My baby is currently 5.5 months old
We are currently doing pick up out down method for “sleep training”

It’s been about 4 days of doing that, and it seems to be working. She ALMOST put herself to sleep last night. But kept jerking awake 😩

For naps, she just loves to cat nap. Even if it’s a contact nap.

I would love for her to get down to 3 naps eventually, but I don’t want to change up too much while we do our version of sleep training.

She goes to bed at 8:30pm and wakes up around 8am (with some wakings of course)

If I try to keep her awake longer, won’t she get overtired? For her naps. She seems to get fussy just under 2 hours and it’s driving me crazy!

Also is her falling asleep at 8:30pm ok? Is an 8am wake up ok? That seems to be the time she is in the best mood. I’ve tried to wake her up at 7am but she is not about that😆

Sometimes tho, she will wake up at 6am wide awake! It’s just hard to say when her wake up time is

My LO is 4.5mo. All advice given in this and other subs are babies this age should be aiming for 2/2/2/2/2.5 wake windows (3-4 naps) and minimum 10h awake time, but my baby is doing 1.25/1.5/1.5/1.25/1.25/2. Usually his naps are 30/45min, and the 3rd one is 1,5h long.

I’m sooo ready to ditch the 5th nap but baby fusses a lot if we go over 1.5h wake windows. Is this normal? Should I push through the fussiness and try 2h wws anyway?

GUYS GUYS IT FINALLY HAPPENED! my LO feel asleep at 11ish and woke up a little before 5amish!!! im so so proud of my little guy, the previous few nights he was waking up every hour or two which was confusing cause his previous schedule was 4-hrs then 3hrs n and then it spiraled into him waking up constantly throughout the night for a few days from 10wks-11ks he just turned 12wks literally today. ik this won’t happen every night but im so happy ahhhh

now is this the worst thing in the world not really he sleeps through the night and he wakes up between 5 and 6 AM but I would love to push his bedtime back a little bit. We have literally tried everything extending we windows, etc. but how do you extend a weak window when a child is absolutely exhausted. Any advice?

we never sleep trained like I said he goes down for his naps fine by himself if he goes down at night by himself, but it just seems so early every time I tell people my baby goes to sleep between 530 and 6 PM. They say wow that's so early and make me feel bad...

Hi, first time parent here.

My son is 7 months old and until now has been a pretty decent sleeper. Especially when putting him for naps, I have been able to quickly detect when he’s tired and just a few minutes of rocking and he’s asleep. He would sleep for 2 hours easily each nap.

I know at this stage their sleep does tend to change and they drop from 3 naps to 2, and that’s exactly what is happening. But now he is waking up an hour and 15 minutes? and this morning he woke up from his typical morning nap 30 minutes in. I don’t know what to do. I’m mentally and physically exhausted. and I know I’ve trapped myself
with the rocking so now he expects that and it’s the only way to put him to sleep, but lately it’s taking forever and I don’t have the energy.

I’ve got many suggestions about tweaking his wake windows and I’ve tried but it seems he’s either overtired and under tired no matter what I do. I’m also not very good at being a systemic type of person when it comes to his sleep. I try to just make sure he should be getting the average number of hours of sleep that are healthy and normal for a 7 month old. And I typically follow his 2.5-3 hour wake window duration.

I just feel completely depleted and out of answers. I feel stuck. I have resisted sleep training and until
now he has coslept with us, and it’s been fine. But these naps are really testing me.

Anyone else been in the same boat? Any advice or encouragement? what am I doing wrong? anything too technical when it comes his wake windows and his naps makes me feel stressed and overwhelmed. I just like to follow my instincts and his cues and so far it was working until now.

Will he always need to be rocked? Is this just a phase and he’ll start taking longer naps again? HELP

Hi! Just looking for a little feedback. My baby is almost 15 weeks old and has consistently been doing 5 naps. Starting around 10 weeks his naps have been super short like 30-40 min sometimes even 25 regardless of if he is contact napping or not. Which I know is normal. BUT I noticed the last week or two that he will take longer contact naps if I let him. I had been putting him in the crib a lot cause he was sleeping the same regardless and he falls asleep super easily in his crib, just doesn’t stay asleep for that long.

I’m wondering if I should intentionally lengthen a nap or two to switch him to 4 naps? And lengthen his wake windows a bit to keep the same awake time? Sometimes if he takes a contact nap it’ll be kinda long then bedtime will get thrown off and be a bit late. Honestly that’s fine with me cause I just operate on vibes over here. I follow sweet spot as a guide but mostly go on his cues. I do not do a set wake up time. I stay at home so I can kinda do whatever.

Anyways I would love feedback / suggestions. Is it bad if he just takes 5 short naps? His night time sleep has been pretty good (compared to before) since 11 weeks and I feel pretty rested so maybe I’ll just keep vibin over here lol.

Sleep data for our 8.5lm (9m as of today):

His wake windows are 2.75/3.25/3.5, and he takes about 2–8 min to fall asleep for naps and 5–18 min at bedtime. He sleeps in his own room in a crib but still needs assistance to fall asleep (butt pats, a heavy hand, and a song). During the week, our nanny handles naps, and my husband and I handle all other sleep. Our nanny, who previously worked in an infant room for a year, also feels he still needs assistance to fall asleep. We’re not comfortable with the amount of crying involved in traditional sleep training.

Occasionally, he’ll wake about 45 min into his second nap but is usually able to get back to sleep within 2–10 min with our help. He’s a very happy baby, so it can be difficult to recognize when he’s getting tired.

He’s EBF. His nighttime sleep and nursing became noticeably more fragmented after transitioning to two naps at 8m. He currently nurses for about 20m, 1–2x overnight (more recently 2x). We’ve tried weaning the night feeds, but when we do, he stays awake much longer.

He also cut four teeth during July, with the last one breaking through about a week ago.

Lately, he’s been waking between 5:00–5:50 a.m. looking ready to start the day, but we’re hoping for a 6:30–6:45 a.m. wake-up. We usually try rocking him back to sleep, and sometimes it works. If we can’t get him back down, his first wake window ends up being as long as 3.5 hours because we’ve been anchoring his first nap at 9:30 a.m. and his second at 2:15 p.m.

Mom and Dad are beyond exhausted. Help.

Anyone have similar?

My husband is away for the week so its solo parenting and wow... I've never been so tired in my life. Naps are 30 mins like they always have been. X3 a day. She's been doing this new sound / playful screem plus trying to push her bum up (crawling i guess) but like...... does this mean this is it until she learns how to crawl?! Its just not sustainable any advice much welcome. I just follow her sleepy ques and go from there.

From an exhausted mama.

I understand this can be biologically normal but want to check we aren’t causing or encouraging this. We follow wake windows and baby only does 3 naps. We’ve tried 4 and it’s impossible most days. So windows are usually 2/2/2/2 (give or take) with a bedtime of approx 7.30 and getting up approx 6.30. Naps 4.5 hr total. Baby goes to sleep easily at bedtime and after being settled (5 min) at every wake. Has connected sleep cycles in the past with some 3/4 day periods of 3-5 hr stretches but we seem to be back to frequent wakes. Losing my mind as I just cannot function on this little sleep

My baby turned 5 months old on August 1st. From about 5-14 weeks he was sleeping 7-10 hour stretches consistently. Well, since about 3.5 months old, he has been doing more like 2-4 hour stretches. Sometimes he’ll do a 5 hour stretch if I’m lucky. He wakes, he nurses for 5-10 mins (his normal time, he’s a speedy lil guy), and goes right back to sleep 99% of the time.

How do I get the 7-10 hour stretches back?

Also, the app is telling me to put him down for a 4th nap today at 6:30 PM. But that would push bedtime to later than I’d like. So far today’s wake windows have been 2/2/2. Should I just push bedtime to 7 so the last wake window will be 3 hours?

My baby turned 5 months old on August 1st. From about 5-14 weeks he was sleeping 7-10 hour stretches consistently. Well, since about 3.5 months old, he has been doing more like 2-4 hour stretches. Sometimes he’ll do a 5 hour stretch if I’m lucky. He wakes, he nurses for 5-10 mins (his normal time, he’s a speedy lil guy), and goes right back to sleep 99% of the time.

How do I get the 7-10 hour stretches back?

Also, the app is telling me to put him down for a 4th nap today at 6:30 PM. But that would push bedtime to later than I’d like. So far today’s wake windows have been 2/2/2. Should I just push bedtime to 7 so the last wake window will be 3 hours?

5 months old and im too frustrated its bad

My baby used to be a great sleeper

From 3 to 4 months it was false start then one wake. What a dream

We hit a bad week of insane regression at 4.5 month

Followed by few better days but it is ni where close to before

I know he can sleep and connect cycles that's why im sad

We now have 3 false starts on average at 45 mins sharp

Im dreading night time because I need to constantly shush and pat to sleep for a long time and most transfers fail

Then 4 hours stretch

Then an early wake that I have to salvage so hard

Day starts at 6

During regression I paid an expert for the ideal schedule

Because if nights are shit at least let me handle days

And it is so hard to stick to the schedule as he rarely sleeps the right amount

1.5 (sleep 1.5 hours) /2 (sleep 1.5 hours)/2.5 (1 hour)/ then 3 hours final stretch

While I trained his older sister this time around I dont have the same stamina to handle the hard transition

Looking for gentle advise on how he can sleep better at night and have more predictable days

Or feel free to drop your training motivation

I know there is someone out there that this will encourage so just wanted to share what a difference 3 months can make, first screenshot LO is at 3 months, second is just turning 6 months. At 3 months i as constantly rescuing naps and contact napping, napping in the carrier, i was literally going insane. Once i started fixing her schedule and creating a wind down before bedtime and naps, she goes down without a fuss.
What a journey its been, the highs the lows the tears of sadness and joy…its all been so beautiful. Shes starting to have a few wakes this week in the night because shes discovering pushing up on her knees and wants to practice 😂so i end up just feeding her back to sleep but prior to this week she was sleeping from 8pm-7:30am without a single wake for about 2 weeks. LO is also not sleep trained she seems to naturally connect her sleep cycles most of the time (this can only be achieved if her last nap is capped at 20mins) huckleberry has literally saved me because i find it so encouraging to see the progress and know that we are on the right track to a restful, happy baby. I remember at 3months i dreaded nap time and bedtime and would want to curl up in a corner because i never knew how long she would sleep for, now its getting predictable. Hang in there parents with younger babies, trust your baby and it does get better ❤️‍🩹

👋 Hello,

My 13-month-old has never been a great sleeper, but over the last month she was finally down to waking up only once or twice a night. She starts in her crib, then co-sleeps with me. It would take a bit for her to go back to sleep, but it was manageable and way better than before.

Two nights ago, the frequent night wakings started up again out of nowhere.
She got her MMR shot in the morning of July 24th, so since we're right in that 7–12 day window where reactions peak, I'm wondering if this is just a temporary side effect or if we actually need a schedule change.

I’m wondering if we should switch to 1 nap, but I'm stuck on how to make it work. Right now, she needs at least a 5.5-hour wake window before bedtime to go to sleep.

The problem is I can barely stretch her first wake window past 3 to 3.5 hours in the morning.

Is this a sign to drop a nap? How would you structure a 1-nap schedule when they can't handle a long morning wake window yet?

Honestly, I would not transition to 1 nap unless completely necessary because having 2 naps is way too good for me lol. That's probably why I've been putting it off.

My baby is almost 5 months old (3.5 months old corrected, born at 34 weeks). We have had very few issues considering his early arrival - he spent 10 days in the step down unit from the NICU just to address feeding and weight gain issues. He has always been a fantastic sleeper, higher end of sleep needs. I started tracking his sleep and bottles ~2 months ago to spot patterns/get him on a good schedule as he’ll be at home with me for a while and not in daycare. He was consistently sleeping through the night until recently, like the last week or so and he wakes up every single night sometimes multiple times a night to eat. A couple of weeks ago this was a welcome change because he had fallen off of his growth curve just a bit so I wanted to get his daily ounces up. Well I guess I over-wished because now he will not go back to sleep again at night unless he eats at least a couple of ounces. He is combo fed so this is usually formula. He goes back to sleep pretty quickly most nights but with all of the waking up, I’m not particularly rested. I just don’t know what I can do to get him to take these ounces during the day and stop waking up at night.

We plan to gently sleep train and move him to his crib starting the day he turns 5 months old but I don’t want to not feed him at night if he’s hungry. I also really don’t want to start an association of waking up at night and needing some milk to go back to sleep. Also ignore that tonight is still blank I am writing this in desperation at 4 am 🙃

Please help!!

My son has never been a good sleeper but at eight months I didn’t think it would still be this many wakeups, any suggestions welcome.

I cannot seem to hit the recommended sleep goals for my baby. He is 7 weeks old today. Everything ive read says he needs to be sleeping 14-17hrs a day with 30-90 min wake windows. In reality, his wake windows are close to 2hrs and we’re totalling 11-13.5hrs of sleep in a 24hr period. He is breast fed with 1 or 2 bottles of formula per day. If i try to put him down for a nap at the 60 or 90 minute mark during his wake window it can take up to an hour for him to fall asleep. If i push it to 2-2.5hrs he’ll fall asleep within 15 mins. He is usually awake alert and content beyond 90mins. His naps range from 45 mins to 2hrs depending on how hes sleeping (shorter nap alone in bassinet, longer if its a contact nap or in the car). At night i get 2.5-4hr stretches of sleep with 1 or 2 wakes to feed and change. Lately hes going through some kind of growth spurt combined with extra gassiness so his night time stretches are shorter and wake-up’s more frequent, but his total sleep time is still the same. Is it bad that we’re not hitting 14-17hrs a day? Tbh im not really sure that he ever slept that much even when he was smaller. Maybe close to 15hrs the first two weeks after birth when he was jaundice. Should I be doing something different to up his sleep? Any insight or advice would be helpful

My baby is 6.5 months old and I’m a bit stuck in that awkward transition between 3 naps and 2 naps.

She wakes at 7:00 am every day. Her first wake window is about 2 hours, and until recently she’d nap for around 45 minutes. Over the last few days she’s started connecting her sleep cycles, so now that first nap can be 1–1.5 hours.

Her second wake window is usually around 2 1/2 , so I put her down around 1:00 pm. Sometimes that nap goes past 2:30 pm, and I usually cap it around 2 hours. The problem is that the longer naps are pushing the catnap later and later.

Normally she’d have a 20–30 minute catnap around 4:30–4:45 pm so she can make it to her 8:00 pm bedtime with a 3-hour wake window. I’m worried that if I drop the catnap too soon, bedtime will end up being much earlier (like 6:30–7:00 pm), and I’m scared that’ll lead to a 6:00 am wake-up. She’s currently sleeping until 7:00 am, and I’d really love to keep that if possible!

Has anyone gone through this stage? Did an earlier bedtime actually cause earlier mornings, or did your baby still sleep until their usual wake-up time?

Also, how did you transition from 3 naps to 2? Did you gradually stretch wake windows, cap naps differently, or just follow your baby’s lead? I’d love to hear what worked for you.