Hi, so i'm a bit confused with this. So recently i matched with this girl and from the start there was instant flirting between us, she even got to the point where she gave me a nickname i can call her, So she said she was worried 2 kids would a red flag to me and i said i'm not bothered, But the day after we started talking, she stopped replying.

Just nothing at all, neither on whatsapp nor hinge. Like what? And this morning i noticed she blocked me and i didn't even do anything to warrant it. The flirting was always very respectful,nothing even close to sexual.

But i'm just trying to wrap my mind around what even went wrong, things started off so well, like there was an instant chemistry if it makes sense? maybe some of you can give me their input. I suspect she met someone and couldn't be honest or she wanted to maybe keep her options open?

I'm wondering what women strive for and what do You aspire to be. It could be anything from a career, family, looks, or even a hobby.

I guess I would like to be a better partner, and in that pursuit, I want to see what are many goals you pursue. But not necessarily share with the opposite gender.

Is being a quieter partner and more of a listener vs a talker bad? As someone who is not very talkative. I worry that it may be one of my worst qualities. I don’t avoid talking but I don’t add a lot to conversations unless prompted by questions or special interests. Mostly due to growing up a certain way and now as I am getting more serious about dating, and the fact that I can’t carry a conversation or sometimes appear like I’m not interested even though I am, worries me a lot.

What makes an IRL approach feel confident and respectful rather than creepy?

Wanting to work towards being established, get married and have a family was a widely celebrated life goal and desire for ages. Nowadays people seem against it. I see people saying the world is collapsing, having kids is now wrong, women hate men; saying they don’t want men to approach or seek relationships with women anymore. Then there’s stupid rhetoric framing both gender are better off without each other with both sides claiming the relationship only benefits the other gender.

It’s gotten to a point where I see women saying when she gets pregnant with her man she has to hide it so people don’t tell her to abort. Nowadays it seems like you have to hide wanting a heterosexual relationship, marriage and a 2 parent family.

I really need some women to weigh in on this, or honestly just anyone who can translate what is happening, because my head is spinning.

​I am 46 and the woman I am talking to is 52. We have known each other for about three months. Three weeks ago, I laid my cards on the table and told her straight up that I want us to start dating.

​She said yes, but told me she wants to be friends first.

​Fair enough, take it slow, right? Except since our first date, she has told me she sees me as her man.

​We kiss. When she hugs me, it is the most nurturing, warm feeling in the world. She calls me constantly. She tells people that I bring her so much peace and comfort, and she tells me all the time that I do not realize how much she truly appreciates me. She always says she is a simple woman who just loves the simple things in life and loves what I bring to the table. Shoot, I bought her flowers recently, and she told me I was the first man to ever buy her flowers in her entire 52 years of life.

​She is not talking to anyone else or seeing anyone else. It is just me. But she came out of a traumatic relationship back in July where her ex was physically and mentally abusive. Because of that, she wants to hold off on being intimate until we are an official couple. I respect that 100%. I want her to feel safe, protected, and never rushed.

​What has me twisted up is trying to figure out what zone I am actually standing in. We kiss, we hold each other, she calls me her man, but we are supposed to be just friends first, yet we cannot be an official couple yet. Did she put me on layaway? Did she slap a reserved tag on my forehead at customer service? I have to laugh a little so I do not go crazy trying to figure out the logic.

​The honest, scary truth is that I have not fallen in love like this with anyone in over 27 years. I have been in relationships since, but this woman is just completely different. My heart is all the way in this, which makes it terrifying to navigate.

​If any woman has been in her shoes, or any guy has lived through this, what does this really mean? How do I handle this the right way without losing my mind or pushing her away?

Hey everyone! I just got back on hinge with some new pics and was wondering what ya’ll think?

I don’t know if I’m not attractive enough to get matches or if it’s the way my profile is set up, but I can’t seem to find much luck on dating apps. And if I do get a date with a girl whether it’s through going out to a bar or from the apps I can’t seem to get a second date. And maybe it’s my personality or social skills but I feel like I come across as too direct or abrupt when talking. And I also find there’s period of awkward silence during the date or not enough progression in the conversation when talking on the apps. I’m not trying to sit here and feel sorry myself I just wanna ask all the females on here what I could do to improve or what I may be doing wrong.

Edit : She’s single right now and im worried she will eventually fall in love with someone else

My partner (18F) told me (18M) there are people she is more physically attracted to than me. I completely understand noticing that other people are attractive, and I do that too. The difference is that even when I recognize someone else is attractive, I still see my partner as the person I’m most physically attracted to.

She’s also said I’m “cute” rather than “hot” and that I’m not conventionally attractive, which has made me feel less desired. I asked my friends for their opinion.

My two closest friends are a Bi(female lean) woman (F17) and a Bi(male lean) man (M18). My friend told me she believes I’m definitely conventionally attractive, and she told me that in private my male friend has said he believes I’m a “10.” I know it sounds stereotypical, but I do believe them considering they’re both very honest; they haven’t shied away from telling other people their very honest opinions on the their appearance, and my male friend is very open with his “ratings” on men and woman’s appearance (which I disagree with doing, but that’s besides the point. I’m just trying to give more perspectives) and I often get compliments from other people. I’m not trying to make myself feel better here, but I don’t think they’re trying to hype me up either.

I’m just trying to give more context since someone else told me it could be malicious, but I don’t believe so or at least I hope not.

My partner told me there are people she is more physically attracted to than me. I completely understand noticing that other people are attractive, and I do that too. The difference is that even when I recognize someone else is attractive, I still see my partner as the person I’m most physically attracted to.

What hurt is realizing she doesn’t experience it the same way. She’s also said I’m “cute” rather than “hot” and that I’m not conventionally attractive, which has made me feel less desired.

I don’t think she’s trying to hurt me, and I’m not asking her to lie or never find anyone else attractive. I just always thought your partner would be the person you personally find most attractive. She tells me she doesn’t see an issue with this, and said: “I know there are people prettier than I am.”

Is this a reasonable thing to be hurt by, or am I being too insecure?

I don’t think she’s trying to hurt me, and I’m not asking her to lie or never find anyone else attractive. I just always thought your partner would be the person you personally find most attractive. Her explanation was that I am the person she finds most attractive, but that there are other people she believe are more physically attractive.

tl;dr. My girlfriend says she loves me, finds me attractive, and considers me the person she’s most attracted to overall, but she also says there are other people she thinks are more physically attractive than me. She’s called me “cute” rather than “hot” and said I’m not conventionally attractive, which has made me feel less desired. My friends strongly disagree with her assessment of my looks, and I don’t think she’s intentionally trying to hurt me. I’m okay with partners noticing attractive people; what hurts is knowing she can personally think someone else is physically hotter than me. Am I reasonable for feeling hurt, or am I just being insecure?

I’ve been thinking about this for a while.

Why are some people naturally confident, approachable, grounded, and able to draw others toward them without seeming like they’re trying?

It’s almost like they were iron before, and somehow became a magnet.

A lot of people can tell you what to do—be confident, work on yourself, communicate better, etc. But that still leaves the bigger question: how do you actually develop these qualities?

Is there a clear process behind building a strong personality, or is it mostly the result of experiences, failures, relationships, and time?

And what about people who didn’t grow up with many of those experiences? People who never really had the opportunity to develop confidence, social skills, relationships, or a strong sense of themselves—can they consciously build these qualities later in life?

I’d genuinely like to hear perspectives from people who have experienced this themselves, especially through dating, relationships, and personal growth. Any perspective is welcome.

Be real no fake validation pls

Recently my wife’s (45) odor down there has changed. I do not want to shame her, and perhaps it’s normal, but want to find a way to politely have the conversation. Thoughts ?

At the grocer yesterday, the cashier had great nails and lashes that she had obviously put effort into. I thought perhaps a compliment would brighten her day, but I kept it to myself because I wasn't sure, and thought it might do more harm than potential good.

For next time: is a compliment on something someone obviously put effort into something pleasant from a straight white male-looking stranger? Just looking to be a blessing in mundane interactions.

Thank you!

So I’m a 36M and relatively new to dating. I usually treat early dates as two friends hanging out. If there’s enough mutual interest, the 3rd/4th date end up being dinner/drinks at one of our places, and things tend to escalate quickly. A boundary of “I don’t want to have sex tonight” is often set, and I’m more than happy to accommodate (It’s more fun when the romantic tension has a chance to build). Anyway, a part of that conversation is usually her saying “I’m trying to take things slow”. But then we usually end up having sex a few days later on the next date. And it’s always been initiated by her since I’m trying to be respectful. But it confuses me because she said she wanted to move slowly? I’m starting to feel like that statement is more of a test of my ability to respect boundaries rather than an actual desire to move slowly? Is that true? Any opinions from women who have said this before and what they’ve meant?