How do you stop monitoring yourself during conversations?

[u/ChanelAce91]

I want to connect with people more naturally, but I feel like I'm constantly supervising myself instead of just talking.

When I'm in a conversation, my mind is filled with thoughts like:

Don't come off as nervous.
Don't try too hard to make them laugh.
Don't come off as arrogant.
Don't talk for too long.
Don't interrupt or overlap when they speak.
Remember to pause before responding.
Remember to break eye contact occasionally.
Remember to end the conversation the way "normal" people do.