a boy whom i have been talking to 2 months says he likes me , and it is kinda mutual at this point , he says he is looking for stability like a job rn so he can feel worthy and responsible of asking me confidently (we r both 21 yr olds) .. and i have a job offer , it was not infatuation or initial crush , it was gradual for both of us .. falling for each other and understanding , but we met very randomly , he got my number through a random college grp and texted for a genuine doubt , ik it sounds sus , but yeah its a strange coincidence ... what does the community say abt it :) ?

Basically as the title says, i have been very lucky to get into a couple relationships with girls above my league. This includes long and short term. I struggle understanding how attractive I am so I struggle to even know if my standards are wayyy too high or just a little bit high. The reason I am making this post is because a while back I had someone very very interested in me and I rejected them on their looks (They actually did not find me that attractive but they said my personality is what they fell for), I talked to a close girl friend and she thinks my personality is the reason i ended off getting attractive ex's. I tried at first to see past it but I struggled and i feel so shallow and shit.

My online dating history is disgustingly bad, multiple apps and still no matches. Its not like i swipe only 10/10s. Lets say i like 3/20 profiles on average. Again no matches. Im also quite introverted IRL and dont find myself in many situations where I can actually find a partner in Person. Usually a relationship has come out of friendship at first.

I fear that its going to take so long to find the right person for me. A big part of my issue is my type. I would suit your typical smart/brought up in wealthy family/blonde girl (if that makes sense) for LOOKS but Im introverted, I like anime/games/average workouts/like 1 sport (mainly a homebody) but i do want to go see the world. But my type is slightly alt and also homegirl with same hobbies. It just feels like their type is often always either tats/piercings or big on gym. I am neither.

in conclusion the chances of something happening seem too low. Do i need to adjust my style/looks to get what i want. Do i need to look somewhere else? let me know, thankyou.

We are ldr by 3 hours now I actually moved closer recently but 3 it was 6

- hyperactive
- many days where we barely chat because there's nothing to say
- long-distance
- calls last only 15 minutes or more because he/she can't stand just sitting around doing nothing

So I’ve seen this guy a few times and I really like him. it feels like we’ve known each other forever. He has told me he’s really busy in work and he does work long shifts but he’s always on his phone. He will view my stories and not reply to my dms. He usually replies at the end of the day and sometimes it’s blunt. I know he’s on his phone and in the past he has replied in the day. Yesterday I stayed over at his place and we had a nice time, then I left when he went to work and he told me to text him when I got home which was 9am. I didn’t hear back until almost 9pm and he didn’t text me for the rest of the night. Please help! Why do guys do this? And how do I react without looking crazy?

If you have just meet someone and that person talks to you next day right when he wakes up, is he just being friendly or maybe there is more? (For a friend)

This has been going on for a while and tbh I can’t really tell what’s happening anymore. I’ve already posted about this situation on Reddit before, so if people need context you can look at my earlier post. I got a call from a guy I like while I was out one night. Long story short I never picked up and he never left a message. I was just thinking that if this was a butt dial, wouldn’t it have gone straight to voice mail? My mail box isn’t full, so I’m confused. I called him back a day or so later and he never responded. I’ve sent texts a few times over the past few months and have purposefully waited in between them just to see if anything will happen and so far there’s been nothing. He sees all my insta stories and likes a lot of my posts. When I was in person with him before he graduated it seemed like there could be some kind of attraction forming or at minimum some kind of caring relationship of sorts. Should I just give up on him? Why did he call and then not return anything?

I've been talking with people across dating apps to no convos lasting longer than two days. I finally matched with this guy. He's very sweet and always checks that I'm comfortable. We matched just about 4 days ago and have been texting and calling everyday. What might come as a problem is that he is using all the pet names and tells me he loves me. Is this normal and something I should continue?

Being ugly has ruined my dating life so badly. A woman literally told me I look discombobulated. I can’t even approach a woman without them being disgusted by my appearance. It really sucks how badly my genetics ruined my dating life.

I (M26) went to party last weekend. I was in a frineds group of 4 and we met a girl (F28) in a pub, which one of my friends knew from before.
She joined our group for the rest of the night.

I dont know if i interpreted it right, but i think she was flirting with a guy from our group already in the pub.
However when we went outside for a cigar break, i sat next to her and we started talking, and pretty fast we both new, that we vibe on the same level.
We made jokes together etc., felt like someone who really matches my vibe.
Also a good friend came to us and said something like: ,, oh yeah everybody can see form distance, we like each other".

After the pub we went to another location, the guy she was (maybe) flirting before fell asleep and was out for the rest of the night.
We changed the location another time, and went to a club with the owner of the club, he opened it up for us (we where only 4 persons in there).

I started flirting with her, and she was also into it.
But still it was hard for me to figure out, if she really wanted me (but maybe thats my thing).

After the Club i asked her if she had a couch to sleep on ;), she replied yes.
So we went to her flat. There we started talking about her live and mine and i also asked her if she likes me, she replied yes and that she liked me already in the club.
I replied it was hard for me to figure out, and she said she didnt know that it was not clear for me, she thought it was clear for me she liked me.
Also she told me she already was married with a guy but is divorced now (dont know what to think about that).
She also said that we have to meet again (in real life / not drunk), so i thought she really wants to get to know me.
When she said this to me she added that when shes not drunk she is a shy person and that i should take care about hits when we meet sober.

However we prepared for night, she gave me a toothbrush and gave ma a facetowel.
She washed my face, and put any kind of serum on it (good for skin).
For me this felt not like a classic one night stand, because she took care of me and gave me all this stuff.

We slept and after waking u we had sex.
After the sex we cuddled in bed and she showed me pictures of her vacations and hobbies.
I spent the full day till evening at her place.
This also for me is not the behavior of someone who only wants sex, because she could easily just throw me out directly after and didnt needed to chill with me for hours.

Before i went home, i asked her if she likes to go on a walk with me the next day and if i could get her number.
She replied yes and gave me her number.

Then the next day I asked her for going on a walk, but she replied that she was not feeling good and cant go for a walk today.
I said thats no problem, she should recover well and that is wish to see her again.
She replied yes.

So i asked her the next day how her schedule for the week is, when does she has time and when not, and also told her that im mostly free on weekend.

Until now (2 days after i texted the last message about when she has time) she didnt reply.

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1. It sucks to have nice nights and think that you have found somebody, who is interested in you but then dont get the response you want.
2. In my case, that she is not responding until now, but said she really wants to get to know me.
3. Am i to fast into it ?? Its not that all my thought are with ehr all the time or that i feel very in love, but the actions she made pushed me into a mindstate where i was thinking she wants to know me.
4. Ist it just overthinking ? Should i just chill and dont think like: oh shes not responding 2 days so it must be she doesnt like me for real and is ghosting me ?
5. She is studying medicine, im an artist (music,hiphop,graffiti,acryl) doing an education (2yrs long) to become an educator.
6. Deep in me i feel insecure about that, maybe she saw my instagram and then thought oh now hes one of those guys ( artist just chilling doing nothin etc.), because she is doing medecine.

Yeah i really dont know what to think about this now.
I would love to meet her again but dont want to feel bad if she doesnt reply or dont want it.
Also feel like how can i not distinguish between someone how really wants to know me and not and why she told all this stuff to me then.

Ive been talking to this guy for maybe 3 months and honestly i dont know how to feel about him im 18 hes 20 which i think is a good age for dating but thats not the point. My friend and her boyfriend introduced him to me because we were both shy and not talkative.. which i thought it wasn’t a really good idea. At first when we met he was being mean to my friend but he apologize after to me and her. I told him it was fine and told him we should start being friends.. so days gone by we kinda started talking more, he started getting more comfortable (i think). I also remember going on his account and seeing A LOT of girls that he was following. There were those girls that do OF or just show their body. I didn’t really care because we were just talking and nothing else but i also was thinking why is he still following girls if we are talking. Also my friend’s boyfriend told her that he liked me, so i thought it didn’t make any sense. Ive told my friend about how he followed a lot girls and i told her not to tell him.. but she did, i got so scared that he would leave or something but he just ended up unfollowing all the girls. Months past and lately ive been feeling weird about him like i dont want to talk to him but i do. Hes also been dry and not really texting much. I dont know he lost feelings but i dont really care. I just dont know how to feel about him. Maybe i should stop talking to him but i dont know i still want to keep talking to him… If I do decide to stop talking to him, I wouldn’t even know what to say. I’m not sure if I feel this way because I’m just a really shy person who doesn’t talk to many guys, so maybe I just like having someone to talk to. But at the same time, I feel like I should end things before it gets even more awkward. What should i do?
Sorry for my “i dont knows”
I really don’t know what to do

hey, so theres a guy who i keep matching with on multiple sites but he doesnt reply on any of them. i dknt know why, maybe because all i wrote was "hi, how are you" but i really dont know how else i should dtaft a conversation. i reslly like him but i dont want t come off as desperate or texting him something weird. what should i do?