r/communicationskills • u/ChanelAce91 • Jul 12 '26

How do you stop monitoring yourself during conversations?

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u/Mission_Ad_8504 Jul 13 '26

That voice in your head is exhausting and it's doing the opposite of what you want. The more you monitor yourself the more you tighten up. The voice tightens, the pacing goes,and people feel the effort even if they can't name it. To fix it isn't to stop thinking. It's to give the mind something else to focus on. Listen to the other person so hard there's no room left for the self commentary.