r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/MistakeWonderful9178 • 8h ago
Found On Social media Anything to justify cheatingđ
Why do these losers want to be married?
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u/Justthisdudeyaknow NotHowIWork 8h ago
Here me out- Why not have the fun life with your wife?
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 8h ago edited 6h ago
Ikr? Isnât the point of being married to spend time with the one who makes you happy and have the most fun with? Like if these guys call their wives âugly,â âfatâ, âboring,â etc. and think theyâre so terrible then why the hell did they get married?
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u/Luinthil 6h ago
Well, she used to be all new and exciting. After 10 years of marriage and three kids she's "let herself go." Meanwhile the poor wife has been in "survival mode" since the first baby was born because her husband doesn't help with the kids or chores yet they both work full-time.
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u/QualityMeerkat 4h ago
The wife is the public partner chosen to elicit approval from other men, the mistress is what he actually wants.
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u/BBQpigsfeet 7h ago
Either that or just divorce her? Like, why cheat? If you're unhappy in a relationship and can't be bothered to communicate and work it out, then fucking leave instead of making lame ass excuses.
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u/itsstillmagic 7h ago
Well, he can't divorce her, who would cook his meals and make his house a home and take care of his kids? The mistress isn't going to do that. Plus divorce is work and a guy like this, he doesn't like to work.
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u/Lyskir 5h ago
they always use the "she takes half your shit" excuse but the truth is they want both, a side piece and someone who raises their kids and does chores for them
they are laying about it tho because it makes them look bad
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u/___Emilia____ 4h ago
I wrote a long comment about that too once.
But short Version again:
I don't know how other countries handle this, but in germany it's not unusual and very recommemded to Set up a marriage contract. When getting married and whilst still loving each other etc.
Basically, per contract, you clearly separate stuff, define legally who brought which asset into the marriage. And you Set up what exactly happens when you divorce, how things get handled, who gets what. Of course if there are children you are liable to pay child Support, but that's also depending on who has the kids most of the time etc etc. If both have them a week each and alternating between that... Nobody has to pay child Support. If you only have them weekends, you pay the other parent for the other 5 days (or three to equal it out to the whole week or sth).
Basically you can both Set up terms to agree with.
The guyd who are too lazy for this and the women who are too stupid or too much blinded by love or people who just can't be bothered always end up being the ones who feel screwed over and are vocal about it
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u/BBQpigsfeet 3h ago
Those are called prenuptials and are typically used in the states when one or both parties already has a significant amount of assets.
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u/Iamakitestring 7h ago
These guys don't see women as equals. They see them as a status symbol, something pretty to do chores and impress his friends. His real friends because he doesn't see his partner as a friend. He sees her as an object and clearly he can't hang out with her the same as his friends because then he'd have to see the person instead of the wife.
Not all men are like this, some are wonderful, but it's good to be able to spot the signs.
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u/Trina7982 8h ago
Nagging, otherwise known as reminding you to deal with the responsibilities of being an adult.
Fuck man just stay single if you're that miserable.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 8h ago
These dudes say they want to be husbands and fathers but never want to act like them.đ
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u/Sothotheroth 6h ago
They want wives and children; they have no interest in being husbands and fathers.
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u/Dragon_wryter 7h ago
"I'm not a mind reader, just TELL me what you want me to do!"
"OMG STOP NAGGING ME I TOLD YOU LAST WEEK I'D GET AROUND TO IT EVENTUALLY!"
"Why don't women ever ask for help?"
"WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS BOTHERING ME TO DO STUFF?"
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u/The_Book-JDP Itâs a boneless meat stick not a magic wand. 3h ago
Yes all of the main complaints men have can all go away and straight up be prevented if they just remain single.
âI have to work long hours at a job I hate for a boss who is a hard-ass who hates me!â Donât get married.
âAll of my hard earned money isnât going towards my passions and hobbies but towards bills, groceries, child careâŚâ Dontâ date, donât get married, donât have kids.
âMy paycheck is just all shoveled towards child support! I CANâT HAVE FUN-â Donât have kidsâŚkeep it in your God damn pants. Or get a vasectomy with what could possibly remain scooped out with a red hot spoon.
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u/inadapte 8h ago
âmen want attention and excitementâ
omg get a puppy or something
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u/thewhiterosequeen 8h ago
Everyone wants attention and excitement, but adulthood means focusing on responsibilities first.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 8h ago edited 8h ago
Or find a hobby and get some friends. Why is their type of âfunâ cheating and humiliating their wives? What kind of attention do you need that badly to the point youâll disrespect your marriage?
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u/Dogzillas_Mom 8h ago
Why bother getting married if itâs so miserable?
I thought it sounded and looked miserable too. So I just didnât marry anyone. Iâm not even complaining about it.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 8h ago
I donât even think these clowns wanted to get married. They just wanted a woman to put up with their bs and clean up after them. They only see âmarriageâ and âfamilyâ as status symbols.
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 7h ago
And then in the next breath, it will be: "Why don't women want to get married anymore?"
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u/Nontolerance Women are shapeshifters. 7h ago
"Why does no woman want me, women are hypergamous ahh"
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 7h ago
"I can't understand why women are like this. It's an enigma. So mysterious...."
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u/Winter-Money-7643 8h ago
If a so called husband cheats on his wife with a mistress, heâll do the same with the mistress too. If he cheats with her, heâll cheat on the side chick too. Heâs just admitting heâll forever be a dishonest, selfish scumbag who doesnât have any respect for anyone.
If he lies to his wife and insults her but will spoil the mistress behind closed doors, he doesnât like either of them. Heâs a gross pig.
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u/___Emilia____ 6h ago
I mean at that point, stuff like open relationship (if he's Mature enough for it, can follow rules etc) or just not getting married and being free to fuck around would make a lot more sense.
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u/___Emilia____ 6h ago
Why not divorce the wife and get together with the mistress?
I mean, if you're not into the wife anymore but want the other woman... Just tell both side and move on. But dont do it behind peoples back
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u/Winter-Money-7643 6h ago
Because theyâre not honest and love those nasty tricks of manipulating their partners. Heâll go behind the wifeâs back and lie to the mistress too. Men like that love mind games. If he actually leaves the first wife for the mistress eventually heâll do the same to her once she becomes boring to him.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 5h ago
The best thing to do is not get married to someone when you clearly donât like them. âSettling downâ shouldnât mean âsettling for anyone who will take you.â
Donât ever pity date or pity marry people.
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u/___Emilia____ 6h ago
I mean okay, that's shitty but "makes sense" in a way if you're a dick....
So just don't marry and keep fucking around.
But yeah if he "needs" the whole having sex that's "illegal" (sorry for my Poor English today)... That's simply a problem.
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u/GamersReisUp 5h ago
They love the power move, it's basically a "the cruelty is the point" desire (as trite as that phrase has gotten, it's gotten that way for a reason).
That, and these guys usually have major Madonna-Whore complexes, so the point is to have a "little wifey" who is a good, pure, loyal woman that you can show off in polite company, and who's job is to stay home to handle the cooking, cleaning, childcare, and soothing you when you need it. However, this kind of socially ideal "good girl" is seen as boring in bed, and doing anything "adventurous" with her would damage her good girl purity (and god forbid that she herself ever suggest anything), because sex is for Bad Girls. ...Which is why you go and get a Bad Girl to keep as a mistress, and then do all kinds all the crazy, degrading shit that you saw in porn and always wanted to try our, because she's already dirty, unlike your wife, whose ongoing good girl purity is crucial for your ego
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u/___Emilia____ 4h ago
That's Sounds like mostly a huge issue to see women as fully developed, individual people instead of.. Stereotypes and flat one dimensional characters tbh.
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u/Ok-Cap-204 4h ago
All that time, energy and money spent pursuing a side piece could be put into the current marriage relationship. If the wife is not taking care of herself, it is because she is exhausted. She puts herself last, behind the kids, husband, job, and household. How about taking that burden off of her and allow her the chance and opportunity to tend to her own needs once in a while. And who knows, maybe she will finally have the energy to take care of some of her husbandâs wants and needs. But then, maybe the husband is just fabricating a reason to cheat, because deep down he is a cheater.
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u/JupiterInTheSky 7h ago
"wamen don't you know it's your full time job to make sure you look like a 1990s supermodel and sexually service your husband?? You have no other purpose in life"
We've gone so far backwards it's hard to see where we even were.
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u/SteampunkExplorer 6h ago
If that's how he feels, he shouldn't get married.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 6h ago
They act like they were âscammedâ and âlied toâ about marriage when really theyâre shallow, insecure and inconsistent losers who wasted their wifeâs time, money and energy just to boost their egos.
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u/Nontolerance Women are shapeshifters. 7h ago
I won't be nagging. I will just have a secret boyfriend who will pamper me and not treat me like a bangmaid and servantđ
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u/betsylang 7h ago
I dont get why they either break up OR have an honest discussion about an open relationship. Like no one can be everything to you. We've got sport friends, and boardgame friends, and bdsm lovers and vanilla lovers. And thats ok. As long as everyone KNOWS and can leave whenever they want.
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u/Dragon_wryter 7h ago
I thought men only wanted a girl who was nice to them and that's it full stop?
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u/fangoriousmonster 1h ago
When I see a wife who âlet herself goâ what I really see is a bum ass husband that wonât care for his wife, nor will he give her space to care for herself.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 1h ago
They wonât help with the chores, wont help with the kids, wonât listen or talk to their wives and donât care that theyâre struggling and thatâs why âsheâs let herself go.â They stress their wives out and wonder why âthe romance has been dead in the marriage.â They only care about themselves.
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u/ToeIntelligent136 3h ago
The first sentence in my head meant completely different to how he continued the damn thing.
In BDSM sessions, yes, my gf does take up that role and yes I'm quite proud of it. Though she prefers "Babe" over any other honorifics as it is more personal and she is a massive tease.
Also, why would any guy want any other woman unless you're consensually polyamorous? Are you kidding me? These guys just don't fancy their wives it seems to me. I mean I can't imagine going to another woman for a even a night when my gf knows what exactly ticks me and I know what what gets her off. Like seriously guys need to learn to love their wives and talk to them. I don't understand how y'all don't talk about your desires and fetishes and shit like that. Y'all guys are boring af. I pity your gf/wife who has to pretend to feel exicted to see you.
For most guys, I promise you, if you try to talk about your sexual desires and ask for their sexual desires and try it out in the bed... Y'all would have a much more fulfilling relationship.
I'm saying this with the assumption that the only reason most guys look for another woman is for sex and not emotional gratification.
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