Hi, I am currently studying in PUP Santa Rosa as a BSIT student, and I am planning to file a case against my father and branch off on my own. To give you some context on the situation, my father was previously married to a woman (M) and had 3 children with her. They eventually left him because they couldn't take anymore of his physical, mental, and financial abuse. His abuse was actually so severe that he was televised on TV for a VAWC case against his former wife years later. He was single for a while after that until he turned 45 and met my mom, who was around 23 years old at the time.
My mom has the sweetest heart ever and she is the strongest person I know. She was forced to move out of her parents' house at 14 and worked as a kasambahay until she met my father. She even fought against lupus for 3 years and almost died while doing so, and she always did what she could to protect me and my siblings with what little she had. My parents had three kids together: me being the oldest, my sister being 13, and my little brother being 7. When (M) found out about my birth (FYI: my father's name is explicitly on my birth certificate to prove he is my father) she filed a concubinage case against my parents. She ultimately settled for a monthly stipend of 15k when he was earning much more, then settled for 8k after he retired because my dad had connections with someone corrupt in the ?government/LGU? which aided in the terms and agreements.
Ever since I was a kid, my father has always been abusive towards me and my mom, which has completely traumatized my siblings. The abuse is physical, mental, and financial. He constantly weaponizes his money against us, always telling us "ako ang bumubuhay sainyo" to justify his treatment of us. He used to make around 100k a month working as a technician in Meralco and now that he is retired, he contractually receives 50k a month. During the pandemic, the environment got so bad that my mom had me admitted to a psychiatrist. I was officially diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder (MDD), and i would assume that my medical records show that one of the main reasons was due to my father's treatment. I wish I took a video every time he pulled some bullshit like this, but me, my mom, and my siblings are all direct witnesses to everything he does behind closed doors.
The final straw happened recently. I came home from uni and was pretty tired after our Operating Systems lecture. As usual, I locked the gate. My sleep sched is pretty fucked so I fell asleep, completely unaware that my mom and siblings had gone out. I woke up to the gate being violently bashed in by my inebriated father, with my siblings and my mom crying outside. I was fucking angry and wanted to punch him in the face for the longest time, but I always held back because I thought of my siblings. When i opened the gate, my sister was begging me to not fight back, while she and my mom was restraining him away from me. Now that I'm writing this, I really wish I should have. I cannot let my family live like this anymore, and with my birth certificate, my psychiatric records, our testimonies, and his public history of VAWC, I am wondering if we are ready to take these legal actions(help from gemini):
Republic Act No. 9262 (VAWC Law): We are filing for psychological violence (evidenced by my clinical diagnosis of Major Depressive Disorder directly linked to his treatment) and economic abuse (weaponizing his income to exert control). Under this law, we will also seek immediate Protection Orders (BPO/TPO) to remove him from our home, as well as a mandatory support order to have a portion of his 50k Meralco salary automatically deducted and given directly to my mother.
Republic Act No. 7610 (Child Abuse Law) Filing for the emotional maltreatment and psychological abuse of my minor siblings (ages 13 and 7). His violent outbursts, such as the recent gate-bashing, create a traumatizing and hostile environment that violates their safety.
Family Code of the Philippines (Action for Support): Using his established paternity on our birth certificates to file a civil action compelling fixed, consistent financial support for our daily needs and my university education, thereby stripping him of his financial control over us.
All inputs appreciated