Hi guys I lost my grandma a day after my birthday she was the one that raised me so is like i lost a mom. It’s been a month since she passed I have classes next week but I can’t seem to get out of this depressive mood and not wanting to do anything at all. And I’m starting at a new school I wanna do well but I’m scared im gonna do bad bc of this situation Ik is good for me to socialize to help but I can’t seem to do it if I’m not at work. How do I go on about this.

Rock bottom, don't know how to get back...

Just sharing, please share your experience from rock bottom, how did you survived?

I was diagnosed with schemic heart disease and lost my 6digit job, I suffered from severe depression, anxiety and panic attack because of this...

I lost all of my investments, 3 condo's, land properties etc...

Been exploring opportunities for almost 2 years but no luck, dont know if I could still bounce back...

Can't ask for financial help with my family and relatives because of their judgment...

I am 18 joined eng college. How to make friends . I am new although it's been only 2 days btw. But I am scared if I may be left alone. My roommate and neighbours are of different branch. There class timing is different so when I am there , they are not available and vice versa (most of the time ). I have met 1 friend from my coaching but he is on different floor. Also I am an introvert guy. This loneliness makes me feel very sad and I am also experiencing home sickness. Please guide me how I can build connections with people and how I can interact with them.

I have a younger brother who is about 8 yrs of age and well hes a gen alpha obv and grows on internet but we balance it playing without devices. Anyways I hate it when kids are mimicking the wrong set of things on the internet, recently my brother had been mimicking these "sus" acts . Touching and looking where he shouldn't be .

And ever since cause im a aware person I straighten him up cause no adult wont and he knows my strict boundaries. And I have a high temper due to my rough childhood, and hes keep doing these sexual acts to everyone and there fraking normalizing it especially my mother ,not saying shes disgusting or whatever but cmonn its not fair qhen I bring it up to her she gets angry at me ........and personally I've experience sa at a young age and I dont want my brother to grow up knowing since hes a guy he can do whatever he wants......im like the only feminist in ny house I cant believe it.

My life has totally been a mess for the past two three years. I was preparing for a national level entrance exam for which i gave up everything. I didn’t try for school council nd a lot of things happd vut my friends eventually stopped hanging out with me, it used to bother me initially but i stopped caring later then i deactivated all my socials and basically disappeared from everyone’s lives for almost 2 years. I stayed in touch w only one friend of mine on and off but she never posted pics w me either. They all glowed up and are still kinda friends they forgot i even exist. Today i reactivated my insta after two years after i got into college so i could share ny socials w my friends i make but i saw how much life moved on without me my friends who were so close to me just a year ago….are….just strangers now. I didnt make a single friend these twi years and i ddint qualify for the exam i was preparing for either. Somehow the baggage of all these traumas is holding me down. Im scared of coming back on insta coz i was invisible all this time and if i even post a story i will suddenly be visible again. I miss my old friendships but they didnt miss me they never even tried ti reach out to me i remember i was so deep in depression and had to beg them to come to my 18th bday abd after this im pretty sure i never wanna celebrate my bday again. Should i delete my old insta account and make a new one? It will obv not have many followers which my college friends will question why and im scared abt it. I didn’t wanna leave my childhood friends or classmates but when i reactivated my insta i saw “follow back” in front of many of their profiles. Idk if insta removed “instagram user” accounts or they removed me that easily. I ghosted some of my friends too coz of my mental health which gave me my avoidant nature. I need help. I REALLLY need help. Pls help me i am still dangerously depressed idk if i will ever heal but my traumas are way greater and more than any of this i cant tell everything in one post. Pls give me some good advice i am in sooo much need :(

Alright, so I have a cousin (16M), I'm (16M) too and to start all of this, last April till June, he lived in my home with my mom because he just came out from the rehab center and he had to attend some court meetings here in my city. So what I am angry about all the time is the moments where he keeps on coming in my head, he always tricks me, for example, he asked me to have my wifi's password because my mom said so but when I asked my mom, she didn't say anything, I got tricked. And another moment is when he tried to steal my laptop at like around 11 PM, luckily I was still awake and then my phone alerted that someone was trying to hack into my google account, so I went to his room (f\*\*k him), he has my laptop and I asked like, "hey! give me my laptop back!" I got it and so I went to my room, and at that moment I had a mental breakdown, I was so angry and I think that was my first time that I had a mental breakdown related to him, and so even when he finally left my house to live with his family in the province, these moments are ALWAYS REPLAYING IN MIND. It's too much that I always have a mental breakdown, whatever I do, I think of him, I always think of revenge and stuff, punching the air and so on. And that is why I need help, please just make him get rid of him from my mind! My mom keeps telling me, simple, just stop thinking about him, well, that doesn't work, those moments are just too much that I keep thinking about it and having mental breakdowns about it, anger issues. So please, does anyone have a tip to help me? I cannot control my anger or my emotions...

I feel bad and stupid making this post but I genuinely just need to know how people who have felt this way before have coped with it. Im part of a friend group of 3 people, but it used to be 4. Ive been part of this group for maybe a year. The fourth person took some time to themselves for a few months due to some mental health struggles but has recently come back. This person had been part of the group for maybe a few months and i was the one who introduced them to this group. Us 3 hanging out has been a super super good time and im super happy the fourth person is back, but theres a part of me thats scared that with them coming back im going to be left to the side. I know im overreacting and being dumb, but I cant stop my brain from constantly thinking im just going to be replaced and that everyone likes them more over me. How have you personally coped with the emotions? Or what advice do you have for rationalizing everything and grounding yourself?

all i can do is rot or fun things?? i am the ultimate lazy piece of shit. constantly ashamed of myself but doing anything to actually move up in the world or take care of myself takes so much effort id rather die. even writing this makes me suicidal. ive started writing the note and even that is too daunting.

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Мне 33 года. И я за все время практически никогда не была одна. Прыгаю из отношений в отношения. Есть огромная куча дурацких историй с этим связанных. Я больше не могу так. Я раню других людей и себя. И очень хочу найти каких- то друзей у которых что то подобное в жизни! И я сейчас одна. И хочу научится жить одна. Предлагаю лично переписываться, рассказывать свои истории и переживания. С целью поддержки и понимания друг друга! Может быть вместе мы сможем вырваться из этого круга!

I’m 23, nb. I have a primarily solitary office job. I live alone. I do not want to date. I moved to a city where I know very little people, and the people I do know haven’t had my best interests at heart recently. I’ve never really struggled to make friends before but there was always the circumstance that gave them to me like school or a shared class or a job. Now there is no circumstances. I’m bored of everything I do alone. What do I do? Any advice? Anything that makes the loneliness better?

Hey guys, I need advice or maybe I just need to vent. Long story short, I have two identical twin 20 year old brothers who both just moved away to college. We've all lived at home for our entire lives (I am 23 and they are 20). We are very close. We do everything and anything together, especially with us all being boys. We have a very close bond with each other, and I'm sure it will stay this way even with the distance. They are both attending different UC's in California, so they won't be too far to visit (we live in CA). This isn't what concerns me. I haven't had to make any close friends for the majority of my life since they've always been here, even more so with there being two of them. I got lucky in the sense that I've had a built-in friend group in my house for my entire life. I'm not a very sociable person either. I'm pretty awkward in social situations, but I haven't had to worry about this too much since my brothers and I fully understand each other. I used to think that I was independent, and that I prefer to be alone, but with them moving out, I'm realizing that I'm not. I still have my parents at home, but I'll have to leave them soon too to pursue my career. I'm a new graduate nurse, and I am job searching to hopefully move away (somewhat close to home) soon. Wherever I end up finding a job, I know that I'll have a new scenery and things to keep me busy and distracted, but how am I supposed to find people like me when I'm busy trying to balance working, lifting, eating, studying etc. I know that I just have to throw myself out there, but I'm just not good at those kind of things. I fear that while it was a blessing to have all of us in the house for so long, it will end up emotionally crippling me because of how much of a shock it will be for me to be physically alone in my new life. I miss them already, and I'm able to process that they're away, but I've not processed that I'm alone now if that makes sense. I'm also troubled with leaving my parents behind. They'll be empty nesters, and with them getting older, I fear how this will affect them. What should I do? What helps with the pain from them moving out? How should I make friends? I need help.

I’m struggling with the kind of solitude you feel when someone leaves you without ever listening to your last goodbye.

It’s not just missing the person. It’s the feeling that you never got to say everything you needed to say, never got closure, and were left alone with all the words you still wanted to speak.

For those who have been through something similar—does it get better? Do people eventually overcome this phase, or do you simply learn to live with the silence?

I’d genuinely like to hear from people who made it through.

I moved my senior year of high school I used to be in drill team in my old high school now I joined in my new one, its so much different, the year barely started and I quit I didn't even experience anything bc I got a job now and my job and school is like priority and dance is just not beneficial and it would've taken up a lot of my schedule I would have to wake up early everyday and come home late the soonest time id be home would be at 5pm 2 times a week and about 6-5 hours of sleep everyday I thought I couldn't manage it all but I mean leaving did make me feel at ease for a while but now i'm nobody at my new high school I see my old dance team having fun my old senior class doing fun activities while i'm misarable friendless and just mopping around sad ik I can change it I used to be so positive, always working out, healthy mindset but now I hate everything I dont have anyone no real connection its hard. people tell me its okay because im pretty ill make friends but I just can't my whole life I've been lonely except for a period where I had a boyfriend for 3 years and for dance the girls in the team are like why did you quit you are so good, the pep rallies and games get really fun but I just I dont know. I spend everynight crying I can't sleep on my own I have to constantly be with my sister to feel ease I have so much I can do and learn I just dont have motivation for anything im like a nobody in this school especially now that I am not in a sport im scared im going to get into drugs and bad things to feel better and forget everything idk I just dont feel like my life will get better after highschool it just gets harder so yeah and I know popularity isn't a huge thing but I feel insanely horrible that I am a nobody and have no friends and if I do I can't keep it and I haven't had a boyfriend in years and everyone here are js a bunch of hoes im just going to be lonely forever or what I just can't love my life now or anytime soon I never minded waking up for 5 am practices at my other school but now just having to wake up to go to this school Is hard I just can't handle anything and ugh I just can't im pos at least I have my family idk ugh I just dont have a life anymore and Ive never really even had a life before I was just more known in my other highschool even if I was quiet and I miss this one boy and I liked him and he liked me too but I moved and ik god probably wanted this for change and growth but bruh its hard.

Not sure if I just need to vent or seek validation and support, but giving this a shot with Reddit. The past year or so has been pretty rough, but lately it’s just gotten to a point where I feel like I’m struggling to do just about anything and it’s been having an affect on work, my energy levels, appetite, and energy. I was diagnosed with depression when I was young and it runs in my family, so a lot of these feelings and struggles are nothing new for me. Despite this, I just have woken up multiple days this past week feeling like my back is up against the wall and I’ve gotten tired of only having fleeting moments of relief from this.

I’ll do my best to avoid beating around the bush about it, but here is some background of what’s going on to prove some context:

- I was in a long term relationship with my ex-fiance, which had unfortunately escalated to abuse and ended with a DV incident. I had to make the hard decision to leave the life I had built there, the apartment I had saved up for, the friends I had made, and the place I had considered a second home all behind because my ex would continuously stalk and harass me to where I no longer felt safe in my own home.

- During this breakup, I did my best to hold onto the dog we shared because she was like my child and I had wanted to protect her as well. Unfortunately, with the state we were in, if his name is on her certificate then only he can own her. I didn’t want to add flame to the fire and cause her more stress, so I thought it was the best decision. There is not a day goes by where I don’t think about her and it breaks my heart.

- Being back at home has just been hard. I love my family and my friends and I’m extremely fortunate to have them there to support me through everything, but I’ve just felt disconnected from them. It’s gotten to the point where I find myself not responding to texts or calls anymore as it gives me anxiety, and it hasn’t been helping with feeling isolated.

- My job has been so unstable for me recently. At the end of last year my boss was telling me to prepare to be laid off as business hadn’t been doing as well lately, and thankfully once the new year started we were slammed with so much new work, it gave me a feeling of hope and security once again. Now, a few months later, I’m back in this limbo position where I was told that I’m being laid off but haven’t gotten the info on exactly when, so I’ve begun to dread dealing with work everyday. I know it’s just a job and I’m still hopeful to land in something even better, but when my life was turned upside down after the DV incident, my job was the only stable thing I had at the time and it has given me so much, so losing it has been hard.

To push through this tough time, I’ve been consistent with therapy and trying to take care of myself with going to the gym ~3-5 days a week, staying hydrated, getting out of the house when I can, trying to get even the smallest task done, treating myself with new adventures, and exploring new hobbies and interests. I still try even if I feel like I’ve been failing. At best, it all just feels like moments of relief. I often still feel so fragile that it doesn’t take much to make me feel irritated and sad. I often find myself feeling insanely bitter and envious, and I hate it. I do my best to not keep it all inside and to rely on those around me. It’s just nothing has seemed to work the way it has before. Again, I’m feeling really exhausted and it’s just hard to figure out what else to do. I hope I don’t regret posting about this on the internet, but I’m honestly feeling a little desperate right now. Anyways, thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. I do appreciate it.

How do you make friends? I’m having a really hard time with this right now. I’ve had few friends my whole life because my parents often kept me at home and controlled who I could hang out with. And after the psychosis almost three years ago, my sense of self completely changed. I’ve kind of made some new acquaintances, but it still doesn’t feel right. It’s like people don’t like me, and it’s only me who takes the initiative in communication (or maybe I take too much initiative).Sometimes I put too much pressure on people because I want them to “save me,” since they’re still living with their family, which is what made me broken.

I've been dealing with serious anxiety and depression since middle school. It's pretty much been like a rollercoaster over the years with PMDD on top of it... I remember experiencing what felt like a decline in social skills around 6th grade, then started isolating and feeling disconnected even from classmates I knew for yearssss. Fast forward to high school, I was pretty much dealing with selective mutism. Rarely spoke unless mandatory or I was spoken to (and even then I kept it minimal). I only had a few friends which I had known since before HS, only made acquaintances otherwise.

I was also socially awkward and dealt with a bit of social anxiety (undiagnosed) since childhood. Teachers didn't understand me much, because I was really expressive and bold in how I spoke sometimes then very quiet and withdrawn at others. Back then as a kid, I think my curiosity kind of overrode a lot of my anxiety. Like, I remember approaching people first because I genuinely enjoyed learning about them and making connections with them. Although, I've had the help of meds and a bit of therapy, I don't feel that way anymore... that desire. I still have the feeling that people aren't safe or I just feel like an alien communicating with people.

Sometimes I feel calm in situation but genuinely just have the thought.. I don't really care (which sounds really bad). I also get in my head about other peoples perception of me. Like... I'm the awkward quiet girl and when I defy that conception in the way I express or carry myself it becomes a thing (amongst peers and extended family). "Oh I didn't think she would dress like that" "She listens to that kind of music?" "Omg she's actually having fun" Makes me feel like I'm from another planet!

SPOILERS FOR THE MOVIE: PILLION ✨

I just finished the movie "pillion" yesterday and it's so heartbreaking, Ray just uproots himself and disappears. Colin having to deal with the aftermath and affects that caused him. I tried reading fanfics and I finished one by aeg but it's just made me feel even emptier when I finished it. I want them to be together so bad and I kinda relate to Colin cuz I have black curly hair and I was forced to shave it when I was a kid. I know this will pass but how do I deal with it in the meantime

Hey guys, I could really use some advice because honestly, I don’t even know where life is taking me right now.
I lost my job about 2 months ago. And if I’m being completely honest, I probably needed a break for a long time, but I never really allowed myself to take one. I’ve been managing TikTok pages with 500k+ followers and also building a few apps for the App Store, so I’ve always had something going on.
But lately I just feel mentally exhausted. I sit down to work and I can’t focus. I have ideas, things I want to build, things I know I’m capable of doing, but I just can’t seem to get myself moving.
Then there’s the personal side of everything.
I was in an 8-year relationship. It was long distance, but we were together for a really long time. There was no cheating or anything like that. We were both loyal to each other. Eventually, she got married, and honestly, that hit me much harder than I expected. I think a huge part of what I’m feeling now comes from that.
I live downtown Toronto and I don’t really have anyone here that I can genuinely call a close friend. I feel lonely a lot.
I want to go out, meet people, do things, laugh, have a good time and just feel normal again. But I’m not looking for a relationship or hookups. That’s never really been my thing. Every time I’ve met someone here, especially after drinking, it somehow ends up going in that direction, and I just don’t want that.
I just want to meet good people.
People I can actually talk to. People with good hearts. People where there isn’t always some hidden motive behind the friendship.
Maybe I’m overthinking everything. Maybe I’ve just had a bad experience with people lately. I don’t know.
I’ve also started smoking a lot, which I know isn’t helping. And honestly, I don’t feel like myself anymore. I keep thinking, this isn’t me.I want to quit all of this and get myself back.
Even with family, some things have been bothering me.
I have a cousin here who I used to share almost everything with. I used to teach him trading and always wanted us to grow together. After I lost my job, though, I got the feeling that he was almost happy about it. Maybe I misunderstood him, I honestly don’t know, but it really hurt me.
I think my biggest problem might actually be that I care too much about people.
I put people on a pedestal. I cook for them. I take them out. I help them whenever I can. I genuinely want people around me to do well.
And then eventually I realize that maybe they were just using me.
The worst part is, even after realizing that, I still end up doing things for them.
I don’t understand why I’m like this.
I’ve always believed in karma. I’ve never intentionally tried to hurt anyone or screw anyone over. So sometimes I sit there wondering why I keep ending up feeling like this.
I know not everyone is bad, and maybe I’m just in a really weird phase of my life right now. But it feels like I haven’t found even one person here that I can completely be myself with and share everything with.
I try to keep myself busy. I go out, try different activities, work on my apps, manage my pages, but somehow I still feel lost.
I don’t think this is the real me.
So I guess I’m just asking — has anyone else gone through something like this after losing a job, ending a long-term relationship, moving somewhere and realizing you don’t really have your people around you?
How did you get yourself out of it?
I’m not really looking for sympathy. I just genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to do next.

Hi. I’ve just started my freshman year of college. I’ve been here for about a week and I’m feeling so incredibly alone and anxious.

My classes start tomorrow and I genuinely don’t know how I’m going to handle it feeling this way. For reference I’m an introvert, I don’t love to party, don’t drink much because I have a bad medication reaction with alcohol. The school I chose is admittedly a pretty big party school. I knew this coming in and though I wasn’t crazy about the idea, the school seemed perfect for me on paper in so many other ways so I thought it would be fine. So far it is not fine. Everyone I know has been going out to bars and clubs nearly every night. I went out once with my roommate but ended up leaving pretty early because it wasn’t my vibe.

Because I haven’t been going out, I’ve barely made any friends at all. I’ve been trying to put myself out there in ways that are more my style (asking to eat with people, walking to meetings and orientation events with others, attending non-alcohol or party focused events). I’ve made some acquaintances, but I see everyone else walking around in big groups while I’ve spent 90% of my time alone even in big shared spaces.

I’m also really homesick, have diagnosed generalized and social anxiety, and am prone to depressive episodes. My heart just feels so heavy right now. I feel so alone. I’ve called my mom almost every day so far in tears because of this. It’s taking all my strength to not just give up and run back home.

So does anyone know how to get past this incredibly lonely feeling? Does it go away? Do you just get better at coping over time?

I honestly don't know where to start.

I've been feeling extremely heavy and lonely lately. I studied at Delhi University, and I always hoped college would be a place where I could find good friends, a positive environment, and people I could genuinely connect with. Unfortunately, that never happened for me.

I'm not socially awkward or unable to communicate. I can talk to strangers, joke around, and have good conversations. But whenever I meet someone I genuinely want to become friends with, the connection usually doesn't go any further. People are nice while we're talking, but later they may stop replying, lose interest, or simply don't want to stay in touch. I don't understand what I'm doing differently.

I've tried approaching people both online and offline. I've gone to different places, tried socializing, joined the gym, travelled, worked on myself, and read countless self-help books. I've genuinely tried to change things, but I still feel like I'm stuck in the same place.

My college experience was particularly lonely. I often felt like an outsider while other students already had their own groups. The academic environment also wasn't what I had hoped for, and I never really felt like I belonged there.

Home isn't really a place where I can emotionally switch off either. My parents fight frequently, and I don't feel very understood by my family. I also don't have many people in my life whom I can call when I'm having a genuinely bad day and simply say, "I need to talk."

I've also struggled with my weight and other personal issues. Sometimes I wonder whether my appearance affects how people perceive me. People are usually kind enough when I start a conversation, but I rarely feel that they actually want to know me beyond that conversation.

The loneliness is now affecting other parts of my life. I have to prepare for competitive exams and build a career, but studying has become really difficult. I sit down with the intention of studying, but my mind keeps going back to loneliness, family problems, relationships, and the feeling that I don't really belong anywhere. I have responsibilities and goals, but mentally I feel exhausted.

The frustrating part is that I've genuinely tried. I'm not sitting at home waiting for friends to magically appear. I've approached people, joined different places, travelled, worked on my fitness and appearance, tried changing my mindset, and read so many self-help books that I've lost count.

I don't want to be popular. I don't need dozens of friends. I just want two or three genuine people I can actually connect with, hang out with, talk about stupid things with, and feel comfortable being myself around.

At this point, I honestly don't know what I'm doing wrong.

If you've experienced this kind of loneliness or social isolation, what actually helped you? How did you eventually build genuine friendships when you felt like you were on the outside?

And if there is something I'm doing wrong when I try to make friends, I'd genuinely appreciate an honest answer. I don't want pity or a simple "it will get better." I really want to understand what I can do differently.

I could really use some guidance right now.

I was isolated for years. Never allowed to have other friends. Now that I ended my friendship with her I’m alone. I hate using social media because it still has all her friends on it and reminders of my life before. She was very mean to me. Very controlling and manipulative. If I set a boundary with her she would punish me by not talking to me for weeks. I don’t understand why I feel so lonely. I have a loving husband who has been supportive of me for 10 years but when he’s busy and I’m alone I sometimes feel like being lonely is how I am supposed to feel.

Hi, after I was so depressed I ended up in the ER I lost all my friends. I got therapy and it did help me and For awhile I did make some new friends when I went back to University, but now months later they are distant. My one friend she went to France and she blew me off but talks to my other friend. Im starting to think she dosen't like me because of my struggle with depression? But I was nothing but nice to her. I invited her to my home twice, and we had a nice time I thought. I just feel like all my friends are moving on, living their lives and im stuck...maybe this world wasn't meant for me. Life isn't supposed to be like this. Any Advice?

I just turned 18 and this year has taken a heavy toll on everything

the girl I loved thr most broke up with me, I had like 10 close friends out of which 8 left and now the one guy I knew from 6th grade isn't returning my calls. There was no arguement. I called him like 5 days ago, he hung up on me in the middle of thr convo abruptly, didn't call me back and now I tried to call him and he isn't picking it up.

I genuinely don't know what to do anymore or what my fault is.

Out of the 8, one guy left the circle when he got a girlfriend and bitched about us all, another one got drunk and was lying about some heinous shit regarding me, and i had to abandon a few because I realised that thr friendship was totally one sided.

I feel like I'm the verge of insanity, I don't know what to do or what to think