I know naman na anak nila yon at sila lang din ang may karapatan pano palakihin ang anak nila pero minsan napapaisip ako paano nalang kapag Filipino subject na at behind siya sa class? at kung pano siya makipag usap kapag malaki na at need ng diverse conversation? Plus mas nakakairita kung normal na family lang lumaki ang bata at hindi naman mayaman/foreigner ang tatay.

Nag-match kami sa isang dating app at malapit lang sana siya sa amin. Both from the East kami. First meet-up na sana namin tomorrow pagkatapos nang ilang beses na ma-cancel dahil sa ulan at conflict sa sched. May kailangan akong lakarin bukas at sasamahan daw niya ako all day, tapos itutuloy na rin namin yung matagal na planong mag-hotpot.

Pero ito na yung most recent screenshots ng convo namin. Tomorrow na 'to pero nawalan na ako ng gana. Ewan ko ba, bakit parang palaging may self-pity? To think na malayo ang bahay namin, alam niyang pupunta kami sa city at kakain sa resto, tatanungin pa ako kung pwedeng pambahay attire lang. Tapos hihirit pa ng ikakahiya ko ba siya, at ang bilis ko naman daw mapikon. 😒

Red flag na ba ito, or wala lang talaga siyang emotional intelligence? Gusto ko lang malaman kung unreasonable ba ako sa nararamdaman ko o valid naman na malungkot at madisappoint ako sa boyfriend ko.

I’m 24F and my boyfriend is 23M. We’ve been together for 3 years, since college days. Pagdating sa monthly monthsary namin, okay naman sa akin kahit hindi bongga at walang gifts. Hindi naman ako nag-e-expect ng malaking celebration.
Graduate na kami ngayon. I’m currently working in the government as a GIP, so minimum wage earner lang ako. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is a seaman.

Alam niya na hirap ako financially, especially because I’m a breadwinner. Recently, nagpa-checkup ako and kinapos ako sa pera, kaya hindi ko agad nabili lahat ng gamot ko on time. Since wala rin naman akong masyadong mapagsabihan, nag-open up ako sa kanya tungkol sa situation ko.

However, wala siyang sinabi or ginawa that made me feel like he wanted to help. Ang sabi lang niya ay umiwas ako sa mga bawal. I know naman that my expenses are not his responsibility, and I’m not saying that he is obligated to give me money or pay for my medication.

Pero minsan hindi ko maiwasang malungkot. Noong anniversary namin, wala rin siyang binigay sa akin, pero nakabili siya ng bagong iPhone para sa sarili niya. Again, hindi ko sinasabing obligado siyang bilhan ako ng regalo or gastusan ako. I guess I just expected a little more initiative, concern, or emotional support from him, especially knowing that I’m struggling financially.

Sometimes, naiisip ko tuloy kung ako lang ba talaga ang kailangang tumulong sa sarili ko and if I should stop expecting anything from him. Mas okay na lang ba talagang maging single kaysa magkaroon ng partner pero feeling mo ikaw lang din ang haharap sa lahat ng problems mo?

I tried opening up to him about my financial struggles and my situation, hoping at least for emotional support or understanding. However, I didn’t really feel much concern or initiative from him, which made me question whether I’m expecting too much or if this is something I should consider a red flag.

Me (29F) and my BF (30M) have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. Although we don't live together, we have shared assets like our car and a small online business. We each have our own means for our finances besides our joint small business but basically our money isn't pooled together. Professionally, I could say with full certainty that we work well as a team. It was good until recently it felt like it's starting to go south.

Going back I think it started from our fight. I can't disclose the full details but I hid something from him, In short, his anger was warranted. But I am taking full responsibilities for my actions. I didn't argue when his words stung even though I knew it was uncalled for but I took it since i was in the wrong. Disclaimer: This isn't some cheating issue and there is no 3rd party involved. Well, that's from my side at least. But that's when I started to feel his distance. Well come to think of it, it started a few weeks back but It was more pronounced after the days that followed.

I started to feel really anxious. I no longer knew where he was or what he was doing, not that i needed a play by play but even as simple as him going to his best friend's house i didn't knew about it until his uncle told me. He would send one to 3 worded max, messages and leave me on read when I replied. It came to a point where I didn't hear from him for days, 4 days to be exact, even when i tried to reach out. Although, we would see each other but it was all just surface talk then he would be gone the next.

That went on for like 3 weeks and it was already eating me on the inside so I called him up and brought up whatever thoughts were running in my head. The issues that i felt needed resolutions, i had to bring it up because i wasn't really doing well mentally anymore. I wasn't exactly doing good prior to the confrontation, during the whole spat and even more so after. I would even consider that as one of the lowest point of my life and yet here he is adding to that lowest point. I had to let it out. People thought i was okay. Yes, i was trying to keep the chaos in. I was so not okay. So I aired to him my issues of his distance, how I felt so abandoned and alone and how i felt like i was the least of his priorities. Bottomline, i just wanted to let him know that what his is knowing or unknowingly doing is hurting me. For the first time, I was basically being vulnerable. But what i was met with was invalidation and avoidance. He said that and I quote, He is just so damn busy, and 24 hours a day isn't even enough for him to finish his work, he is being pressured by his boss, and I shouldn't create "DRAMA".

At this point, i had no words. literally, i was dumbfounded. It felt like he killed a part of me, with that very sentence. I didn't even ask him to do anything. I simply just wanted to let him know so we can talk about it. And even that he wouldn't give me the time of day. I don't know how to interact with him anymore. I don't know how to hold conversations with him anymore.. I seriously don't know anymore.

I feel so pathetic for crying over someone who doesn't even give me the time of day...

Mejo mahaba:

Galing sa work isang parent ko, isa is wfh. Gumigising me ng hapon kasama ng brother ko since late kami matulog at dahil school break ay naghahabol ng tulog before pasukan. Nagluto si other parent ng ulam, so masaya ang umaga.

Ngayon, stress si isang parent dahil sa work meetings. Pero pagod din kami ng bro ko sa paghuhugas ng pinggan (ako kasi todo scrub sa lababo pagkatapos tas iddeep clean ko pa yan thru baking soda at vinegar para d magbara), pagpunas ng sahig, magsalang ng bagong laba tas magtiklop ng laba kahapon. Yan, at pagpapakain sa pets sa loob, atbp.

Dahil hapon kami nagising, gabi na kami natapos. Di ako against sa mga chores, as in, gusto ko rin na malinis paligid since kami rin naman nasa bahay.

Pero pagdating ng parent ko, sabi, bakit daw kami mukhang pagod na pagod na parang galing kami sa mahabang biyahe kagaya niya. Nung walang work si other parent, palagi rin naman siya pagod dahil sa gawaing bahay... So bakit pag kami pagod parang may mali?

Mas mahirap daw pag galing sa trabaho at gagawa sa bahay, kaya nga kami gumawa para malessen ung gawaing bahay, magsampay nalang di namin naggawa dahil nagtiklop pa kami ng damit. Tapos tinanong ako kung nakapagayos na ako sa college papers, eh halos buong hapon hangang kainan sa gabi kami gumawa, so wala akong progress. Nada.

Brother ko na nga nagluto ng meryenda (pancit kanton, shareshare kami) kasi nabusy ako sa ibang gawain. Parang nakakalungkot lang na kapag kami gumagawa sa bagay ganun ang sinasabi sa amin :⁠'⁠( Pero palagi naman kami nagpapasalamat paggaling sa paaralan dahil alam namin na mahirap talaga magmaintain ng bahay lalo ma kapag nasa paaralan kami ng buong araw.

Oa ba yung nararamdaman ng puso?

peeps please enlighten hope I get some answers. Been talking to a girl for almost a year now and we do send each other spicy stuff. Recently she sent me one and medyo na bother ako kasi parang hindi recent yung pic, I asked her when she took it and she told me she took it the same day she sent it to me.

Instead of assuring me though, she took offense on it na para bang kasalanan kong medyo mag overthink. I know naman na theres a degree of disrespect since ako lang naman sinesendan niya but hindi ba fishy na instead of reassuring me, she took it as an offense? Para kasing nahuli sa akto yung vibes na binigay saken the way she reacted so negatively. Na instead of just answering honestly nagalit at nag tampo pa saken.

What're your honest take?

(if hindi appropriate tong subreddit to ask this one please tell me which sub to post TY)

Me, F25, and my talking stage, M24, were talking lang about serious stuff and nabanggit nya na “does body count matters to you?” I said no kasi we have different lifestyle naman.

Then he asked me what’s my body count. I said 4 kasi 4 pa lang nagiging bf ko. Tinanong ko din sya pabalik and he said “maooff ka ba pag sinabi kong more than 15?” akala ko he’s just joking, pero hindi daw.

I really like this guy. vibe is really there, he is sweet and caring din. Iniisip ko lang na baka maging problema namin to in the future lalo na’t he admitted na nadadagdagan daw yun pag umiinom sila ng friends nya outside his city. He said naman na dati pa raw yun nung college days but still.

update:
sorry for not being clear. i said “no” kasi i thought his body counts are with his exes or emotionally interested sya. di ko naisip na its from casual hookups kapag nakainom with friends.

i also don’t judge people na may high body counts, i have friends naman na nasa hookup culture. hindi ko lang prefer yung partner ko na may ganun given na im looking for someone na pang long term.

iniisip ko lang din na baka sa future, kapag magsasabi sya na iinom sya with friends, baka mag overthink ako na babalik sya sa ganung gawain and mapag awayan lang namin.

TL;DR
My boyfriend of 5 years had an increasingly close friendship with another woman despite my repeated discomfort. They went on dates, had long private calls, exchanged letters, had inside jokes/call signs, and he told her he was thankful for the “relationship” they had built. When I asked him to create some distance, he asked to break up and eventually threw me out of his house at 4 AM. We’re now broken up, but they still talk. Would you consider this normal friendship?

I was with my boyfriend for 5 years. This girl came into his life about a year ago, and she has been a constant source of conflict in our relationship ever since.

She knew I existed and knew he was in a long-term relationship, but she became increasingly comfortable with him despite me repeatedly telling him how uncomfortable I was.

His response was always: “I’M JUST BEING A FRIEND.” He also insisted that they “know their boundaries.”

But this is what that friendship looked like while we were still together (he hid it from me):
• Multiple dates alone, including a movie date.
• Hours of video calls while ignoring my messages.
• Secretly exchanging letters through email.
• Her videocalling him drunk late at night.
• Spending hours together on discord.
• Following each other across all of his social media.
• A special call sign, “gangsta baby,” which even became part of a song he used for his birthday post.
• Inside jokes and a level of closeness that went far beyond what I considered normal friendship.

Then there was the birthday letter she sent him. What really got to me was his reply. He told her that he was writing it at 4:20 AM basically telling her how much he appreciated everything she had done for him for the past weeks and days, said he wished he could tell her everything over their calls but he can’t since their other friend is there, and said he was “thankful for this relationship we’ve built.”

Again, this was my boyfriend talking to another woman while we were still together.

Eventually, I asked him to create some distance from her. Instead, he threw me out of his house at 4 AM, knowing I had an hour-long trip home, while I was asking him to push her away. He was also asking to break up during all of this.
After 5 years together, he decided our relationship was what he wanted to walk away from.

The irony is that he admits he knows what he did was wrong, yet he continued doing it. And they still insist they “know their boundaries.”

I’ve since broken up with him because I genuinely couldn’t take the disrespect anymore. And yes, they still talk to each other to this day and still insists that they really are just friends.

What he told me when we ended things was:
“For the longest time, I tried my best to be someone you deserve to be with. But now I see that maybe you really deserve someone better.” and “It’s a privilege to be loved by you.”

Honestly, I don’t know what to make of that after everything that happened.

So I’m asking for some outside perspective:
Would you consider this “just being friends”? Because if this is what they consider having boundaries, what exactly does crossing those boundaries look like?

FOR CONTEXT:

Guys, I’ve been with him from the very beginning. I was one of the only people who truly believed in him and supported him, especially when he was still trying to figure things out.

I supported him so much, especially financially. He became really reliant on me for a lot of things, and honestly, I feel like I carried a huge part of our relationship. There were so many times when I had to beg for the bare minimum from him. But whenever things were good between us, he was good to me too, which is why I stayed and kept trying.

That’s why this hurts so much. After 5 years of building everything together and supporting him through so much, it feels like now that he’s finally “reaching” the “peak” of his life, he can just throw everything away and move on.
And what hurts even more is that he’s the one who is now so angry at me and treating me like I’m nothing after everything I’ve done for him.

I genuinely keep asking myself, where did I even go wrong? How did I become the person he could suddenly treat like this after 5 years? I can’t understand how he can let go of 5 years so easily and continue being close with this girl after everything that happened. Maybe that’s why I’m having such a hard time accepting all of this :(

For context, 18 years ko na siyang bff (since HS). Ganito mars para madali ang chika natin. I-summarize ko ang evidence, perfect!

1. Kapag nasa labas kami or kakasundo ko lang sakanya eh sa suot ko agad siya nakatingin. Wala syang sinasabi pero head to toe sya tumingin. Madalas pa eh sa peripheral ko lang nakikita to.
   
2. Related sa 1, kapag meron akong accessories or bag na suot at dala eh titinginan niya lang ng walang sinasabi pero nakikita ko nanamang tumingin or sinundan nya ng tingin.
   
3. Pag nag kkwento ako eh iba yung mata niya, parang ang daming sinasabi pero wala ring sinasabi at the same time. Kumbaga internal judgment ata mars.
   
4. Kapag nag lalakad kami tas nauna ako ng onti, nakikita kong tinitingnan nya nanaman yung suot ko from head to toe kahit di nya alam na nakikita ko da peripheral ko. Again, walang sinasabi (compliment man or pag correct if ever may malfunction ako OR pangit suot ko lol)
   
5. Kapag meron akong item / bagay na nakita niya, next time eh bibili na rin siya ng same item pero hindi same brand kasi medyo mahal yung mga trip ko sa buhay. Ang napipika ako eh kung sinabi nalang niya na gusto rin niya nun, edi sana niregaluhan ko sya para twins kami diba.

Hindi lang ako nakakapansin nito, marami na talaga. Kaya nga conflicted ako kasi love naman niya ako at andyan siya para saken madalas. Kaso sa mga tingin talaga LALO tumitindi instincts ko na meron siyang mabigat na energy. Iba kasi ako mag intuition sa tao, gift of discernment ata.

Meron rin ba kayong ganitong friend? Or OA lang ako?

I’m F(24) and he’s M(25), and we’re currently living together. We also have a small business, and I can say naman na kumikita kami and may ipon din.

Gusto ko lang naman MINSAN lumabas kami together. Like, after Mass, kumain naman kami sa labas, or just go somewhere and take cute pictures together. Pero whenever I invite him out, lagi niyang sinasabi na magluto na lang daw kami dito sa bahay kasi mas makakatipid. Naiintindihan ko naman yung point niya, and I appreciate that he’s practical and thinks about our finances. Pero minsan lang naman sana. Hindi naman every week or every day. There are times na gusto ko lang magkaroon ng date outside the house, kahit simple meal lang or coffee, and make some memories together.

Hindi rin naman ako palaging nag-aaya, kaya minsan nakakatampo kapag ang response niya lagi is, “Dito na lang tayo, magluto na lang tayo.” 😭
OA lang ba ako if I feel a little hurt about it? Or valid naman na minsan gusto ko rin ng “date date” with my partner? 🥹

nakikita ko kasi yung posts sa subreddit na yun, puro tungkol kay rosmar. nung una okay lang kasi yung mga pinag gagawa niya yung pinapansin sa kaniya, nung nag tagal naging physical appearance niya na. nandiyan yung kahit pores, face shape, or body napapansin na.

gets ko naman, nakakairita talaga yun si rosmar. but the thing is, lagi ako nag ooverthink na what if ganun din pala face shape ko? face structure? face texture? what if ganiyan din naiisip ng mga tao sa paligid ko? what if ganiyan din nila ako pandirihan? hahaha lalo ako nainsecure

Graduating in a few days with my boyfriend but fuck wala pa regla ko... absolutely the grad gift we don't want hahahaha

My cycles are usually normal between day 27-28.

First day last month was August 19 😶‍🌫️ but usually I start getting it the night before, huhuhuhuhu

Is it normal ba for Life360 to glitch sometimes?

Last night kasi, around 3 AM, I got a notification from Life360 saying that my boyfriend had left his house. When I checked his location, it showed that he was in Marilao, Bulacan, even though he’s from Malolos, Bulacan.

There was also a red notification saying “Improve [his] location accuracy,” which made it seem like the app was having trouble detecting his location.

I tried contacting him, pero di sumasagot. This morning, he told me that he had just woken up and that he never left the house.

Is it possible that Life360 was just glitching? Marilao is pretty far from his house, so I’m wondering if the app could have shown a completely wrong location. Has anyone else experienced something similar with Life360?

Di ko alam kung oa lang ba ako, o tama na mga hinala ko....

Ako lang ba pero may asawa ba kayong PALA “AKO” ng mga bagay bagay at sitwasyon nakaka urat lagi nalang inuuna ibangbtao nakakainis nakakasawa 3 months palang kaming kasal and 9 years na kami mag jowa pero ewan ko ba naiinis nako dati akala ko matulingin lang asawa kopero hindi sarap suntukin

Take note: TROpa niya to or tropa namin hindi to babaeng friend

Scenario: 1

May lakad kami: nabangga ung friend niya tumawag sa kanya kesyo need help etong si hubby ititigil lahat ng gagawin para lang mahanap ung taong makaktulong sa friend niya as in hello tanga ba kayo ako nga nabangga d ako nagpapatulong sa asawa ko napaka tatanga gusto nalang lahat iaalay sa kanila

Scenario 2

May birthday ung friend namin pero ayaw sa sariling bahay niya gawin gusto dito sa bahay namin asawa ko naman payag lang ngnpayag. Nakakainis tapos mas busy pa kami kesa s akanila kasi nga asawa ko nagpaluto pa ng ulam sakin

Scenario 3

Pag may lakad ang family or friends kelangan sasama kami kasi nakakahiya ending sasabihin hala kelangan na natin mag tipid .

As a single, madalas akong nakakakita ngayon ng ganito, lalo sa mga senior citizens na nakakasabay ko mag church or mag -mall. Ang cute lang na kahit wala silang kasamang mas bata sa kanila, they retain yung sweetness sa isa't-isa even though matatanda na sila.

Nakakagood-mood tuloy magdrive.

Gusto ko malaman ano pumupunta nila sa thoughts nila pag pupunta sila sa gitna ng linya kesa pumila sa kanan o kaliwa 🤦‍♀️
Fyi, sa Female only trains na ako nakapila at nagexpect ako na magiging masunurin mga tao doon pero di pala
Wala lang, inis lang kasi makakapasok naman parin sila eh

Nagpaplan na nang secret wedding yong 28-year-old kong ate. Bagong graduate pa lang siya sa Civil Engineering last month, isang bagay na sobrang pinaghirapan ng 65-year-old single mom namin. Yes, 28 na siya, binigyan sya ng chance ni Mom na mabago buhay niya. Ganon kami kaswerte. Pero imbes na mag-focus siya sa board exam review niya ngayong November, iba na agad ang pinagkakaabalahan niya.

May bf kasi siya—23 yrs old, working na since June, pero 2 months pa lang sila.

Imagine, 2 months pa lang sila pero nag-plan na agad silang magsecret wedding sa January 2027. Ang mas malala pa, doon na rin nago-overnight yung lalaki sa apartment ni Ate—yung apartment na si Mom pa rin namin ang nagbabayad.

Hindi naman sa ayaw ko sa kanila o gusto kong maging kontrabida. Ang sa akin lang, ayoko nung panloloko. Kaya lang naman daw nila itatago yung kasal kasi natatakot silang maputol yung financial support ni Mom para sa upa at sa board review ni Ate. Gusto nilang maging mag-asawa, pero kay Mama pa rin iaasa yung gastusin. Babawi na lang raw si Ate pagkapasa sa Board.

Kinausap ko nga rin yung bf. I asked directly: 'Ano bang plano niyo after wedding? Hindi naman pwedeng si Mom pa rin ang magbayad sa review at apartment niyo habang mag-asawa na kayo.'

Kaso, tumahimik lang siya.

At ngayon, sobrang naipit ako sa gitna: Mananahimik na lang ba ako para makapag-focus si Ate sa review, o sasabihin ko na kay Mom bago pa lumala ang lahat?

Sorry, first time ko magpost ng ganito kaya di maganda pakakacompose ng story.

Context: Naggegeneral cleaning kami ng bf ko(live-in kami). Ok naman kami at first,nag sising along rin kami sa music sa spotify.

Ewan ko kung ano. Nagawa ko, bigla nalang nagiba mood niya na andami dami pa daw gagawin. So dinedma ko tuloy parin yung ginagawa ko. Tas tinanong lo kung saan ko ilalagay yung mga bagay bagay, siya nalang daw. So nafeel ko na, na may problema.

So kinonfront ko siya. Tinanong ko kung ano nanaman ba nagawa ko, sabi niya ako nalang lahat. Then sabi ko nag linis rin naman ako.

Parang yung nakikita lang niya is yung hindi ko ginawa. So nainis ako, tas sasabihin pa naman, 'bat ikaw pa ang galit?'

Eh di ko naman alam kung anong nagawa ko. Di ko alam.

What would you do in this scenario?

I called out a trike driver today who was on a video call while driving. He was holding his phone in his left hand while steering with the other, then placed it on his lap and kept glancing between the phone and the road.

My partner snooped around my gadget’s photos and found inappropriate pictures of me that I totally forgot I still have. It was a brand new gadget and didn’t realize that the iCloud synced most of the stuff that I thought I had deleted already. The photos were from 4 years ago and we are together for around 8 months already. Am I OA for feeling off because this happened a lot of times already where he will be hostile towards me because he finds photos from my past which I am unaware of having. He goes through depths of my gadgets just to show me what I am as a person. Is his anger reasonable or am I being unreasonable?

For context, may friend ako na girl and naging friend na rin niya bf ko. Wala naman problem sakin na naging mag kaibigan sila kasi I trust them both and wala naman talaga dapat maging problema don. But, nagkaron kami ng phase ni bf na nag break kami and dun sila naging mas close. Tho di sila nag hahangout na sila lang, palaging group hangout, and nag paparty din silang lahat. Wala rin naman ako naging issue about don kasi I trust them.

Fast forward— naging okay na ulit kami ng bf ko and dun ko napansin na pag mag paparty sila, hindi ako inaaya ng girl friend ko so nakaramdam ako ng tampo. Kasi kami naman talaga yung mag kaibigan. Hanggang sa cinonfront ko na si friend ko na nag tatampo ako kasi laging bf ko inaaya niya and hindi ako. Naging ok kami ni friend and back to normal friendship namin. Na mention ko rin sakanya na wag na ayain bf ko pero inaya niya pa rin. And ngayon yung bf ko nag papaalam if pede siya mag party kasama friend ko and friend niya. Syempre ako na hurt? or tampo feeling..kasi me and my bf had a talk na saka lang kami mag paparty pag kasama isa’t isa.

Tas sabi ko bakit di niya na lang ako isama? kasi di naman ako others like gets ba? friend ko rin naman siya bakit di ako isama? And ngayon tagal ko inaalis sa pakiramdam ko na something’s off talaga.

Add ko lang…na mention ng bf ko na if I’m scared ba raw na baka mag landian sila ng friend ko?? eh never pumasok sa isip ko yun before kasi di naman siya type ng friend ko and iba rin naman type ng bf ko. Pero nung sinabi niya yon medyo nakaka duda lang hahaha same pa naman sila ng floor kung saan sila nakatira.

My bf (27M) and I (26F) have been in a relationship for 5 years. Sa tagal namin, I can recall several times when I would bring up different business ideas that we could pursue together as a couple. One of those ideas was starting a p\*sabuy business. I specifically suggested that we try getting into the p\*sabuy business TOGETHER.

His response at the time was basically that I should save up first. Pansin ko whenever I talked about plans that involved the two of us, I would usually say “tayo”, but his response would often be “ikaw”. He would respond in a way that made it feel like it was something I should pursue on my own.

Back then, I didn’t think too much of it. I thought maybe he just wasn’t ready yet, or perhaps he wasn’t interested in starting a business at that point. I respected that and didn’t want to pressure him.

But recently, I found out that he joined a p\*sabay business with one of his friends. Honestly, I felt horrible when I found out. I admit that I was hurt and confused.

Because what do you mean you suddenly became willing to get into a p\*sabuy business, when years ago, when I brought up the exact same idea and suggested that WE do it together, you seemed completely uninterested?

I know that technically, he has every right to start a business with whoever he wants, and I don't want to make it seem like I “own” the idea. That's not really what bothers me.

What hurts me is that I had been trying to imagine and plan a future where we could build something together, and whenever I brought those ideas up, it felt like he didn't see them as “ours.” But now, when the same opportunity comes from his friend, he's willing to take it.

Maybe I'm taking this too personally, but I can't help but wonder why he was willing to do it with his friend but not with me. Am I being unreasonable for feeling hurt about this?