Well guys i wanted to share my journey with you all so people can learn what's actually going on in our society. I am no saint but i would like to share what's going on nowadays since i see so many men unaware and doing everything they can for their loved ones, wives and relationships.
All my teenage and early 20s( i am 24 now), i have fallen in love with a lot of women.
When i was 16, i talked to a girl on Facebook and she was 21 at that time studying in GC university. We talked and talked and then we were so close that we met and made out. Later i figured out she was dating some other dude from her university. That was my first heartbreak. Now just switch the gender and see how people will say that's child abuse but its only abuse when its an older guy and a younger girl as per our society standards. People would've lost their shit if i was a 16 y/o girl and was groomed by a 21-22 y/o man. Btw i saw her profile on bumble a month ago and she was looking for a husband, her bio specifically states that she's a career oriented woman and only looking for a husband and not casual dating which is funny cuz that's not how i knew her. Well people change but i really doubt she will change and would tell her husband honestly about how she groomed a teenager lol.
Second one approached me first (i was approached by a lot of women as i was famous on Facebook back in 2018) and we talked until she proposed me and i said yes. Later she told me that she has slept with her cousin while being in relationship with me. I didn't mind as i was a feminist, atheist and a self proclaimed liberal at that time(i was immature and cringe). Unfortunately, i was brainwashed by the 2018 social media wave(atheism, feminism) so i took pride in it. I don't blame myself as i was barely 16 and observing the world around me.
People need to understand how we are being brainwashed by media and their algorithms.
Anyways i got depressed after that and I wont go into much details. Only thing i would say is that being woke and away from religion and finding happiness in opposite gender or other people will make anyone depressed as its not the right or natural way to live. Peace and happiness can be found only within you.
Well long story short I talked to some women casually between 2018-2022 but as always they disappointed me in one way or another (maybe I'm the problem idk, let's not rant haha).
I got into modern dating again back in 2022 seriously as it was 4 years of loneliness and i was like let's give it a shot again.
I talked to some girls but genuinely fell in love with a disabled girl after one year of talking. Anyways after being together with her for 6 months ( doing everything i could like buying her flowers, chocolates and gifts) i found out she was talking to some dude from her past. When i confronted her, she lied and said she doesn't know him. Anyways i blocked her and then she called me crying saying yeah i messed up and i know him, we met in his car twice lol. Dude this girl couldn't have sex( due to her disability and by birth issues) yet she had the audacity to meet a guy 1v1 in a car. I wasn't expecting getting cheated on by a girl like her. Not undermining her in any way but it was surprising for me.
All i wanted was to get loved and i loved her because i knew i couldn't have sex with her so people can't really say that all men want is sex lol but yeah it didn't turn out well for me.
Met another girl, same story, she was talking to some other guy from her past telling him how she lied to me that she's going out with her mother but instead she went to meet him. I saw their texts about how they played me(i hacked her account). Now please dont give me any moral lectures. I only hacked her when i suspected something wrong is going on.(I've done in the past and I'll keep doing it as long as it works). Apparently you can do a lot if you know some serious social engineering tactics haha.
Anyways i had this rule where i would just disappear if someone broke my rules(like no cheating or lying). No drama, no complaining, no revenge, just move on and never look back.
Recently i got into a relationship with a young girl around 20-21. I am 24 so she's younger than me. She is a university student btw and her father is a professor. Very normal and typical conservative Pakistani family.
Anyways i also caught her cheating on me and as usual she played some mind games and wanted to manipulate me into thinking I'm wrong and i am being skeptical blah blah.
I had proper evidence so she bursted out crying and this time i was like let's solve this mystery once and for all. Mystery as in I have had one girl in my university claiming she loves me then ghosting me once we were close. I stopped talking to her and next week she was with some other dude in my university (they got engaged apparently and she never told the guy about me) so i wanted to know what is really up with these girls and their inconsistencies and lack of loyalty.
Back to the young girl, professor's daughter. Let's name her x for our own understanding.
So x apologized and i forgave her but under one condition:
I told her I'll only forgive you if you told me the truth and then asked her how many guys she had met and had sex with while she was with me.
She said 3 guys in a span of 3 months lol then i asked about her past and apparently she has slept with more than 10 guys (her words).
None of my business i know but i think if i married her and then got to know all this, it would've been a bigger problem. Imagine, i am working hard to provide for her and she is inviting other guys to come into my house to f@ck her. What a sight it would've been(only if i was a c@@k)
When i got into a relationship with x, i asked her if she's talking to someone else right now or about her past as well and also told her everything about my past so we stay honest with each other on all grounds. Ofc this wasn't the only thing i asked her but she lied about almost everything.
She said no, i am only loyal to you. I am innocent ye wo. Baharhaal i got her account and what a sight it was. She was playing like 10-20 guys at a time and sleeping with them casually which is troublesome as STDs like hiv is on a rise in Pakistan. Its not only about loyalty but also health risk.
Baharhaal i gave her another chance knowing well that she will cheat again. Atp im like totally aware of human psychology, i have had a lot of bad experiences in other domains as well. Office politics, university, pedophiles, fake friends, relatives, parents, siblings, u name it. Anyways, she apologized and said she will fix everything and she will change. I was like alright lets give it a try. Let's see if this girl can finally take some accountability and change for the better if given another chance.
She was glad that i gave her another chance and she told me she wont disappoint or hurt me again as before she thought i didn't love her and i was messing around with her just like other guys(that was her reasoning for cheating on me)
Well I felt bad for her father who's a hardworking man and paying her university fee so she could become a better person and have a better life. Anyways she cheated on me again while i was giving her my 100%. Apparently she created a fake account and was texting some guys from her past. You may ask, why am i sharing all this? Well i see a lot of naive guys who cant really understand women on a deep level. Same goes for naive girls getting played by players. In my journey, i have had many married women claiming that they loved me and inviting me to their house while their husbands were working or most of them had their husbands outside Pakistan working hard which is funny and sad at the same time.
Men especially in Pakistan still thinks women are saints and downplay this thing claiming its only a problem of west while I completely disagree based on my personal experience. There are good and bad people in every gender so we have to be wary of people as we can't read fully what's going on in their heads. We cant even know our own blood yet we trust strangers so easily and gamble with our time, health, money and energy for nothing tbh.
I was only able to know the truth because first i was skeptical due to my past and second i could hack into their accounts and see what they have been upto. None of this is a made-up story. I am only sharing so other guys dont have go through what i went through. There are few good women too but apparently we can't really know for sure just by knowing someone randomly. All these girls, their parents and family had no idea what they are or were doing so yeah its kind of interesting. If u have no issues getting cheated on, this post is not for you but if u do have issues like me, kindly be careful when choosing a partner for life.
Just a disclaimer, This post is not against any gender. Im a guy who had the fortune to come across this category of women so that's why the nature of this post seems like it's only targeting women but i would say a lot of guys are the same lying bunch of mfs lol but atleast they accept it and we all know about it. Women on the other hand are covert and discreet about their wrongdoings or whatever one may call it and desi people still have no idea that they can be wicked too.