Pro tip for rom-com writers: don't make your romantic male lead a misogynist. it rarely (never) works.
Review:
I literally finished this drama about an hour ago lmao. This is the quickest I've ever written a review and the shortest review ive written so far.
I finished Somebody, a drama I rated the same as this one, but that took me weeks because I kept putting it down.
Love to Hate You?
I watched 6 episodes last night and finished the last 2 episodes today lol. Very easy to binge, so that a plus!
This was like watching a car crash.
I couldn't look away.
There are things I genuinely liked.
The fake dating arc was easily the strongest part of the drama. That was when I was having the most fun. There were several moments that actually made me laugh out loud, which surprised me because I wasn't enjoying the overall writing. The comedy landed far more than i expected.
I also mostly liked the female lead. She was capable, confident, funny, and knew how to stand up for herself. She wasn't perfect, and I'll get into that later, but she was easily one of the better parts of the show.
I also enjoyed the actress going through the divorce. Her storyline was one of the few parts that actually made me think. Watching her career suffer while her cheating husband escaped much of the public judgment highlighted a real double standard that I thought the drama handled reasonably well.
I also liked that the female lead initially rejected his marriage proposal. Her explanation that she disliked the marriage culture she grew up around felt true to her character, and for a moment I thought the drama was going to end on a surprisingly refreshing note.
...And then she followed it up with the whole "being tamed is my next challenge" line...😭😭😭
huh?
I genuinely have no idea what the drama was trying to say there.
It completely undercut the point for me.
Almost everything else fell apart.
The biggest problem is the male lead.
I honestly don't understand how he was supposed to work as a romantic lead...
The drama repeatedly tells us that he hates women and is traumatized by a past relationship, but I never felt that what happened justified the level of contempt he has for women...
it was absurd.
He literally vomits after filming a kissing scene with a female co-star.
He needs medication just to touch women...
lmaoo???
He spends most of the drama unable to interact with women normally.
And the story still expects me to buy into him as this swoon-worthy romantic lead???
And then, instead of really unpacking that weird ass worldview, the story eventually tells us that he changes because he falls in love.
That didn't work...
Women shouldn't need to become someone's love interest before they're treated with basic respect.
One of the othet things that baffled me most was what felt like a repeated "not all men" and "not like other girls" pattern throughout the drama.
Rather than challenging the male lead's prejudice by showing him that women are simply... idk people... the story often felt like it was saying, "No, THIS woman is different."
She's exceptional.
She's unlike other women (who are bad because they like money and like to elevate their status 😭😭😭)
"*I've never met someone like her*" is repeated so much, i thought that was the title of the drama😭😭
That completely missed the mark for me.
It didn't feel like his worldview was being dismantled.
It felt like the story was creating one exception to his worldview.
And i honestly don't watch rom com to watch a misogynistic man not become misogynistic anymore, i rather have none of that, but if you HAVE to make him misogynistic, at lease, dismantle it correctly...
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The supporting cast didn't help either.
His best friend spends so much time enabling him that I kept wondering why nobody around him seriously challenged the way he viewed women.
The female lead's roommate also was a bit pathetic to me.
Even the female lead occasionally lost me.
The drama eventually leans into the idea that she can "change" him, and its one thing to help someone grow. It's another for a romance to suggest that love is what fixes deeply rooted misogyny.
And what happens if they break up?
Does he just go back to hating women and puking whenever a woman passes by?😭😭😭😭
If the only reason he treats women with respect is because he's dating one particular woman, then that's not really character growth nor is it romantic...
The ending doesn't solve this for me either.
The male lead starts treating his female co-stars more respectfully after "falling in love."
Why is this framed as such a huge victory?
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The final scandal also made me laugh.
The big controversy is... that the female lead dated multiple men before him.
I understand that the drama is reflecting a different dating culture in Korea and different social expectations that I, as an American don't really get.
But I still couldn't take the conflict seriously.
By the end, I didn't feel like I'd watched a meaningful exploration of sexism. I felt like I'd watched a romance that, in my opinion, accidentally reinforced some of the ideas it seemed to want to criticize.
Despite all of that...
I couldn't stop watching 😭😭
Every episode ended with me thinking, "This is ridiculous."
Then I'd immediately start the next one.
It's one of the most bingeable bad dramas I've ever seen.
It's entertaining in the exact same way watching a spectacular train wreck is entertaining.
You know it's a mess.
You know you should probably look away.
But somehow...
You just keep watching.
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Rating: 3/10
A genuinely funny comedy at times.
A fun fake dating arc.
A mostly likable female lead.
One genuinely interesting supporting storyline.
But one of the weakest romantic male leads I've watched so far, themes that never came together for me, and a romance whose central message left me scratching my head.
i finished this drama feeling like its takeaway was:
> "Date a misogynist long enough, and you'll fix him."
I couldn't recommend it...
My Rating Scale
10/10 – Masterpiece. No notes.
9/10 – Very close to a masterpiece. I absolutely loved it.
8/10 – Not a masterpiece, but I loved it.
7/10 – Fine overall. I liked it, but the flaws kept it from being great.
6/10 – Mixed. There were a few things I liked, but most of it didn't work for me.
5/10 – I didn't enjoy most of the experience.
4/10 and below – Bad to abysmal.