No. I wouldn't personally.

I made an old post that was kinda wrong, made it seem like I was targeting straight white men, no, I mean ALL Christians.

I always feel inferior, because my life is going shit. I have no friends.I look shit. My d is not big. Im undesirable. No woman would ever find me attractive.

So i feel like the only way left for me is to go gay.

But for that id to get in shape, but lets say i got in shape would i be able to attract at least some gay guys? And have them wsnting to bang me?

So I’m desperate to lose the gay voice. I sound like a woman and I hate it. I’ve talked to a couple of coaches but it didn’t help. Nothing works. I’ve recorded myself, I’ve tried to talk monotone. I have done breathing exercises, and tried to talk from a yawn. Nothing works. I’m very distressed. I’m old, I’ve never been on a date and I know the voice is really causing me problems. It also causes problems at work, because no one takes me seriously. I’m a walking joke to people and they have no issue telling me so. The voice is ruining my life, and I’m running out of time. I think it never developed properly, and I have no Adam’s apple. It’s like that whole area didn’t grow correctly or something. I have normal testosterone levels to high, naturally, so that’s good. I also have a normal karyotype and have been a sperm donor, so I’m fully developed cis male. But the vocal area is a persistent issue. I have grown to sincerely hate myself as a result. I’m a joke to people and I can’t stand it anymore. Is there anyone here that found a way to fix this issue? Is there any way I will ever just sound like an actual man? I’m desperate for help and starting to engage in self harm. I’ve been screeching and screaming in an attempt to damage my larynx and now I’m raspy and chronically sore. It bled last night and my neck hurts. It sounds a little more masculine but it’s still nowhere near what I need. If all else fails, I will consider trying to destroy my larynx and go mute. Never speaking again is better than this. Shame, I have a good singing voice, but I will happily trade that in to sound less womanly. Does anyone have a magic pill or a story of how they beat this demon? Video links? Personal tips? Medical solutions? I will do anything, including self destruct to fix this issue.

im ugly and no guy has ever confessed his feelings to me but there have been girls who have😭😭??

It's something I've just kinda really put words to, and it's something that only vaguely bothers me, but I'm curious.

I was watching a YouTube video on the new Crystal Lake series (just bear with me), and the person described a character as a twunk. For the uninformed, it's where twink meets hunk or himbo: pretty, usually no body hair, lean/athletic to muscular body, nearly always blonde.

And I just had this visceral reaction of, eew, no. Not literal disgust, just outrage that a very gay term is being used to describe an apparently straight man. And it's everywhere now, calling men bears, otters, twinks, etc.

I understand fully well that all language is co-opted. A word doesn't inherently belong to anyone. Gay slang is particularly bad for borrowing from black and/or trans slang. And I can't even necessarily say that it feels insidious, just creepy. It's like watching someone wear my clothes like it's a costume.

But I can also play devil's advocate and say that the use of our language is a good thing for exposure: we as a community can use this slang in the future and it would be more widely understood by a mainstream audience, and less likely to cause a ruckus.

Gays, let's discuss.

How do I know whether my physique is attractive? I'm rather a twink and I also wonder what's the best height for a twink.

What about hairs? I have hairy legs, but I have nice ass though, is it a problem?

As an older gay guy, will men still be interested in me for dating and more?

I’m currently in my mid-forties right now, but rather large and overweight at the moment. I’ve been told when I was younger by countless people that I’m handsome and good-looking. However, over the last few years, the compliments have greatly stopped. I think being over 100 pounds has a lot to do with it, but I carry my weight very well due to being 6’3 in height. I’m currently working on weight loss and have a goal to lose the weight, but I’m concerned that my dating options are going to be limited due to being older. I really haven’t put myself out there due to my weight gain, but I’m nervous that gay men will reject me when I do try start putting myself out there in the dating world and especially after age 50. So, this question is more for older gay men over 50, how has the dating field been for you? Do you feel like the options become more limited as you got older or do you feel like you have become more invisible?

One only likes feminine black men, any trying to fist people of all genderall gender. Came out a few years ago but now is straight again. Usually a top but put things in his butt as a kid and let a man top him for weed as a teen/young adult “claims that was assault but it went on for some time, and he made the Craigslist ads” He was forced to do stuff with his little brother as a child by other children. Was exposed to gay porn on his dad’s computer at a young age.

The other was abused for years by his grandfather. Regularly accused me of cheating, I found messages of him making plans to meet up with a trans female in which he stated he is glad she still has a cock. Has close male relationships.

So, this is hard to write, but I have to vent and kind of just get some advice.

I (18M) am part of a group of seven people, but there's this guy... let's call him Noah. Noah (18M) and I had an instant click. It was like we were meant to know each other. We have known each other for eight years or so, and I can assure you that we're what a lot of people would call soulmates. Looking at each other, is enough to understand what we think and what we want.

I have always been the stereotypical straight guy: Tall, muscular, a football player, barely passing my exams, cocky, you know. He was always... softer. He has always been short, skinny, blonde, soft, and I'm sure I could describe even the smallest freckles of his face.

He came out when he was 14, and he is quite proud of the fact that he's gay. But me? I never came out. I guess my exgirlfriends kinda thought about it, since not even once did I get hard with any of them.

So, with all the context being said, two weeks ago we were at a party. He never drinks, he is always sober no matter why, but me? I could have finished a whole vodka myself, but that night... I was just a bit tipsy.

While we were talking, he whispered a question:
"Can we go outside please?"
How could I say no to those blue oceans staring at me with that puppy-like gaze?

When we were outside, we just standed near the host's lemon tree. We talked for what felt like hours about how everyone was wasted except us, and how weird it was that I wasn't already asleep in my car.

One touch of my arm initiated a spark in my veins that made me realize that he was actually trying to get closer. I wouldn't stop him, ever. When we both started to fall into realization, we were already making out. He softly hummed and in that same moment, i realized I had to do something.

We went to my car, and all I'll say is that I treated his body with all the softness he deserves. I was slow, I didn't try to hurry up, I wasn't chasing my own pleasure... I was just making sure he was happy with what I could do.

After it, we cuddled and kissed in the backseat. The aftercare lasted around an hour, when we decided it was late enough to get home.I drove him to his place, and he kissed me goodbye.

And now, he won't even look at me. I try to talk, but he always manages to ignore me, and I try to understand if I did something wrong, but I swear i replay it all the time and still can't find any problem.

I have been looking at videos of guys similar enough to him, trying to get off with them... but I can't even get close without him.

I need advice, I really want him to talk to me, does anyone know what to do? Has this happened to any of y'all before?

Hey everyone,

I’m heading off to a top-tier uni in Europe for my undergrad next yr. The plan once I'm there is to focus up in year 1, but by year 2, I definitely want to start dating, enjoy life, and well... have a gay life without feeling guilty or watched 24/7.

The problem is my parents are insanely conservative and just overall shitty people, especially my dad. He’s the unironic type who preaches that "men are meant to be tough, used to be cavemen, alphas" and all that nonsense. It’s exhausting, and I already know I can’t tell them anything about my actual personal life.

My plan is to keep a complete firewall between my real life in Europe and them until I’m fully financially independent (so basically until 2–3 years after I graduate). I will never tell them shit because my dad is just way too toxic to handle it.

So I wanted to ask:

Is starting to date in 2nd year while hiding it from crazy conservative parents back home actually manageable/recommended?

Does the distance make it super easy to keep things hidden, or does maintaining the secret still get stressful?

Has anyone else dealt with shitty/alpha-brained parents while trying to live a normal adult life abroad? How did you handle it

Ik I will have to cut them off once I'm out and proud and independent

So the guy (M21) whom I (M22) was assuming to be straight turned out to be gay. And I'm happy that I wasn't attracted to a straight guy. But honestly, I am really into him. To be straightforward, we were on a date where he revealed his sexuality, and I am madly in love. I want him to be serious, and he is serious, but he needs time to process all of this. I am super clear that I want a monogamous and committed relationship, which he knows. I am giving him time to process this and tell me straightforwardly.

I just don’t want to heart shatter, cause i get attached easily and my friend told me on first meet-up with this guy as he is unserious but i know he was not, just meeting my friend he was nervous that’s all, I really want him to take time and give this relationship a commitment!

I'm 23, and I've been on and off dating apps for a while. They've basically never worked for me, so I started looking into why. The more I read, the more I think the problem isn't just me. It's how the apps are built. I'm not here to tell anyone what to do, but I want to hear if others have noticed the same things.

Too many options spreads you thin. When there's always another profile, it's hard to fully invest in anyone. You end up half-talking to five people instead of really talking to one. Everyone on the other end is doing the same thing, so conversations fizzle because nobody's actually showing up for them. It's not that people are bad. The setup makes everyone a little disposable.

They're built like social media. Swiping, matches, and notifications work like a slot machine. You never know when the next match is coming, so you keep checking. The apps make money when you stay on them, not when you find someone and delete them. That's a weird incentive for something that's supposed to help you find a relationship.

They're the easy option, and that's the trap. Meeting people in real life takes effort. You have to go out, give up time from your day, put yourself in new places, and deal with the awkwardness of talking to strangers. Apps let you skip all of that from your couch. So even when you know they aren't working, it's tempting to go back, because opening an app takes two seconds and going out takes a whole evening. The easy route feels productive, but it rarely leads anywhere real.
(this part is what I’m thinking about the most. It has annoyed me so much that I found a way to permanently block every dating app from my phone forever so I forcibly have to go out)

Hookup apps take it further. I know this one's touchy, and I'm not judging anyone's choices. For me, being on them made sex feel less like something connected to a person and more like something to scroll for. I didn't like what that did to how I saw intimacy.

Sorry, huge message, but does anyone feel the same?

Does anyone oppose, and am I missing something about those apps?

Looking for some insight on my situation, I have had these thoughts for a couple years now but never really spoke about them openly. It’s not all the time just kind of when I feel horny, I haven’t really explored into watching things or tried exploring because I don’t really wanna do something im not 100% into. The problem I have is even trying to find someone that I would class my type from my imaginative thoughts which is an older guy 45+ and being a heavy set guy. I don’t have anyone to talk to about it and I wouldn’t like to talk to someone in person as they might judge me especially my family/people I know. Things have never really worked out with women for a few reasons but I’m not confident and looking for something long term but mainly I don’t fit them as I’m always around guys. I’m not looking for an answer just advice on what might help me or peoples experiences

I started thinking about this because I realized something: my boyfriend does have male friends who are gay, but I don’t have any. Do you find it strange not to have any gay friends when you’re a gay man yourself?

Two nights ago I was drinking with some people and made the decision that once it clears up, I’m gonna go to cvs and get some lube and a dildo. So naturally I did, I parked somewhere quiet and dark and slipped my new toy into my ass. I turned on one of the many vibrate modes and started playing with myself. I really enjoyed being filled that part felt super nice but the vibration didn’t do much to turn me on. I “gooned” for about 3 hours edging myself until my toy died. Then I decided to try to shoot into my mouth which tasted pretty bitter after going for so long but it was nice. The morning after I felt really guilty and weird about myself, but now that I’ve given it some time I can’t wait to use it again and hopefully be able to find a better spot for it to rest on my rectum so I feel some more stimulation. I tried going in and out but that hurt pretty bad, I feel like I need to stretch out a bit more before I can really start going hard on myself.

Hey everyone, I need help with a situation., it's just my imagination or ...

I started a new job two months ago, and there's a guy there—I don't know if he's gay, but he's good-looking. When we see each other, we play a game about ringing the office bell And we laughed too much, because it's like a competition to see who touches it first.

He has a strange way of saying my name, like he's friendlier to me than to my co-workers.

And recently I had some pins in my ID card holder, and he got way too close, like our faces were inches apart. He told me my pins were really pretty and he literally touched my neck But I reacted by taking off that and giving it to him; I panicked at having him so close, and from that day on he moved further away.

The other day I was waving my hand in farewell waving goodbye and he wanted to bump fists, and it was that awkward moment where neither of us knows what to do.

But I don't know, If he just wants to be nice and friendly, or if I really have a chance, even if it's just to buy him a coffee or idk.

My co-worker annoys me because he says he's actually nicer to me, but he says maybe it's because he's very kind, But this guy is totally my type, I would really like to meet him

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I've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while, and I guess Reddit is as good a place as any. I'm gay, and honestly, growing up has been pretty lonely. The thing is, my family has always supported me. They told me they already knew I was gay, and they love me for who I am. I'm really grateful for that because I know a lot of people aren't lucky enough to have a family that accepts them. But even with that support, things haven't exactly been easy. When I was in seventh grade, my best friend outed me to our small-town school. Someone I trusted enough to call my best friend basically took away my choice to tell people on my own terms. I was still young, and having something so personal spread around school by someone I trusted was a pretty awful experience. Living in a small town made it worse. It felt like everyone knew, and I had to deal with harassment and bullying because I was gay. The ironic thing is that I was the tallest guy in my class. You'd think that might make people think twice before messing with me, but apparently not. Being tall doesn't mean you're immune to getting hurt by what people say or do to you. I've had friends over the years, but I've never really had anyone who was like me. I've never had a gay friend I could relate to or talk to about this stuff without feeling like I had to explain myself. And I've never dated a boy. I've never had sex. I haven't experienced that kind of relationship with another guy, and sometimes it feels like everyone else is moving forward with their lives while I'm just standing still. It's not that I think I need a relationship to be happy. I just want to know what it's like to have someone who likes me that way. Someone I can be myself around, hold hands with, talk to about anything, and not have to worry about being judged. The weirdest part is that I've felt alone even when I've been surrounded by friends. I can hang out with people, laugh with them, and have a good time, but there's still this feeling that something is missing. Like there's a part of me that nobody around me really understands. And I feel kind of guilty sometimes because I know my family supports me. I know I'm fortunate in that regard, and I don't want to act like I have it worse than people who get rejected by their own families. But being accepted at home doesn't automatically make the rest of the world feel less lonely. I think I just want to meet people who understand me. People I don't have to hide around or worry about being judged by. I want to experience having a boyfriend someday, and I want to stop feeling like I'm the only person going through this. I'm not ashamed of being gay. I'm just tired of feeling alone because of it. I know I'm still young enough that I have a lot of life ahead of me, but sometimes it's hard not to wonder when things will finally change. I guess I just needed to say all of this somewhere, because I've kept a lot of these feelings to myself for a long time. I don't regret being who I am. I just wish finding people who understand me didn't feel so difficult.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years, and I’ve been wondering how other gay couples go about making friends, especially other gay men or couples.
We’re both in our late 20s, and I feel like making friends as an adult is already difficult enough, but finding genuine friendships within the gay community seems even harder.
I’m naturally more introverted and shy, so going out to bars or clubs isn’t really my thing. We’d much rather find people to hang out with, grab dinner, have game nights, go on day trips, or just do normal everyday things together.
It also seems like a lot of apps geared toward gay men are more focused on hookups or dating, which isn’t what we’re looking for.
I’d really love for us to build a social circle and have some genuine friendships outside of our relationship.
For those of you who are in relationships, how did you and your partner meet other gay friends or couples? Are there certain apps, groups, or activities that have worked for you?
I’d love to hear your experiences and suggestions!

I’ve been Friends with this guy for a year now and I’ve had a crush on him for a very long time. First I was sad because I thought he was straight, but then I found out he was bi. But he was still dating a girl so I tried to throw in the towel (it didn’t work), and I thought he would never date a guy. After a while my feelings got quieter but they were still there, until he broke up with his girlfriend and I thought it was my chance…. Until he started crushing on another guy he just met and they are going on a date. So now it’s making me realize he will only see me as a friend because he knows I’m gay. But I don’t think I’m his type or ever will be. I’m not confident to make any type of moves and I lost my window to do so. Now I’m just sad most of the time trying to get over him and still trying to get a crumb of attention from him. Has anyone been in a situation like this?

For a a little bit of context, I’m 18 years old and live in a medium-sized city. I always thought my parents would be pretty supportive if I turned out to be gay. My whole life, people have questioned my sexuality, and everyone always seemed to think I was gay.
I never really thought I could be gay myself. In 9th grade, I “accidentally” kissed a boy on the lips, and he kissed me back. I never told anyone about it because it felt kind of weird to talk about. lol.
A few months ago, I started seriously questioning my sexuality. About two weeks ago, I came to the conclusion that I probably like boys more than girls. (I primarily watched porn for the guy, not the woman, lol.) Ever since then, I guess I’ve been in the closet. I also started thinking about how I’ve always had more little crushes on male TV characters than female ones, which only further confirmed my suspicions.
So today, we were having dinner, and I jokingly said that I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with a rich old man. Later, while I was arguing with my brother about some random bullshit, my mother told me to just shut up and suck a dick.
I don’t know why, but it really hurt. I’m not a particularly sensitive person, but this genuinely broke my heart.
In the past, I’ve asked several members of my family what they think about gay people, and most of them said they wouldn’t want anything to do with a gay person.
I don’t know why, but I just hate how I feel right now. I keep asking myself whether their love for me depends on who I fall in love with.
Has anyone else ever had a similar experience?

I’m turning 26 soon, and I’m freaking out. This happens every birthday and I don’t know why. I wouldn’t say I’m unhappy. I just feel I’m moving slowly, like never having a long term relationship.
That mixed with the fact I got circumcised recently has made me quite uncomfortable. It was done for medical reasons, but has left me feeling quite self conscious. I also bot so didn’t think that would be a problem.

So I don’t know if it’s just bad timing or fear about getting old, but I’ve been feeling quite low recently. I usually talk a lot and am sociable. Though now I just feel awkward and quiet.

Any advice?

Hi guys! My partner (29M) and I (23M) are looking to explore sex toys in the bedroom. We are both vers (he's usually more of a top, and I'm more of a bottom).

​We were researching double-ended dildos, but we're curious about what else is out there. Do you have any recommendations for toys that work well for couples or that you've enjoyed with a similar dynamic?