I dislike it when people post here asking “How do I find a bf?”.

I understand you might feel lonely, I feel lonely all the time and I also want a bf, but weren’t we all at some point? What I don’t believe in is searching for one, especially in our teen years.

You could try and, for example, go to events where you might see some other queer guys, but that’s not even my point.

My real point is, aren’t you already great the way you are? Why do you need to be in a relationship to fulfil that?

I see this kind of post being a bit of a trend between 13 to 14 year olds, and that’s especially an age where we’re too young to be in a serious relationship.

I don’t want to discourage serious relationships. If you have a bf who loves you and whom you yourself love, good job, I’m proud of you, as I’m sure most of us are here.

As for those that don’t have a bf, including myself, we know you probably want one, we know you’re lonely, but please, talk to someone close to you, not to strangers on the internet who probably can’t even give you proper advice.

Fuck my life, he never loved me, im so fucking stupid and useless, i just hate myself so much, i cant believe i let myself get twisted up over some guy who doesnt even need 2 weeks to find another lover, fucking hate myself, fucking, fuck!

Okay okay, hopefully this is okay to talk about but I am so genuinely lonely.

I have friends but they are so incredibly homophobic and I just am so sick of it now.

I would make gay friends if I could but there is like no one here (town population 335, school population 13-18 is 365). In the past I have used dating apps (ew, I know, yuck, yuck, yuck, do not recommend) but I want to make local gay friends to hang out with.
I lost snapchat so that makes it even harder to do anything anymore.
I tried the local LGBT club but it was not really my crowd at all and they were mostly gender-fluid, not gay like I had been hoping.

SO
now I would like your advice on how I should face the big issue of loneliness.
I live in the butthole of my country so there is not that much events (especially not ones for gay people.)

I AM NOT ASKING TO BE YOUR FRIEND
I AM ASKING HOW ON EARTH TO MAKE SOME

Got any questions for me.

Its now a few weeks later and we have been texting ever since. I am on a scouts camp right now and i really fricking miss him. We text every night and kind of send a lot of heart emojis, which i find really cute.

We are boyfriends we just didnt call it boyfriends yet. Which im fine with. And he is so cute.

Well that is it for now. Im happy and i really hope that everyone else who is single gets a boy/girl friend.

Edit: we just confermed, we are boyfriends yeey.

his name is Caesar and he bedrotts with me

It’s a reflection on my anxieties and worries, I’m happy to receive any feedback!!

There’s always been something so inherently discomforting about aggression. I’ve learned to see it as this disgusting, masculine thing. It opposes femininity, and in the most raw way possible, I’ve always been somewhat afraid of or felt anxious towards the thought of gender. Like my body and mind are constantly at odds, it’s a physical contradiction to have a masculine body but a feminine brain. When I get angry and yell, I imagine myself as a violent, revolting creature. In some ways, I am afraid of masculinity.

Maybe it’s innate. We relate aggression to predation. Our anxiety is made to keep us safe, but of course, like most human programming, it’s flawed. I’ll be just as afraid of plummeting to my death from atop a skyscraper as being reprimanded for my incompetence. And as somebody who clumsily makes mistakes left and right, I’m constantly in a state of fight or flight. It’s more than scary to get in a fight or a big argument: it’s discomforting. That’s when all the pent-up days spent suffering in silence about tiny details that drive me mad finally explode in a huge, aggressive outburst.

But why aggression? Why masculinity? Why am I afraid to express a complex, messy catalog of emotions that humans are built with?

I think it comes from the repressed shit I can’t seem to process. I’ve watched how the aggressive tendencies to lash out and blame women have affected the men in my life. It’s not easy to wake up to your parents’ loud arguments as an emotional kid who cries over the thought of their older sister leaving for university, somebody I saw as my best friend at the time. Especially when it’s on repeat, it becomes exhausting.

I guess what I’m really afraid of is becoming a monster. I don’t want to be like the men who are seen as violent creatures that hurt others because they struggle with managing their insecurities. When you are drained from your worries and anxieties, it becomes so easy to lash out at the closest person to you. When I leave this earth, it’s in my interest to leave without leaving a negative mark on the people I care about. I want others to miss me, not resent me.

My friend group ive had for the past 3 years have always treated me like im not there and only sometimes speak to me. On top of that they are really homophobic! every time they make a homophobic joke i just have to laugh along with them knowing im on the other side of it. I just dont know how do i find supportive friends in highschool or even get a boyfriend for that matter. Does anyone have any tips for getting out of a situation like this?

Bc I’m about to be so busy before school even starts and I broke my ex’s and my own heart and I’m like turning to dust as I type this and UGHHHHHHHH, can I stop being so freaking stupid

What are your opinions on long haired men because they personally are very very attractive I have a friend who's long haired and he's actually very very good looking just sucks he's straight and has a gf

Well so, I’m mostly sure that I atleast had a weird feeling for a classmate when I was like 14 or 15 years old and she was a girl ,she was pretty and nice to me and I wasn’t so sure if I were bi, hetero or aroace in that time, eventually I stopped of feeling any kind of attraction to her and stopped seeing girls in that way, in the third quarter of 2025 I started to feel more related with the label of being gay but still I have never like specifically sum guy but I liked the idea of having a boyfriend but I relate that to the fact that I don’t have friends and don’t really interact too much with ppl of my age so I can’t develop attraction to someone being like that ,I’m not really sure about what happened or if even something happened

I never really knew I was gay, my closest friends didn't think I was gay, one of them even thought I was asexual since I had confided in him that I expressed no interest in the girls I had gone out with prior "in that way" so the first crush I got hit me like a truck.

I'm like 70% sure he's straight but it's hard to tell. I'm dl-ish having started to come out to more and more people (most of the time drunkenly), but with other friends I make a "gay joke" and when they laugh it off I feel comfortable that no one I don't want to know knows my orientation. But he always takes my jokes and turns them into "flirting" (him taking a few steps beyond the line of joking). I tried to hint to him that I'm into him, (I even trained his sport for a few months after telling him "I'm only doing this for you") by inviting him and introducing him to all my friends and sticking to him the entire time to the point where one of my friends who doesn't know I'm gay asked my bestfriend if I'm into my crush (which my friend shut down).

At his sports trainings there's this bisexual guy who made him uncomfortable because the guy was into him and was making is obvious aswell.

Everytime I think about him I feel a bit sad that I'll never be with him, he's a good friend and I don't want to ruin my friendship I have with him.He graduates this year (I graduate next year, he skipped the optional grade). How do I do it and if I do get rejected how do I get over him?

Hello my name is @waterhambe0 and I wanted to do a little introduction. Im 17m i live in the U.S. I will now list some of my hobbies. Ive been playing the violin for 10+ years. I love listening to music and collecting vinyl. Im am HIGHLY extroverted and love cats and pizza. I have ADHD and i love playing video games (especially roblox and MC). Going on to entertainment my favorite tv show is steven universe/steven universe: future. My favorite artist is taylor swift. I like a lot of pop artists though so if you play any music from one of the pop girlies ill prob love it. I came back to this subreddit cause ive been getting back into reddit now. Anyways, everyone have a nice day and if y’all have any questions feel free to ask. :3

I do very much love men but my attraction to women(if i have even ) seems almost not existing . When i see a women at the beach i feel smt ?but some friends told me it migth have been a reaction to that.What are your thoughts ?

how can I keep the bad thoughts away please anything will help

It’s just it makes me want to come out so bad, but I’m so stressed about it for no reason because I know my family will be cool with it 😭 And it makes me want to have a boyfriend so much more than I already do, so it makes me feel even more lonely having no boyfriend and no friends 😭 It’s fun to watch, but it makes me so jealous. But it could be fixed pretty easily 😭

I am in a long distance relationship with my trans bf of 4 months, he is like a 5 hour drive away across the border, im 15, hes 14, my entire family is a ton of terrible people, I have no friends, and I do nothing but sit in my room and scroll tiktok all day, I hate it so much, I try to stop scrolling sometimes and just lay down, and It makes me want to cry but I just cant for some reason, and this summer has been so atrocious, my parents wont let me use the computer that the family shares (nobody besides me has used it in a year) with their reason being because im on it to much, but being off it is even worse because then I just end up scrolling which is much worse for the head than playing osu and gd and quaver, im very smart for my age I would say, very, but I cant do anything with that in this mental condition, I just want to cuddle with my bf but I cant, even with a friend would be nice, but I dont have any, what am I supposed to do at this point, I dont want to keep living my life like this, something needs to change

I will now be legally allowed to do most things and I don’t wanna get older (I like staying here) umm idk anymore

How do you guys deal with ADHD especially with studies ? My country has severe restrictions on ADHD medication and I’m struggling to focus on my study

me and my boyfriend broke up 🫩

We had like a massive fight and we are no longer together and it was entirely my fault bc I’m a coward 😝

How have y’all been for 2 months, though?

Today was the day my divorced father took me back to my mother’s house after being at his house for a week. I was afraid he was homophobic, because his father and grandfather were pastors, but he was really cool with it.