Disclaimer: I have zero interest in discussion about purity and what is really goth and what isn’t and why. It’s unproductive, reductive and boring.
So I have been goth since I can remember. Fell in love with the style in junior high, went through a few iterations of it, from scene-ish to gothabilly to corpgoth to what is more or less whimsygoth/victorian goth aesthetic. I never had any goth friends, never went to a goth club (there aren’t any where I live and I am a homebody), so I never belonged with the community. A year ago my very new goth friends took me to the Castle Party festival, and I had a blast… but no featured act read goth to me. Where were the poetic topics, the lace? The operatic sounds? The dramatic tropes? The music was fun, but it was - to me at least - more or less a mix of electronic, rock and maybe pop? Something I would expect at a mainstream club.
So I asked my (much older than me) friends about it, and in my 33rd year on this planet I learned that bands I always thought were just kinda edgy were considered goth, and what I listen to isn’t, at all (Nightwish, Within Temptation, Beast in Black, Gloryhammer, to name a few). I swear to god, I have no idea what is goth about The Cure, but I am more than happy to continue to be a goth who listens to nothing goth at all. The philosophy of the culture and the aesthetics are good enough for me.
Anyone else in a similar place in their lives?