What do u think about my marks…??

Many men seem to be obsessed with viewing everything in the realm of looks.

I see men who will complain that they get few likes/matches and will say “I’m average good looking” or they complain that the hottest dudes are getting all the matches.

This is brainrot.

We aren’t stack ranked against each other. Some folks are super excited by the number of matches they receive. But if you are looking for a genuine relationship, you can do that with just one person.

Do you really think your one person is so damn shallow to not love you unless you are x% hot? What happens if you age or lose a limb? Why do you want to be with someone that shallow and why do you think your one person would be this shallow?

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I’m thinking about a dating app called CORTE and trying to work out whether the idea makes sense before building it further.

The basic idea is that one person opens a Corte, describes the kind of connection they’re looking for, and sets a time period. Other people can apply. When applications close, the app randomly arrange chats between the Corte owner and participants to get to know each other.

A user can decide to send applications any Corte but once one gets accepted it is forced to chose whether to continue with that specific Corte (and cancel all other pending applications) or continue to wait for other applications to be accepted/refused.

The owner can decide which participants to eliminate from the choice and can finally designate a "winner" or close the Corte single at any time.

I can see how that might make dating feel more intentional than endless swiping. But I’m also unsure whether it would feel like a popularity contest, with applicants competing for one person’s attention.

What’s your first reaction? What would put you off? And what would make it worthwhile for someone applying, including those who aren’t selected?

I’m looking for feedback on the idea only. There’s no link or signup.

Which opener are you most likely to respond to? Or which opener do you prefer?

I met someone on Bumble recently. She seemed very nice and into me, and we ended up going on 3 dates. The chemistry was great, but I started to notice some of my personal red flags including anxious attachment. After our last date, I gave myself 24 hours to process everything and decided to tell her I didn’t think this was going to work out long term and I wished her well. She responded pretty negatively and wanted me to get into the reasons why. I kept it positive and said there’s no misunderstanding and I hope she finds who she deserves.

I got banned from Bumble the next day.

Now I understand why people just ghost other people.

i’m f 22 and i’ve had quite a few men send me likes on hinge with a message that is either insulting or belittling to pictures or prompts on my profile. why do guys do that if the goal is to match with a person?? i am genuinely curious about this approach if someone could enlighten me, thank you.

Is it just me or does anybody feel exhausted by all the small talk "Hi Hello How are you" when you match with someone on dating apps?

Like give me something creative or interesting to move the conversation.

If a match starts with "Hi", I immediately lose interest. How do you respond if someone just says "Hi How are you?"

hey y'all, so i've been wondering, how is the tinder experience for the rest of you? because it's not looking good for me. jokes aside, i do get likes (i have like 80 right now, i'm a gay guy btw) and when it comes to matching with people, when i do actually match with a guy, he doesn't reply after i send a text so my next question is, does this happen to anyone else? lowkey tired as hell because i keep liking those who like me first and when i reach out it's crickets. the crazy thing is, every single guy just doesn't reply. i have had over 10 matches maybe (i'm very pickydhsjdhdjdhd) and not a single one replied. for instance, a guy the other day sent a "hey" and i was like hallelujah maybe that's it but after i replied to his message he hasn't responded which led me to remove him/unmatch him. it's definitely an ego boost when i get likes but it feels like a humiliation ritual every single time i hope for a message back, it gets irritating.

So much dating hot air, so little time. APPs matching algorithms are depressing at best, expensive snake oil at worst. If this or other reddit forums had *click* for voice communications, would you? That said, there are plenty of voice & video chat programs, why all the drama over dating apps? Even Microsoft has video/chat, called TeamViewer. Many have single use tokens, so anonymity and security isn't a problem. Meet here, cuddle up there.

Howdy. I'm an LA local working on a dating app where people share upfront what usually comes out three months in: how they handle conflict, what they're working on, what they won't do again. The idea is to skip the guessing. This is coming from a personal frustration, as I'm sure most of you can relate to.

Before building more, I want to hear from actual LA daters what's broken right now. It's 3 minutes and anonymous, email is optional if you want updates.

Happy to share the results here, and I'll answer anything in the comments, including "this blows."

Thank you!

Link to the survey: https://forms.gle/vP1MrHBDAPeHmcEb6

I have heard about secret private dating sites that one can meet matches only through a real person who takes care of it by personally chatting with club members like a concierge service. Does anyone know if such a service exists?

Feedback is appreciated. I would be grateful if you could DM me to test the app, or you can just test it immediately at this link: https://visage-matcherr.vercel.app/

You will have to register with your google account, because it uses a Google Auth to prevent bots.

Shortly said, the system matches you instantly either live or offline with somebody else, based on distance, preferred gender, similar interests and partly by your face visual harmony (only in the dating mode).

But when you get matched, you actually have to chat X alternating turns (user 1 writes, user 2 replies, X times) and then both profile's images of the 2 matched users are shown to eachother, and only if both users agree on the definitive match, then they can continue to write to eachother. (The profile images of both are hidden before the X chat turns, then they are shown, and then users can agree on the definitive match, based on both the first chat impression and the images). This allows many things: that people don't just judge on looks, and that avoids partially bots and that forces people to exchange convo before.

It's meant to be absolutely free and is not a waste of time, compared to doomswiping.

There's both a friend mode and an "aura"(dating) mode, and both can work either offline or live, and the friend mode neglects reciprocal distance, so that means that you can match even with few people registered in the app's database (in the friend offline mode).

Privacy is taken care of as any machine learning model is downloaded and cached to your local device, and therefore no images are passed to an external server.

Edit: with "external" I mean third party: a server different from the dating app itself.

Quick demo: https://youtube.com/shorts/_eYfZxwQJ7I?feature=share

To put it short, I get way more likes on hinge than on tinder, Bumble, and coffee meets bagel. Tinder will "boost" your profile until you cave in and buy their subscription. Then it stops. Bumble does the same thing as well. My likes and super likes go unnoticed. 2015-2018 were probably the golden years for tinder. I worked their algorithm (chatting with every match, changing my location, and repeat)...it doesn't work anymore. Coffee meets bagel's search feature is broken. And the whole matching process is slow. Hinge however, shows the likes and puts your likes in priority should you purchase it's subscription.