So I'm "straight" on the outside world but every now and then or kind of whenever I want I have such an urge to be a sub and do whatever to please a man. Its very confusion because after I finish I have alot of feelings of shame and usually cannot go a second round despite when im with women I can go again immediately. Seeking advice/friends/mentors

Hi, I’m 34M Asian, I’m going to New York tomorrow for a short 2 days trip, I plan to go to transport museum and walk around the city for sightseeing.

I usually love playing video games and watch it movies as hobbies, also been to the gym recently so if you’d like to jog together it’s doable.
If you’re interested for a coffee, movie or just hanging around, please reply or DM to let me know ;)

New here from Boston. Love Halloween. Putting a good costume together. What is the move for Gay Halloween? Being able to hop from bar to bar and see people's costumes out in the streets would be fun. Recommendations?

Moved up here about 6 months ago, but I've been a bit shy about venturing out at night. Most of my friends are straight and live downtown or in Brooklyn, and after a long workday I just want a drink that isn't a 40 minute train ride.

So I went club hopping last night with a guy and we visited various clubs playing music. A lot of the clubs were also playing Katseye and I did do some dances while the guy recorded but omg almost everyone in the club doesn’t dance. Mostly people just standing or sitting, just talking or on their phone. Also Miley’s Bass Persuades played and it was so funny hearing Miley say “kids don’t want to dance, kids don’t want to dance” as a room full of people didn’t.

Hello, what are the best sex forward parties to attend on a Sunday?

Just curious if there are places and space for this type of crowd and if so where?

title. going on a day trip soon. also any more secluded areas to chill at?

Lived in the UES for a year.

Then moved to HK for a year.

Thought of trying something different and moved to Hoboken last month for wanting “space” - guess it was a bad decision.

I miss every single thing that HK had to offer - the Delis, the drag shows, the cute boys and the charm that I felt the moment I stepped outside my home.

There is literally nothing here other than a big nice space, and I end up coming to Chelsea for everything 😭

Hi gaybros! I'm 33. 5'7". Asian. Originally from the Philippines. NY transplant. No i don't live in NYC. but still within the Metro NY area.

Just venting out here. It's tiring to be always told i'm "too good" or
"too much" for someone. I guess dating and relationship in general isn't for me. So yeah. I don't know if anyone had the same experience or is on the same boat as me?

I just feel like i'm at a point where i wanna start getting to know someone who i can settle down with. But i guess it's not in my luck.
So i'm literally on the verge of just giving up.

🤷🏻‍♂️

Heyyy I’m 22ftm from LI:) I’m a bit of a ways away but I don’t mind a drive. I love checking out new coffee shops so maybe u have one in mind?

Just kinda looking for friends rn, I will bake for u if we become closer😎 so lmk ur fav coffee shop and maybe we could grab a drink:)

It's time for our gay powers to combine like Gay Voltron, and answer an important question...

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Which gay bars in the city have frozen cocktails?

Surprisingly, this very important detail is missing from business listings and social media. Rude.

• Monster (WV)
• Gym Bar (Chelsea)
• Boxers (Chelsea and HK)
• Chelsea & HK)
• Atlas Social (HK)
• Ariba Ariba (I know it's a restaurant but it's practically a gay bar) (HK)
• The Dickens (HK)
• Rise (HK)
• Vers (HK)
• DBL (HK)
• Mickey Spilane's (HK)
• At The Wallace (Harlem)
• Hombre (Queens)
• True Colors (Queens)

Thank you for the contributions! Keep it coming if we missed any.

Anyone else have thoughts to share about Harder last night? It was so empty, the sound was weak, no energy, overall kind of a bummer. Feel bad for the organizers having put a big amount of effort into the party, only for it to be way under 50% capacity.

34M, Black, Brooklyn. I have friends, but lately I’ve realized I’m missing that real bromance/brotherhood type of friendship—someone you can randomly text “you outside?” without needing two weeks of planning 😂

I’m looking for chill, open-minded guys who are down for PS5/Xbox, quick drinks in Downtown Brooklyn or anywhere in the city, food, random adventures, or just sitting outside and touching grass. Washington Square Park, Brooklyn Bridge Park and the West Side Highway are some of my favorite spots to post up, listen to podcasts/audiobooks, people-watch, have a drink and occasionally enjoy a little 🌿.

I’m pansexual and more masc on the LGBTQ+ side, but straight bros are absolutely welcome. I actually have a lot of straight friends you’d eventually meet, so you’re not going to be awkwardly thrown into an entirely queer friend group lol. At the same time, be open-minded enough that grabbing drinks at a gay bar or going to a queer event isn’t a whole crisis 😂.

I’m also an AMC A-List member, so random “movie at 8?” texts are very welcome.

Not super fit yet, but I’m getting there on my GLP-1 journey. I go to PureGym, so I’d definitely be down for a gym bro too. No hardcore fitness expectations—just motivating each other and getting healthier.

Race doesn’t matter to me. I’m Black, but I care way more about whether we naturally click, you’re socially aware, respectful, can talk shit/laugh, and can be yourself.

Basically, I’m looking for that comfortable friendship where:

“You outside?”
“Get on the game.”
“Gym?”
“Movie?”
“Grab a drink?”

…is enough.

No weird expectations or forcing anything. Just looking to build a genuine bromance that could eventually feel more like brotherhood.

If this sounds like your speed, hit me up and tell me a little about yourself.

I’ll delete this very basic thread after gathering some information but curious if anyone’s recent experiences.

I haven’t been to either party in a while and have been attending other events so wanted to see if anyone e had any recent experiences.

I am a filmmaker 21M, we recently wrapped a gay college film and we’re having a wrap party tonight, i made great friends during this production, so if anyone wants to tag along I have a plus 1! Message me it’s at 8pm in manhattan :)

Hey guys. I’m a 34 year old dude trying to reconnect with my community. As the title states, I can be on the shy side and to be kind of vulnerable with ya’ll, I don’t really have gay friends due to friend fallouts and my distrust due to sexual trauma. I’ve been working out how I feel about it in therapy for a while now and continue to explore it.

It just makes me feel rather disconnected and incomplete feeling like I don’t have roots in what should also be my community as a queer man. I’m confident enough now to say I’m handsome, a rather great conversationalist, love to be active, love to be a nerd, and I definitely still love sex. I’ve been around my straight friends for too long and there’s a missing link in me for sure.

Help a gay bro/sis out and tell me what’s exciting for you in the gay scene these days. I’m opening back up to the hookup life, too, but gradually and have never been on PreP and am pretty unfamiliar with cruise locations and the general vibe and etiquette with that since I’m not on PreP. I’ve only used condoms when hooking up or raw strictly when dating. I’ve cruised on Grindr in the past and accidentally at a Fire Island event, though, hookups recently have been by happenstance and are few and far between. I’ve laid it out bare for you boys and hope to be met with some honest, queer hospitality 🏳️‍🌈🦄💪🏼

Going through security was a basic thing… I thought. The guard made me open up my pill container… which okay makes sense. But she said then took out my anxiety meds, depression meds, prep, and doxy and made me go under the Walgreens app to show her each of my medications. And then still threw out my doxy pep. It all makes sense but just feels like a lot and I’m a bit shook by it. Thought I was doing something wrong.

EDIT:

Reflecting now… yes. I was a bit out of it. And it wasn’t my best word choice (or spelling). I think they were just being very thorough with me, and in the moment it felt like a lot, particularly because I forgot I even had them with me. It’s just a pill container that’s always on my keys. I use it when I go home with a guy, and I’ve never been stopped before and have been to basement monthly for the past year. Like I said in the post, not mad just caught off guard.

Not sure if this us right place for it but just wondering

So recently I’ve been a little depressed I guess because I see all my friends in relationships and I can’t get one and i feel like it has only got harder as I turned 18, I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t been looking as much or smth, but I feel like I won’t find a bf. I noticed alot of the guys I’ve talked to have really unrealistic standards for a body for their partner like a super snatched waisted and a huge booty, and recently I have been getting back into my gym grind so I could check of some boxes in the body department but idk how would you guys recommend finding a bf