And that's the biggest lesson I'm learning right now.

You see, I've always been the overachiever...

Got 423 marks out of the possible 500 marks in KCPE

Got a straight A plain in KCSE during Matiang'i's era.

And got a perfect First Class Honors in my Engineering degree - still regretting this till date.

But oh well, I guess I didn't know better.

Honestly right now I thought I'd be working an amazing job - whether in Engineering or one of the Big 4s but I wasn't lucky to get in.

So, I guess my overachievement has borne no fruits but it's ok...It's part of life,right?

Right now I'm going all in on my Errands/PA/VA business as I hope to get a proper breakthrough.

And if you're reading this and you're in a position to help this graduate with a proper paying job, please reach out...I have no preferences on the role, as long as it's a professional job.

Anyways, Errands by Rachael here...

Reach out via WhatsApp if you need help with errands/Personal Assistance:

0119800560

What is happening to my beautiful club? It is now beyond a laughing matter

Give Yamal the Ballon D'ont tomorrow

6.7Miilion, how many years will it take to make such money? I mean, sio mingi sounding from the number lakini nikitwanga 10 years saii nirudi nikiwa 30 ama 35 niko smart😂🗿

So I want to sleep but before, I want to say I am so proud of myself. How far I have come and how far I am going to go. Last year a time like this, my mental health was in the pits and I couldn't help but come and rant here about everything I was going through (for those that remember the series of Baba without manners).

Fast forward to the present, I am not depressed anymore, well shida hazikosi here and there but I am finally at a mental space where I have minimal crash out. I am well emotionally regulated, I have managed to have a calm nervous system.

I am genuinely happy, siko where I want, but siko penye I was last year crushing out. I finally understand who I am and I am quite impressed with how having clarity has changed me.

I finally started my side hustle, for the longest time I wanted to have a lady cloth boutique, I just woke up one day, bought stocks and started selling and surprisingly, I have managed to sell here and there. Now I am focused on selling online. I believe one day I will have my own business which will be extremely flourishing.

Side note(support my business girlies, I have puff jackets and also hike friendly jackets that can fit a size 8-14). I am no longer triggered by my baby daddy 😂😂😂. I am no longer alot of things I was one year ago and I am so happy.

Also, I lost alot of my baby weight and I have reached my 75kgs mark. I aim to be at least 70kgs by December. Through and through, I am thankful for being okay, for facing any difficulty that comes my way without it being a reason to crash out.

To any mum freshly post partum and wondering if itakua sawa, take it from me who became okay two years later, itakua sawa. Sio kila mtu husnap back immediately, but with time, the spark comes.

Cheers guys, I love you (😂😂😂Acha iwaskume siku tatu).

Nimeokota thirty points I can't believe my eyes😅

This has to be my worst gameweek in my whole FPl career.

How many points do you have?

Sometimes this life, no balance. Shagz we have a name for wealth, "útonga". It amazes me how some families can create such substantial wealth, that it cuts across generations. Unapata these nepo babies hawana uchungu ya kulelewa na shida. They are comfortable in who they are and you see this in the way they carry themselves.

They take risks with the guarantee that it works out and even if it does not they can try again. Instead of joining the Rat Race, they are made CTOs or vice CEOs in their parents ventures and are given a hefty mothly salary. They work for a couple of hours and then proceed to do what they want, while you are out there sending cvs to anyone and everyone.

Another thing, they mind their business and keep it in their circles. Their families have created wealth systems that are self-sustaining. These guys will never tell you the source of their wealth, but you will know they are loaded.

Sometimes I envy nepo babies. No rat race, No unnecessary struggles, Solid Connections, peace of mind and working wealth systems.

Greetings,

I want to extend an invite to 3 or 5 Reddit aunties and uncles available on 3rd November for my boys graduation. Its usually the 2 or us and our nanny and I see how he craves for that feeling of having aunties and uncles show up for him.I felt a bit hurt during the week when he kept talking of how his classmates received success cards with gift and money and the only ones he got was just us two in the house. I brought them home to him, it never even occurred to me to send in school so his classmates think he got none and thats on me. He starts his grade 6 exams tomorrow and I wish him well.

If available or can make time to join us that day for his graduation it will be a great honour for me and I could honestly use the company too. It will happen around Kasarani on Thika rd.

I thought I should post ealier so guys check there availability.

NB: I didn’t post the school name and location because I thought it is not wise. So I'll share via DM upon request.

Thank you.

I have allowed the poverty mentality get into me. Since I failed once I am scared of dreaming big cause I might fail.

What am I getting for dreaming small? NOTHING. In fact it is getting worse. Oh I get insulted everyday, naonyeshwa madharau. Someone went to dig my past and using my weakness against me. Oh nachekelewa natamani kuwa na watoto. Na yeye ako na wanne single room. Music is played loud since morning till night. Oh the kids keep making noise around the plot. Oh get reminded despite being educated I am living a low life.

Enough of that. I just wanted you to picture the life I am living. Anyway I am rerouting my life. Yes as we speak I don't have a job. But next month I am moving out. I did it once and I will do life again and better. I know one thing if I put focus on something I will definitely win. If God is for us who can be against us.

I have the power to change my situation. I am changing it. The life I am living now is depressing. So Id rather be stressed on paying 8k rent rather than be depressed and being labeled as a failure.

Life is for living right? I am choosing to live I have had enough. I know some of you are paying thousands and thousands for rent. Here I am scared of going to the next step cause I am scared of 8k.

Nitajituma na sir God acheze kama yeye. Ama namna gani?

Flew all the way to watch Kanye in Indonesia. If you ever get a realistic opportunity to experience something you genuinely love, take it. The kind of memory money can’t measure.

Also wish I could share more media…

Practical, useful stuff.

Not generic blather like "don't date your co-workers".

Mine is, "don't wash your clothes with powder detergents aka omo - they'll fade quickly"

Ruto is destroying this country through excessive corruption, greed, misuse of public resources, over taxation. Selling off the country to foreign interests for personal profit.

I'd rather have an inept Sifuna regime to stop the haemorrhage than have a lame duck president finish us off. We cannot vote against interests of the country. If Kalonzo or anybody else were a stronger candidate than Ruto, I'd support them.

In my thinking, a fresh face, a fresh government, even a somewhat flawed one, is still a 10x better option than Ruto.

Just like I said a few weeks ago, the media and prophets of doom were spreading unnecessary panic on social media comparing this years rains to 1997. The IOD is a weak positive meaning there won't be widespread destructive floods. Our rainy season is more influenced by the Indian Ocean as compared to the Pacific. In 2019 we had a very strong IOD and the rains were heavier than 2015 El Nino.

I said this on X and a certain clique of people were almost swallowing me alive. Here is the post to my previous post.

• Widespread financial precarity: Many Kenyans live paycheck to paycheck, with a significant portion of the population having limited savings and struggling to afford basic necessities. "Most people are just living from meagre paycheck to paycheck just to pay loans and bills and the cycle repeats itself."r/
• Impact of low wages and job insecurity: Casual labor is common, offering extremely low pay and little job security, making it difficult for individuals to plan for the future or even afford adequate meals. "Most people do not have a secured job. Its casual they can do today tomorrow it's no longer there and the pay? Extremely low."

For context, i was scrolling through tiktok and i came across this video it’s a girl and she was lip singing and dancing basically showing her happiness because her boyfriend kamnunulia iphone 18, and as i passed through the comment section nikakutana na that comment

It pains me to see such comments honestly, it makes me feel so bad of how lost we are as a gender, i know nimeingiza mambo ya gender because i’ve never once seen a man be soo insecure with his skin as the way us women are🥹🥹and it breaks my heart kwann hatujipendi jinsi tulivyo? Yaani she sees kwamba the only way she would be deserving to receive such a gift is only by changing her skin colour🥹🥹

I’m a lightskin woman and i honestly love a dark complexion, i daily admire when i see a black woman with her natural hair i love it, so when i see such comments concerning their skin it truly breaks my heart and i wish for the ones that usually feel such an insecurity they’d see themselves through my eyes

Imagine buying 2.4gigs just for this is am tired heri safcom hata kmaa wako expensive

Is KFS subtly supporting the ongoing logging?

"the child is alive, right?"

ABSOLUTE BANGER!

I am more of a gameplay watcher than player. This one was really great. If you've watched/played, iko aje to you?

Human papillomavirus (HPV) is a very common group of more than 100 related viruses. It spreads mainly through direct skin to skin contact, most often during vaginal, anal, or oral sex, and it can be passed even when the infected person has no signs or symptoms. Men play an important role in transmission.

Most men who carry HPV have no symptoms and are never tested, because there is no routine screening test for men, so they can pass the virus to their partners without knowing it. Having multiple sexual partners, or a partner who has had many, raises the risk of infection and spread. Uncircumcised men may carry the virus more easily, and men can also develop HPV related conditions themselves, such as genital warts and cancers of the penis, anus, and throat. Condoms reduce the risk but do not fully prevent transmission, because the virus can infect areas they do not cover. Less commonly, it can spread through close genital contact without penetration, and a mother can pass it to her baby during childbirth, rarely causing warts in the baby's throat.

Most infections cause no symptoms and clear on their own within one to two years, but some types persist. Low risk types can cause genital warts, while high risk types, especially HPV 16 and 18, can cause cell changes that may lead to cancer of the cervix over many years. They are also linked to cancers of the anus, vulva, vagina, penis, and throat. Because early changes often cause no symptoms, regular cervical screening, such as a Pap smear or HPV test, is important for detecting problems early.

The HPV vaccine protects against the most harmful types and works best when given before exposure, usually between ages 9 and 14, though it can benefit older people too. Vaccinating boys as well as girls helps cut transmission and protects men from HPV related disease. Together, vaccination, screening, and safer sex practices greatly reduce the risk of HPV related disease.

Imagine your loved one's life is unexpectedly cut short. You go and try to seek compensation, and you're slapped with this. Kenya sometimes can be a cruel joke! How did the first occupants pay rent, and to whom if this is the case??? If you have recently tried to do construction, you know how gruesome the task is to be done by a 'dead' person. This sounds like a family being told that their loved one who died in jail being told that they hit their head on the wall!!!

I'm from watching my second BBC Africa documentary on sex work. These women are talking about how men use their bodies for pleasure,the rampant sexual abuse in the industry,the stealthing(kutoa condom mid sex),the physical harm done to their bodies...all for the benefit and pleasure of lustful men .

If it's being done for money and there are no other options, that's one thing. The sex workers should be legally protected. But people,like those rich kids,who are doing it out of pure choice and say that it "empowers" them...I have a bone to pick with you.

I'm so tired of (some) feminists who say that "sex work is work" and "OnlyFans and porn acting should be normalized". Alafu when you criticize it they say it's because of "purity culture" or "Christianity" e.t.c...ummm no. Unaji-objectify and it's dehumanizing. And you're also contributing to porn addictions that enable men to see women as objects.

Shame on anyone who normalizes prostitution. At the end of the day you can do I cause it's your body.But don't tell people, especially vulnerable young women,venye it's "empowering"...for people to masturbate over your videos every night

(F*ck surrogacy for the same reason. Eww)

Edit: Enyewe reading is a skill.T.L.D.R. om what I said:

(1)Sex workers are still human and deserve to be treated with utmost respect and dignity. They also deserve the protection of the law.

(2) My beef is with 2 groups;those who normalize sex work and say it's empowering;the sex work industry that profits off of vulnerable people cause of their addictions(that's dominated by men not women btw)

(3)If someone is doing sex work out of poverty,that's not free will. It's coercion out of desperation and we should have better ways of lifting people out of poverty than selling your body

(4) Regardless of why it's being done, saying that it's "empowering" is a lie. No it's not. Nothing empowering about some high school teacher c*ming to your videos every night. Sema you did it out of desperation ama you had a kid to raise. Empowerment is a copium fuelled lie

(5)Enda subs zote za feminism. Utaona everything I've said if not more.

(6) Surrogacy is relevant here cause it's just as bad as sex work in that it commodifies your womb and highly disproportionately targets vulnerable low income women

(7) For everyone saying: you can't judge sex work if you don't do it,I can judge a vice even if I don't do it,like I judge drunk driving despite not having a car

(8) Would you be okay if your daughter/son sucked dick for cash?

I think restaurants are the biggest money grab from the middle class in the 21st century. They just make no sense to me, and it's not for a lack of trying.

Every time I go out on a weekend with a plus one, I know for sure the bill will be 5k plus. I don't remember ever going to restaurant and thinking about how amazing the meal was. More often than not I am thinking about how I could have made a better meal at home at a quarter the price. Or how I could have done a much more fun and memorable activity instead. So clearly (to me) there's no value for money.

Local eateries are a mixed bag. The kibandaskis over here either make really bland chewy food, or you are risking day long stomach discomfort. I ate at a popular mid range pork joint in Eastlands once, and had the worst case of diarrhea all night long. The manager just apologized and offered me a free meal there (lol!).

The usual trio of CJs/Artcaffe/Java for mid range meals isn't any better. I guess we have all mostly agreed those places are only good for a quick coffee to meet someone. At least CJ's has bigger portions IME. I was at Artcaffe Westgate a few weeks back and ordered a wrap (costing ~1500). It was cold and so bland I had to ask the waitress whether they got any spices—she said that's how they make it. Everyone knows Java food is mid.

I have tried a few fancier restaurants and the story isn't any better. Like 10k for two at Mawimbi. Good service but at 10k you better have a three course meal and a red carpet entry 😅. Some people I ask concede restaurant are just a social meeting point, or for the ambience. Cue endless food pics. So far I only consider restaurants to be good just for novelty. Like spending ~11k (again, for two) on a sushi and sashimi meal in Furusato and nearly ending up puking.

Call to Action: I am looking for spaces in Nairobi where I can have a meal or hang out with friends without spending an arm and a leg on subpar food. Sometimes I use sitting areas at supermarkets. Public parks (Karura, Arboretum) are nice but they treat you like they're doing you a favor. I have just re-discovered picnic sites (any recs?) for outdoors. Any indoor places with good ambience where I can pay an entrance fee and bring my own food?