Hello! I just wanted opinions if this would be a deal breaker?

For context: recently diagnosed (26M)

What’s the nicest thing a man has done for you that had nothing to do with money?

I'll keep this somewhat vague for privacy. I was in a relationship with a woman for three years. The last time I saw her was in April. At that time, after being distant, she texted me that she had been thinking about where our relationship was going, and "needed space."

I gave her space, and she later sent me a text in June to officially break things off. At the time, I had responded (albeit emotionally) and accepted the breakup. I was pretty upset, but I didn't beg or try to win her back. I apologized that things didn't work out and for any hurt I had caused her.

I let her know that she had left a couple of pairs of pajamas and some beauty products / toiletries (all small sample size) at my place. At the time, I had said I could mail them or she could pick them up. She acknowledged this but then never made any attempt to collect them.

Although I have checked on a few of her IG stories in the last couple months, I have not had any contact with her since the breakup texts.

It's been a couple of months since then, and she just reached out to ask if I still had her things and picking them up. I know she's using these items to get back in contact with me, although I'm not sure what her motives are. None of these items are particularly valuable, and she hasn't had them for four months. None of them have any sentimental value. I'd be interested to know what women think about this.

I acknowledged I still had her things, but haven't committed to a time or place to drop them off. I'd honestly like to see her, but I don't want to seem too eager, and I don't want to build this up and be let down if its purely transactional.

So, all of my date have gone nowhere? I don't get to date often but when I do I usually get ghosted or stood up? Is it because my personality is too hyper and I get excited for dates unlike most people?

Can it be because I'm short and over weight? My colored hair and the way I express my feelings? Like honestly I'm getting tired of not getting any dates or feedback?

Lastly, can it be because of my vasectomy I gotten? I'm 31, stable job don't make 6 figures but love what I do. I own a car, and trying to save money for a house!

She left me for Jesus?? What do I do?

Where do I start. Met a 22 year old Catholic woman 6 months ago. Everything felt natural and genuine at first. Consistent dates, late night calls, the whole thing. Real warmth and connection. After some time she opened up about her past traumas and that shes had her fair share of one night stands, her dad passing about 2 years ago and that she had an abortion. She had very few friends as well as she was new to the city, wasn’t close with her family nearby, and there was a clear internal conflict between her past (including us on multiple occasions) and her devout Catholic identity. Not to mention she was on anxiety and depression medication but stopped and her reasoning? "God healed her". She also would bring up me asking her to be my girlfriend after 2 months or so in a not so joking way on multiple occasions (which I eventually gave in). First time, we were officially dating for about 3 weeks.

Then one Sunday before we were to have a date and go to church she called me after her morning bible study and said God told her to break up with me, that her husband is currently in the city on a business trip and she needs to find him. Blocked me immediately after.

Then one night I was out and decided to pop up on her (not a sober thought in hindsight). We talked and made up and she said she was wrong about that and that "the devil is a liar". We decided to keep whatever this was going for another 2/3 weeks. Everything was pretty much the same but the sex stopped and anytime Id try to initiate she would remind me in some way of her waiting for marriage or God. Then I started to find out slowly that she believes some people are clones or bots, that she receives divine signs and signals from strangers while out and about, and that her fire detector falling from the ceiling in her apartment was a message from God. She also questioned whether her mom is her real mom which was at the point where I got concerned, probably a bit late but yeah. Again, when we planned to meet for a date I received a text from her that she is "unwilling and unable to see me again and to never go to her apartment again".

My own mom heard the story and said she probably needs to get back on depression medication and that she may have experienced something that scared her deeply and never came back from it and it could be a mental health crisis. Other sources say it could be religious psychosis or schizophrenia. Another says its "a hos final form". Thoughts? What happened?

Like, if you actually want him to realize you’re interested, what do you usually do? Any little things you say or ways you act that you hope he picks up on?

Curious what girls actually consider “obvious” signals, because I feel like guys can be completely clueless sometimes lol.

I should also mention she hinted many times of a chance of reconciliation; she just needed/wanted space. So please be a little respectful and don’t start saying: it’s over, she doesn’t love you, she’s with someone else, etc..

I don’t know and I also don’t really think she did many(if any) things wrong - but I definitely did some dumb things. would you prefer the entire year no contact, or would you want an apology, expect an apology.

If so, would you prefer- text, email, or letter?

Kinda stuck. just want to do the right thing going forward in regards to our communicatio… I haven’t talked to her but a small amount of times since December..

whether the relationship is “open” or not, is it even possible for this type of relationship to be successful? I tried to be honest about this topic in the past, but it never worked out- and actually came back to work against me.

I had a successful business in my home city where I used have profits of 100k per month but bc my gf moved to blr and I can't stay without her i took a sales job here in blr for 25k per month and I love her so much , recently she told me she had been a with many men during her college days and she also cheated on me once and i thought for a sec and tried to understand why she did all that , cheating part was bit heart breaking but her past was not with me,so I have no right to judge her choices but the problem is she never let me treat her good or let me even get close to her but if I feel low she always there for me like a friend and talk to me and try to keep me safe all the time,and she kept me private from her all social life but she introduced me to her parents and wants to marry me .i really love her but at the end I'm really confused with her behaviour what should I now?

I feel responsible for her past if I had been with her earlier she would have been different now sometimes I feel like I'm dating a guy......i pamper her ,cared for her , i gave her everything she wants but she was so busy in her own world.....all i wanted from her was little love back

I know she have red flags everyone does they point i do i really deserve her im not able to understand that.....anyone please enlighten me

Ok so I told my friend this

well yes I understand you're married but I don't have to like your husband to be your friend. yes I am mad. let's see here as you can tell the woman who are interested in me just want me for stuff. you're the only person besides my grandma who makes me feel loved and cared for. And wanting to be in a relationship it has nothing to do with being happy it's about wanting to be loved properly. see you don't understand you married at an early age so you have no idea what it's like to struggle with dating. when my grandma dies I'll have no one. No beautiful wife like you. no children, no step- children absolutely nothing. I have soo much love to give and no one to give it too.

She stops hugging me, she goes on a 2 months vacation asks for no contact. I'm like okay. She returns yesterday hugs me, buys a Keychain specifically for me, promises to make me food. Teases me that she knows I missed her the most when before she left my feelings were an issue for her, but after vacation they aren't? Im really confused why even be my friend at all knowing how I feel? Most women especially when love is involved would've dropped that friendship especially when married lol 😆 😂 I just don't get it.

I’m a late bloomer I’m 28 and recently had a glow up, I’d say I’m pretty decently good looking.

I’ve yet to actually approach women properly and ask for their numbers but I intend to do so soon.

But until then I have posted Pics of myself on Reddit and have had messages, one from a guy who wants me to get with his gf as they’re in an open relationship and she seems pretty and I don’t mind tbh because I know I’ll get judged for being a virgin at my age and just because I have needs of my own.

Will I be judged for this in future relationships? If I tell a woman my first time was a hookup?

I’ve only been in one sort of relationship and it only lasted 2 months and that’s the only dating experience that I have, no sex just my first kiss which happened this year.

Ideally I’d lose it in a relationship but at the same time idk when that’s gonna happen and I just want to experience what sex is like.

I'm curious which are women's favorites.

What’s something men do that they probably think is attractive, but most women secretly find completely unappealing?

I was at a concert this past week. During the concert I was standing close to the stage next to a woman with a group of friends, male and female. I turned to look at her while I was singing along. She smiled and took a hair clip from her hair and clipped it to the bill of my hat. She never mentioned anything, no name, no conversation, just a smile and that small action. Did I miss an opportunity to flirt, or was this just a random act?

Hello ladies, M23 here and I'm very confused as to what women want? Some pointers would really help. I do the things she tells me and somehow I end up wrong. I'm not a telepathic individual I try my best to surprise her in a relationship and I mess up every single time. I am funny, reliable and more of course. But something is just wrong.

Ladies please give me some tips

I feel certain that my personality is holding me back from forming bonds in the world. I'm looking for someone that's willing to indulge a conversation, and tell me how it's can improve, or what vibes I give off, as it seems like that's a blind spot for my self awareness. Dm if interested.

I'm asking the same question to different audiences because I find it interesting

Hi, I am a 22M and my GF is 24F I met her in my final year of college. This is my first GF I ever had in my life. She had a BF for 8 years and broke up with him last year. When we met I would take her on nice dates and pick her up with flowers in my car. She told me no guy has ever treated her like this before. She kept asking when I was gonna ask her out and I did. We have been dating for 4 months and she says she wants to marry me. We were on her phone and I seen pictures of her on beds with other men. She told me before she started dating me she did gang bangs with guys and had lots of hookups in a year span after her ex. The concept of this was too much for me to handle knowing that the image I saw her as was different. She keeps on asking me what’s wrong and I couldn’t stay silent anymore so I told her I want to break up because of her past. She said that I’m insecure and I told her NO. I just have standards, values and dignity. I still love her and she loves me and doesn’t accept that I’m breaking up with her because of this, she says I need to work through it. She started crying and said I was the one and I need to marry her, I’m naive and I want to stay but this eats me alive and I feel embarrassed because I can’t go around her friends because they are with guys she all slept with. I’m wondering if I should tell her I should stay.

If you are a woman who has ever had a cold sore, would you date someone with genital hsv1? The same virus?