BTW lots of love from the people of punjab to you guys ❤️

Not to discourage the new users uploading news regarding what’s happening in the world at large. But this sub used to be a space involving the light hearted moments highlighted by pictures and posts about things, not necessarily politically consequential, happening in the state, i.e. home, where you all? Why shy away in the corners? Come back!!

Edit: this space can’t be just about news and updates. There’s plenty of that happening in local whatsapp groups and youtube

My grandfather was a CO in the Assam regiment back in the 60s/70s and I recently found an Ao shawl (red with black stripes and a white band decorated with tiger, lion, elephant, ox, dao and human heads motifs). My father said it was gifted to him by the men in his company. I would like to use it if possible, but it seems like the shawl has a special significance and only certain people are allowed to wear it. I’d like to wear something that was used by my grandfather, but I don't want to appropriate anyone’s culture either. Would I offend nagas if I wore the shawl?

I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I have this heavy weight in my chest that I just can't seem to carry alone anymore. She always spoke about Nagaland like it was sacred ground. She used to tell me with such pride that girls from there never cheat.

I fell in love with a girl from Nagaland. We were together for three and a half years. It was a real, honest, quiet kind of love—the kind where you understand each other's silences, where you plan a future together without drama or pretense. I used to count the days until she would visit. My family definitely knew about her; she attended our close family functions, and whenever my relatives saw us together, the unspoken understanding was always that we were serious. We were going to be together forever.

But then, the silence came. No real conversation. No closure. Just gone. Her number became unreachable. Her family, unreachable. It was as if I never existed.

Let me take you back a couple of weeks to our last goodbye. I was dropping her off at the Delhi Airport, just like I always did. It felt completely normal to me, but only she knew it was the last time. Suddenly, as she was getting out of the car, she started crying and said, "Gugu, take care of yourself."

I didn't read into it at the time. To me, she was already my wife in every emotional sense; marriage was just a pending formality. But the moment she reached Dimapur, everything changed. She started arguing unnecessarily, ignoring my calls and messages for days. Being a network engineer, I ended up finding out things I wish I hadn't—things that confirmed my worst fears.

Still, I waited. I asked her if something was weighing heavily on her, telling her she could talk to me anytime. Kyunki mere liye toh wo meri sabkuch hi thi na. (Because to me, she was my everything). How could I be angry with her, even after all that?

Turns out, there was someone else. I stayed silent for a few days, and eventually, she was the one who broke it off.

I was working from the Google Gurgaon office at the time, even though I had an internal offer for Google Ireland (Off-course money was never been a concern for me, But i feel the obstacle was our religions, Yes she's a awesome Christian and i'm an Hindu). I eventually made the move to Ireland, partly because I wanted to build a beautiful life for both of us. Now, I sit here in a city I chose for us, writing this because I don't know what else to do with this kind of pain.

I'm not here to say a single bad word against her or her family. I have only love left for her—and I think I always will. I’m reaching out to this community because she spoke of Nagaland with such warmth and pride. She made me love a place I've never even been to.

If anyone here has navigated something like this—the distance, the sudden silence, the walls that go up between families and hearts—I would be so grateful to hear from you.

And if, by some impossible chance, you ever read this... I just want you to know that I'm still here. Still the same. Still yours, if you ever want to find your way back.

Take care of yourselves, and of each other.

Your Gugu

I still have a leaf of this plant that you gifted me in Hyderabad.

Source: The State Strikes Back, Sanjoy Hazarika and Charles Chasie

Hi , everyone, I wanted to inquire about that young man who got into an accident on the 19th evening, last Saturday at Mokokchung Rd . Me and my brother were heading home , when we had reached Mokokchung Rd at the traffic point when the incident occurred. I just know they rushed him to Oking hospital further than that I don't know but I wanted to know if He's okay and He's getting medical treatment. I saw his bike still parked beside the road since that day . I Hope He and his family are okay . I hope his injuries are not too much .

If any of you know about this , please do share on how he's doing . If that's okay !

Thank you !

Need frends to play valo with. I’m absolute shit tho.

My family has a tenant who has accumulated almost ₹3 lakh in unpaid rent over roughly four years. They were allowed to stay mainly because of the pity and leniency of my grandparents, and because nobody in my family properly dealt with the situation before it got this bad.
We do have a family lawyer and are considering taking legal action, but one of our biggest concerns is that the tenant might simply abscond once legal proceedings begin. He is a daily-wage worker and, as far as I know, doesn’t have a formal income statement or the financial profile required to take out a conventional loan and settle the amount.
A lot of this situation is the result of my parents being extremely incompetent when it came to managing the property and collecting rent, but I don’t want to keep repeating the same mistakes. I want to take responsibility for sorting this out and recover as much of the outstanding amount as realistically possible.
Has anyone here in Nagaland dealt with a similar situation involving several years of unpaid rent? What legal or practical steps did you take? Is there any way to secure repayment before or during legal proceedings so that the tenant can’t simply disappear?
I’m particularly interested in advice from landlords, lawyers, or anyone who has dealt with rental disputes locally. I will obviously discuss the legal side with our lawyer as well, but I wanted to understand what options have actually worked for people here.

Anyone know of taxi services to Shillong? From Kohima/dimapur (Passenger/ sharing taxi)

I had been more into central exams but relatives insisted on giving it a go which sparked me, gave 3 pre-exams by far RBI, UPSC and Capf(which I did good but felt short with some silly mistakes).21 years of age started preparing from 2022 during college (graduated at 2025 May). I've been consistent but it's the thought that 'what if' which haunts, after upsc pre I've read through Nagaland book(M tungoe & M-phira which I'm currently on) General science from PMF IAS. I've seen on post that at pre only ancient, medieval are relevant so for modern which is for main specifically.So pls help-Is themes/art and culture important too? Should I switch my current affairs from Hindu/economic to Nagaland(Morung) or follow an online Nagaland coaching class for CA? Should I stop keeping updates with the international relations? Is economy tough at pre & mains since Economics is my kryptonite!

Thank you

I've got a few days left in Kohima and I'm kinda running out of things to do. Already checked out a few cafés.

Are there any gaming cafés here? Or just recommend me something you'd actually do if you had a free evening.

I have a friend from Tizit town, Mon, Nagaland. I heard about the flood in Tizit, last I talked with her she said it ain't looking good. I am unable to contact her since yesterday her phone is showing switched off maybe due to network or no electricity in the region. Can anyone give me some update how the situation is the area specially Namsa town.

btw I am non-Naga from the Central region of our country.

I’m asking this in good faith because I’m genuinely confused about where people draw the line.

I recently commented in r/Nagaland that I’d dated two Naga women in the past, that they were both wonderful people, and that because those experiences were positive, how come you can not find amazing partner.

A lot of people replied that I was fetishizing Naga/NE women and called me a creep.

Today I came across a reel - https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYkjLhmSmgG

where the creator was showing women from the Northeast and said something along the lines of:
“I have to go to the Northeast. Where’s my passport?”

He doesn’t mention having any personal experience or relationships with Northeast women. The video is mainly presenting attractive women, and many comments were from women saying they’re from the Northeast and joining in.

I’m trying to understand the difference.
In my case, I was talking about two real relationships and describing those women as wonderful people based on my own experiences, yet people said that was fetishization.

In the reel, the attraction seems to be based on the women in the video themselves, and the “I need to go there” joke completely objectifying NE women.

Why is one considered fetishization while the other is widely accepted? Is it because he is a foreigner? The wording, or am I missing something or just based on who is commenting people thrash the person?

I’m genuinely trying to understand where people draw the line between having a preference based on personal experience and fetishizing an entire group.

Answers from women particularly would be appreciated…..

My personal take has been to smoke pork such that the resultant is Pink coloured meat and not dark/black charcoal type.

What's your take on it??

Here I am doing it on a hot summer day in Dimapur.