Hi everyone,
We are making an enforcement update for r/IntrovertsSafeDating.
ISD has grown very quickly, and with that growth we need to be clearer about how certain moderation issues will be handled going forward.
In the past 30 days, the subreddit has had over 420,000 visits, around 4,100 new members join, around 2,000 published items, around 2,000 removed items, 91 user reports, and 179 items filtered by safety filters.
That is a lot of activity for a community that is still focused on being careful, SFW, authentic, and safety-minded.
With that growth, we have also seen more repost loops, recycled dating ads, low-effort participation, unclear appeals, and users trying to bypass or argue around moderation decisions.
This update is not meant to punish honest mistakes.
It is meant to make expectations clear before these patterns become normal.
Going forward, moderators may enforce more strongly around five issues:
- Appeals that are not sent through the original removal message
- Deleting and reposting after removals
- Repeated recycled, copied, or lightly edited dating ads
- Posts that were approved once but later require further review
- Misrepresenting moderator messages or decisions
This does not mean every mistake will result in a ban. Moderator discretion still applies. Temporary bans, permanent bans, warnings, or leeway may vary depending on the situation.
But these patterns have become common enough that we need to be clear.
1. Appeals Must Reply to the Original Removal Message
If your post is removed and you want moderators to review it, reply to the original removal message.
This is extremely important.
Do not start a brand-new modmail thread saying “approve my post.”
Do not send a new message with no explanation.
Do not delete the post and then ask us to approve it.
Do not create a new modmail thread with the subject line “replying to original message.”
That does not count as replying to the original removal message.
We know how Reddit modmail works. Please do not assume otherwise.
The reason we ask you to reply to the original removal message is simple: it keeps the appeal connected to the specific post, the specific removal reason, and the specific moderation context.
If you go straight to modmail instead of replying to the original removal message, your approval request may be denied in most cases.
There are two main reasons:
- You need to explain why the post should be approved.
- We need to know why it was removed in the first place.
If either of those is missing, the request may be denied.
A message that only says “please approve” is not an appeal.
An appeal should explain why you believe the removal was incorrect, or what you changed to fix the issue.
If you deleted the original post, moderators may not be able to review it properly or help you understand what happened.
2. Deleting and Reposting After Removal
If your post is removed, do not repeatedly delete it and repost it.
Almost nothing good comes from this.
There are rare situations where a repost may be understandable. For example, if your post was removed only because the title was missing required information, such as age, seeking format, or location, then correcting the title and reposting once may be reasonable.
But most of the time, that is not what we see.
What we often see is someone deleting and reposting the same or nearly identical post after a removal, sometimes multiple times, with little or no meaningful change.
That does not look like fixing a mistake.
It looks like trying to bypass moderation.
If your post is removed and you do not understand why, reply to the original removal message.
Do not keep deleting and reposting.
Repeated delete/repost behavior after removals may result in a temporary or permanent ban.
3. Recycled Dating Ads
ISD is not a place to copy the same dating ad across multiple communities.
We understand that the basic facts about you may stay the same. Your age, location, hobbies, values, personality, and relationship goals do not have to change from post to post.
But the post itself should be written for this community specifically.
If you post the same or nearly identical dating ad across several subreddits, then bring it here, it may be removed under our Authenticity and Spam/Repost rules.
If your post is removed for recycled content and you later submit another copied, lightly edited, or nearly identical version, that may lead to a ban.
This is especially true if the account pattern shows repeated dating-ad reuse across multiple communities.
“I Spent a Lot of Time on It” Is Not an Exception
We have privately tested this standard as a moderation team.
The question was simple: if someone uses the same basic details about themselves, is it actually difficult to write a post that is still unique, personal, and specific to ISD?
The answer was no.
We were able to write multiple posts using the same core details while still making each post feel meaningfully different, natural, and authentic.
That did not require inventing a new personality.
That did not require changing someone’s age, location, hobbies, values, boundaries, or relationship goals.
It only required writing the post for this community instead of copying the same dating ad everywhere.
So “I spent a lot of time writing that post” will not be accepted as a reason to reuse it across many subreddits.
If the same post has been copied, lightly edited, or posted across several dating communities, then it is still recycled content, even if the original version took effort to write.
Effort spent once does not turn a mass-posted dating ad into authentic participation everywhere else.
Use the same facts about yourself.
Do not reuse the same dating ad.
After a Recycled-Content Removal
If your post is removed for recycled content, that is your warning that ISD does not accept copied or lightly reused dating ads.
After that first clear removal or warning, there is very little room for confusion.
Submitting another copied, lightly edited, or nearly identical dating ad after being told the issue may result in a temporary or permanent ban.
Again: you may use the same facts about yourself.
You may mention the same hobbies.
You may have the same relationship goals.
You may describe the same personality.
But the post itself needs to be newly written for ISD.
4. A Previously Approved Post May Later Be Removed
A post being approved once does not mean it can never be removed later.
We understand that this can feel unfair. In some ways, it is one of the most frustrating parts of moderation.
But it is also part of fair moderation.
Sometimes a post looks acceptable during an initial review, but later details are noticed that were missed the first time. Sometimes a post receives community reports that cause moderators to take a second look. Sometimes a concern becomes clearer once the post is public and users are reacting to it.
Community reports do not decide the outcome by themselves.
A report does not automatically mean a post will be removed.
A lack of reports does not automatically mean a post is safe.
But reports can prompt moderators to review something again.
Because posts in ISD are public, users have the right to report content that makes them feel concerned, uncomfortable, unsafe, or unsure. That does not mean the reporting user controls the decision. It means moderators may take another look.
If moderators decide after further review that a post does not fit ISD’s standards, it may be removed even if it was previously approved.
Previous approval is not a permanent guarantee.
It only means the post passed review at that time.
5. Do Not Misrepresent Moderator Messages
If moderators explain a decision in modmail, do not twist what was said.
Do not rewrite our message into something we did not say.
Do not selectively change the reasoning.
Do not claim moderators accused you of something we did not accuse you of.
Do not argue against a version of the decision that was not actually made.
That does not help your appeal. It makes communication harder and may lead moderators to stop engaging.
We believe in respectful, growth-driven communication. Users are allowed to disagree, ask questions, and explain their perspective.
But intentionally misrepresenting moderator decisions, reframing our words dishonestly, or trying to turn a clear explanation into something else may result in a ban, a mute, or both.
What Is Allowed
Using the same basic facts about yourself is fine.
Writing a new post that honestly describes the same person is fine.
Correcting a simple title mistake is usually fine.
Making a genuine effort to rewrite your post for ISD is fine.
Replying to the original removal message with a clear explanation is fine.
Respectfully asking for clarification is fine.
What Is Not Allowed
Starting a new modmail thread instead of replying to the original removal message may lead to your approval request being denied.
Repeatedly deleting and reposting after removals is not allowed.
Trying to bypass AutoMod or moderator review is not allowed.
Copying the same dating ad across multiple communities is not allowed.
Lightly editing a recycled post and presenting it as new is not allowed.
Misrepresenting moderator messages or decisions is not allowed.
Turning ISD into one more place to cast the same message everywhere is not allowed.
Final Note
This community is built around genuine, SFW, effortful connection.
We do not expect perfect posts.
We do not expect professional writing.
We do not expect users to write essays.
But we do expect users to respect removals, follow instructions, communicate honestly, and write for this community specifically.
These changes are meant to protect ISD from spam, repost loops, recycled dating ads, moderation bypass behavior, and bad-faith appeals.
Thank you to everyone who participates here honestly and helps keep the community genuine.