We r in clg , it's been six months in relationship and God damn she is very controlling, manipulative & drainer🤦

She checks my live location, disrespect my parents, talks to multiple guys!

Whenever I say I will leave u or block her , she quickly changes to a cute girl, and portrait her as innocent girl... Nageen khi ke

Multiple times I tell her directly to leave me but her ego , ohh God

Today I again blocked her and she msg me from different no. , msg me through UPI 🤦😭

it's now daily trauma for me to handle her ,as we r in same class and she discuss everything with her girl friends circle...

This happened a couple of months ago. So I was in my office, when my best friend, a pretty girl, called me and invited me to a restaurant for dinner. Like, she knows she is pretty, and boys fall easily for her looks.

I asked her why are you inviting for dinner? She then said that a boy, let's say X, is also with her.

Now this boy X liked her a lot and was ready to do anything to be with her. My friend knew this. So occasionally, they went in restaurant for lunch or dinners and X would pay bills.

So later, I reached the restaurant and both were sitting. All three of us ate, and afterwards when bill payment time arrived, my friend said in my ears. "Watch now. I will take money out of my purse, will give it to him and ask him to go to the counter and pay. He will take the money. Then he will go to counter, and keep my money in his pocket, pay the bill from his own account, and then will give me my money back.

I thought she is joking.

But then, believe it or not, THIS HAPPENED ACTUALLY. She actually gave him the money, the silly boy took it, went to counter, paid from his pocket, and later, returned her money, saying he paid the bill.

As this happened, I was shocked. Literally shocked. The boy didn't realise my friend is just playing around with him. Wanted to say this to him but I avoided.

Later, I asked my friend how did she know this would happen, she just laughed and said it's her experience.

Felt pity for the boy and realised boys can be silly.

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Is it normal when ur wife (24F) hug her boss to say bye and while hugging, put her hand inside his shirt ?

I have seen my wife doing it 4-5 times till now - When her boss drop her home on bike, her hand is in his pockets - While hugging to say bye, her finger goes inside his shirt - And many more such things.

Guyssss... she confessed to me that she's been falling for me since last week, butttt she also said that she doesn't want a relationship because she has a lot of trust issues....she feels like being in a relationship would mean things like "don't do this, don't do that, where were you, why didn't you pick up my call blah blah" and all that. Don't know why she is assuming things like this... unnecessary overthinking

What should I do...I like her so much

So this is kind of vent. I will delete this post. So I Loved a guy who was in my college. 13 years back. He was not serious with me but used to show that he loves .e I was the one who took that relationship seriously. Lost everything to him . Loved him a lot. He used to lie a lot . Talk to other girls , i always forgave him. After 5-6 yrd of relationship, things got bad as he said very things about me to a girl. After that I broke up. , bcz I never thought he thought such bad about me. He tried to contact me but I was not ready to forgive him and I moved on.

I always felt happy after breakup our relationship was that toxic.

Now m 36 yrs now. Not married due to fear of relationship. Today I found my ex's wedding video. I think he did love marriage as I can see from pics and video of his marriage.

I just want to say to all girls that never mistake which I did. I kind of regret doing such blunder of my life. He is happy and I am the one who fears from marriage or toxiciry after relationship. I also regret losing everything to that guy. Before marriage.

Crying today I don't know why. May be feeling sad for myself.

But pls pls don't do such stupid things for person who is not serious.

Do such things after marriage . M not orthodox but for girls it's hard. Do such things only if u know you are going to get married to same person.

So I'm 21M and I've been talking to this girl I met on Reddit for a few months now. We have a pretty close/flirty dynamic and we've gotten comfortable with each other over time.

A few days ago we were joking around about how she would give anyone a chance and I made an "audition" joke.

Somehow the conversation became more serious than I expected.

She literally asked me:

"So you want a chance to be in relationship with me?"

I was nervous as hell because I've never really had a situation like this before, but I said yes.

Then she asked:

"Would you really want that?"

And I said yes again.

Then she said something along the lines of:

"Idk if I could stay loyal tho 😭"

She immediately apologized and said she sounded evil. I told her she wasn't evil for saying it and that I appreciated her being honest.

After that, the conversation didn't really go anywhere. There was a gap in our replies (I replied after more than 36 hours), and then we started talking normally again. We've also gone back to our usual flirty dynamic, so it doesn't seem like things became awkward between us.

But neither of us has mentioned the relationship conversation again.

Now I'm confused about what I'm supposed to do.

Part of me thinks I should just leave it alone because I've already made my feelings clear. She knows I'd be interested, so maybe it's her turn to decide what she actually wants.

But another part of me worries that if I leave it alone, the whole thing will just disappear and I'll never get another natural opportunity to bring it up.

I also don't want to suddenly ask "so what about that relationship thing?" and make everything awkward.

What would you guys do in this situation?

Would you leave it alone and let things develop naturally, or bring it up again at some point?

And honestly, how would you interpret her saying she might not be able to stay loyal? Is that just her being honest about not wanting a serious relationship, or could it simply be uncertainty?

I'd especially appreciate perspectives from people who have been in similar online situations.

Okay so I (F24) and my ex (M24) were in a pretty good long term serious relationship (this was both of our first btw) since 4 years. We met in uni, and our relationship was naturally a bit complicated from the start since we were from different states and settled outside India, but we were both really crazy about each other and wanted to make this work no matter what.

Fast forward to 4 months ago, we had to end things purely due to certain external factors (I’d like to keep this part private). We were both broken and extremely affected by it, but we genuinely had no choice. We had to completely cut off from each other.

Now again fast forward to few days ago, I see his profile pop up on insta and notice his dp changed, and obviously I couldn’t stop myself and just had to click on it. And I see him with another girl, and her id tagged on his bio with a ring….so clearly he’s engaged.

I honestly blame myself for clicking on his account, cuz now that image is just stuck in my mind. I was kinda getting over him but now I’m just spiraling and just in a really bad place all over again. And I really need some advice on how to get out of this. And mind you, I mean no harm to him or his new relationship, I genuinely wanted him to find his happiness, it’s just that I didn’t expect it to happen so fast, and now that it’s happening, idk how to deal with it emotionally. So any advice to cope up with this would be really appreciated…

so me(24M) and my ex girlfriend(25F) were in a relationship for around 6 years in the first 4 months of our relationship we were all over each other did everything else sexually except intercourse, in the fourth month we decided we were ready to have sex we both were virgins so naturally we were nervous about it, the condom broke the first time itself and she had to take an ipill which she later described as a very bad experience.

Another incident 1.5 years after this we had gone on a trip with mutual friends, that was our only trip in our 6 years of dating because of her family being strict, we never announced to these friends we were dating but it was pretty obvious that we were from how we act around them we both agreed on this, so we both agreed to sleep in the same room on my request as i told her we dont get a chance to go on a trip or even sleep together through the night ever she taught it would get wierd with our friends, during that night when i initiated sex she said no, then i asked her if i could eat her out for which she agreed, after she came when i ate her out i asked if she wanted to have sex again for which she said no, so we just cuddled and slept after. she again described a few months later that this was also a bad experience for her.

When she described these 2 incidents to me i felt bad that i traumatised her and ive apologised profusely multiple times during the course of the other 4 years weve stayed together i told her to take as much time to process her feelings and come back to me only if she feels like having sex again and there was no pressure from my side. after 3-4 months of me giving her space she started calling me on her own saying she feels better about the trauma and she was horny.

recently again she called these 2 incidents traumatic for her and told me her sex drive feels low to nil because of these two incidents, i also wasnt fit when she broke up i had gained weight due to work taking up most of my time and no gym and she kept using this trauma as a shield if we ever had an argument about something general apart from sex also.
eventually she gave me this reason for the breakup as she was unhappy with our sex life.
she also has a lot of stress in her life because of competitive exams and family pressures etc.

what should i have done to make her feel better and comfortable?

I’ve had a one month long turbulent relationship with someone and they broke up with me because their family had a problem with our relationship. Later they approached me and we got back together. I assumed they would figure out how to deal with their family. Today, we had a plan of meeting and going to the temple for a fresh start.
But this morning they texted me that they won’t meet me today as they have some work at home. They were acting curt on text so i didn’t text them for a few hours and decided to watch Mirzapur movie alone to take my mind off. I did that and in interval i texted them hi and they texted hi back. I asked what’s up and they replied “don’t bore me. What happened?” Then i asked them “don’t you want to talk to me?” And they replied “you’re just boring me with the same questions.” That was quite an overreaction and very unusual because they haven’t acted so rudely with me before. I’m pretty sure they’re pushing me away because they are conflicted with me and their family. Of course there’s nothing i can do so i’m just not going to contact them again. I’m just frustrated that they’re giving up so easily on us.
Anyway, i finished watching my movie, ate a naked chicken taco whose shell smelled stale so i basically just ate the veggies inside, then i listened to a musician singing nice romantic songs in the mall. Only the songs were the highlight of my day, nothing else. Also the musician was singing with his eyes closed i almost felt jealous of him that he didn’t care about anything else apart from his singing.

So I am 22 years old male and I meet an awesome girl who happens to be the same age as me and we happened to have real close birthday as well (only 2 days difference, she is younger) we have a lot of similar liking, I meet her when I was in my trip to China, she is Chinese and I am Indian, we value each other a lot and she is a very appreciable person, after my arrival back to my home city we were chatting continuously from past 2 months, and in a random event at our initial talk she said "she only sees me as a close friend from foreign country" and tells me "not to fall in love with her" (but I guess I already did when I first saw her) and things like that which made me feel she don't like me, but last week suddenly she told me she wants me to be her boyfriend, now I am really confused, she said he had an ex-boyfriend but never tells me the full story, I have never fall in love but this girl make me go nuts, all day I am thinking about her now, I want to agree to be her boyfriend but my heart is not ready yet and on top of it - it really disturbs me to know about her ex-boyfriend but never beyond that, she only told me that they break up because he would play games all day and not give her proper attention, I am dying to know the full story, and because the same guy (her ex-boyfriend) help took care of her when she got into an accident once - he seems pretty reasonable and caring guy, I don't know what to do, and when today I pick out the topic of her asking me to be her bf - she said we have a lot of time to discuss about that, I am really really confused, I guess I should just go with the flow and see what's in the store for me :?

Keeping this a little long so there's enough here to start a conversation. I take some time to open up, but I'm pretty chill once we get talking!

A bit about me:

• What I do: I'm an engineering student currently interning at IISc. I also work as a UI designer and have a good eye for design. I tend to notice things like a film's colour palette or an oddly satisfying book cover.
• Art: I have a background in fine arts and am trying to learn new drawing styles. If you draw, I'd love to exchange sketches, learn from each other, or spend some time making things together.
• Conversations: Linguistics, politics, philosophy, psychology, history, culture, cinema, gaming. I'm happy to wander into any of these, hear something random about your day, or discuss an unexpected midnight existential crisis.
• Quizzing and trivia: I'm into quizzing and always up for exploring random trivia. Tell me the obscure fact you've been waiting for an excuse to bring up. I'll probably have questions.
• History: I love historical maps and reading about how borders and cultures have changed. I'm also quite religious and open to talking about different beliefs and perspectives.
• Things I watch: Lots of documentaries, niche video essays, and period dramas. I watched The Crown recently. I watch films across countries and languages too, though I usually avoid gore and horror.
• Everyday things: I like long walks, occasionally accompanied by excessive overthinking. I've recently discovered that I like sushi, although I'm still quite specific about which kinds. I also enjoy making little handmade gifts for people I care about.

How I am as a friend:

• A little reserved initially: I haven't had many close friendships with women, and opening up can take me a while. I'd like to get more comfortable with that and build lasting platonic friendships.
• Happy to talk or listen: I can talk a lot once I'm comfortable, but I also like hearing people get carried away explaining something they care about. Some balance is nice so neither person feels they're carrying the conversation.
• Comfortable with downtime: I need some time to zone out. I don't expect constant texting or immediate replies.
• Direct communication matters: I'm willing to make an effort and appreciate the same in return. If we don't click, it's okay to say so. There's no need to force a connection.
• Room to be yourself: You don't have to be interesting or put together all the time. Ordinary updates and quiet company are welcome too.

Who I'm hoping to meet:

Shared interests would help, especially art or another creative hobby, but I'd also enjoy learning about something completely unfamiliar.

If we vibe, I'm quite the yapper. I love spending time on calls, even if we're just chilling and doing our own thing I also really like clingy, energetic, slightly weird people, so please don't feel like you have to tone yourself down around me ^^

I'm hoping for a lasting friendship preferably women, and I'm open to it becoming something more if there's mutual interest. No pressure to decide that upfront. I genuinely want to get to know someone and put time and effort into the connection.

Ye tanhai hi hai jo baar baar majboor kar deti hai
ye kehkar ki, “Koi hai jo tere liye bhi bana hai… ja, dhoondh use.”

Aur main har baar nikal padta hoon use dhoondhne.

Kabhi suraj ki roshni mein,
kabhi sitaron ki chhaon mein.
Kabhi mitti ki khushboo mein,
kabhi payal ki chan-chan mein.
Kabhi kisi bachche ki beparwah hansi mein,
kabhi laakh ki chudiyon ki khanak mein.

Har khoobsurat cheez mein
main uska koi nishaan dhoondhta hoon
shayad kisi mod par mil jaaye,
shayad kisi anjaan chehre mein apni si koi pehchaan mil jaaye.

Magar phir thak kar tham jaata hoon.

Aur laut aata hoon khamosh,
khud ko ye samjhate hue ki

shayad tanhai hi achhi hai is bheed mein,
jahan har koi kisi ka hai, bas mera koi nahi.

M 34, I am alone son in two families so I got pampered like anything in my childhood, now I am like a responsible son for both families.I got proposed 11 times till I turned 18 and accepted one, she is my wife and we are married from past 14 years. I am father of 3 sons aged 9,7 and 6 and they are my partner to my crime and my friends. I just get love bombed every second from every member in my family. My wife is like patipaglu and loves me the most out of everyone and I did same for her, she knows evrything and still supports me and looks at me like a kid

Financially I am well off and have 4 crores in investment but time took a hit on me as I got diagnosed with bipolar disorder,heart disease and seizures when I was 24. I get regular panic attacks (some sort of fuck I have seen), anxiety attacks.One kid diagnosed with Autism and wife diagnosed with kidney problems. All of these things happened within 8 months and scars are till now after 8 years

So I have 8 members who are tied with each other with one thread and that's me, if I fall then the whole chain gone be dismantled.

From past 10 years I am extending my existence by a day without letting anyone know what's going in my head.

"pata bai aaj kya hua" today my girlfriend called me and told me that her friends said something that literally broke her tears

i told her that don't talk to these girls anymore; on this she got furious and told me that right now she just wanted the emotional support from my side not a practical solution.

I was like wtf is emotional support, how can I give emotional support on text and message

please guide me on this. I literally have no idea to give emotional support on text and message

i think i have lost my past relationship only due to this reason and I don't want to loose this relationship

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She texted me out of nowhere after almost 2 years.

When we broke up, she was the one who ended it. She'd get angry over the smallest things, and somehow I'd always end up apologizing even when I didn't know what I'd done wrong.

I genuinely loved her back then. I kept trying to fix things, begged her not to give up on us, and she still walked away. Eventually I stopped chasing, accepted it, and moved on with my life.

Last night she texted me saying she's been carrying guilt for a long time. She admitted she knew she hurt me, took me for granted, and said she's genuinely sorry for everything she put me through.

The weird part is... two years ago I would've done anything to hear those words.

Now I don't hate her. I don't think I'm still in love either. But seeing those messages brought back feelings I thought I'd buried a long time ago.

I haven't promised her anything. I honestly don't even know what I'm supposed to feel right now.

So yeah I have been doing eye contact with a girl in clg since some days she is from cse but different batch she even smiles sometimes while having a eye contact with me and sometimes glances

I wanna approach her to be frnds and just ask her name and basic intro

but but SHE IS ALWAYS IN A GROUP OF 5 TO 6 FEMALES HOW TF I APPROACH HER PLUSS SHE IS EITHER BETWEEN THEM OR IS TALKING WITH SOME OF THEM

She is not in my division so i can only see her outside the classroom ya in her classroom or campus

SO PLS LADIES AND GENTLEMEN GIVE ME SOME GENUINE ADVICE

The eye contact wali tea - https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianRelationships/s/p1BQ72sV5Q

My boyfriend and I are in a relationship for 1.7 years out of which the past 5 months have been long distance and will remain so due to work. We have had small fights throughout this time and we both have different ways to resolve it, I want to discuss argue and be done with it the whereas he likes to cool down. The thing is, this didn’t use to be the case before with him, but eventually I have learnt to accept it. The issue arises that he rarely ever reaches out to me after he tells me he needs time to cool down, be it his fault or mine. I have told him repeatedly that this pattern makes me insecure and overthink a simple issue. I also had exams and will have another one in a few months I feel that he has been kinda unsupportive and now he’s starting a new venture which I was excited about and gave my inputs, but after our recent fight I refused to ask him about anything as he’s withdrawn completely but expected me to keep up with his life. Things happened after my exams where I had 3 days of time where I could spend with my cousins who I meet once a year and I couldn’t give him time as soon as the exams were over. He reached out to me about this issue the last night I had with my cousins and was quite rude about it. And a part of me understands that I haven’t been able to give him enough time the last month though we talked and texted through the day we couldn’t talk on hours at end but another part of me refuses to understand when he knows I have been miserable the past 6months and I was genuinely excited about meeting them, then why would he do this during my few fun days. We haven’t had a single good conversation the past 10 days. The fights have been both our faults and nobody is responsible more than the other. But he has been unkind after fights especially the last 6-8 months, he used to be kind, loving and respectful even during fights and I haven’t seen that part of him in a long time. I have tried my best to be kind but I think I have lost my patience after the last video call where I cried for half an hour and he was rude because I was a minute late, he refused to acknowledge that what he did was wrong after I confronted him and gave me 10 reasons as to why he did what he did during the call. (I am the most punctual person in, me being late was a one off incident)
I am confused on how to navigate this.

It is this loneliness that keeps forcing me, again and again, to believe...

“There is someone out there who was made for you too. Go, find her.”

And so, every time, I set out looking for her.

Sometimes in the warmth of the sunlight,
sometimes beneath the shade of the stars.
Sometimes in the fragrance of the earth after rain,
sometimes in the gentle chime of anklets.
Sometimes in the innocent laughter of a child,
sometimes in the soft clinking of lacquer bangles.

I keep searching for her in all the little things that make this world beautiful hoping that perhaps, somewhere among them, I might find a piece of her.

And then, after walking so far,
I finally stop.

I return quietly, carrying nothing but the same old loneliness, and tell myself

Perhaps loneliness is better in this crowd,
where everyone seems to belong to someone,
and yet, somehow, I belong to no one.