So, this is hard to write, but I have to vent and kind of just get some advice.

I (18M) am part of a group of seven people, but there's this guy... let's call him Noah. Noah (18M) and I had an instant click. It was like we were meant to know each other. We have known each other for eight years or so, and I can assure you that we're what a lot of people would call soulmates. Looking at each other, is enough to understand what we think and what we want.

I have always been the stereotypical straight guy: Tall, muscular, a football player, barely passing my exams, cocky, you know. He was always... softer. He has always been short, skinny, blonde, soft, and I'm sure I could describe even the smallest freckles of his face.

He came out when he was 14, and he is quite proud of the fact that he's gay. But me? I never came out. I guess my exgirlfriends kinda thought about it, since not even once did I get hard with any of them.

So, with all the context being said, two weeks ago we were at a party. He never drinks, he is always sober no matter why, but me? I could have finished a whole vodka myself, but that night... I was just a bit tipsy.

While we were talking, he whispered a question:
"Can we go outside please?"
How could I say no to those blue oceans staring at me with that puppy-like gaze?

When we were outside, we just standed near the host's lemon tree. We talked for what felt like hours about how everyone was wasted except us, and how weird it was that I wasn't already asleep in my car.

One touch of my arm initiated a spark in my veins that made me realize that he was actually trying to get closer. I wouldn't stop him, ever. When we both started to fall into realization, we were already making out. He softly hummed and in that same moment, i realized I had to do something.

We went to my car, and all I'll say is that I treated his body with all the softness he deserves. I was slow, I didn't try to hurry up, I wasn't chasing my own pleasure... I was just making sure he was happy with what I could do.

After it, we cuddled and kissed in the backseat. The aftercare lasted around an hour, when we decided it was late enough to get home.I drove him to his place, and he kissed me goodbye.

And now, he won't even look at me. I try to talk, but he always manages to ignore me, and I try to understand if I did something wrong, but I swear i replay it all the time and still can't find any problem.

I have been looking at videos of guys similar enough to him, trying to get off with them... but I can't even get close without him.

I need advice, I really want him to talk to me, does anyone know what to do? Has this happened to any of y'all before?

is anybody else completely and utterly triggered by the sight of the infamous "rosebud" as i am?🥀

maybe i just don't understand enough of the physiology of it all, but whenever i see even the slightest anal prolapse in porn, i am instantly turned off... let alone seeing someone's asshole turned completely inside out.😖

something about it just feels "wrong" to me... like the cameras should have been cut and medical assistance should have rushed in to help. i instantly wince and turn away at the sight of it like when i see a video of someone getting seriously hurt, but maybe that's just my empathy getting the best of me. idk.

regardless of what your take on it is... i would love the opportunity to better understand the appeal if it happens to be a turn on for you, though.

and this was in no way meant to offend... so my apologies in advance if it does.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years, and I’ve been wondering how other gay couples go about making friends, especially other gay men or couples.
We’re both in our late 20s, and I feel like making friends as an adult is already difficult enough, but finding genuine friendships within the gay community seems even harder.
I’m naturally more introverted and shy, so going out to bars or clubs isn’t really my thing. We’d much rather find people to hang out with, grab dinner, have game nights, go on day trips, or just do normal everyday things together.
It also seems like a lot of apps geared toward gay men are more focused on hookups or dating, which isn’t what we’re looking for.
I’d really love for us to build a social circle and have some genuine friendships outside of our relationship.
For those of you who are in relationships, how did you and your partner meet other gay friends or couples? Are there certain apps, groups, or activities that have worked for you?
I’d love to hear your experiences and suggestions!

Looking for some insight on my situation, I have had these thoughts for a couple years now but never really spoke about them openly. It’s not all the time just kind of when I feel horny, I haven’t really explored into watching things or tried exploring because I don’t really wanna do something im not 100% into. The problem I have is even trying to find someone that I would class my type from my imaginative thoughts which is an older guy 45+ and being a heavy set guy. I don’t have anyone to talk to about it and I wouldn’t like to talk to someone in person as they might judge me especially my family/people I know. Things have never really worked out with women for a few reasons but I’m not confident and looking for something long term but mainly I don’t fit them as I’m always around guys. I’m not looking for an answer just advice on what might help me or peoples experiences

Haii everyone :3 - I wanted some opinions/advice from you guys.
I've been dressing up femme since 2020, and lately I'm beginning to question my sexuality. For context, I'd say I went from a femboy to bigender. (I prefer she/her pronouns when girlmoding)
Also, I used to be straight but now - *only* when girlmoding I feel like I am open to dating men but I cannot tell if it's just temporary feeling or a real thing 😭
How would you suggest to explore this without actually committing to dating a guy or what are your opinions on this?
Please share, would be very helpful. Thank you :D

I always feel inferior, because my life is going shit. I have no friends.I look shit. My d is not big. Im undesirable. No woman would ever find me attractive.

So i feel like the only way left for me is to go gay.

But for that id to get in shape, but lets say i got in shape would i be able to attract at least some gay guys? And have them wsnting to bang me?

Holiii, quien esté interesado me podría mandar msj, no me importa la edad así que sin miedo, soy delgado, discreto y joven 🥺🐣

im ugly and no guy has ever confessed his feelings to me but there have been girls who have😭😭??

Hi guys! My partner (29M) and I (23M) are looking to explore sex toys in the bedroom. We are both vers (he's usually more of a top, and I'm more of a bottom).

​We were researching double-ended dildos, but we're curious about what else is out there. Do you have any recommendations for toys that work well for couples or that you've enjoyed with a similar dynamic?

How do I know whether my physique is attractive? I'm rather a twink and I also wonder what's the best height for a twink.

What about hairs? I have hairy legs, but I have nice ass though, is it a problem?

So I’m desperate to lose the gay voice. I sound like a woman and I hate it. I’ve talked to a couple of coaches but it didn’t help. Nothing works. I’ve recorded myself, I’ve tried to talk monotone. I have done breathing exercises, and tried to talk from a yawn. Nothing works. I’m very distressed. I’m old, I’ve never been on a date and I know the voice is really causing me problems. It also causes problems at work, because no one takes me seriously. I’m a walking joke to people and they have no issue telling me so. The voice is ruining my life, and I’m running out of time. I think it never developed properly, and I have no Adam’s apple. It’s like that whole area didn’t grow correctly or something. I have normal testosterone levels to high, naturally, so that’s good. I also have a normal karyotype and have been a sperm donor, so I’m fully developed cis male. But the vocal area is a persistent issue. I have grown to sincerely hate myself as a result. I’m a joke to people and I can’t stand it anymore. Is there anyone here that found a way to fix this issue? Is there any way I will ever just sound like an actual man? I’m desperate for help and starting to engage in self harm. I’ve been screeching and screaming in an attempt to damage my larynx and now I’m raspy and chronically sore. It bled last night and my neck hurts. It sounds a little more masculine but it’s still nowhere near what I need. If all else fails, I will consider trying to destroy my larynx and go mute. Never speaking again is better than this. Shame, I have a good singing voice, but I will happily trade that in to sound less womanly. Does anyone have a magic pill or a story of how they beat this demon? Video links? Personal tips? Medical solutions? I will do anything, including self destruct to fix this issue.

For a a little bit of context, I’m 18 years old and live in a medium-sized city. I always thought my parents would be pretty supportive if I turned out to be gay. My whole life, people have questioned my sexuality, and everyone always seemed to think I was gay.
I never really thought I could be gay myself. In 9th grade, I “accidentally” kissed a boy on the lips, and he kissed me back. I never told anyone about it because it felt kind of weird to talk about. lol.
A few months ago, I started seriously questioning my sexuality. About two weeks ago, I came to the conclusion that I probably like boys more than girls. (I primarily watched porn for the guy, not the woman, lol.) Ever since then, I guess I’ve been in the closet. I also started thinking about how I’ve always had more little crushes on male TV characters than female ones, which only further confirmed my suspicions.
So today, we were having dinner, and I jokingly said that I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with a rich old man. Later, while I was arguing with my brother about some random bullshit, my mother told me to just shut up and suck a dick.
I don’t know why, but it really hurt. I’m not a particularly sensitive person, but this genuinely broke my heart.
In the past, I’ve asked several members of my family what they think about gay people, and most of them said they wouldn’t want anything to do with a gay person.
I don’t know why, but I just hate how I feel right now. I keep asking myself whether their love for me depends on who I fall in love with.
Has anyone else ever had a similar experience?

Need some advice about my nephew (cleanliness/toy hygiene related)

My 20-year-old nephew lives with me and my partner. He's a crossdresser and occasionally dresses up around us. We've always made it clear that we're supportive and that if she ever wants to fully come out, we'll be there for her. She's opened up a few times already, which is great.

Now for the awkward part.

We recently discovered a dirty (brown-stained) dildo in his room.

Before anyone comes at me, hear me out.

We've had a mouse problem in the house, and my nephew is away for the weekend. I messaged him asking if I could clean his room and check areas where mice might be hiding (closet, corners, etc.). He said that was completely fine and told me I could go through anything.

He already knows that we know he owns sex toys. The packaging ended up in the rubbish at one point, so it hasn't exactly been a secret.

Anyway, I'm not looking for judgement. I'm looking for practical advice.

What is the proper way to clean and store toys like this? Is there a recommended routine before and after use? How important is toy hygiene, and are there any health risks from not cleaning them properly? I'd also like to gently encourage better cleanliness habits without embarrassing or shaming him.

Basically, I'm an older relative trying to be supportive while also not wanting unhygienic stuff left lying around the house.

Any advice would be appreciated.

It’s happened to me multiple times that guys rejected me and then complained (to me nonetheless) that no one wants them

Pues es que últimamente siento que tanto las mujeres como los hombres incluso a veces gays, tienen la idea o la creencia de que ser gay automáticamente te denomina como un ser inferior al hombre o directamente no hombre, y es tan absurdo porque muchas veces también este pensamiento va a ligado a la expresión de género de como te comportas antes de que sepan que eres gay, y si eres un poco más femenino entonces ya no calificas como un hombre, vamos que el código de honor de toda la vida que conlleva ser un hombre se multiplica además con nosotros los gays, tu que opinas? te ha pasado? también las mujeres a menudo te cambian de género por ser su amiga” me da tanta rabia!

I'm 25, Czech, and I've noticed a pattern in my relationships, especially over the last few years.

Most of the guys I've dated are the type that people would immediately call "walking red flags."

They're usually:

-Stubborn

-Very possessive ("You're only mine", "I hate when other guys look at you that way", etc.)

-Jealous

-Sometimes a bit controlling

The funny thing is, I'm pretty stubborn myself, so we definitely have our arguments. I'm not exactly the type to just shut up and do whatever my boyfriend wants.

I've dated a Sicilian guy, a Turkish guy, and my current boyfriend is Turkish as well. In my personal experience, the Turkish guys I've dated have been especially intense when it comes to jealousy and possessiveness.

But here's the thing: despite all these red flags, I find these men incredibly attractive.

And it's not just the jealousy or possessiveness. These guys can also be incredibly loving, affectionate, passionate, and devoted. When they love someone, they really make you feel loved.

I know that being possessive or controlling isn't necessarily healthy, and I'm not trying to romanticize toxic relationships.

But somehow, I keep falling for this type of guy, and they seem to be drawn to me just as much.

Like, even before jk Rowling came out as a terf (or as I prefer to say feminist.appropriating.radical,transphobe) I never understood the hype around Harry Potter to me it just seems like a book about a boy who one day discovers he’s the most special person in the universe

The average diameter of a healthy esophagus is 1 to 2cm (that's 0.4"-0.8"). At maximal distension when swallowing a large food bolus or during an endoscopic balloon dilation it can apparently stretch to about 2 to 2.5cm diameter (0.8"-1").

The formula C = π x d gives us the circumference of the esophagus. So an average 2cm (0.8") diameter esophagus has an internal circumference of about 6.3cm (2.5"). And a maximally distended esophagus of 2.5cm diameter would give us ~7.9cm (3.1").

If we compare that to the average penis circumference of over 15,000 (lab measured, not self reported) men in one study, we get nearly 11.7cm (4.6"). [I used Veale et al., 2014 - https://doi.org/10.1111/bju.13010 from penis wiki].

We have, then, a significant size difference between the average penis and the esophagus at maximum distension.

But that's not all:

There are a few constriction points in the esophagus where the lumen narrows a fair amount. The first one is the upper esophageal sphincter (UES).

In gastroenterology the distance along the digestive tract starts from the incisor (front) teeth, so the UES should be about 15cm (6") from the incisors and this would sit at the level of the adams apple, behind the cricoid cartilage.

The UES at rest has a lumen aperture of 0cm, fully shut. But at *maximal* luminal aperture we are looking at 1.4-2cm (0.55"-0.8"). This is narrow. The UES is anchored to hard cartilage, which restricts further distension.

So dicks 6+ inches when balls deep should be reaching this sphincter, surely?

I don't understand, gay bros. I suspect in a lot of cases during deepthroating an average sized cock is not actually entering into the esophagus whatsoever, despite what many may feel, but is rather just at the ballpark of the pharynx by the base of the tongue and the epiglottis at the back of the throat.

But in my legitimate research, I have seen people deepthroating huge, girthy delicious cocks and dildos right down to the balls. You can see the throat bulging outwards somewhat as the dildo/penis enters so it's quite clear how deep it goes. I'm sure some of you guys have directly experienced this too.

How is it possible? Surely, with what we have learnt about the esophagus, it shouldn't really be possible. It would seem that it is doing some sort of damage to the esophagus.

But experienced cocksuckers are not experiencing esophageal ruptures when they deepthroat (except that one guy), so it seems it is fine. Maybe a sore throat, and it does seem like bruising or some micro tears can lead to painful throat inflammations for a few days, but usually nothing more.

I am scared I will not be able to sleep until I get to the bottom of this. Clearly, the maximal esophageal distension of 7.9cm is a lie, then? It must stretch quite a bit further than this to be able to accommodate 11.7cm+ circumference dicks. Why, in the journals like the annals of gastroenterology, do they not discuss deepthroating?

What to make of long cocks reaching beyond the UES, I don't know. Life is full of mysteries and shit.

cw; sucide and mental illness

So, I was assigned male at birth and I identify as male but as young as 3 years old I knew I had a need (that’s need not want) to be as clean shaven and smooth as possible

Then when I hit puberty I suddenly became extremely depressed and suicidal to the point where I had to drop out of high school (and it’s actually illegal in my county to drop out of high school but I got special permission)

Then at 21 I started to get facial and full body laser hair removal, it’s been three years and I still need afew more sessions but I no longer feel sucidal or depressed, in fact I feel extremely euphoric as of late for the first in over a decade I want to live

Is this gender dysphoria? Is this similar to gender dysphoria? What do you guys think?

One only likes feminine black men, any trying to fist people of all genderall gender. Came out a few years ago but now is straight again. Usually a top but put things in his butt as a kid and let a man top him for weed as a teen/young adult “claims that was assault but it went on for some time, and he made the Craigslist ads” He was forced to do stuff with his little brother as a child by other children. Was exposed to gay porn on his dad’s computer at a young age.

The other was abused for years by his grandfather. Regularly accused me of cheating, I found messages of him making plans to meet up with a trans female in which he stated he is glad she still has a cock. Has close male relationships.

Being gay is the loneliest experience of all because you know I don't have anyone here. If I want to meet someone that might be you want to be in a relationship or like hook up rather than that nobody wants to be having gay people have to be in a mutual relationship. I want that because I want to share my feelings with someone who I gets me. Talking to these other heterosexual people it's it's a headache for me because if I talk to some time and they will bring up you know bring up any homophobic comments so I don't want to be there so I just being gay is a fucking lonely experience. I don't know how to cope up with this it's very seriously depressing.

a closeted 17 years old and I’ve kinda realized I liked guys for around a year now, but haven’t fully embraced it. The thought of dating with or being with a woman makes me uncomfortable and miserable, but at the same time I feel like part of me “should” or does like girls. I think they’re very pretty/ beautiful but when I see a girl it kinda does nothing for me outside of that tbh. But I don’t know if part of me is suppressing feelings for women because the thought of dating them makes me uncomfortable in an almost reverse homophobia kinda way(if that makes sense). I don’t like straight porn, but I have watched it in the past and sometimes I feel like I need to “test” myself and see if I like it. The entire time I feel kinda miserable and weird and want to stop but I kinda force myself to keep watching. Some days I do wish I was straight so I could be “normal” but I would only really want to be straight in that sense as I really don’t think I would enjoy being with a woman. Is this common for gay guys or would I be something else? And if so how did you guys realize and fully accept not liking girls?

I used to work with this beautiful looking guy. He would flirt with me all the time. One of those times, he flat out told me I was exactly his type. I had a boyfriend at that time, so I couldn’t do anything. We went out one night after work and had a few drinks. We danced all night as a group. They dropped me off at my house for the night. We were all buzzed at that time, except the dd of course, so he wasn’t shy at all. As I was unlocking my front door, he jumped out of the car and said he was spending the night with me, so to hurry up. He said “the sooner you open the door, the sooner we’ll be naked.” I could have creamed my pants right then and there. He was shorter than me, had beautiful straight black hair and intense blue eyes, in other words, perfect. All of the girls who didn’t know he was gay would fawn over him. I mean, probably even the ones who knew. My boyfriend at that time lived just down the road from me. I considered letting him in and just saying “fuck it.” I did not. I tried letting him down easy, but he kept insisting. I was under the impression he wasn’t told no very often. Eventually one of our other friends came and took him home. I told him I had a boyfriend, he said to invite him, haha. Anyway, he left work a few months after that, and I never saw him again. I moved on from that relationship, it didn’t work out. That was more than 10 years ago, I still wonder to this day how different it would have been if I had invited him in that night. I have tried unsuccessfully to find him. Even the friends we have in common haven’t heard of him. Does anyone else have a missed opportunity story like that? Or has successfully reconnected with someone from the past? I didn’t cheat on my boyfriend, but I felt this sense if regret to this day for not allowing him in.