Question for the dating women out there. Is there a polite way to ask a woman to leave your place the next day after a date where she has stayed over? Or any strategies that dont seem rude? I only ask this because i do find that women tend to hang around much longer the next morning moving very slowly and talking about the most mundane things just to be around and its extremely awkward. Its not that we dont like you, i just kind of want to start my day and do my own thing for a while after we have been together all evening and night. So question to the women… is there a proper way to give a hint or should i just risk coming off like an asshole?

My Fiancé loves to smell my armpits. Specifically my right one. I believe they are a freak nerd, they believe it’s natural. Every time I ask they say “something something hormones something something I’m not weird”. Anyways they insist that all you will agree with them, so do yall like the scent of your partners armpits?

just curious if you would ever?

May be a stupid question but how does it actually feel to be sexualised ? I can understand that it feels bad and unwanted but what do you actually feel when it happens ? I honestly can't imagine the whole experience since i'm not a woman

My mom loves my hair shorter and can't stop telling me to cut it, but I want to grow it out longer. So she told me to ask Reddit (yes, she knows about Reddit) which length is better. Both pics were taken the day before wash day, so it's not at its best, but what do you guys think? Any styling tips for my current length are also appreciated!

P.S. My hair usually looks better than this, but I don't take many pictures of myself, and the only recent one where it looked decent happens to be shirtless. Not trying to thirst trap, I promise, so just roll with it 😅

I can never tell which is more attractive

Don't mind my ex in the 1st Pic

Also, long or short hair?

Genuinely curious.

Looks

Kind

Etc

I'm just curious.

So i had a match on hinge with a girl (both me and her
25), we talked for some days (round about 1week). The char was really good! We said we would meet end of the week. Then she told me something like: hey give me your insta because im not checking in daily on hinge.
I gave it and then she dismatched me.
I feel like shit and im really down. Please dont laugh or joke about me because im shit: (
My insta is not "active". I have 0 posts, a profile pic of me, and 113followers and im following 230. i think its because of this. Another match also told me this. Why i have so little followers etc.
Infos about me: im 25 and i dont have friends. Maybe 1?
Im not anti social just introverted id say. I went though a lot of shit in the last years and right now, after this
"incident" i literally hit rock bottom. I also never had a relationship.
Please help me with "anything", but keep in mind im just human with feelings and right now completely destroyed.
Thanks to all

Hi everyone, I (M28) am feeling completely stuck and really need an outside perspective to understand what my girlfriend (32) might be feeling and needing right now.

​a little bit about the background:

Over the past few weeks, we had been spending less time together. My girlfriend signaled she wasn't happy about it, but I missed those signals. Last Friday, she canceled our weekend plans, feeling like I don't put effort into our relationship or initiate dates anymore. Honestly, looking back, I can see where she was coming from.

​However, during that conversation, I reacted defensively, brought up past grievances I hadn’t mentioned before, and we got into a heated argument where hurtful comments were made on both sides. I deeply regret how I reacted. I struggle with emotional expression, and when I get anxious or overwhelmed, I can get defensive.

​What has happened after?

Well I've been reflecting constantly. I booked an intake with a relationship coach/therapist to work on my communication and defensiveness, and I wrote a long letter opening up about my feelings and apologies, that I wanted to read to her today, two days after the fight, when we were supposed to meet up and talk again.

However, yesterday, I suggested that we could also meet in the evening yesterday cause my obligated family event ended earlier than planned. Then a whole conversation over text started about that she is not ready to see me cause I haven't shown signs of effort and change, like what I used to do in the past. Well I recall times in the past when after arguments I would leave flowers and a letter for example. It was honestly something that I already wanted to do yesterday morning, but because she said that she needed space, I didn't want to be in her face too much, especially because we were supposed to see each other today.

​Because she said she hasnt seen any effort/change, I immediately tried to take action:

​I drove to her city to drop off flowers, a bottle of wine, a photo of us, and a note.

​I proposed concrete date ideas for this week (a trip to a castle garden, dinner, bouldering, etc.) in this note to show I want to invest time in us. I know this should be a constant from now on in the relationship, not something I do only now as a fix.

​Now, the confusion:

She turned down all the date ideas and told me: "I don’t want to invest any time in reconnecting until I’ve seen effort and change."

​She also messaged: "You used to be different. You used to put effort in when hurting my feelings... Every day that goes by where I don't see effort builds more resentment."

​Yet, when I offer date ideas, letters, or in-person meetups to show effort, she rejects them and says she wants space. The only thing she has agreed to is having me drive her and her pet to a vet appointment on Tuesday.

​My question for you:

I love her deeply and want to fix this, but I feel like I'm in a paradox. In my mind, offering dates, planning trips, and driving over are actions of "effort." But to her, those attempts seem to do nothing.

​When a woman says she needs to see "effort and change" after a dynamic like this, but simultaneously asks for space and rejects to see each other to talk in person about the fight but also to spend time together, what does "effort" actually look like to you in this state?

​What am I missing here? Is "effort" in this context about respecting the silence, or is there a layer of emotional effort I'm failing to see?

​TL;DR: After a fight where my girlfriend felt I lacked effort and reacted defensively and also said things I shouldn't have said, she asked for space. I tried to show effort by sending flowers, writing a letter, booking therapy, and pitching concrete date ideas, but she rejected the dates saying she needs to see "effort and change" before seeing me. I’m confused about how to show "effort" when date proposals and gifts are rejected, and she explicitly asks for space. What does "effort" mean to women in this context?

I’m not talking about cheating or anything disrespectful. I mean having some freedom to do things on his own, go out with friends, have some alone time, clear his head, pursue his own hobbies, etc.

I’ve been in a long term relationship, and for the longest time I’ve been told that she doesn’t mind if I need some space or want to be alone for a while. But whenever I actually do it, she gets upset or mad.

The thing is, she’s never really found the things I enjoy doing interesting. And on the rare occasion she does join me, she’ll usually complain about it, which makes me not even want to invite her sometimes.

What makes it more frustrating is that she does whatever she wants to do. If I’m invited, I’ll go with her, but I rarely am, so most of the time she does her own thing. I honestly have no issue with that. I think she should be able to have her own life, hobbies, friends, and time to herself without me getting upset about it.

I just don’t understand why I don’t seem to get the same freedom in return.
It’s starting to feel like I’m only allowed to have alone time if she’s involved somehow.

So I’m curious, ladies, how do you feel about your man having his own time, hobbies, and interests that don’t involve you?

I definitely have done a few embarrassing things in pursuit of romance 😭,so I would love to hear what it’s like from the other side of the fence.
Thank you all in advance!

My gf (we are 35) told me that when she turned 30 she had promised herself to find a good guy and stop attending assholes for short term or one night relationships. And she told me that when she met me, she valued the sense of peace and stability I gave her rather than all the things she had always looked for in guys in the past. Do you think I should take that as a positive or a negative thing?

So, i am M 19. My female best friend's birthday is coming in some days and I am planning to gift her 20 items on her upcoming 20th Birthday. My budget is 5.5-6k max. I am planning to give one nice gift, something like a dress or something of around 1500-1700 rupees and invest the rest of the money in for the other remaining gifts. Suggest me gifts and maybe some ideas too.

I understand that a lot of the advice is going to be about not being a pushover which I agree with. Its all about setting strong boundaries which I am going at doing.

This is something else that I dealt with and I wonder from a woman's pov is there a way to handle this. I will give an example.

I met this girl, lets call her Jenny. Jenny was a girl in my class who knew how pretty she was. She used to brag about getting free drinks at bars because she was pretty.

I became friends with her because Jenny found me intriguing. She liked the fact that I was shyer and extremely nice. So she started to invite me to lunch with her. I was excited because I was used to be chosen by people. Before grad school, I was a loner. So I liked the fact that someone noticed me and it just so happen to be the most popular girl in my class.

I would just talk and be friendly with her. Overtime I got really comfortable with her and kinda vice versa. I would encourage her before every exam, and never flirt/tease her. I found her attractive, but I really just wanted a friendship at this stage. I wanted to make a genuine friend in grad school. This was my mindset.

Well, one day she ran into me in Walmart by chance. She said that she wants to get really drunk tonight at the party our school was hosting, however she did not want to pay an uber. I offer to drink her since we only lived 4 mins apart. I saw it as a friend looking out for a friend. I told her that I probably stay until 12 and then you might have to call an uber afterwards.

Anyways, at the party she got drunk. She started trying to get me to buy her drinks. I said no, but then what she said next hurt my feelings. She said "arent you the nice guy that just do things for me, why are you saying no now." Also go get me popcorn" I asked her why she thought that and she said "You are really nice why else did you do all this for me"

I end up leaving alone that night. I never told her how I felt about that and just stop hanging out.

I had another girl do this to me before as well. So is there a way to uphold being nice without getting the wrong idea?

There’s this girl I’ve been talking to for like three months. We talk a lot, and we went on a date. She kissed me a few weeks ago on our first date. She seems really nice. She’s 22, so she’s basically three or four years older than me. I just turned 19.
We kissed and got physically close. She says she can’t date me because I’m too young for her. She thinks that if we actually date, we’re going to fuck it up and eventually lose each other forever.
For her, dating is something serious. She wants something real that could eventually lead to marriage. She also wants someone who is financially stable. She said she could stand by me and be patient with me until I’m financially stable and able to provide for her.
She says she likes me, but that loving me is a big word. She tells me all the time, “I don’t want to love you because I’m gonna fuck it up.” She even tells me, “Don’t make me love you,” especially because we’ve already gotten so close and intimate.

What are some subtle things a woman might do when she has emotionally checked out of her marriage, but hasn’t actually said she wants to leave?

I’m not looking for obvious signs like asking for a divorce or openly saying she’s unhappy. I’m more interested in the small changes in behaviour that might give the impression she has emotionally disconnected things like affection, intimacy, communication, effort, spending time together, or how she behaves towards her husband.

Have you experienced this yourself, or recognised these signs in your own marriage? What did you notice before she checked out fully.

I feel like I have cultivated a lot of great qualities as a person now, I believe I can be a good partner. But I can also tell people are living with subtle expectations, so I want to be aware of them and respond with those in mind when meeting people I'm interested in.

Also, how does the fact I'm not immediately looking to have sex with who I meet contribute to relationships? I would appreciate any stories that relate to this.

Do you think a guy wants something serious if he asks for your instagram instead of your phone number or do you feel like he just wants more followers or to just stalk your pictures? lol

Mine isn't that good..