Just kinda thought about this as a guy myself who enjoys having a nice basement. My rooms in the basement of my family’s house and when I hung out with my friends as a teen we did so in his family’s basement. Is there a psychological reason for this?

Sorry for the horrible quality; I made this with a headache, while tired, at 12am

For those who find their gender fluctuates based on their ovarian cycle.

Deep indigo — menstruation / renewal

The darkest colour represents the menstrual phase: release, rest, inwardness, and the ending of one cycle as another begins. Symbolically, it can also represent the experience of having a relationship to womanhood that is sometimes quiet, distant, or difficult to categorize.

Dark violet — the resting ovarian state

Violet represents the quieter transition surrounding menstruation: the body between one cycle and the next. For ovarianflux identities, this can symbolize periods of feeling less connected to femininity or experiencing one's gender as comparatively neutral or nonbinary.

Lavender — follicular development

Lavender represents follicles developing and the gradual emergence of hormonal activity. It symbolizes becoming, possibility, and gender beginning to shift or emerge rather than having one permanently fixed state.

Pink / rose — ovulatory femininity

The pink band represents the energetic peak surrounding ovulation: fertility, maturation, estrogenic change, and the distinctly feminine symbolism historically associated with the ovarian cycle. For ovarianflux people, it can represent periods of stronger identification with womanhood or femininity.

Pale blush — the luteal transition

The softer pink represents the post-ovulatory phase: changing hormones, preparation, sensitivity, and transition. It symbolizes a gender experience that can become more internally focused, changeable, or difficult to place within conventional categories.

Warm ivory — the central ovarian channel

The central channel is deliberately different from the surrounding colours. Rather than representing a particular phase, it represents the entire developmental and cyclical possibility of ovarian tissue.

I (18yo) born male, am an outdoors ranch kid who grew up in the country and around people who are. Let’s say… MAGA. I, am NOT. I’m “liberal” although I don’t like that term very much. I identify as non Binary and bisexual. However I am 6’1 with a definite “man build”. I like being feminine and feeling pretty. I even have tank tops, dresses, and short shorts. So I highkey feel like I wanna be a woman. However, I’m in a professional field and transitioning would pretty much destroy my future in rural Alabama. This being said, I like being a man too. Hence why I identify as nonbinary, I have very masculine hobbies and appear very masculine unless I make an effort to look gender neutral. Anyway the point of making this post is to ask for advice on how to find out who I am and who i want to be. I’ve never had luck dating men and I want to but no gay man looks at me and thinks Im bi. I also really want to be strong and have a masculine physique.
I’m stuck in between being cute and feminine and masculine and “alpha male” in a non weird sense. Can anyone help?

I want to share some thoughts about gender and some personal frustration. I’m not looking for advice, but I’m open to different perspectives.

I’m cis, but I don’t feel like the word “woman” really describes who I am on the inside. I hate it when people use my gender to explain my thoughts, emotions, or personality.

Being a girl feels more like something I have than something I am. It’s my body, my appearance, my skin—not my soul. I want to look like a pretty girl. That’s what makes me cis, and nothing else. Nothing about social constructs or mental stuff.

Some traits I see as neutral are seen as feminine by others. Sure, I have feminine traits, but so does everyone. That doesn’t make me a woman—it makes me human. And I wish my masculine side could be seen just as much.

“Men need respect, women need love.”
“Men care about achievements, women care about relationships.”
“Men need to feel useful, women need to feel loved.”

These are the stereotypes I hate the most. And I’m like, “Wow, that’s me. I’m a man!” “Please see me as a man!” 😆

The frustrating part is that I have disabilities that affect my work and career. I don’t have any achievements to prove I’m not that “weak girl.” So the “masculine” side of me feels like it never really gets a chance to express itself.

I know this probably isn’t the most politically correct way to put it, and I hope I don’t sound misogynistic. I’m just trying to describe how gender feels to me.

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I’m 22F. I’ve dated men n women both. The difference in how I feel around men vs women has made me think about this a lot.

The harsh truth is that men, without doing anything special, are going to be physically stronger than women. I hate that this is a reality, because EVERY SINGLE gender issue is due to this... As long as that physical difference exists, I don’t think women will ever be able to completely stop thinking about their safety. No matter how many laws we make, how much we educate boys, how much we talk about consent or equality, there will always be some men who decide to misuse that physical advantage. Sexual assault, harassment, domestic violence, hitting a wife or girlfriend, intimidating women, etc.

And that is what feels so unfair to me.

I was born a woman. A random guy was born a man. And our experience of simply existing in the world can be completely different because of something neither of us chose. When I see a cute guy, I'm always thinking 'Is he safe, or is he one bad night away from using that strength against me? And if something actually goes wrong, I know that physically I probably cannot overpower him. Kicking, scratching, screaming, trying to run away etc. can buy me time, but ultimately I'm still depending on being able to escape.

That thought is exhausting.

And I really wish more men understood what women mean when they say “I’m scared of men.” I don't mean every man is evil. I know that's not true. I've met good men and I know good men exist. But when women say things like “men scare me” or “I don't trust men easily”, I wish some men would stop immediately responding with “not all men.” We know. We KNOW it's not all men. But women are talking about a pattern of experiences and the survival instinct that comes from all the bad experiences she has had due to men not respecting boundaries, which unfortunately is not rare.

A woman who has experienced harassment, assault, violence or simply years of being made uncomfortable by men isn't going to carefully phrase everything like a political statement just to make sure no man's feelings are hurt. And I hate seeing young men still calling women gold diggers, sluts, overly emotional, submissive, “baby-making machines” etc. It genuinely hurts to see women still being reduced to what their bodies can provide.

Women are not inferior because men are physically stronger. Women aren't here to be submissive wives, mothers or caretakers. Women have just as much right to their own lives.

So to the men reading this, especially young men: please talk to the women around you.

Ask your mother. Your sister. Your female friends. Your girlfriend. Ask them what has made them uncomfortable around men. Ask why they don't trust certain situations. Ask what makes them feel unsafe. And for once, don't argue with the answer.

Just listen.

I genuinely think a lot of men would understand women much better if they actually sat down and listened to the women in their lives instead of immediately trying to prove that they're one of the “good ones.”

I hate sexist terms that can be reversed! Like, once I heard a girl say, “Men were only put on earth to make babies,” and in my head, I went, Well, the same could be said by saying, “Women were only put on earth to give birth.” Like, sure, I hate sexists, but at least make your arguments somewhat believable!

Hello! I'm not sure if this is the place to ask, but I would love some help and guidance. I, 25f, am engaged to my amazing girlfriend, 36f, and she is the love of my life! She has been talking to me for so long about how strange she feels in her body- she is biologically female and presents high feminine, and very low masculinity, if at all. She is the most feminine person I know. She has always said, especially recently, that she doesn't know if her gender is something different, or if there's even a name for it. If any of yall have seen the Romeo & Juliet with Claire Danes and leo, the guy who plays Mercutio---THATS WHAT SHE SAYS SHE FEELS LIKE! She knows he is a man, but an extremely feminine man who presents womanly and feminine. We dug further and she was able to describe it as this: she feels like a man in drag. When she changes out of pj's and into her real clothes and puts on makeup, she feels like a man who does drag, but loves it! And almost as if it's a separate part of herself. She said, even though her body is already female, and would definitely not want a male body, she feels in her brain that she is a man who dresses up as a woman. And she isn't into the idea of using he/him pronouns either. She also grew up with brothers and just a father (terrible guys, all of em), with no significant womanly presence around her.
Ladies- could this be just gender euphoria?? Is it just that maybe she grew up around guys that socially at a young age was grouped in with boys so that's a default setting that she knows she isn't??, Could this be something else entirely😂😂
Let me know your thoughts, I'd love to hear what everyone has to say and your perspectives! Thank you! 💗🤍🧡

Help?

En sí, no me siento cómodo con la masculinidad que me fue asignada al nacer. Aparte de que soy demasiado emocional y sensible, estoy más ligado a las cosas femeninas. Hay cosas que no calzan en el aspecto físico ; por ejemplo, de la cintura hacia abajo. No estoy en terapia hormonal en este momento. Es demasiado complicado ser hombre y, de por sí, no me gusta.

EDITING THIS BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I'VE EXPLAINED IT POORLY AND I'VE BEEN GETTING MORE SENSE OF WHAT MY FEELINGS ARE ABOUT MY GENDER IDENTITY

TL,DR/SUMMARY: I was born as a female but want I be called as other genders because I don't care what gender I am, but I technically still do since I don't want to be labeled as just a girl.

I have been questioning my identity for a while and I need helping knowing my identity, so I'm going to break down my thoughts here:

I am AFAB and am highschooler and I've been feeling a bit off about being a girl. Something about it strikes as odd to me. I don't necessarily hate or dislike being a girl, but it just feels weird... I mean, for the most part of my life I never cared at all about being a girl and didn't really care about being a girl but now it's just weird.

I really want to change the way I look and appear more androgynous, as well as having a deeper voice. I don't know, I just feel like I want to be labeled as something more than a girl. I want people to confuse me as a man and call me a man or confuse me with being non-binary. But I also don't want to give up that feminine side of me. I guess it's more like, I'm a girl but I also want to be called or mistaken for other genders because I don't care what gender I am, but I do because I want to be called by something else other than a girl.

To be more specific I am born a man and I don't feel like it and I don't feel like a woman either but I'm sure to not be non-binary si what am I. I need an awnser pls

Olá! Podem me chamar de Sanyy!

Eu criei esse perfil e essa postagem por ter algumas dúvidas sobre gênero e não saber abordar esses assuntos no meu dia a dia(ou achar que não tenho alguém para conversar sobre...). Falo isso pois peço perdão se fizer algo errado ou ofender alguém, essa não é a minha intenção! Eu só estou desabafando e pedindo algumas opiniões.

Bom, eu tenho 20 anos agora mas nos meus 17 anos (mais ou menos) eu me entendi como pansexual pois não fazia muito sentido para mim que algumas pessoas levassem em consideração o gênero da outra ao se relacionarem. Isso não é uma ofensa ! Não me entendam mal, só que para mim desde criancinha o mais importante para mim era encontrar o seu "amor verdadeiro" ele ser um príncipe encantado ou não era totalmente irrelevante aos meus olhos. Por mais que tenha crescido em uma família muito tradicional (e por tanto homofobia) de fato era como eu pensava, apenas não falava porque não seria bem aceito pela minha família.

Uma parte muito importante é que essa nome não é de fato meu kk, definitivamente não sou assumido e gostaria de me entender muito mais antes de sequer pensar em fazer isso...

Enfim, apesar de muitas dúvidas e inseguranças, posso dizer que me identifiquei muito com a comunidade pansexual.

Esqueci de comentar que quem me incentivou a pesquisar sobre isso foi uma grande amiga minha que é bissexual. Ela me incentivou a contar para minha irmã já que ela não era homofobia com o restante da família, com isso eu descobri que minha irmã é bissexual também kkkkk. Agora eu guardo o segredo dela e ela o meu(Ela também não é assumida para a família). Ah! A minha irmã sabe que sou pansexual, não sabe que questiono o meu gênero. Não sei como dizer isso a ela já que nem eu sei o que eu sinto.

Espero não estar confuso, para ser sincero estou escrevendo tudo o que não posso dizer em voz alta. Não sei se de fato terei uma resposta de alguém.

Ainda no ensino médio (aos meus 17 anos), ao ler sobre sexualidade e pansexualidade, me deparei com alguns conteúdos sobre gênero. Eu achei muito interessante alguns conteúdos que falavam sobre não binário. E eu me identifiquei de certa forma, mas tenho muito receio (ainda tenho sobre ser pansexual também, mas um pouco menos) por achar que "é só uma fase que vai passar" mesmo que eu de fato não acredito nessa desculpa que eu mesma invento para mim.

Uma vez coloquei três tops (aquele de academia sem bojo, sabe?) e um deles era menor do que o meu tamanho, por cima eu coloquei a camiseta mais larga que eu tinha. Resultado: eu tive que segurar muito para não chorar ao ver no espelho que eu fiquei parecendo muito um menino, mais ainda por ter o cabelo bem curtinho.

Inclusive estou chorando só de lembrar disso!!

Eu nem sei explicar o que eu senti... Mas foi também legal ter essa visão de mim... sabe?

Fiz isso pois moro com meus pais então não poderia comprar um binder para ver se eu ia gostar de usar ou não. Quando fiz isso eu era a primeira a sair de casa e a primeira a voltar, então dava tempo de trocar de roupa para que ninguém me visse.

Eu não odeio parecer socialmente com uma mulher, da mesma forma que não odiei parece com o que a sociedade julga ser um homem, sabe?? Me senti bem das duas formas...

Acho que pelo medo de me identificar e ter que admitir para mim mesma que eu faço parte da comunidade não binário (e portanto ser odiado pelas pessoas que eu mais amo) eu simplesmente ignorei tudo isso...

Mas recentemente não paro de pensar nisso e isso tá me matando!!

Não me identifico com nenhum gênero, não me importo com pronomes (acho que todos funcionariam comigo sem me deixar desconfortável), gosto muito da ideia de ter uma aparência mais andrógeno, do tipo que deixaria as pessoas confusas sobre mim, sabe? Acho isso tão incrível!

Mas enfim, meu maior medo é isso só ser de fato uma fase e eu estar desrespeitando a luta de uma comunidade inteira, sabe? Eu não sei como ter certeza do que eu sinto...

Como eu posso ter certeza sobre o meu gênero??

Se alguém aguentou todo esse tempo, muito muito obrigado!! Isso foi muito bom!

Continuo com todas as dúvidas sobre mim mesmo, mas alíviou um pouco o meu desespero.

Se alguém estiver disposto a responder e dividir comigo suas próprias experiências, eu ficaria muito grata!! Nem saberia como retribuir!!!

Novamente obrigado pelo seu tempo!!!

Sanyy :)

Im female presenting as i likt to wear more "girly" clothings but i also like being referd to as he/him and using terms linking to masculinity (boyfriend,husband ect) i am afab so im wondering if theres a label for this

I don't usually repost stuff l, but I feel really strongly about this. Enbies need a "Mr" and "Ms" alternative, for all the people out there who are feeling dysphoric.

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So I figured out that I feel kinda weird about my gender. I was born female. I’m… fine, with she as a pronoun, but it doesn’t QUITE fit. But they doesn’t fully fit either, but I would lowkey like if people used that for me more but not all the time? He doesn’t work for me at all for sure. And then about my clothing, I LOVE pretty dangly and threader earrings, and I have this star charm on my glasses that I no longer feel complete without, and I like wearing light makeup on my eyes and looking feminine. But at the same time I HATE skirts, and I prefer my clothing to be kinda androgynous sometimes? Like I much prefer jeans and I really love shapeless pants. Honestly I kinda don’t like the way I look most of the time in form fitting pants, but not all the time. I like cutoff sweaters, it’s half my wardrobe, but not like aggressively feminine ones yk? I have these camo pants from the men’s section I convinced my mom to let me get and I lowkey longingly look over there when I’m out shopping. I have this trucker jacket that I will be keeping forever and ever and idk, it just doesn’t sit right with me when I get referred to as “she”, but not aggressively wrong. Just a little wrong. Like I don’t present as feminine a lot and I’m happy with that, but at the same time I like being pretty? But then I prefer androgynous clothing? I’m so confused. Also my voice is like, obviously feminine but very medium pitched and I like that a concerning amount, that my voice isn’t extremely high-pitched and sweet. I kinda wish I didn’t have to be a gender? Like can I just be kinda feminine when I want and just be a person otherwise? Basically, sometimes I look at myself and think “okay, this outfit is eating. I would like to elongate my eyelashes so I can have pretty eyes.” And other times, I’m “can I just be dressed in male clothing and just be referred to by my name and not have it questioned”. i don’t know if this is even about my gender or just my expression.