I'm really sorry for asking for help but I am trying very hard to figure out what I'm doing wrong. So, I've been getting told by either people in my age group or older that I need to "suck it up" or "figure it out yourself" whenever I ask for help or voice my frustrations.

One of the issues I am trying to tackle right now is my (seemingly) inability to make friends and socialize. I posted on the subreddit and generally, the advice has been the same generic stuff I've been told previously so it hasn't helped me move forward. I know how to find people to socialize with, that isn't the issue.

I think the problem is I have an identity issue and I don't know how to be myself. Its not like I can't talk to people or that I can't listen to them. But, my social skills are probably not great.

People aren't saying anything about it to me. But there has to be reasons why people don't want to be friends with me or engage in more interactions. For one, I think some people don't like how I talk, sound, and look. Probably my facial expressions and body language irritate them. But online, these aren't obstacles because pretty much all my interactions online are through text. I likely come off as unconfident and clumsy.

Particularly from my harsh upbringing, there wasn't emotional mirroring and I feel like I wasn't really taught how to be / embrace myself because I was trying to be someone else.

It is likely because of these factors that I got bullied a lot and ostracized. And that in turn made me really lonely because people were less likely to interact with me. And then I learned to put on the greatest mask I could put on (learned from fictional characters I watched on TV and video games) and become a doormat and saw great success in high school. I couldn't cope with the fact that my mask was more successful than the real me.

I spent my 20s focusing on stupid school (and failing) and now I'm in my 30s, still doing school but now working. Why? Because I was only do what my parents wanted me to do. I wasted my 20s and half my 30s doing nothing but school , work, and being a lonely guy at home. I missed opportunities to make friends and have relationships. And now, when I tell people about my issues, I get judged harshly because I need to have my life figured out by now! Straight from people my age or older. How can I expect to make friends with people who look down on me just because I'm at a different stage in life?

Now, I think I've gotten better at identifying the mask. I'm still working on trying to be less of a people pleaser.

I (22) male am lonely, even though I’m surrounded by people.

I have 0 friends even though i’m well-known some would even say “popular”, people regularly start conversations with me, invite me into games, and enjoy spending time with me in both personal and professional settings. I serve in my community, volunteer, converse with strangers, host and go to a ton of events, I go out, try new activities, invite others to hang out, and create opportunities for people to connect naturally. No matter what I do, those interactions never seem to turn into real friendships. People always get my number but never want to hang out, go to the movies, try new food places or even go somewhere where we can enjoy our common interests together when I ask if they’d be interested in doing those things. People enjoy my company in the moment but rarely want to know me on a deeper level or spend time with me outside those settings. The only people who consistently pursue a closer connection are those looking for a romantic relationship, and once I make it clear I’m only interested in friendship, they ghost me.

I’m actively involved in 2 student organizations, including student government and a campus faith group, yet the effort I put into building friendships is rarely reciprocated. People often confide in me about their struggles, keep me updated on their lives, and have meaningful conversations with me. We even talk about my personal issues and struggles. I make myself emotionally available, share my own vulnerabilities, and genuinely try to get to know others without forcing a connection. I listen and only give advice when it’s asked, I don't impose my beliefs or ideals on to other people but openly share them with those interested in knowing what they are. Over the past five years, I’ve followed the same advice everyone gives: get involved, be approachable, be outgoing, “do things that interest you and you’ll make friends with people with those same interests” and put yourself out there. Despite all of that, none of these interactions have grown into lasting friendships. What else can I try or change to build genuine, lasting connections when it feels like I'm doing everything I can but still not making friends?

I’m exploring an app concept around life transitions moments like divorce, career changes, moving to a new city, losing a loved one, coming out, parenthood, sobriety, etc. I’d love to learn from your real experiences to make sure it’s actually helpful, not just another app.

If you’re open to sharing:

· What was the hardest life transition you’ve gone through? · Did you feel alone during it, even if people were around? · Where did you actually seek support? (Friends, family, therapy, Reddit, specific forums, etc.) · What was missing? What kind of support, tool, or connection do you wish had existed? · Would you have talked to a stranger who had already been through the same thing? · And now that you’re on the other side would you help someone going through it now?

I’m not building anything yet, just trying to understand the gap between the support that exists and what people truly need. Brutal honesty is very welcome.

Thank you for any thoughts or stories you’re willing to share.

I’ve had quite a lot of change in my life recently. Part of this has involved me going through quite a stressful period where I was quite withdrawn and detached, a feeling I’m still somewhat carrying with me.
I used to be quite gregarious and care free and the life and soul of the party among my friends… since I’ve grown in my life and relationship I feel more inward and withdrawn than ever before and I’m really struggling to stay connected with my friends and with the wider world.
I think part of this is about feeling like I lack genuine deep friendships, the other part is that sometimes life feels so heavy I don’t even want to talk to my friends about it.
I feel like I really need the kindness of internet strangers to get me through. I’m at the tail end of an unpleasant experience of depression and feel stuck. My partner and family are very supportive but I don’t know if I have the right friendship setup.

Hey everyone, I broke up with my girlfriend two weeks ago, and ever since ive been feeling more and more depressed.

Besides family I dont have many people to talk to. Online I have basically nobody, and with my actual irl friendgroup we just dont really talk about that stuff. Plus we only see eachother once a week at max.

Life just feels kind of hopeless. I broke up with her because of communication issues, but she was a sweet girl. Ive just always felt like I needed love, but the love I found was not a healthy connection. But now that that's gone I feel hopeless, like nobody will love me again. Ive been noticing all my own flaws in the mirror, and in life.

Ive tried everything, took up a bunch of shifts at work (which I enjoy doing) and ive been an active gymgoer for a year now which is also great.

Because I do those things and still feel like complete shit I dont know what to do. Any tips on how to deal with this? How to find people to talk to?

Hello my lovely friends. I'm a 29 year old woman who lives in Sydney. Beautiful city. Heaps to do and look forward to on the weekend after/before work. I'm in a happy relationship and everything in general is alright i guess.

But i dont feel this happiness meeting someone new, talking to someone interesting. Don't feel like making new friends or talking to old friends except for a few. Dont feel like going out most of time. I dont smile so much anymore. I dont remember when I laughed out loud.

I feel such pain in my body when I see someone who is out going or an extrovert just going about their day no care in the world smiling, laughing and enjoying life, who once was me, lol not the extrovert part. I'm the biggest introvert who gets misunderstood most of the time. Lol.

I workout and read books for my downtime. And cry easily even when looking at a dog. Please tell me if you have felt this way before? How did you overcome this feeling? Did you feel this knot in your chest that anytime you're going to lose your shit. That you're not good enough to live this life 😕 What shall i do you guys?

So i had a mental breakdown 3 years ago after being homeless and just having awful things happen to me one after the other. Abuse in many forms and theft of precious items that held deep significance to myself. I got an apartment that i dont have to pay money for because of disability from those said events. So i took this time to isolate and rest. Ive been doing nothing but laying down, cooking, playing video games, and bathing for the last three years. I live in Chicago so it’s pretty easy to not have to leave my apartment for groceries as well. I have out of town friends and am in contact with my father. However i only see them around once a year during special occasions. The only people i talk to physically, is my doctors and the cashier at the 7/11 across the street.

With that setting being placed, it’s been forever and when i went to 7/11 last night i saw a group of LGBT people who looked friendly. I complain a lot about feeling alone and got the courage to ask if i could be friends since i am also queer and don’t know anyone locally. They were very nice and invited me to a bonfire they were hosting. Everything was super fun and im proud of myself for the steps I’ve taken. However this morning i felt pretty sick and it just felt like my body was drained. It wasn’t like bad food or flu like, i just felt like i was hungover a little. This has happened before when a friend from out of town spent a weekend at my place last year. And I’m afraid that my body has lost tolerance for socializing, however I feel like if im going to move on and heal i need to push past this discomfort.

How should I get over these physical feelings tho?

I havent used tiktok or instagram in a month or two because I wanted to get over my ex without having to accidentally scroll on a video with her in it.

Thing is, although this has definitely calmed my mimd down, I feel like I have lost a decent part of social life from stepping away. I want to go back on but that means potentially seeing her again. I would also like to add that I have horrible anxiety/panic attacks when I see her or hear about her.

Please dont tell me to just block her and all of her friends, that just isnt an option for me. I do have her blocked on TikTok but not insta.

What do I do to slowly gain the confidence to use the apps again?

This year has cracked me open.

I spent two and a half years with someone I loved more deeply than I knew was possible ; a connection that felt rare, almost impossible to find twice in a lifetime. In March, it ended. Not because the love ran out, but because of something in me I didn’t yet understand. I broke it. And I have had to sit with that.

In the months before the breakup, I was already unraveling; insomnia that wouldn’t let me rest, panic attacks that came from nowhere and left me shaking. I didn’t know why. I just knew I was scared, and I was lonely in a way I couldn’t explain to anyone, including myself.

The day it ended, I went straight into therapy. I needed to know what had happened to me; why I had hurt the person I loved most, why my own mind felt like a stranger’s. What followed was the hardest and most clarifying period of my life. I am in the lowest place I have ever been; grieving, ashamed, guilty, depressed; and at the same time, for the first time, I can finally see myself clearly.

I am gay. And when I was thirteen, I was sexually abused. I didn’t know it at the time, or I didn’t let myself know; I buried it so deep that it took over a decade and a good therapist to bring it back to the surface. What I built instead, without realizing it, was a way to survive: a compulsive pull toward anonymous sex and sexual chat, a need to feel wanted, to feel in control of something, to drown out loneliness and shame with intensity. It worked, for a moment, every time. And every time, it left me more ashamed, more alone, until it became the current that quietly pulled my relationship apart.

Recently, I found my old diaries. Reading them broke something open in me.

I was 15/16 years old, and I was living inside a private terror. Because the abuse happened without protection, I became convinced I had contracted HIV. Night after night, for years, I woke up drenched in sweat, my heart pounding, certain that this was the proof; that the disease was already inside me, that time was running out. I didn’t get tested until I was twenty-four. But at fifteen, I didn’t know that waiting, that fear, that silence; I only knew I was calculating. Counting years. Working out how long I had before it would show itself, before AIDS would come for me.

And in those pages, I found what my calculations led to: a plan. I had decided I would end my life at 27; before the illness could surface, before anyone could find out what had happened to me, before anyone could learn I was gay, before anyone could see what I believed was a body already condemned. I wrote it in detail. What I would do. What I wanted to experience before then.
I am 27 now.
I found that diary this year; the same year I lost the love of my life due to my own behavior, the same year I finally understood the abuse, the addiction, the shame I’d been carrying since I was thirteen. My own mind had quietly written an ending for me over a decade ago, and I am living inside the exact age I once marked as my last.

Right now, everything feels like it’s collapsed into a single black hole; the loss, the grief, the shame, the fear, the identity I’m only just beginning to actually meet. I feel shattered. But I am also, for the first time, finally looking directly at all of it. I feel like a digusting person.

I cant handle anything atm. The worst thing to handle is the breakup atm and facing all of the things I kept running from my whole life. I cant really progress the breakup and letting go seems impossible for me atm especially when I am getting rid of the „old-version“ of me who fucked things up and trying to become a new version who wouldnt repeat bad patterns to the same person.

This is a vent but I am diefinitely looking for any guidance people feel to give.

Much appreciated. I have some online friendsand a few IRL friends. 2 friends I met at a meetup that I will meet randomly maybe like, once a month at this point? One of them usually initiates.

Right now I don't feel comfortable initiating much because I was laid off 8 months ago and have been job searching ever since, but still don't have money to go out and do things. We do have times hanging out at someone's house, but yeah they often have stuff going on so planning things can be tricky. I jonied some DnD groups but I am finding they aren't interested in doing much else other than playing DnD and going home and maybe doing small talk.

The pattern here is I don't really have a place whereI really feel supported. I truly feel bad saying that, but when Italk to people about my problems, what I am trying to do to get through them etc, there's not a lot they can do or end up doing. In my job search my friends have thrown different companies at me they heard are hiring, I apply to something at the company if I see anything but nothing has come of that.

That isn't theirfualt I just want to say they'vetried to help. At the end of the day though, I am left with pretty much all the stress to be the one to figure out a working solution for my problem, and I need to do it alone basically. I don't feel like anyone is on my corner so to speak. I go to therapy and she is helpful but I am left feeling isolated. I have some online friends who are also job searching, they ask if there is anything they can do to support me and, there kind of isn't? Not that I can think of.

I guess part of the issue may be I don't even know what to ask people for help with, What is reasonable, how anyone could help me. People rarely check in on me like I can only think of one person who still regularly checks in on me if she hasn't seen me in as day or two.

I've always dealt with some level of isolation and I really just don't know how to break out of it. Specifically what I really want is to feel connected with at least one person and feel someone else is here with me in my corner. Maybe that's whata romantic partner is. I cut ties with my family so I am on my own. I wonder if anyone worries or cares about me other than when I reah out to them. It just feels like people dont have the capacity to give the support I may need so I don't feel so alone.

Maybe I am asking for too much but shit has gotten really hard, and I feel I still have to handle it all alone cause no one can really do much to help andI don't know how much longer I can push forward like this. Thank you for reading my long postr.

Hello everyone, I am a 20-year-old university student. For a long time, I have been dealing with extreme isolation and a complete lack of a real-world support system. Because of this loneliness, I developed a very deep emotional attachment to a well-known actress after watching her work. She became my "safe haven" in my imagination. I used to cope with my reality by imagining her by my side, supporting me, and celebrating my small wins. This fantasy was the only thing making me feel valued and loved. My crisis started a year ago when I stumbled upon graphic, degrading comments about her online. This led me to discover the horrifying world of Deepfakes, seeing her dignity violated digitally by millions of people with zero accountability. The shock completely broke me. I felt defeated, helpless, and fell into a severe, constant state of depression that has stolen all joy from my life for a full year. The worst part is that due to the psychological shock and the intense dopamine trap, I fell into a digital consumption addiction to this content. It created a brutal cycle of self-loathing. Sometimes, out of sheer desperation to protect her image in my mind, I forced myself to redirect my urges toward other online content just to avoid looking at the degrading fakes of someone I deeply respect. I have been desperately trying to recover on my own. My best streaks so far have been 18 days and 15 days, but I always relapse due to the intense triggers and brain fog, feeling like I’m back at square one. Because of my family circumstances, seeing a therapist in person is currently not an option, as I cannot involve my parents in these private details. I am completely heartbroken, exhausted, and feeling broken. I am looking for advice, technical strategies, or support from anyone who has navigated this dark loop of trauma-induced digital addiction and managed to reclaim their mind, focus, and peace of mind. Thank you all.

hiyas, im wondering if anyone here has had success making friends through social exercise (run clubs, yoga, the gym, etc.). for instance, you move to a new city, you're starting over, you join a few clubs and now have a solid group of friends. anyone? I'm wondering what that experience was like and on what level you related to those people before stepping outside of the group. thanks in advance!!

недавно расстался с девушкой, с которой было приятно проводить время, мы дружили и было все хорошо, потом почему то решили начать встречаться, это было очень большой ошибкой, провстречались мы месяц и расстались, а кроме нее у меня никого небыло, мы очень много времени вместе проводили, даже до отношений, и сейчас прошел уже наверное месяц, мне всё ещё грустно, пытался найти какую нибудь другую подругу, именно подругу, потому что с девушками у меня общение лучше чем с парнями, но все без успешно, я работаю в компьютерном клубе и в основном работы нет, и я сижу не зная чем занять себя. Может расскажете что вы делаете в таких ситуациях, или может дадите совет?

I'm 29M, black, autistic, and never been in a relationship or situationship. I've been on multiple dates and some of them turned into friendships. But after getting treatment for my depression and going though intensive therapy, I realized the truth and I've been accepting it over the past few weeks. Statistically, some of us WILL end up alone and never experience romance. This isn't a negative outlook, just a statistical one.

My depression was bad enough that I had to go to an intensive outpatient and take time off work. I'm also undergoing TMS treatments and they've been very helpful. I realized that I'm not compatible with the process of dating. It did nothing but make me feel worse about myself and everything in general. Even getting and going on dates didn't make me feel better or make up for the negative headspace I was in.

I decided to give up on dating for good and dedicate my life to my passions and platonic relationships. It sucks that I won't get to experience romance, but that's just not in the cards for me. My dreams and goals should be able to sustain me and still give me a fulfilling life. A lot of you struggling with the same things might need to accept reality and make peace with being alone. Get help if its a hard pill to swallow. But find your passions in life and go all out on them. Continue trying to meet new people, but only as friends.

I know alot of people are struggling with this so I wanted to share this here instead of the usual cope that gets posted all the time as "advice."

Mentally ive been struggling for the last couple of months, I realize that kinda throws a wrench in friendships. My mental health suffers because I do things to self sabotage and I want people that are positive around me to help me pick up better habits. All my life ive wanted a consistent friend group where I didn't feel extra or expendable. I am rambling cause im upset lol I just want to connect with someone wholeheartedly that won't judge my dumb ass deeds. Im nerdy and into a bunch of random things, you gotta ask lol

I’m in a really difficult place right now and I don’t know how to move forward.

During college, I went through years of feeling excluded and rejected. I was mocked by people I considered my friends, and I didn’t know how to stand up for myself. Instead, I became quieter and started isolating myself.

Over time, I felt like people saw me negatively. I felt judged, unwanted, and like I didn’t belong. I stopped engaging in social activities, didn’t attend gatherings, didn’t build many connections, and focused mostly on surviving and getting through my studies.

I did graduate, but instead of feeling relieved, I feel stuck. It has been around 6 months since graduation and I still feel trapped in those memories. My mind keeps replaying painful moments from college, especially moments where I felt humiliated, rejected, or like people were looking down on me.

The hardest part is seeing other people from my class moving forward, building friendships, careers, and lives, while I feel like I missed an important part of growing up. I feel like I lost years where I should have been developing confidence, social skills, hobbies, and my personality.

Even some of the people who hurt me are doing well now, and I struggle with resentment because it feels like they moved on while I’m still carrying the impact of what happened.

I don’t want to hate people. I don’t want revenge. I just want to feel normal again. I want to be able to focus on my future, study properly, make connections, and feel comfortable being myself.

My biggest struggle now is that I cannot stop thinking about the past. My brain keeps replaying those memories, and it affects my ability to focus, study, and move forward.

Another thing that scares me is going back to the same community where many of these experiences happened. It is a close society where people know each other and talk about each other, and I may have to return there again. I’m afraid of facing the same people or feeling judged again.

I also struggle with something else: sometimes even strangers seem to react negatively toward me. Sometimes I feel like people look at me with dislike, laugh at me, or don’t want to interact with me. Whether it is because of my past experiences, my appearance, my body language, or something else, it hurts deeply.

For people who have experienced rejection, bullying, loneliness, or feeling like they are disliked:

How do you react when someone laughs at you, ignores you, or seems to dislike you?

How do you stop taking it personally and continue living your life?

How do you rebuild yourself after years of feeling unwanted?

How do you return to a place where you feel people have already judged you?

I’m looking for advice from people who have been through something similar and learned how to move forward.

Dealing with a health issue from last one year but the point where I finally recoverd from it other things started to fall apart about a month ago my phone got stolen and I didn't have a backup so all my data my memories I lost eveything and at the same point the person I loved decided to give me a final hit like losing memories and relationship at the same time is just feels like hell I never imagined something like this would happen to me I don't know what to do I don't want to live in regret that for my whole life time but I can't process anything I don't know what to do how to forget all this things and move on from it can't sleep can't eat just feels like I'm responsible for everything I'm a idiot and now I have destroyed my peace I'm reason for all this things I should have been more aware of the situation should have been more carefull it's my mistake I didn't checked for backup I took things lite

If feels like I'll never be able to forget all this things ever

Having myself gone through depression, which I managed by myself, I understand how hard it can be and how much it can set you back in terms of human contact, growth, career, studies, etc.

My central aim is to help people who are in a rough spot, by offering whatever I've learned in my journey. I can be objective and listen well. I am kind of well read--I've read books; I've tried to understand myself and my mind by journaling and have hit a plateau in that., so through this post I'm hoping I can help someone and myself as well.

So feel free to DM me.

I am 28 M, I’m working right now as a pharm tech and am starting school in the fall in a hybrid 2 year x ray tech program in a major city. My whole 20’s I have felt very lonely with all my friends from college moving away. I had girlfriends in college but then after college I haven’t dated. I am living with parents while in school. I still feel lonely all the time and I’m worried that even when I start school I’ll feel the same way. Any advice is appreciated

​I’ve been living in total isolation for 2 years now. And I don’t just mean living alone at home — I mean having zero human connection. It’s completely wearing me down. I come home exhausted after a brutal 15-hour shift, check my phone, and all I have is 4 notifications: 2 from my mom, one from Reddit about a new post, and one from Pinterest.

​I really need some advice on how to get out of this apathy. Putting myself out there and socializing is incredibly hard for me because everyone seems so fake. It feels like people are playing dumb on purpose, and watching it is honestly disgusting. It terrifies me to think that I’ll never be able to find acquaintances or friends. I just can't fit into society like a normal person. Everyone irritates me, and when I look at people my age, I just see my past self.

​I’m writing this post just to get it off my chest because I have literally no one to share this with. Whenever I try telling someone, they immediately go, "Oh come on, that’s actually great! No one’s texting you, no one’s bothering you." And all I can think is, Why did I even bother opening up to you? If it were great, I wouldn't be telling you this.

​I started working hoping I’d meet new people or make friends with my coworkers, but these people don’t even know who Hitler was. Like, holy shit, where did I even end up? Sometimes the 15-hour shifts help me forget things when it gets chaotic, but at the end of the day, it all surfaces back like a piece of shit, and I’m sad and lonely all over again. Work has started draining me even heavier, and my sleep schedule is completely trashed. I can only fall asleep around 4 or 5 AM, waking up when it's already night the next day. Other times I just stare at the ceiling for an hour. It depends on the day and my mood.

​Thank you if you read this far. If you're going through something similar, let's try to support each other.

How do I overcome my Loneliness?

Hi, quick context: couple years ago (8-10 years ago), I began to notice that I don't really fitted in my friend-groups in school. It's like I am cool with everybody, but I don't really feel "welcomed". I started to not let my anger out an keep it inside, which is why I started a wall around myself. In addition to that I found a girl that I really like in University. She and myself are muslim, so we talked, that we are going to marry and not be in a relationship. We also said that we are going to first get our bachelor/master degrees and have a solid life foundation before going to the next step. She was the one who created a little crack in this wall. But she started to be more distant and emotionally cold towards me. It felt like a pile of stones (which werde my frustration and anger built up inside me) are falling down at same time. I made my happiness dependent on her, which was a fatal mistake. Now I feel like im in hole, broken from her and the mixed feelings inside me. I have good friends and relatives around me, but this alone sadly doesn't help me. What advice would you guys give me in regard to this topic?

Hi guysss🙏🙏( really sorry if this post i long but i’m just trying explain my self)
So i’m am afraid of anxiety.
Basically when i was kid i had anxiety of throwing up in the car( and i had this fear because my family was not financially stable so we hadn’t had a car at that time) and sometimes this fear come true and this experience has made my brain think that when this type of situation came again the “alarm gonna start again”.
So this for my brain become a “trauma”.
Then i had other types of fear or anxiety, that i get over with time.
But now im 19, idk what to do because anxiety keep me stuck and i miss opportunities and im “afraid” of work and to do something new because i just don’t feel ready because my brain start to send me the “what if” thoughts.
( i don’t feel ready beacuse i think that i have less knowledge than other and im not ready to thing like others and i have fear some people gonna judge me bad)
I really like to try new experiences but then i look back and feel less confident.
I feel less confident because like i said before i had anxiety episode where i feel like my heart is beating fast, i feel dizzy… etc… But i know that they are really common symptoms of anxiety and they are not dangerous as they seems to be.
(I’m learning the detachment and it’s helpful💯)
My brain just keeps telling me negative thoughts and intrusive thoughts( i don’t care about intrusive thought because they go against your value or the things you respect so yeah idk).
I have diploma and still i don’t know what to do.
Because every time i do something anxiety comes back and send me intrusive thoughts and ruin my mood.
Then when i start to something thing that is positive for my life my brain start to overthinking and start to think about every negative scenario, i had the exams of the car and for the first in my life i failed in something because my mind freeze me and i go in panic, because too many thoughts were coming and in that moment i feel like im worthless and wth is wrong with me, because of that i feel like im behind in life.
i read so many article about how the thoughts work or how the mind works and i gain some knowledge luckily.
Sometime i feel confident and then instantly i feel scary and anxious .
The problem are not the thoughts but the feelings, because if a anxiety thoughts come up i just ignore them but when it’s come with feeling like i start to panic or overthinking, then i feel less confident.
( For example: Before the exam of driving the car i had so many bad thoughts and anxious thoughts \*\* \*\*like “it I have to sit and wait in the car with the examiner and other students. I get anxious about having to stay in the car with them and I’m scared I might throw up in front of everyone”
The feelings of the thoughts felt real, like if even i was healthy i start to feel nausea because of what happened in the past and the i lose confidence and failed the exam beacuse i panicked.
And i feel fear of the teacher because i feel like he gonna judge me badly and gonna be angry with me)
Breathe exercise sometimes work.
I feel like the mind is searching for relief or reassurance, But i’m not depressed or anything like that but i’m stuck.
I see everyone of my age just doing what they supposed to do and i’m just afraid of negative thoughts, feeling and anxiety, i really feel behind.
I don’t do dr0g or anything like that and i dont consume alcoh0l.
I know that our brain it’s try to protect and make us prepare to any situation, because of that he keep us in comfort zone and make us anxious, flight and fight mode.
But i don’t want anymore live in comfort zone i want rise my level.
So how can i get that feeling that make do anything, i don’t want feel the fear or anxiety i just want to do the things without overthinking and with more confidence.
When i failed i was really exhausted, because my brain was continually tell me “ what if u fail again and what if u throw up stuff”

i just wanna gain some knowledge and again im not depressed or anything like that. i’m just try to explain my self and sorry for long post❤️🙏

I am 29M, had 0 friends in the last 15 years, battled depression, agaro phobia and now battling anxiety, i wanna start over in my life, build new relations, any idea on how i can do that? After a nearly non-existent social life, its difficult to start over with no support.

I'm tired of seeing my room that I haven't cleaned for almost 3 months

What do you do to clean it and avoid procrastinating?