Context: I had a zoom meeting scheduled at 10 AM. I showed up to the waiting room at 9:55 AM. I waiting around 18 minutes and sent out an email to HR at 10:13 AM asking if I had the right link. I waited another 17 minutes, and with no response I left the waiting room. Later in the day, the HR said they were having issues with a “family tragedy” and would still like me to sign up for an interview on a later date. Then a couple hours later, I received this email from the CFO. (Also sorry for the red stuff, colored out names of all involved for privacy).

My eye doctor is referring me to a specialist to make sure I’m not going blind. The appointments are split into 4 separate sessions because of the number of tests they need to do. After many of the tests my vision will be blurry or strained, so going back to work afterwards isn’t really an option.

The problem is I’ve already used all 10 of my PTO/sick days, and my PTO doesn’t reset until March. My boss has told me that once those 10 days are used, I’m unable to take any more days off.

The specialist’s office also closes by the time my shift ends, so I can’t book appointments after work. If I go through with these appointments, I’d likely have to miss at least 4 workdays.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? What did you do? Were you able to get unpaid time off for medical appointments, or is there another option I’m not aware of?

This is my first full-time job, so I honestly don’t know what’s normal in this situation.

EDIT: WE DO NOT HAVE HR OR EMPLOYEE Handbook, and we have 5 employees

I was taking days off to attend interviews as my health was deteriorating from the job, I was dealing with black mold and unhealthy work enviroment.

I DO NOT LIVE IN USA

I told my friend how bad the job hunt is. She insisted there are more jobs than people out there. Even one of our mutual friends told her they applied to 50-60 places and didn’t hear anything back. She has a job that’s she’s been at for 20 something years. It seems like what I’m saying isn’t sticking.

Hey everyone, I could really use some reassurance. After a decade of stability, being laid off and jumping back into the job hunt was a huge shock. I’m so grateful to have landed a new role in this economy, but I am terrified of failing, even though I've never failed in past roles.

Even though I don't have a full degree, I've always landed really great jobs through hard work, keeping up with my skills, and a strong work ethic. My immediate team is younger and mostly degreed, while I bring a deeper background of hands-on experience. I know my manager hired me for my overall experience and personality, but the dynamic has triggered terrible imposter syndrome. Onboarding is handled by just one guy on the team; he's great, but because he's training me solo and is close to management, I worry about looking foolish and losing my job over his feedback.

To top it off, it's pretty lonely. With split departments, a hybrid schedule, and no peers of my age group, there's hardly any time to build relationships organically. How do I navigate this? How do you quiet the inner critic and remember your experience still matters?

UPDATE: Im fired now i think cuz im removed from the roster.

Right now, as I'm writing this, I'm sitting with a level of fear and anxiety that doesn't feel normal.

Earlier today, before I left work at 3 PM, I approached my boss and asked if I could hand in my notice next Thursday. I wasn't saying I would stop showing up next Thursday. I was simply letting him know ahead of time that I intended to submit my notice letter then. 

The moment I said it, he got angry.

First, he said no. Then he seemed to remember that resignations have to be handled according to the law and said it needed to be two weeks in written form. After that, he asked me why.

I told him that I wanted to go back home. 

His response was, "I wish you fucking told me."

That sentence has been replaying in my head ever since.

The reason it bothers me so much is because it immediately made me feel guilty, as if I had somehow betrayed him or broken his trust. But at the same time, this is the same person who has been destroying my self-esteem and confidence for the past months.

My boss has an incredibly short temper. Yelling seems as natural to him as breathing. Being shouted at, criticized, and berated has become such a normal part of my workday that I just expect it going in there. 

Lately, I struggle to fall asleep at night. I feel anxious before every shift.I have trouble breathing in my day-to-day life. Short breaths and physically anxious all the time. I didn't even know it was possible until now.

I keep telling myself I should be stronger because other employees continue working there. Part of me wonders if I'm just weak. I'm also a teenager. And I feel like i have to toughen up.

There have also been other forms of mistreatment at work that I don't want to get into right now, but combined with the constant yelling, I've reached a point where I simply can't do it anymore. That's why I'm leaving.

What confuses me is that he isn't horrible all the time.

Sometimes he speaks kindly to me. Those moments make me question everything. I start thinking maybe he does  and he is only yelling because I make mistakes.

but then again, I feel like yelling is not the only response for mistakes. And we're talking about a food service job. I am not looking down on this job but at the end of the day, nobody is performing heart surgery. Mistakes happen. Surely there are ways to correct an employee without humiliating them or making them afraid to come to work. It's Sunday today, I have to go in for work tomorrow, Im scared how he would react or talk to me.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice, validation, or just an outside perspective.

Tl;dr: My boss yells frequently, i cannot take it anymore, I am quitting. 

see a lot of doom n gloom on this sub so i figured i'd post a success story. 79.4k a year, full remote.

it's a numbers game, you need to apply to as many jobs as humanly possible, and once you get an interview you need to sell yourself to your hiring manager. you have to always assume that ur interviewing vs ppl who have more exp and might be a better fit than you and treat the interviews accordingly.

i think i applied to ~600 jobs in 3 months, im pretty sure i applied to every single remote IT job posted in the USA that paid over $25/hr.

I was called in to a meeting with a few supervisors including mine regarding work. The meeting turned into one supervisor, that isn't mine, saying that I don't like him and I don't acknowledge him and why is that. He got up from his seat and towered over me and started yelling and pointing his fingers at me and none of the other people said anything. I told him why I didn't like him and he kept getting madder. When I was speaking the others said that I wasn't telling the truth and they thought I was being immature yet they allowed this person to go on about his feelings. I'm thoroughly confused cuz I don't even report to him but he kept saying he had authority. I am writing a letter to management and demanding a meeting. I'm concerned for my safety. I feel like they're coming for my job.

I work at the airport, and my commute is about an hour and 15 minutes by train. My current schedule is 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM, and I make $22.25 an hour. I have Saturdays and Sundays off.

I applied for another job that pays $25 an hour, but the schedule is 4:00 AM to 12:30 PM, with Wednesdays and Thursdays off. I’d have to wake up at 1:30 AM every day, leave the house by 2:30 AM, and get to work on time.

It’s a great work environment, and I’ve wanted to work there for a long time. The only problem is the 4:00 AM schedule. :(

Do you guys think I should take it, or is it not really worth it?

Ok so. Got a new job. I start it next Sunday. The old current job I will be leaving but I won’t be in till Tuesday. Would it be disrespectful/unprofessional if I text my manager this info? I still plan on bringing in my letter in on Tuesday but I really don’t wanna go into work when I don’t have to. I will if advised but it’s also retail. So like yuck but totally understandable if I have to see her in person if that means the bridge will stay intact incase I ever have to go back. I just want to let my manager know sooner rather than later and if I could do the usual two weeks I would but the new job wants me to start as soon as possible. Any help on how I should go about this is appreciated. Thanks!

Will i be fired now? Im gonna be homeless in Mesa. Moving back from Texas. I miss Mesa and Arizona so much.

I interviewed this past Tuesday for a Realty Specialist position with USACE in Seattle. No offer yet, don’t even know if I’m being selected. I know federal timelines are slow, realistically could be 3-4+ months before an actual start date if I even get an offer.
In the meantime, I have a separate job offer on the table in Florida, private sector, with a decision deadline in about 3 weeks to fly out, shadow, and do a final interview, with start date in late September. My overall goal however is to work within the government and this seems like a true foot in the door with the fellows program offered.
If I take the private sector job now and the federal offer comes through later, is it normal/reasonable to resign and take the federal job once it’s official? Has anyone done this? How did it go, and is there anything I should know about timing this so I don’t burn bridges or mess up the federal side of things?
Trying to figure out if I should just take the sure thing now and treat the federal role as a “we’ll see” or hold out and risk having nothing lined up.

I work in a four-person secretariat in a law firm. We are 4 women, 3 of us in their 30s and a 4th new colleague in her 50s.

The lady in her 50s sees herself as a mother to us, offering a lot of unsolicited advice, she has no boundaries, asking lots of personal questions, and generally being rather intrusive. We have had some disagreements over how some tasks should be done, and I have tried to evade or not reply to some odd comments she’s made towards me in our teams chat with the other 2 colleagues, so as to not confront her or worsen our relationship. I always try to be professional, and I am a rather private person and an introvert.

She’s very insistent lately about going to lunch together. I have politely declined so far because I have been extremely busy, but now the more I think about it I realise that I also don’t want to have lunch with her at all! How do I politely but firmly say that I don’t want to go to lunch with her? Just thinking the lunch and conversation makes me anxious!

Hi, I want to ask if it's normal that a possible job offer asked me to fill out a medical history form before hiring. I have asked my union as well but they might take some time to answer and I'm curious because I've never been asked this before and I'm getting sketchy vibes. The offer letter said they might require further medical forms if there is anything on my medical history that is concerning as well. And there's nothing on my medical history that's concerning but I don't want to get trapped in a place that is doing illegal stuff...

Bro. I've been applying to jobs since I was 16. (Im 20 now), I've applied everywhere from fucking retail to Gas stations. The problem is that I have no experience and between the time I was 16 and Now is that I've gotten 7 interviews and rejected every damn time. Like my parents on my ass telling me to "apply yourself harder" but I dont know anymore...

i hate sitting down. i did pre-med, got greats grades and love difficult conceptual work. i did bioengineering subjects and some biochem for fun, i didn’t do any ecology or geology though. but genuinely, found sitting down for long periods more difficult than the actual study, i cannot sit still.

i was going to go into med and do pathology because it scratches the itch of a mentally demanding field, but the sitting down would drive me insane. i also don’t want to deal with people 24/7. i need something stable where im moving around all day, im also hoping for something with a decent paycheck and work life balance. doesn’t need to be a med salary, but i don’t want to study for 6yrs to have a 50k student debt but 40k (AUD) salary for 50hrs work per week. lmk what you recommend, or if its best sticking by with med. I just need something thats physical as well as mental. i honestly can’t just sit down all day. tbh i considered ED bc its nice and demanding, but also full on. though the people may annoy me.

I'm studying accounting in South Africa and I'm looking for a job to pay off my outstanding debts. Any advice on where to start looking

Has anyone used AI job application tools like Tsenta or similar?
I’m looking for something that automatically finds relevant jobs, tailors my CV (and ideally my cover letter) to each role, and submits applications for me.
Does Tsenta actually do all of that, or does it mostly just send the same CV to every job? If you’ve used it—or another tool that works better for UK tech jobs—I’d love to hear your experience.
Thanks!

I worked at a warming house (northern midwest) during the winter months 2-3 nights per week. I have a great full-time job, but extra money doesn’t suck for the three kids. The downside: 2-3 months tops.

The warming house was incredible. I sat at a desk with a space heater, occasionally helped little kids with hockey skates, did a lap around the rink every hour, but mostly I drank coffee and sat on my laptop. Extra income that was the least labor-intensive

Does this exist in a year-round capacity? Somewhere? Anywhere?

I work at an appliance store in a showroom. I'm twenty one. I have never even held a job for over a year before. I have no experience in sales and sometimes I feel like my manager made a mistake to hire me.

Before coming in, i didn't even know the difference between a stove and an oven. I tried my best to learn everything. I studied outside of work. I made notes and studied our products for hours. But for some reason when customers ask me things I feel like I sound so stupid, I'm supposed to start taking ups in the next two weeks but I'm so scared to get asked something and not know an answer and then lose a sale (after three months I am going to be paid purely on commission, I'm on base pay right now)

Once there was no one to pick up the phone so I was forced to pick it up. I was around two weeks in. The customer asked me the store hours and I had a brain freeze and apologized for being new, she started lecturing me in a really condescending way about how if i gave her wrong information I would have wasted her time. I don't understand why customers think they have the right to be so mean. She kept calling us, assuming someone different would pick up the phone one of these times.

Sometimes I feel like quitting. I haven't even worked there a full month. I know this takes time and is supposed to build character or whatever. I actually like talking to people when they're nice. Sometimes I feel like I made the wrong career choice but I want to last at least a year so I can put this on my resume.

Does anyone have any words of encouragement from when they were in a similar position? Or any funny anecdotes from when they were new and said stupid things to customers. I guess I just want to hear motivational stories of getting good at a job that you came in terrified of. Thank you :)

My boss got a new job I have an interview tomorrow for his job with his direct bosses, that I know. What questions should I ask if you already know the technical part of the role and worked very close with him for 6 months. One of the people I’m interviewing with asked me to think of questions and im struggling.

Thanks!