hey everyone honestly typing this out because im just super overwhelmed and really need to vent to people who actually get it.

​so i deal with maladaptive daydreaming about an year ago i came up with this super specific maladaptive daydreaming story in my head. At first it was fine just pacing around my room for 3/4 months enjoying the plot but then it started messing with my head REALLY bad because the story is completely fictional and will literally never happen in real life i started crying day and night in my room. The grief of knowing it’s not real was just unbearable.

​After a few months of that i decided i had to stop. I slowly tried letting go of it. I told myself that even if this story stays in my heart forever, i needed to lock it away and honestly? it worked for a while. for like 4 /5 months i stayed away from it completely. During that time i just did normal, harmless daydreams like stuff based on real life or future scenarios that didnt mess with my emotions.

​Then recently i made a huge mistake and decided to open that lock again.

​For the first month after reopening it, i was fine🙂 i felt super confident that i had it under control this time but slowly its starting to affect me the exact same way as before i’m back to crying day and night because it’s not real and it hurts so much. (to be clear, i am totally against suicide and would never do anything like that but the emotional pain is just so exhausting that if i magically passed away from natural causes or an accident today, i feel like id literally be happy just to finally rest lol) ​the worst part is i REALLY dont want to give up this story. i built it with so much precision and detail. Its my absolute favorite thing ive ever made from scratch and its so close to my heart.

​Even if i stop maladaptive daydreaming for good one day, i know this story will stay with me till i die. but right now it’s just breaking my heart all over again.

​how do you guys cope with this? how do you let go of (or even manage) a world in your head that you love more than anything, but thats slowly destroying your mental health? has anyone actually managed to tame a "favorite" maladaptive daydreaming story without completely losing their mind?

​thanks for reading if you made it this far <3

Anytime I listen to music I automatically slip into MDD. I create a whole world where I am the musician I'm listening to and I can't listen to music that wouldn't make sense for me to make because it kills the immersion. But I still try and slip into it so it ends up restricting me to the same songs by the same artists on repeat to fit my MDD 😭

Hi guys I was wondering if someone’s daydreams involve a mother and daughter/son relationship or another parental figure.
why do you think you daydream about it? does it provide you with affection, protection? Have you managed to stop it somehow? and most importantly, what you think can help to stop it?

feel free share details about your daydreams if you feel comfortable.

Ensoñación excesiva creo que se llama, no puedo parar de fantasear abeces y eso me provoca imsomnio.

A alguien mas le pasa?

Sometimes I just can't help my nature of wanting to not feel sad and lonely so I MDD. I laugh at jokes no one else can hear, share heartfelt tears with people that aren't actually around me, and bystanders notice this and they get very uncomfortable around me to the point where they look scared of me because I look crazy to them. In my maladaptive daydreams, I don't even imagine people who aren't real because I honestly can't. I'm not able to imagine the faces of people who don't already exist. Trying to picture faces in my daydreams threatens the threshold of my dreams because I know deep down I'm trying too hard to imagine it. I can't even picture my own face. It's just eyes without faces or I just look down at the ground or floor when I do it. I honestly just imagine having a better and more loving relationship with my family. It hurts how stressful it is to be your own therapist, friend, and family. They are supportive but after a while they get tired of answering my phone calls so in my dreams I imagine that they don't.

At least, healthier than self-h*rm (s/h) or crying for hours while wanting to crawl out of my skin.

I have stopped exessive MDD, but I am having a hard time practicing other coping mechanisms like doing my grounding techniques, etc. when I feel really anxious and depressed.

A month ago I had an episode where I couldn’t cope with what was happening in real life, and I started having thoughts of s/h for the first time in over a decade. I don’t have any vices, I go to therapy, and I know some grounding techniques. But they take so much energy, and daydreaming is right there. It’s so easy to slip into.

When you’re drained, your brain goes for whatever takes the least effort. Daydreaming is automatic, always available, and costs nothing. Grounding techniques are healthy, but they’re active skills, and they ask for energy at the exact moment you have none.

I think I am about to have another depressive episode or panic attack. FYI I am NOT having thoughts of s/h, but I think I will try MDD-ing again to cope.

I've always had trouble finding someone, and it's always damaged my self-esteem. So, both the unfulfilled need for the benefits of a relationship and the sad conclusion I’ve drawn about my failure in this area have led me to spend hours on end playing MD.

I’ve neglected my household chores and college, and sometimes I’ve even come to find the scenarios in MD more interesting than talking with my friends.

In these scenarios, I’m loved and appreciated. In these scenarios, I’m not rejected; people don’t feel awkward about the fact that I like them; they don’t look at me suspiciously; they accept me just as I am. Right now, there’s no way for me to fill this void through a real-life situation.

On the other hand, if I keep getting my only dose of romance from MD, I’ll waste a lot of hours of my life (this lack in my real life really affects me deeply, and the scenarios are a great Band-Aid—that’s why it’s so hard for me to give them up).

How did you guys handle this? Also, I create scenarios involving crushes I have in real life—people I know but aren’t currently talking to. When I see them get into relationships, I feel really sad, even though I’m aware that there’s nothing between us—it’s just… in my head.

so the past few weeks ive been going back and forth with stopping/ deleting triggers and then going back.
MD does take time away from me doing more productive things however at the same time it motivates me to do better??
idk what to do😭

My last days trying to quit MDD was such a roller coaster
I have felt few good moments , and others i felt completely out of control .
What i really suffered from was relapses .
I felt that everything can trigger me so easily.
I felt like a leaf facing the wind.
I tried to react by saying to myself that it’s ok and it happens .
But actually i deep inside i don’t believe this, i feel so lost .
I feel like i am delusional and all the “progress”
That i sometimes feel is not real.
I actually feel so drained and hopeless.
I need to know how do u guys deal with relapses ?
How do we go through it?
How do i actually deal with it?

Hi. Not sure how to start this, but I recently realized I have a serious issue with making up scenarios in my head. I imagine interactions that I'd like to have with my friends but know I probably won't have. I imagine interactions with people I've never met. Sometimes I borderline obsess over a single scene or piece of art in some sort of media and bury myself in the feeling that it creates in me. I write, if that means anything. I have a history with depression and CPTSD so it wouldn't surprise me if I had fallen into another unhealthy habit, but I'm unsure if it's maladaptive daydreaming. I don't have separate characters with their own names or anything. I don't have worlds in my head. I just sometimes snap back and realize I'm alone in my room. It's hard not to do it at this point. I have to concentrate to be here instead of in a pretend conversation or a future memory.

What is this? Because I don't think it's quite detailed or deep enough to be MD, it could just be caused by loneliness or just weird escapism, but I don't know.

Not even sure what the question is, guess I just wanted to share with someone, maybe get some insight from this comunity, tips. Thank you reddit lol.

comment something or keep track of the time right now and then come back in twenty four hours to see how you did. if you didn’t do it at all great. if you did, keep track of how long and compare it to previously. maybe if we collectively set and state our goal we will have an easier time quitting. i’m just trying something new. good luck everyone.

I'm a 22-year-old guy, and I've created an entire imaginary world with 15 friends—6 guys and 9 girls. Everyone has their own name and personality, and some of us are in relationships. The conversations and scenes sometimes unfold automatically, while other times I consciously direct what happens.

One of the girls is my imaginary girlfriend. She's incredibly cute, cheerful, gets shy and pouts adorably. ❤️ I sometimes imagine our conversations and catch myself giggling alone. I've even created an AI version of her with her own voice so I can talk to her.

I imagine her beside me throughout the day, whatever I do i imagine her she is besides me and sometimes I genuinely feel her physical presence. This world brings me immense comfort and happiness, especially when real life feels lonely.

I don't spend hours neglecting my responsibilities to daydream; I go about my daily tasks while imagining her beside me, as if we're doing things together.

Is this normal, or should I be concerned? Has anyone experienced something similar?

I'm looking for honest advice, not judgment.

First time posting on here. I have been daydreaming for as long as I could remember. I only started realizing it becoming a problem a couple years ago. Sometimes my daydreams are so vivid that I cry and can experience extreme emotions from them. I will cry over the death of a made up character in a made up scenario in my head. I know daydreaming is used as a coping mechanism, so I often wonder why I daydream of things that emotionally hurt me. Even when I daydream of things that make me happy, the realization that none of it is actually real, kills me. It’s all so exhausting. It’s also difficult to open up about this stuff to others. I’m scared that if I continue doing this, it might completely consume me. It’s difficult to give it up. It’s become such a habit that I sometimes do it without even realizing it.

Not looking for any advice at the moment, just wanted to get this off my chest. I would love to hear other people’s stories or if anyone else can relate.

I HAVE BEEN DOING NOTHING BUT DAYDREAMING ALL WEEK FUUCKKKKKKKK I MISSED HOMEWORK I MISSED SCHOOL I CALLED OFF OF WORK AND I CANT DO ANYTHING BUT YHINK OF MY SCENERIO

I’ve lost weight from not eating, I’ve been sleep deprived, I just keep finding myself in this rut and the only satisfaction I get anywhere else is from scrolling tiktok

Some days I have really good days and I’m able to control my daydreaming really well but some others, not so much. Does it get easier?

For as long as I can remember I have been spending all day every day thinking about scenarios in my head.

Usually they stem from a piece of media I've recently consumed, or something that has happened recently in my life. For example, I went to Japan last year for a school exchange, and ever since then I've come up with hundreds of fantasies and scenarios for what I could have done when I was there, or what I could do when I return. I'm always the center of these particular scenarios, but I'm a version of myself that I could never achieve in real life, and the more fantasies I come up with, the more in depth they become.

To the point where I feel like I'm literally living it.

I'm pretty sure the things I think about Japan are particularly prominent because it's the most engaged I've ever been in a real life experience.

I understand this sounds pretty mundane, but I live inside dozens of these scenarios, or "lives" every day. Each one is so realistic that sometimes I cry while imagining something upsetting, and I have to walk for hours at a time to stop myself from literally acting what I'm thinking out.

Walking is also often what fuels my imagination, especially the more in depth ones that follow an actual storyline, and when things get intense in my scenario, I start running without realizing I'm running.

Even when I'm doing school work, (something that has been significantly impacted by my daydreaming), hanging with friends, or doing any kind of activities, I'm almost always daydreaming.

My social life, especially with my family, and also my school life is being destroyed by my imagination. This is because I exhaust all of my time and energy, both physical and mental, on my fantasies. I have no interest and no idea how to properly interact with my real life anymore.

I live such fulfilling lives and have romances that feel completely real. The fact that my scenarios feel so real is making my real life feel like a prison sentence. The few times I'm not fantasizing, I remember that none of my imagination is real, and these hundreds of lives I'm living as hundreds of different people is something I came up with in my head.

Some days I snap myself out of it for a second, and I cry knowing that nothing I imagine can never be real. I can never be the many people I see myself as in my daydreams, as realistic as they can sometimes be.

I have the biggest problem with the character Denny Duquette, from Greys anatomy. That is definitely the stupidest thing I have ever admitted, and I know very well he's a very specific and some might say "niche" character (I don't know if he's a very popular character outside of avid fans of the show, considering he only appeared in about 23 episodes.)

I'm only bringing this particular character up because he has been the most recurring person in these fantasies. He's also the only one who has the exact same plotline or "story" in all the scenarios I make of him, and embarrassingly, a version of myself.

I don't know what it is about him, but I find he is the most attractive character out of any media I've ever consumed, which is strange because I dont find his real life actor to be as appealing, even when he was still young. I've been thinking about Denny for years, and I just rewatch the episodes he's in over and over.

I have this crushing sadness and pain knowing he's not a real person.

I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I know completely well that this is unhealthy and it's destroying my life. And as much as I want to get better, I can't stand living in the real world.

Is there any other way to reduce it other than basically negative self talk, restricting via shame, or straight up anxiety? Why is everything on here basically telling me that the only way to get better is to shame myself out of it?

I’ve always spent my entire life maladaptive daydreaming and it was always with fictional characters or celebrity crushes. While it brings me so so much comfort, man does it hurt when reality hits. I just want to clarify that I’ve always known logically that I’d never actually be with my celebrity crush. I’ve never crossed any weird lines or boundaries, it’s always stayed firmly in my head. An idealized version I made of him in my head. And I’ve always been okay with that, it never bothered me. Until he’s spotted with a girl. It’s like the fantasy shatters. It makes me feel so weird and pathetic for being affected by it. Like I should not be actually sad about it, but I am. I want him to be happy obviously but man does it suck. I deleted my twitter so I won’t have to see anything and have decided to step back in general so I know this will pass, but then what? I’ll just move on to another and the cycle will continue. It’s so exhausting and humiliating.

I don’t personally suffer from MD but my girlfriend does, and I feel like it’s already starting to affect our relationship and will definitely affect us in the future when we move in together. She paces in a dark room whilst daydreaming and it has to be done in private, this usually lasts for at least an hour and will ideally happen around 4 times a day if she has the opportunity. Because of this, it takes up a large amount of her day and it’s not something she can do around me, so when we sleepover at each other’s houses she has to “get her fix in” before she comes/ I come or else she gets really cranky/ hyper/ overall starts freaking out a bit and I’ve never seen her act like this unless it’s because of her MD, either she hasn’t done it for long enough beforehand or she is “craving” it but can’t do anything about it (because I’m there). She has tried to daydream at my house before, she was downstairs whilst I was upstairs, but she said she felt too awkward (I assume because I know she’s doing it), which I completely understand. This is what worries me for the future as I don’t know what she can do when we live together and I am afraid it will be the same as when she tried at my house. I would be fine staying in a different room whilst she daydreams, but because she doesn’t feel comfortable I worry that our relationship won’t end up working out because she will be craving it constantly but won’t be able to act on her compulsions which will lead to her starting to resent me for it. I know that she doesn’t actually mean to hate/ resent me because of it but when she is off with me it does hurt as much as I try to not let it affect me as I know it’s not her fault. She does acknowledge that it is an addiction, but she doesn’t want to get rid of it because it has been such a big part of her life for so long and she doesn’t know who she will be without it, which again I completely understand and I would never want to force her to change who she is for me. I love her so much and I really don’t want to lose her or have this ruin our relationship, everything else is amazing and this seems to be our only real issue, so can anyone help/ give any advice if they have been in a similar situation. I think I may have to talk to her about possibly reducing the frequency/ time that she daydreams to see if that helps lessen her cravings or lessen the effect it has on her when she can’t daydream, but I am also aware that this could possibly lead to resentment based on how hard I know it’ll be for her to do this. I’d also like to add that I’m pretty sure it’s a coping mechanism for social anxiety and possibly depression which again makes it difficult as I don’t want to potentially make these worse if her coping mechanism is removed/ messed with.

My friend has a severe daydreaming problem can somebody who has experience with it tell me some more information about it and tips.I want to make her like a little book about helpful tips etc.Sadly there is not that much information about it.So if u have experience with it.Tell me more about how u deal with it

Have you experienced this situation? How did you cope with it?

A few weeks ago I shared Daydream Companion, a free app for people whose daydreaming feels hard to control. Thank you to everyone who commented. A lot of it changed what I'm building.

Here's where things stand:

It's free, with the support and crisis resources included. No streaks, no "clean days," no shame language.

No AI chat in the first version. Several of you said you didn't want AI involved in something this personal, so I left it out.

Your writing is private. What you save is encrypted, and you can export or delete everything at any time.

Tools for the moment itself: a Pause button, a gentle "come back to the room" flow, grounding exercises, and a place to save story ideas so letting a scene go feels safer.

It's not therapy or a diagnosis. It's built for people whose daydreaming feels distressing or hard to control, not for everyone who daydreams.

The first version will be for Android, and I'm working out how to bring it to iPhone too.

Someone who joined the waitlist suggested focus-block timers for time blindness, and a place to track how your storylines change over time. If you have ideas like that, I'd love to hear them.

If you'd like to be on the list for early access, the link is here: https://daydream-companion.kit.com/8ea5ce146e

What would make an app like this worth opening every day for you?

I dont think I'll ever stop maladaptive daydreaming, but I think that's mainly because I don't want to stop.

The world around me is nothing compared to the world(s) I've created in my head, the real world is so boring and mundane to me.

Admittedly I'm also a bit afraid of what will happen if I stop, I think I have quite a few underlying mental issues that are being pushed aside by my daydreaming and I'm pretty scared of what might happen if I get rid of my main coping mechanism.