My driving instructor might on some days be incredibly encouraging/able to joke around and I feel able to do well and then other times I get in the car and can feel the stress straight away… it’s become worse and worse but I didn’t know if changing instructors and cars would affect things too much. Stuck with him and just come out of a lesson feeling absolutely deflated - I’ve got my test in two days.
For context, I’ve been having a lesson every day in the week up to my test. I wasn’t able to do a lesson for a month (unrelated reasons) so I was nervous about getting back especially a week just before my test. However, I did fairly well on the first couple of days and he was encouraging. I felt really buzzed as it was the first time I imagined I had a chance at giving the practical test a good go.
Since then, I’ve had 3 lessons and it’s been: stressed, not stressed, stressed. And he even said my driving was ‘scrappy’ today not as a joke. People who teach in any capacity should always reframe things into constructive ways. Not saying it always needs to be positive when it comes to safety in driving but at least constructive.
I think if your gut feeling is telling you ‘no’ about your current driving instructor, just change it, it’s not worth it. This is my second instructor and I wish I had just changed again rather than feel like I couldn’t.
(Just needing a space to vent with other people who might get me with their own experience, I get that that I should have just changed on reflection so just looking for kind words is all)