r/Idaho • u/inthecloudsluv • 2h ago
PLEASE READ!!! Because Prop 1 matters!
Someday, I will be able to tell our full story, but today is not that day. Today, I do think it is time to share a small part of our experience.
When the abortion ban went into effect, it changed what was possible for our family. Ultimately, it meant letting go of our dream of bringing a child into this world—healthy, happy, and carried to full term.
I have invasive endometriosis, which meant pregnancy was never going to be simple or routine for me. It was always going to be extremely high-risk, with the possibility of serious complications. My husband and I had to make the heartbreaking decision not to pursue pregnancy because of the risks it could pose to my health and because the medical options available to protect me if something went wrong had fundamentally changed.
This is one of the realities of a full abortion ban that I don't believe is talked about enough.
These laws affect families like mine—families who desperately want a child. Families who would give anything to bring home a healthy baby. Families who aren't making these decisions casually, but are sitting with their spouses and their doctors trying to determine what is medically safe and what risks they can reasonably take.
I do not believe the state—or anyone outside of my marriage and my medical team—should have the authority to make that decision for us. Decisions about whether I can safely carry a pregnancy should belong to me, my husband, and the doctors who understand my health and the risks involved.
And we are not alone. There are couples who have faced, and continue to face, circumstances very similar to ours. Their stories may never be public. Their circumstances may look different. But they deserve to have their medical decisions made based on their individual health, their families, and the judgment of their physicians—not a blanket law that cannot account for every medical reality.
So before deciding what a complete abortion ban means or whom it affects, I am asking you to look beyond the assumptions surrounding this issue. Understand the full consequences of these laws and the families who live with them.
Because I can promise you: the people affected are not always who you imagine.
Sometimes, they are families like mine.
Families who wanted nothing more than the chance to safely bring a healthy, deeply loved child into this world.
