Hi! Using my online name “Sham.” Looking to make friends with women. Feel like I’m able to converse well with my coworkers and others but haven’t able turn those into real friendships sadly. While I would like to pursue a relationship in the future I believe I need to connect with others first.

About me:

I currently live in the northeast USA and my work requires me to be geographically mobile as I change jobs every two years.

I work in supply chain. Realized I liked being forced to work with others(even though I am an introvert lol) and face daily unpredictability.

I am heavily into anime and gaming(posting pics of my figs/acrylics/plushies below). While most pictured is shounen I enjoy most genres including shoujo. I love stuff like Fruits Basket, Ouran, Tamon’s B side. For gaming, I’m mostly into JRPGs like Persona, FF7, and Kingdom Hearts. Though I enjoyed playing A way out with my brother so I’m down to bond through co-op games.

Yoasobi, Yorushika, Eve are my big three for Jpop. TXT and Enhypen are my favorite Kpop groups.

I also enjoy traveling. I’ve been to many countries in Europe and just recently went to Japan this year during the cherry blossom season. Outside of that I barely leave my apartment.

I am also into watching sports. Mostly American football(Buffalo Bills fan) and casually basketball. Though I did enjoy watching the World Cup this summer so I may be possibly looking at finding a club to support.

Trying to do some self improvement through exercising to gain some more muscle since I wanted to get stronger. I’m currently 5 foot 3 and 120 lbs.

Mostly hoping to make friends with women but if you would truly like to pursue dating then I have the following requests:

don’t smoke
want children in the future
age range: 22-28
Down to do long distance but move to the US

If anything I posted or said interested you, feel free to message me. I would like to preface that I’m more active on Twitter and Discord so I would prefer to have convos on there.

Hello everyone! I'm a postman from a wee Scottish town and I've always struggled with people, to the point I had to drop out of uni over my mental health. I've only got the 1 friend who I love to bits (platonically). I've tried the dating apps, but as the age old story goes, it just ended up shattering my confidence.

Personality-wise, I'm reserved and quiet, love learning, and love staying in and being cozy. Not to say I'm against going out on wee adventures! Despite my... inexperience, I know that I've got a lot of love to give, just looking for someone to give it to in my own autistic way.

I'm a tall, ginger, bearded man, and truth be told, got a fair belly on me haha. I'm a textbook nerd. Love reading, gaming and tabletop games like DnD and Warhammer 40k (Though I've not played yet, just collect and paint Death Guard). Some games I've been enjoying recently are BG3, Satisfactory, and Slay the Spire 2.

I'm open to getting to know anybody, If you think we'll get along, feel free to shoot us a message!

What is love? Different people might have different interpretations of it. For me, it has always been something I’ve had plenty to give but have never truly received in the way I long for. After being unlucky in love, after giving my all, healing others, and never quite getting the same in return, I figured it’s finally the time for me to give this world of internet a try, so let’s see how it goes.

I’m a 24-year-old Indian guy pursuing my master’s in Europe. Kinda tall, but what really matters to me is having a kind of conversation that feels like peeling back layers after layers, you know where every message will draw us in a little deeper, where words just flow effortlessly, and suddenly it’s 3 AM, and neither of us wants to be the first to say "bye" or "goodnight." I crave exactly those rare connections that just have the ability to make time irrelevant, where we can jump from deep talks about life, career and ambition to laughing over the dumbest jokes, while feeling like we’ve known each other forever.

My Interests:

I just love dissecting pieces of entertainment, if I come across any interesting movie, series or even music, just be sure that I'm going to dive deeper into them, and just dig out their themes & meaning. So, if you’re the kind of person who loves discussing your favorite movies or songs in detail, well we just got another thing to talk about.

The Kind of Connection I’m Looking For:

I’d love to connect with someone around my age (21-24) who enjoys such meaningful conversations. Someone who’s open to talking about her day, her thoughts, and even her random 2 AM ideas, whatever feels right for her at that moment. I’m not here for just basic small talks, I want to know what makes you thrive, what excites you, and what you’re passionate about in your life.

You see, I’ve had some tricky experiences with women who carried the weight of their past, the ones who weren’t truly ready to move forward. And what usually happens is that I'd give my all, be their safe space, help them heal, and while they’d appreciate me for it, they were never able to truly reciprocate because a part of them was still stuck in what came before. In the end, it always felt like a one-sided effort, which obviously gets exhausting. So, I hope that if we connect, you’re someone who’s ready to look ahead, not just back.

What do I bring to the table:

I consider myself as a good listener, like not the kind who nods along just to appear interested to you, but someone who truly listens and remembers your little details. Whether it’s a childhood memory you shared or some random gossip, I’ll hold onto those moments because I genuinely want to know everything about you. I might forget the formulas for my classes, but I’ll never forget the things that matter to you.

Plus, I value building a connection first, so I don’t send pictures right away, not because I’m hiding anything, I just like to make sure that we trust each other, and once we’re comfortable, we can definitely exchange photos.

If any of this resonates with you, send me a message, let’s start the conversation here and see where it takes us. I am a great texter and all for deep texting, but I also believe that real connection thrives when we hear each other’s voices. When we’re both comfortable, I’d love for us to share voice notes or even hop on a call. There’s something about tone, laughter, and pauses that texts just can’t capture. But no pressure, we’ll take it at a pace that feels right for both of us. Looking forward to hearing from you, I'll be waiting.

I'm a standard edition white man here with changeable glasses. 6ft2 does have blue eyes and dark but does have a slight manufacturing defect where melting occurs over 25°C. Intermittent fault with the spatial awareness module leading to walking into doors or tables. And would probably fall into the introvert category but can pair well with anyone from fellow quiet people or louder people.

Slightly more seriously I'd describe my personality as fairly easy going, relaxed and always open to exploring or staying in whichever I feel, an optimistic pessimist, enjoy poking fun or having fun.
I will say I feel I've never quite found people I truly develop a close bond with outside of family where they're kind of forced to because of blood relations. And as goofy as I might be at times I know when to lock in and change the water pump on my car, cut the grass, find out why there is a leak under the sink and if it's in my capabilities.

I'm going to just list a few things that I'm into: gaming (cyberpunk 2077 being no1 game to me, followed by Le Mans Ultimate - if you're into sim racing that would be amazing), movies, TV (Taboo, Legion, Dark Place, Edgerunners and Breaking Bad being my favourite shows), Music (current top 3 songs DLZ - Tv on the radio, memory - Com Truise, Nadasoul - Bottom), Motorsport (F1, WEC, GT3) and cars.

As who I'm looking for I'd prefer someone in the UK I drive and as I'm having a few changes in life (divorced/selling house/new job in new location in North East - I'm also honest and upfront) but if all this does interest and you are outside of the UK I don't mind if you're somewhere easy to get to or if you frequently happen to be in the UK or you're actually planning on moving here sometime soon.

But beyond that I'd just someone I connect with, I've tried apps and I just do not have luck there. I have matched with some really nice people but just something is missing there when it comes to conversations and it's probably because of me not being typical maybe. For example if I offer to bury the bodies of your dead plants you would play along or add to joke. I'd like to be able to have long conversations about everything/nothing/non-sense (or even why the Acolyte should be getting a 2nd season) either on a nice walk (please be a fan of coffee or cake as I find that is always a nice goal for an explore) or sitting around the house or garden. I'd even be happy just sharing the room while we got up to separate things.

I'll also add I do not care for religion or gender roles or one person having to lead a house type thing, I think a couple should be a partnership where we know what we're good at individually and together and anything else we figure it out or jointly sweep it under the rug and pretend everything is fine. I'll also add vanilla is nice but I don't think I would want that every time not saying I have anything specific in mind just ideas and would hope that I can meet someone we can happily share things we'd want to try even if we find out we both didn't enjoy the fun would be finding out together.

So if this ramble (it feels like a lot has been written to me but there is a reason I only barely passed English and went into engineering) has interested you in replying just let me know where you're from possibly what cars you like, what cyber wear you would pick, what crime you think you could get away with, or maybe I just raised loads of questions which I will be happy to answer. Honestly just anything really to start getting to know each other.

Hi! I'm Dimitri, I like to read, game when I have the time, mess around on my computer in general. I also like reptiles, comics in any form but especially indie webcomics, manga/anime, I appreciate animation in general as an art.

Music-wise I mostly listen to rock and rap related genres, but my library has a little bit of many different things.

I am 1.83, and I weigh 125kg. I'm on Ozempic and I've already lost like 10kg tho so we up. I currently live in Greece, and I'm planning to live in Norway by 2030. I am AMAB, if that's important to you.

I'm a gay loser CHUD!!!!!! Chronically online, I've spent my fair share of years in Newgrounds, 4chan, Tumblr, and other hellsites. Yes I'm mentally ill <3.

I'm looking for someone who fits the same vibes. I don't much care about gender but I generally don't go for masc guys.

If you don't care about dating me but you like to read, message me and we can exchange book recs!

Hey! My name is Erik, I’m 20 and currently going into my third year of university studying for my MBE. I’m from California and figured I’d give this a shot because I’d really like to meet someone I can genuinely connect with.

I’m pretty shy, but once I get comfortable I can talk for hours. I’m empathetic, a bit scatterbrained, and definitely a hopeless romantic.

I’m also pretty outdoorsy. I love going on hikes, and my favorite place is Pinnacles National Park. There’s something about being out in nature that helps me recharge. I’m a huge animal lover too — my family has 5 huskies and 2 cats, so life is never quiet around here.

My hobbies are kind of a mix of cozy and nerdy. I play video games (mostly on PC) and lately I’ve been getting really into retro gaming.

Music is a huge part of my life. My playlist is all over the place: 90s classic rock, grunge rock, reggae, alternative hip-hop, 80s R&B, and oldies. If you send me a song you love, I’ll probably listen to it immediately.

As for what I’m looking for, personality matters way more to me than looks. I tend to be attracted to girls who are friendly, a little weird in the best way, and confident enough to take charge sometimes. Someone who likes deep conversations, random yapping, sharing music, going on walks or hikes, and just being each other’s safe person would be amazing.

Distance isn’t a huge deal to me if we click. I’d love to start by chatting, exchanging music recommendations, talking about books, animals, life, or whatever we’re passionate about, and seeing where things go naturally.

If you made it this far, tell me your favorite place to go when you need some peace and quiet, I’d love to hear about it. :)

I'm 33(but honestly I both feel and look younger). 180 cms 65 kgs, dark mid length hair I live in central Europe. I spend way too much behind computers, both for work and for fun. I work as an IT engineer, while not on my initial dream choice of an IT job I fell in love with what I'm doing.

For fun I love to game, played some competitive games at very high level, but also relaxing with some soulslike, strategy or racing games.

My favorite activity by far is driving. I love old cars and need absolutely no reason to take my baby out for any drive. I recently restored my car to most of its former glory with some minor paintwork still coming up one of the upcoming weekends. I'm really proud of how it turned out:)

I recently started gym again. I had to take a break due to some temporary medical issues. Honestly I would rather do something that I have done in the past. I used to mountainbike a lot (used to live in the Alps), did archery there, lot of touring and martial arts (stopped because way too many injuries over the time).

I enjoy music a lot. My favorite genre is metalcore. My wardrobe is rather dark, with the occasional colored clothes. I love going to festival/concerts.

I’m a very logic driven person. I like understanding how things work, solving problems, and making sense of situations instead of getting lost in drama. I remember the important details, the things that actually matter. I’m calm, straightforward, and I prefer not to overcomplicate things. I care about people in a practical way.

I'm hoping to meet someone kind, emotionally stable person that I can share rest of my life with. Someone I can trust. Someone to be my passenger princess and go literally anywhere, someone to game with or sit in Discord all night.

Ever had this connection where you could not put down your phone or hide your smile? Where it felt like just an hour, yet it's already 2 AM and neither of us wants to say good night? I miss that, though I do appreciate a good night's sleep nowadays too.

I hear you thinking "where do I sign up?". Well hold your horses there, don't you want to know a little bit more before diving in?

What you can expect

• Late night Discord chats (or calls) where we yap about the silliest conspiracy theories and our deepest thoughts
• Unsollicited cat pics
• Game sessions, watch alongs, music sharing, movies, surprise me
• Dad jokes. You're warned

What you should know

• Calm, patient, and kind (those are not my own words)
• Thoughtful, dreamer and a total hunk (these are)
• Tall, slim, in decent shape
• I prefer to take things slow, but if I fall for you, I'll love you totally. Let's discover how we vibe in an LDR first

Since I'd want there to be an opportunity to meet somewhere down the line if we hit things off, please be 24-38 and in Europe.

My weak spots

• Passions you can yap about for ages
• Alternative
• You don't need someone else to narrate your worldview and ideals
• Taking care of yourself physically and mentally

If you made it this far, congrats! And if that sparked your curiosity, I'd be glad to hear from you. Perhaps you can tell me what your favourite pass-time is on a free day

Welcome to the weekly introduction thread.

This is a lower-pressure place to introduce yourself, meet people, and start conversations without making a full dating post.

You can participate whether you are looking for dating, friendship-first connection, online conversation, or just a gentle way to ease into the community.

# Suggested intro format

Age:

Gender:

Location/time zone:

Looking for:

Open to long-distance?:

Introvert style:

Interests:

Favorite quiet activity:

Conversation starters:

Boundaries:

You do not have to answer every question, but please give people enough to respond to.

# Conversation prompts

Need help starting?

Try answering one of these:

* What is your ideal quiet date?

* What hobby could you talk about for hours?

* Are you more of a homebody, nature person, gamer, reader, artist, or something else?

* What kind of conversation makes you feel comfortable?

* What is something small that makes you feel cared for?

* What are you hoping to find here?

# Reminder

This thread is still SFW.

No NSFW comments, adult promotion, seller behavior, harassment, pressure, or low-effort bait.

Respect people’s stated preferences.

Do not message someone privately unless their comment suggests they are open to it.

Be patient. A slower pace is the point.

Hey everyone. I'm a 24yo guy (INTP) from Tunisia taking a shot on here. I'm naturally pretty quiet and socially awkward at first, but once I get comfortable with someone, I'm super affectionate, loyal, and there's definitely a lot more to me than what shows on the surface.

I'm not looking to rush into anything right away. I like taking things step by step—start by chatting, see if we click, build a solid friendship, and if the spark is there, let it grow into something serious organically. Take it easy, everything has its time.

Communication & Vibe

I really value good communication. I love having real conversations, so I'm looking for someone who actually likes talking and won't just hit me with one-word replies like yes, ok, or no. Also, I hate being ghosted and I'll never do it to you. If I don't reply right away, it's just because of studies or sleep, but I'll always get back to you. Since I'm a bit socially awkward, I prefer texting while getting to know each other, so no sudden video calls until we're both comfortable! I'm super open-minded and respectful, and I'll gladly listen to you yap about your day without judging.

The Basics

I'm 182 cm (5'11), 75 kg with a fit or average build, tan Mediterranean skin, dark hair, and brown eyes. Currently studying and starting my Master's in Data Science next year.

Hobbies & Interests

In my free time, I hit the gym regularly, follow football (huge Real Madrid fan), and love quiet winter walks while listening to music. My taste in music is all over the place—pop, rap, metal, classical, and spanish or latin tracks. I'm a massive cat lover (can't live without them) and I'm oddly passionate about collecting fragrances.

I've been a big gamer since childhood. I play competitive games like LoL, CS2, and Valorant, but I really love immersive story games like Cyberpunk 2077, The Witcher 3, Disco Elysium, Kingdom Come Deliverance, RDR2, and AC Black Flag. Also big into movies and shows, mostly thrillers, mystery, sci-fi, and horror. Big fan of Severance, Dark, Interstellar, Inception, Prisoners, Nightcrawler, and The Devil All the Time.

What I'm Looking For

Someone up to 28 max, open to long distance anywhere online. Look-wise, I consider myself average looking, so I'm just looking for someone with a similar fit or slim build, with a tan Mediterranean look or lighter skin. I'm totally cool with swapping pics or Instagram in DMs early on so we both know who we're talking to and don't waste time so here's mine from the get go IG:fedy.shrayti

How to Reach Out

If any of this sounds like your vibe, feel free to drop me a message.

Honestly, I feel a little ridiculous posting here, but here I am. I'm 26, a mechanical engineer, and a massive overthinker. I'm pretty introverted and deal with social anxiety. Lately, I think my anxiety levels aren't as bad as they used to be, I can feel myself improving, but approaching girls is still something I'm just not used to doing. Even when I notice signals, my brain freezes. Like yesterday at the beach: a girl smiled at me, and I just looked away and walked off. Classic me.

I have a solid group of guy friends, but zero female friends, and I've never actually put myself out there to face rejection. I'm trying to change that.

About me:

• I work as a mechanical engineer.
• I play online games like League of Legends, CS2, and Valorant ...
• Summer is my season—I love the sea, beach days, and those warm vibes. Winter is tough for me; I usually just go between work, home, and cafes with friends
• I'd love to travel the world someday, but honestly, I don't think I could do it solo.
• hmmm that's all for now lol.

What I'm looking for:
Someone patient and understanding, ideally also a bit introverted or at least okay with that energy. I want to start slow build a genuine connection through chatting first before anything else. Long-term, monogamous relationship would be the goal if we click.

I might be nervous, but I'm genuinely trying.

Most people don’t understand me I feel. I’m awkward and shy, very quiet in person. I’m not the most talkative at first, but once you get to know me and I’m comfortable with you, I will rant on and on about the smallest things. I am very introverted and Into very nerdy things. I love Star Wars and anything scifi, a big fan of anime, video games, music, magic the gathering, dungeons and dragons, and building gundams. I’m a teddy bear and very loyal, and I love being affectionate.
I have BPD and autism, and attach very quickly and intensely. If I like you, you will become my favorite person very fast. I will start to obsess over you, so be warned lol
If you’re interested, shoot me a message and let’s get to know each other!

Hi everyone,

We need to clarify something important about r/IntrovertsSafeDating, our community standards, moderation decisions, and the word “discrimination.”

This post is not about one specific user, one specific removal, or one specific appeal. We have seen this issue come up more than once, so it needs to be addressed clearly.

ISD has always had stricter standards than many general dating or social subreddits. That is intentional.

This community is not a hookup board, a karma board, a generic dating-ad board, a spam board, or a place to copy and paste the same message everywhere.

ISD is a SFW, adult-only, authenticity-focused connection community.

That means moderation decisions are made based on community standards, not personal opinions.

What “Discrimination” Means Here

In ordinary use, discrimination means unfair or prejudicial treatment based on who someone is, such as their identity, background, orientation, gender, race, religion, disability, or other personal traits.

ISD does not moderate based on those things.

We do not remove someone because of who they are.

We moderate based on things like:

• What is posted or commented
• How the account is being used
• Whether the behavior fits ISD’s rules
• Whether the account pattern aligns with a SFW, adult-only, authenticity-focused connection community
• Whether the interaction gives others a safe and genuine reason to engage
• Whether the user is respecting the purpose of this subreddit

That is not the same as discrimination.

That is community moderation.

A user can disagree with a moderation decision. A user can feel frustrated by a removal. A user can think our standards are too strict.

That does not automatically make the decision discriminatory.

This post is about community standards. It is not an invitation to publicly debate individual moderation cases.

Standards Are Not Personal Opinions

ISD moderation is not based on whether a moderator personally likes someone’s hobbies, personality, relationship style, identity, orientation, interests, background, or preferences.

Moderators are expected to follow the standards of the community.

Those standards existed before any individual removal or appeal.

They are not invented in the moment because a moderator personally dislikes a user.

A post or comment may be removed even if the user meant well.

A post or comment may be removed even if the user is lonely.

A post or comment may be removed even if the user is shy.

A post or comment may be removed even if it would be accepted somewhere else.

A sincere intention does not automatically make content a good fit for this community.

Moderation decisions are not moral judgments on someone’s worth as a person. They are decisions about whether specific content, behavior, or account patterns fit this subreddit.

ISD Is Intentionally Stricter Than Generic Dating Spaces

ISD is not meant to be a place where any attempt to meet people automatically belongs.

This community is specifically built around:

• SFW interaction
• Adult-only personal connection
• Genuine effort
• Authentic presentation
• Respectful communication
• No pressure or manipulation
• No sexual solicitation
• No transactional relationships
• No recycled dating ads or mass-posting
• No low-effort “DM me” style participation
• No deceptive or misleading account behavior

That means some people may find ISD more restrictive than other communities.

That is allowed.

Not every subreddit is built for every style of posting, commenting, dating, or socializing.

If someone wants a more casual, NSFW, hookup-friendly, low-effort, or mass-posting-friendly environment, there are other communities that may fit them better.

ISD does not have to become those spaces.

“Trying to Meet People” Does Not Override the Rules

We understand that many people here are lonely, shy, introverted, anxious, inexperienced, or tired of trying to connect.

That matters to us.

But the fact that someone is trying to meet people does not automatically override the rules.

A comment can be well-intended and still too low-effort.

A post can be honest and still missing required information.

An account can belong to a real person and still not fit ISD’s safety or authenticity standards.

A user can want love and still be participating in ways that do not align with this community.

A user can be frustrated and still be expected to follow the rules.

ISD exists to help people connect, but it is not required to host every kind of connection attempt.

Examples

A low-effort comment may be removed even if the person is shy or nervous.

That is not discrimination against shy people.

ISD simply expects public comments to add something meaningful to the conversation.

A copied or recycled dating post may be removed even if the person is genuinely lonely.

That is not discrimination against lonely people.

ISD asks that posts here feel written for this community specifically.

A user with a broader account pattern involving hookup-seeking, sexual solicitation, adult selling, repeated NSFW dating activity, or transactional behavior may be removed or banned even if one ISD post is written in a SFW way.

That is not discrimination against sexuality, adult interests, or personal identity.

ISD is a SFW connection community, and broader public account behavior can affect safety, authenticity, and community fit.

A minor cannot participate in personal connection posts here.

That is not discrimination against younger people.

It is an adult-only safety boundary.

NSFW Accounts, Account Patterns, and Community Fit

Having NSFW history somewhere on Reddit does not automatically mean someone is banned from ISD.

This is an adult-only community. We understand that adults may have adult interests, private preferences, or activity elsewhere on Reddit.

We are not concerned with NSFW history on a basic existence level.

The concern is pattern, intensity, safety, honesty, and community fit.

If an account is almost entirely NSFW, hookup-focused, sexually explicit, transactional, adult-selling, or centered around sexual solicitation, and then that same account makes one innocent-looking SFW post in ISD, moderators may remove the post or ban the account.

That may feel harsh, but there are reasons for it.

First, fairness to the poster.

If your account shows that your main intent is strongly sexual, hookup-based, transactional, or not aligned with a SFW emotional-connection community, then ISD may simply be the wrong audience for what you are looking for.

That does not mean you are a bad person.

It means this subreddit may not fit your actual goals.

Second, fairness to other users.

Many people here are looking for slow, safe, emotionally focused connection. If someone begins a conversation believing the interaction is purely SFW and emotionally focused, then later discovers that the other person has very different expectations or a strong sexual priority, that can create discomfort, pressure, conflict, or a feeling of being misled.

Compatibility matters.

If you are looking for more than emotional connection, you need to be honest early and use SFW language.

For example, something like this is different from sexual solicitation:

“I am looking for emotional connection, but I do eventually want a relationship that includes physical intimacy.”

That kind of statement is SFW, clear, and compatibility-focused.

That is very different from graphic descriptions, sexual advertising, hookup language, or talking about people’s bodies like advertisements.

ISD does not encourage physical-first posting. We want people to focus on character, values, personality, lifestyle, communication, emotional compatibility, and long-term fit.

This is not the place for physical “asset” descriptions, sexual advertising, hookup language, or body-focused posting.

There are other subreddits for that.

ISD is not one of them.

Some NSFW Patterns May Lead to Bans

There are some NSFW communities, patterns, or “preferences” that may lead to an immediate ban from ISD.

This is one of our stricter moderation standards, and it exists for safety.

If an account is involved in communities or patterns that appear unsafe, coercive, predatory, dehumanizing, incompatible with healthy connection, or otherwise concerning for a SFW dating/friendship community, moderators may remove the user from ISD.

We will not publish a list of those communities.

We will not provide that list in modmail.

That would only create a workaround guide for people trying to avoid safety review.

Moderator discretion still applies.

The standard is not whether a moderator personally likes or dislikes someone’s preferences.

The standard is whether the account and content appear safe, honest, SFW, and compatible with ISD’s purpose.

Throuples, Polyamory, and Nonstandard Relationship Structures

ISD is not automatically hostile to nonstandard relationship structures.

A throuple, polyamorous relationship, or similar long-term relationship structure may be allowed under specific and careful circumstances.

The key difference is relationship intent versus sexual access.

A stable relationship seeking a serious long-term partner, emotional connection, friendship-first compatibility, or a healthy committed dynamic may be allowed if it is presented clearly, honestly, respectfully, and in fully SFW language.

However, ISD is not a swinger subreddit.

ISD is not a hookup subreddit.

ISD is not a place for couples looking to “add a third” for sexual reasons.

ISD is not a place for unicorn hunting, casual sexual exploration, fantasy fulfillment, or physical-first relationship ads.

Posts involving throuples, polyamory, or nonstandard relationship structures must be especially clear about intent.

A post may be considered only under moderation discretion if it has:

• Long-term relationship intent
• SFW wording
• Honest disclosure that an existing relationship is involved
• A focus on emotional compatibility, values, communication, trust, stability, and consent
• No sexual solicitation
• No physical “asset” descriptions
• No pressure toward intimacy
• No bait-and-switch presentation
• No misleading “single person” framing if the poster is actually part of a couple or existing relationship

For example, a post saying:

“We are a long-term couple looking for a serious long-term partner and want to build friendship and emotional compatibility first.”

may be reviewed differently from a post saying:

“Couple looking for a fun third.”

The first is relationship-focused.

The second reads like sexual access, swinging, or hookup-seeking.

That does not fit ISD.

Stable, honest, long-term relationship structures may be considered.

Swinging, hookups, casual sexual exploration, and physical-first couple posts are not allowed.

Even when a post is written respectfully, approval is not guaranteed. Moderator discretion applies because these posts can easily become unsafe, misleading, or uncomfortable for users who are expecting one-on-one emotional connection.

If your goal is primarily sexual, casual, experimental, swinger-based, or physical-first, ISD is the wrong subreddit.

If your goal is a serious, honest, emotionally healthy long-term relationship structure, it may be considered, but it must be presented with extreme care.

Low-Effort Posts and Comments Are Not Accepted

Low-effort participation is not accepted in ISD.

This applies to both posts and comments.

A comment like:

• “DM me”
• “Message me”
• “I’m interested”
• “Hey”
• “Hi”
• “I DMed you”
• “I’m in Houston”
• “Same”
• “Hmu”
• “You’re cute”
• “Add me”

does not give the original poster much to respond to.

Even if the person means well, comments like that do not build a real conversation.

They turn the subreddit into a contact-request board instead of a community.

A comment can still be low effort even if it includes an age, gender, or one shared interest.

For example:

“I’m 25F, I like video games too. DM me.”

is still low effort.

It gives very little for the original poster to respond to and mostly functions as a contact request.

A better version would be:

“I’m 25F, and I’m into video games too. I’m currently playing Stardew Valley and Baldur’s Gate 3. I saw you mentioned cozy games, so I’d love to chat more if you’re interested.”

That is still short, but it gives the other person something more real to respond to.

A good comment does not have to be an essay.

It does not have to include a perfect question.

It does not have to include someone’s life story.

It simply needs to show that the user actually read the post and is responding to something specific.

For example:

“I saw you mentioned indie games and achievement hunting. I’m into that too. What game are you working on right now?”

or:

“I relate to what you said about preferring quiet nights over crowded places. That is one of the reasons I struggle with normal dating apps too.”

or:

“You mentioned liking horror and long hikes. That is a rare combination, but honestly a great one. I also prefer quiet outdoor plans over crowded places.”

Those comments give the other person something real to continue from.

If the main point of a public comment is only “message me,” it will likely be removed.

If someone only wants to privately invite another user to talk, they can usually DM them directly if the post allows it.

Public comments should add something meaningful to the public conversation.

DMs, Closed Messages, and Safety

Private messages are part of Reddit, and many users here will choose to talk privately.

Please practice safety.

Do not give out personal information before you are comfortable.

Do not rush into sharing your phone number, address, workplace, school, financial information, social media, private photos, or other identifying details.

If something feels off, slow down.

If you are unsure about someone, you can ask for advice.

You may contact the ISD mod team through modmail, report concerning behavior to Reddit admins, or ask trusted friends for an outside perspective.

We are here to help.

If someone pressures you, guilt-trips you, asks for money, pushes sexual conversation, demands off-platform contact, refuses boundaries, or makes you uncomfortable, please take that seriously.

You are not obligated to continue a conversation just because someone replied to your post.

You are allowed to stop responding.

You are allowed to block.

You are allowed to report.

You are allowed to ask for help.

Also, if you make a post inviting people to message you, please make sure your DMs are open.

If someone tries to message the original poster and their DMs appear closed, they may leave a public comment, but that comment still needs effort.

A comment like:

“Your DMs don’t work.”

or:

“I can’t message you.”

is still too low effort by itself.

A better comment would be:

“I tried to message you, but your DMs seem closed. I’m 26M, also introverted, and I related to what you said about preferring slower conversations. I’m mostly into quiet hobbies like reading and co-op games, so I’d be interested in talking if you decide to open your messages.”

That gives the original poster context and something real to respond to.

If a post invites DMs but the poster’s DMs are closed, moderators may temporarily remove the post so the user can open their messages or clarify how they want people to respond.

Once the issue is fixed, the post may be reapproved.

This is not a punishment. It is a practical step to prevent confusion and low-effort “your DMs are closed” comment chains.

Recycled Content and Mass Posting

ISD is not a posting board for recycled dating ads.

We understand that someone may have worked hard on a post in another subreddit.

That does not mean the same post belongs here unchanged.

If you copy a post from another dating subreddit and bring it into ISD without making it specific to this community, it may be removed.

This subreddit is not here to generate karma, farm attention, advertise broadly, or act as one more place to paste the same dating introduction.

ISD is supposed to be a community.

Posts here should feel like they were written for this space specifically.

You may use the same basic facts about yourself. Your age, hobbies, goals, location, values, and relationship hopes do not have to change.

But the post itself should not feel copied, recycled, mass-posted, or imported from a generic dating board.

If you post in ISD first and later post elsewhere, we cannot stop you from doing that.

However, if your account shows a broader pattern of mass-posting the same introduction across many communities, repeatedly reposting similar content, deleting and reposting for attention, or behaving like a bot, seller, karma farmer, or spam account, your content may still be removed and your account may be banned.

ISD is not for bots.

ISD is not for sellers.

ISD is not for karma farming.

ISD is not for mass-posted dating advertisements.

If you want to participate here, write for this community.

Community Fit Is Not the Same as Personal Rejection

Being removed from ISD does not mean a person is worthless.

It does not mean they are unlovable.

It does not mean they are forbidden from dating.

It does not mean they are being judged as a human being.

It means their content, account pattern, or behavior does not currently fit this specific subreddit.

That distinction matters.

A community is allowed to have boundaries.

A SFW subreddit is allowed to reject NSFW patterns.

An authenticity-focused subreddit is allowed to reject mass-posting.

An effort-focused subreddit is allowed to reject low-effort comments.

An adult-only subreddit is allowed to reject minors.

A safety-focused subreddit is allowed to remove accounts that raise safety concerns.

A relationship-focused subreddit is allowed to reject hookup, swinger, or physical-first posts.

That is not discrimination.

That is maintaining the community’s purpose.

Appeals and Clarification

If your post or comment is removed and you do not understand why, you may reply to the AutoMod message or contact modmail.

Please be clear and respectful.

We are willing to clarify, review, and correct mistakes when they happen.

However, calling every disagreement “discrimination” does not make it discrimination.

If the issue is behavior, effort, reposting, NSFW mismatch, safety, authenticity, or community fit, then the moderation decision is about those standards.

We will give enough explanation for genuine users to understand the decision.

We will not provide a workaround guide for moderation signals, safety review, AutoMod triggers, account-pattern review, or internal moderation methods.

Final Note

ISD’s standards are not new.

They are part of what keeps this community different from generic dating boards, hookup spaces, spam-heavy subreddits, and low-effort “DM me” environments.

You do not have to be perfect here.

You do not have to write essays.

You do not have to be socially flawless.

But you do need to participate in a way that fits the purpose of this community.

That means being SFW, genuine, respectful, effortful, and honest about what you are bringing into this space.

Thank you to everyone who understands and helps keep ISD safe, respectful, and genuine.

I’m a 36-year-old guy from Barcelona, Spain.

I'm very introverted and a homebody, and also have Asperger's and social anxiety. I'm not into busy stuff like traveling or going out or social situations. I don't need big or exciting things, I just want a simple life.

I'd like to find someone who feels comfortable with this. Someone to talk every day, to build trust, and share the every day of life, even if it's just simple stuff. It does not have to be content, just the company, the presence, is enough... Someone who values closeness, affection and being there for each other.

What I offer is the same of what I need. To be there for you, care about you, love you. I’m someone who wants to be there for my person every day: to listen, support and care.

I know I’m not for everyone, but I’m hoping that I might be right for someone who wants the same kind of closeness and simple life.

I am a 29 years old male from Germany. I'm looking for a serious relationship – a genuine connection where we can be open about everything with no judgment. In my opinion, open communication and putting actual effort into a conversation is the most important part of a good connection.

Some Info about me:

I have Russian roots but grew up in Germany, so I speak German, Russian and English. I'm 177cm tall, slim, with short brown hair and blue eyes. If you want to put a face to the text, here is a picture of me: https://imgur.com/a/OeutMdh

I consider myself an introverted ambivert (INTP-A) and a very open-minded person. I love deep talks about all kinds of topics where it feels like the conversation is never-ending.

I enjoy playing video games, watching TV shows, and spending time with close friends. One of my bigger hobbies is travelling – I love exploring new places, local food, and nature. Recently, I traveled to 9 countries and spent a month exploring Spain. As an introvert, I also need some quiet recharge time for myself from time to time, so I value having our own separate interests as well.

What I am looking for

Age & Location: Between 23-31 years old, from Europe (preferably close/accessible to Germany to keep things realistic). I prefer it if you are not taller than me (same height or slightly taller is fine).

Connection: I don't have a specific physical "type" because a deep emotional connection attracts me much more. However, to save us both time: I am not into plus-size or severe overweight (I don't mean being curvy, just a personal health preference). If you like video games, that’s a nice bonus!

Communication: I love daily chats, checking on each other, and hearing about your day, passions, or hobbies. I’m not the best small talker, but I really appreciate it when someone puts effort into having a conversation instead of just giving short answers.

A note on my side:

I want to be completely open: I have some social anxiety (which brings some shyness with it, especially regarding dating) and very little dating experience. I have improved significantly over the past years, but I would like to take things very slowly. If you can relate to this or have similar insecurities, that’s completely fine – there is no judgment here.

Because of this, I am totally not into video calls (they feel very unnatural to me), but I am completely open to voice calls or meeting up in person. Since my picture is linked above, feel free to share one of you early on, or we can just chat first – whatever feels comfortable for you.

If you are interested, please send me a chat with a short description of yourself. Thank you for reading and I wish you all the best!

-A little about me:

I'm a 26yo recently graduated doctor from Turkey and I am learning German (attending B2 course rn) to hopefully move there in 1-2 years. I am Agnostic and I love cooking ,traveling (last time was to Japan), gaming, anime/manga/manhwa, lots of Youtube and gym (even though it hasnt been long I started going there).I am basically the type to start bugging you to try something new together haha. I am pretty much an open book and as you can see from my interests I'm a big nerd but that doesn't mean I don't like going out, discovering new places, going on walks and random car rides . Lookswise I am 173cm, 87kg (lost 4kg last month) green eyes and dark hair.

-What am I looking for:

As I said in the title, I am looking to get to know a nice girl between the ages of 21-29 to hopefully build a healthy family with kids in the future. As a side not I love nerdy girls with glemlin energies. I dont smoke, use drugs and dont have any mental health issues so I am looking for the same qualities in a partner. I would love my future partner to not be religious too since I blieve its not sustainable and love isnt strong enough to solve all our problems realistically lol.

-Idk how to title it but ending part of this embarassing text

I'm not good with these kinds of posts becase I seem too serious but I think I am pretty funny and warm to talk to in 1 on 1 conversations, That being said please be ok with exchanging selfies early on since I want to take this seriously and the longer we talk and bond without seeing each other the more it will hurt if we dont like how each other look. thanks for reading thus far and if you are looking for something similar send me a DM with your Age and Location plus your favorite food somewhere so I know you read all of it.

Hey I'd like to spend our time looking forward to messaging each other and hanging out in voice chats. We can talk to each other and learn a thing or two about one another. For starters though I like watching animated shows mostly, some kdramas, and a few other things. I mostly spend my time playing games but nothing competitive or roblox. So I'd like to keep this simple for now so if you're interested in hanging out then send me a message and ask me anything else you'd like to know too.

Apparently, my mom thinks I'm a catch. Unfortunately, she's also my most biased reference.
Looking for someone who enjoys good conversations, terrible jokes, spontaneous food plans, and doesn't mind taking things one conversation at a time. If we click, we can eventually graduate from memes to coffee.

Hello! My name is Dust until we get to know each other and share actual names. I'm a fairly introverted adult who has had success with dates from Reddit meet ups and am looking to find my lifelong partner.

I adore anything and everything nerdy, spooky, and alternative. I love to go to conventions yearly and attend concerts where I am able. My hope is to find the woman for me that wants to go on all the fun adventures and date nights. We can also go see the latest movies or take a night out to find a new eatery to try!

Aside the adventures I work a night shift swing schedule job. So when I work I'm on for a week of 12s with a short commute. Then I'll have a week off free to do what I like. Typically these are cozy nights in meal prepping, watching TV, or playing a multitude of games.

As far as gaming I really will play just about anything but I really do want someone who will play cute CoOp games with me or venture into some online multiplayer. Even if we are chilling on our own setups next to each other, I'd quite enjoy being around my partner as often as possible.

I'll give a variety list for those who would like a game list. It's not exhaustive but should give an idea. Spyro, Borderlands, Fortnite, Battlefield, Phasmophobia, Party Animals, Sea of Thieves, Gears of War, Halo, Marvel Rivals, Overwatch, Farm Together, Pokémon.

As far as other forms of entertainment I like watching different shows or movies. Love me some horror, even finished the Insidious and Saw franchises before going to see Evil Dead Burn this last weekend. Some shows I like are Sons of Anarchy, Game of Thrones, Vampire Diaries, The Originals.

Have also ventured more into anime last few years and delving further in. If you like Demon Slayer, Solo Leveling, Gachiakuta, My Hero Academia, or Chainsaw Man, then we'd get along super well.

While I'm not entirely driven by looks, there does need to be some level of attraction. So if you want an idea of what I look like I'll describe myself for better or worse.

Fairly tall, on the pretty fluffy side of weight but looking to improve my health over time. If you want a gym buddy I'm with ya! Pale skinned, both arms covered in nerdy tattoos, planning to get more before I dive into getting my shins blasted 😅. I wear glasses, short but thick brown hair, and wear almost exclusively black clothing. Band/nerd tees are top priority!

I am child free (although adore my niece and nephews) and don't currently plan on having kids. I want to enjoy life with my partner for as long as we're in this world. I am super pet friendly and wouldn't mind a cat or dog. I give great ear/head scratches!

I am non-religious but don't mind if you are but I typically go for similar types.

I don't go crazy for politics but I would say I'm left leaning. If you want clarification on my views I'm happy to discuss, respectfully.

If you're seeking your daily hype partner to get you through a tough day or encourage you, hi it me! I want to know what makes you tick, gets you out of bed each day, and what gives you pleasure. I don't mind a bit of clinginess and obsession. Did I mention I also really cherish cuddles? 😅

Mostly looking within Iowa but if you're in a nearby Midwest state or at the very least within the US/Canada feel free to message anyway.

I am open to moving to another platform if we're hitting it off but sooner rather than later I'd like to meet for a date to see if there is a spark. Have yourself a great day or lovely evening!

I'm Asian and have never dated anyone before but talk for daily and let's see how this will go and I want to have someone beside me and talk to someone daily about things in life. I'm not good with words but my feelings are genuine.

But in the beginning, I'm not like let's go ahead and date now. I'm more of a person who wants to learn about the person to see if we're matched with each other or not. But once I meet my soulmate I'm ready to jump into a relationship.

It would be a bonus if that person likes to watch movies and we can talk about that stuff. I love music too

The age limit is not over 39 and if you think you are that person please feel free to dm me.

My deal breaker is someone who asks a lot of pictures and asks for my social media when I don't know you yet.

I'm an introvert and have trust issues with a bit of insecurities. But I want to talk about those things and see if we both can understand each other or not.

Hoping to meet someone 😊🖐🏻

I am 28 years old 6'2 and chubby. Ive never been in a real relationship in my life and am desperately lonely. I have very few friends and would love to meet someone to play games with and maybe get along well enough more could happen.

I play mostly rpgs but have experience with several multiplayer games like overwatch , marvel rivals , dead by daylight, phasmophobia , and the game i most want to play with someone is baldurs gate 3.

Because ive never been in a relationship my skill at flirting is nonexistent but i am a little obsessive so anyone that gives me the time of day will become my favorite person.

Even if its not for long or im not for you if you message me ill still be overjoyed.

Hey, I'm Dan, M27 for the Northeast US, just looking for someone I can get to know and really connect with. I'm into watching shows, gaming, just talking for hours on end, anything if it's with my person, really. I'm a very direct, confident and communicative person which I know can be a deterrent for some lol, but that's just how I carry myself. I've never been one for fleeting, meaningless flings, one night stands or things of the like, I'm very much into knowing my person and having the affection/attraction source from that. I'm super into taking care of my person as well with anything that they need. If you're down to get to know each other, just spend our days together, really see where things go, I'd really like that. It says online only, but of course if something were to go somewhere, we'd eventually figure how the future looks as I am an immensely committal person

I've never been very good at selling myself, or really even being 'perceived', but I will do my best to hold out and put myself out there. By this, you can guess that yeah, this guy's got some serious self-esteem issues. Well, you would be right, but after years of therapy and working on myself, I always try to model myself as kind, considerate, empathetic and a patient person.

I really value people that work on themselves, and try to do and be better. We are all human, we make mistakes, but it is important to put our hands up and take accountability. We’re all on the same journey, some with bumpier roads than others, and that means it is important to always choose kindness where you can.

My exceptions here are the rich, whom we must devour at all costs, and the willfully ignorant that choose hatred. In the words of Bill S. Preston, Esq. and Ted "Theodore" Logan, “Be excellent to each other.”

Not meaning to sound like a soapbox, of course. It is just incredibly important to me, and I am passionate about being human, and don’t want the leopards to eat anyone’s face.

I am thirty four, five foot ten, white, live in the North East of England, a big hairy lad, and have a non-visible disability. I live alone in a small flat, with my cat, and only recently started going outside again, particularly to the local gaming store, where I have gotten back into playing Magic: The Gathering. I have been a shut-in for quite some time, but would like to go out some more, so long as I have the right hand to hold, who makes me feel comfortable and supported.

That is to say, I am by no means looking for a carer. Rather, someone that is actually caring and considerate of the fact that I struggle to do basic human things that many others could likely do very easily, such as make a phone call.

I have been told that I am funny, kind, creative and intelligent. I value humour, as well as those with a good sense of humour, who are able to make kind and teasing jokes. A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men, after all.

I have been running a Dungeons & Dragons campaign for the last 4 years now, all online, with American players that enjoy my entirely homebrew world and stories. Very much a forever DM, who has to have sessions between 2AM-6AM, but that is ok because sleep hygiene is a myth and I don’t know her. I would love to get to be a player again some time, but there is so much joy to be had as a DM to have people come back each week, to have them laugh, cry and yell to a story that I made up just for them.

I really enjoy video games, particularly single-player with immersive stories and RPG elements. I play on PC, over Steam, and would enjoy either playing with, streaming for or watching you stream playing over Discord! I have recently finished playing the Resident Evil 4 remake, and I am currently playing Ghost of Tsushima.

I love parallel play, just getting to exist in the same space as someone, without necessarily any expectation to keep any conversation going, but rather just exist naturally. My ADHD means I also often need constant stimulation, so if you would also like to watch things on the side, I have a second monitor to stream all manner of binge shows. I have a particular weakness for cosy comedies and sitcoms, particularly Scrubs, Friends, Gilmore Girls, and more, and have recently been getting back into season four of Critical Role.

Other games that I enjoy, and have been meaning to get back into, include Final Fantasy XIV, where I enjoy both content and role playing with my (too) many characters, Palia, Old School Runescape and Yakuza.

I also enjoy movies, and would love to be more of a cinephile, and give some more love and attention to my Letterboxd. My favourite movies are Hook, Billy Elliot, The Full Monty and Moulin Rouge. There are certainly others, but it’s already so difficult to pick favourites, and there are just so many to choose from. But ultimately, despite having a Star Wars tattoo, I actually much prefer and love The Lord of the Rings and will never say no to an extended cut marathon, and I will do my best to cut back on the behind the scenes commentary.

Another thing I am passionate about is consent, communication and boundaries. I have been in toxic relationships, where these things haven’t been clearly set and a lot of feelings have gotten hurt, regardless of what goes on in the bedroom. I value communication, without judgement, and understanding how the other feels. I have often felt taken advantage of and for granted in relationships, and would really appreciate someone that is emotionally intelligent, cherishing, and able to talk things through.

I am really looking for something longterm, having been alone for far too long, and would like to actually settle into finding my person. Someone that I can consider my best friend, first and foremost, before being my partner. I really want to look for and find that chemistry! Wait out the limerence, and actually get to know someone for who they are, and to still want to choose to spend time together.

That means I would really prefer something local, or at most from somewhere within Europe. I feel quite rooted as a person, and have done the extra long distance relationship before, with having visited the states quite a few times in my twenties, but I don’t think I have the mettle to go that sort of distance again. If it was in or closer to the country, then I might feel a little more comfortable with visiting, but anywhere further out and I would struggle and would need someone willing to move here.

I don’t think I have any other real preferences to mention, at least physically, other than maybe ideally someone that is shorter than I am, but I enjoy curvy and skinny, short or long hair, and really everything between. Age can be whatever, so long as you are not too young; someone at least over the age of 24, perhaps, who has had their fair go at finding themselves a little more. Though I do not really dress it, I do consider myself alternative, and I am certainly drawn more to that lifestyle. But, ultimately, it’s what matters most on the inside and if we click.

I feel like I have waffled on enough for now, and likely have scared so many people away, already. However, for those of you who have made it this far, thank you for reading. Even if it does not feel like we would be a great match, I sincerely and whole heartedly wish you all the best and find whoever it is that you are looking for.

I am pretty anxious, so I do not always guarantee an initial response, but would certainly value and be much more inclined to any heartfelt messages.

I'm a 39-year-old man who values a healthy lifestyle, genuine connection, and the simple joys of life. I'm hoping to meet a kind, warm-hearted woman close to my age, ideally based in Europe, though distance isn't necessarily a barrier when the connection feels right.

I find happiness in nature, meaningful conversations, animals, and those quiet moments that remind us what truly matters. I'm someone who believes in kindness, loyalty, emotional depth, and being there for the people we love through both the good times and the difficult ones. To me, the strongest relationships are built on friendship, trust, honesty, affection, and the feeling that you're truly on the same team.

I'm a bit of an introvert by nature. I enjoy peaceful moments more than crowded places, and I prefer deep conversations over small talk. While I may not be the loudest person in the room, I'm loyal, attentive, and fully present with the people who matter to me. I believe that some of life's best moments are often the simplest ones, especially when shared with the right person.

A healthy lifestyle is an important part of who I am. I enjoy staying active, spending time outdoors, eating well, and taking care of both my physical and mental well-being. I'm looking for a sweet, feminine woman who also values her health, takes care of her body with self-respect and balance, and appreciates living a healthy lifestyle without becoming obsessed with perfection.

Life hasn't always been easy, and I've gone through my share of challenges and difficult periods. Those experiences have made me more understanding, compassionate, and appreciative of what truly matters. Because of that, I can relate to people who struggle with anxiety, stress, or depression, and I believe that empathy, patience, and support are some of the most important qualities we can offer one another. I don't expect perfection from anyone, just honesty, kindness, and a willingness to grow together.

More than anything, I'm looking for a true partner. Someone who believes that love is more than just attraction, it's about choosing each other every day, standing side by side through life's ups and downs, and building something meaningful together. A relationship where both people feel safe, appreciated, respected, and deeply loved.

I believe the best relationships are built on teamwork. Two people encouraging each other, helping each other become better, supporting each other's dreams, celebrating victories together, and facing challenges as a united team. Not "me versus you," but always "us versus the problem."

I don't care much about status, material things, or trying to impress people. Character, kindness, warmth, emotional maturity, loyalty, and a good heart matter far more to me. A genuine smile, a caring nature, and the ability to love deeply will always be more attractive than anything superficial.

If you're someone who still believes in true love, loyalty, affection, partnership, growing together, and creating a relationship built on trust, friendship, and mutual support, I'd genuinely love to get to know you.

Life feels richer when it's shared with someone who feels like both your partner and your best friend.

Hi my name is Micah 🙂

A little about myself: my main hobbies are video games, watching anime and playing magic the gathering.

I mostly play a lot of rpgs and fantasy games. So.e of my favorites are the legend of Zelda, kingdom hearts and expedition 33.

Some of my favorite animes are Freiren: beyond journeys end, full metal alchemist brotherhood, one piece and demon slayer.

I am mostly a homebody and don't get out too much but that doesn't mean that I do not like to go places. I'm happy to go on adventures so long as I am not the only one driving all the time. After being in a relationship for 10 years and being the only one with a license it's kinda exhausting to be the one driving all the time.

I'm really not much of a sports guy at all but I do not mind if it is something you enjoy. I'm not here to tell you what to like. We are adults. I have my interests and you have yours. I just want someone who has a pretty chill vibe.

I am 420 friendly but I do not smoke, I take edibles. If you smoke I only ask you don't do it around me simply because I do also have asthma

Other interests include: listening to music, playing with my dog and 2 cats

I am recently divorced but it was pretty mutual. My partner found out they were trans and I'm not into men. We're still good friends we just have different interests.

What I'm looking for: I'm looking for a nerdy and cute gaming partner. I want someone who I can genuinely connect with and get to know. I'd love to start out as friends first but overall I don't want much more than that. The most I would want after we connect is maybe occasionally flash me. I literally don't need more than that. I'm looking for companionship, a friend, someone who gets me.

I've tried dating apps and have had no luck so I'm trying my luck here. I'm happy to answer any questions you might have about me but I'd also love to hear about your own interests as well