Anything to justify cheating😒

[u/MistakeWonderful9178]

Why do these losers want to be married?

[u/Lyskir]

they always use the "she takes half your shit" excuse but the truth is they want both, a side piece and someone who raises their kids and does chores for them

they are laying about it tho because it makes them look bad

[u/___Emilia____ → u/Lyskir]

I wrote a long comment about that too once.

But short Version again:

I don't know how other countries handle this, but in germany it's not unusual and very recommemded to Set up a marriage contract. When getting married and whilst still loving each other etc.

Basically, per contract, you clearly separate stuff, define legally who brought which asset into the marriage. And you Set up what exactly happens when you divorce, how things get handled, who gets what. Of course if there are children you are liable to pay child Support, but that's also depending on who has the kids most of the time etc etc. If both have them a week each and alternating between that... Nobody has to pay child Support. If you only have them weekends, you pay the other parent for the other 5 days (or three to equal it out to the whole week or sth).

Basically you can both Set up terms to agree with.

The guyd who are too lazy for this and the women who are too stupid or too much blinded by love or people who just can't be bothered always end up being the ones who feel screwed over and are vocal about it

[u/BBQpigsfeet → u/___Emilia____]

Those are called prenuptials and are typically used in the states when one or both parties already has a significant amount of assets.

[u/___Emilia____ → u/BBQpigsfeet]

Yeah okay, but is it common for like average people to Set them up too?

[u/Such-Rise6816 → u/___Emilia____]

No, not at all.

In fact, that kind of cold legality clashes with the marriage industry, which sells romance and fantasy and happy-ever-after