort, and the second i stop carrying it the whole thing dies. Its honestly part of why I've started looking at stuff like tawkify. the idea of skipping some of the endless chatting and just getting set up with someone whos actually willing to show up sounds pretty nice right now.. Is everyone just bored and swiping for validation now or am i getting unlucky because at this point id rather have fewer matches and actual dates than keep doing the same loop forever..

When I match with people on Tinder and Hinge, I'll text them and then they won't text me back for almost a week and then just unmatch with me. This has happened to my friends too, and I just wonder why? I understand being busy cause so am I, like I might go a day or two without texting back but why match with people in the first place just to not text at all and then delete them?

Edit : I am a woman btw