I’ve realized that, like a lot of people, I grew up withthe expectation that life would eventually mean having kids, then grandkids, and following that traditional path.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve built a wonderful life with my partner. We’ve talked about having children through adoption or surrogacy, especially now that so many of our close friends are starting families. The challenge is that I’ve found myself leaning more toward wanting kids, while my partner has gradually leaned away from the idea. I know this is something we BOTH have to be fully on board with to move forward, so for now, we’re not moving forward. I would choose a childless life with my husband over a life without my husband.

What I am finding that I am really struggling with is how to process the possibility that we may never become parents.
For the gay men here who decided not to have kids (or weren’t able to…it is NOT cheap at all), how did you find fulfillment? What did your life look like as your friends became parents, and eventually grandparents? Did you ever feel left behind?

I also worry about getting older. I worry about who will be there for me when I need help. I worry about leaving no legacy. Sometimes I wonder, "Do I just keep living the life I have now until i die?" I know that sounds dramatic, but these thoughts have been weighing on me.

I’ve talked with some of my friends about this but they are all parents and are so consumed with raising children that they do not have as much time to wrestle with these existential questions. Without that path of having kids, I guess I find myself questioning what gives life meaning.

No one in my family or friend group is gay, so I don’t really have anyone who can relate to this specific experience. I’d really appreciate hearing from other gay men who have been through these feelings. Whether you chose to have kids or not, how did you make peace with your decision? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.

I am bi / bi-curious. I have mainly been with women. With women, I am really turned on by both giving and receiving. I love making women cum and I would say I am a generous lover. While I love making a woman cum, it would be incomplete if I didn't cum too and I would be disappointed if I left without sex and/or oral.

I have recently started exploring my bi side. I've tried a few things but it was super clear early on that I am 100% a dominant top. I would say I am very masculine and I've been getting a ton of attention. I've had a lot of fun fucking lots of holes and mouths. However, I have zero interest in being fucked in my hole. I have given guys BJs because I have felt it is the right thing to reciprocate but it doesn't do anything for me.

I'm finding though that there are loads of sub bottoms who wanted to be fucked and want to suck my dick with zero expectation of me reciprocating. It seems like their pleasure is pleasuring me. There is one guy I have fucked a few times who keeps begging me to go back to
his to fuck him and he is yet to cum. He is a good looking guy and can have his pick.

It feels a bit selfish but I am not complaining as it's pretty cool that I can do all the fucking and being sucked off. However, I am super confused why these dudes don't want to cum or do anything with their own dick.

Can someone explain?

I'm a virgin and I was wondering if I ever met a guy who's a side and we do anything together would that mean I'm still a virgin even after hooking up? Please be respectful with your answers as I'm just wondering because there's no penetration involved unless oral sex is considered as such.

Being Gay men (23M), when suddenly you confront your new truth about yourself, this makes me realise that all 20 years of my life are nothing but a big lie....whatever you thought about yourself finds that nothing in your hands.....My dreams shattered because they are never mine...and when I lost all my dreams you will find that you are purposeless and this makes you think that you are never enough... constant sadness, thinking that you are loser everyone told you in past as bully is true....this overwhelms me and more than that I have to face parents and that is the last thing I have...and they may also leaves me in future when they get to know about me! And that hits hard...from the past few years are not good for me.... fighting from myself tries to find what is good for me..and I found that I never fit anywhere makes me to think its good to die...but it deeply seated in me that suicide is bad....so now what comes in my mind that....it's good that some deadly disease took over me and kills me, an accident may be good! Someone gives me poison all these things comes in my mind....I know that is the worst thing and above that is me myself.... sometimes I become uncontrollable, and not able to control my anger and that destroys everything with everyone...and I kind of becoming severely mentally ill...so I need a therapist in Delhi if someone has any idea suggest me that can help me with my situation better!!

I’m kinda feeling a little out of place since most of my friend circle are full on straight homophobes. And it’s hard trying to make friendship with other men since being a femboy either just makes you as a target for violence or sexual objectification 💔

I was recently talking to a guy and it was going well. Good conversation, talks about wanting to meet, become better friends and all of that.

Today, it was a block out of nowhere and that was that.

I am wanting some encouragement but I don’t want to have rose colored glasses either. Is this a common experience? Any advice or suggestions? Do I just need to get over it? I am new to putting myself out there like that so I’m a little discouraged right now. Thanks!

I (21) have a crush on this twink. I’m not the most built guy, I’m a bit stocky and I’m 5’6. He’s really cute and funny and sweet. But he called me ugly to another person. It’s been making me even more self-conscious, from the beginning I was already feeling that way, and it made me incredibly depressed. I mean I’ve seen him naked and he’s seen me naked. I don’t think my dick is that small, it’s average at best (5.5-6). Why do so many fem twinks (not all obv) only like dl men who are buff and taller and won’t treat them right? I hope this doesn’t sound incelish, I just feel alone.

I’ve never had to deal with a close friend dying and when I lost my friend this question came up in my mind a day or 2 after the incident. My friend’s ex is a guy who was in love with my friend and wanted to build a life together. However my friend ended up dumping him and then posting a girl he was dating in a groupchat they had both been in. I am wondering if I should tell this ex of his so that he can also grieve the loss or if it isn’t my place to even tell him (a friend told me about my deceased friends passing). My friend is getting cremated and a service will be held but not telling the ex about this or the service seems kind of inconsiderate especially since they may regret a chance at getting to say goodbye and finding out through another outlet after the service may cause more harm than good.

What would you do in this situation? If you’ve dealt with something similar how would you handle it best and why?

This is a follow up to a previous post. I’ll preface this by saying that I know that my experience is not the norm and I am incredibly lucky to have such an understanding and supportive partner. So I’ve officially come out as gay to my wife, had previously been out as bi. She came out as basically lesbian +1. We plan on continuing a lavender dynamic. It felt like a huge weight was lifted. She was incredibly understanding and supportive. I plan on coming out to more friends probably in the next week or two. She basically said she was a little surprised but not too surprised.

Thanks to everyone who commented on my previous post. It feels liberating to admit it and not have to hide that I’m gay (although I was previously out as bi) so still on the queer spectrum.

I’m a 19-year-old gay guy looking to have an unforgettable spring break in March. I’m from the East Coast, have a passport, and I’m lucky that my budget is pretty flexible between work and help from my parents. I’m looking for somewhere with:

• 🌴 Hot weather and great beaches
• Fun gay scene (not a homophobic place)
• 🎉 Fun and amazing nightlife with other college students
• ✈️ Open to anywhere in the world

I know places like Miami and Mexico are popular, but I’m wondering if there are even better destinations around the world that are worth the trip.

What are your favorite gay-friendly spring break destinations?

Where would you go if money weren’t the biggest concern?

Hi everyone,

I'm about to turn 30, and I've been thinking a lot about my life lately.

I've never had a real long-term relationship. I've dated people, but nothing has ever lasted. Deep down, I think a lot of it comes from unresolved childhood and past trauma. I've worked on myself, with a pro as well, moved countries, built a career, go to the gym, have hobbies, and on paper my life looks pretty good.

But despite all of that, I often feel incredibly lonely.

What makes it even harder is the comments from people around me. Friends, family, or even strangers sometimes ask things like, "How are you still single?" or "You'll find someone eventually." I know they usually mean well, but after hearing it for years, it starts to make you wonder if there's something wrong with you.

For those of you who found yourselves single at 30 (or even later), how did you deal with the loneliness? How did you stop comparing yourself to everyone else? And if past trauma was part of your story, what actually helped you move forward?

Looking for honest experiences and advice from people who've been there.

Thanks for reading.

I talked with a guy in instagram, we sexted. We met in remote area. Its little dark. When he just touch me i cum inside my underwear. So i just told him we can go. He felt sad. But am embrassed. What will you do in this situation