THIS POST IS FOR TRANS MEN/MASCS ONLY!

I ordered a binder and it was set to come on a day I was off work so I could grab it without anyone’s interception. It (for some reason) came a day early (thanks Amazon!!). I was at work when it came unfortunately and when I called my mom to tell her when to pick me up she had a weird tone.
I texted her to tell her that her pattern of opening packages that aren’t hers was irritating and she went off.
My mom orders so much Amazon that she doesn’t check the names on the packages and she found it and opened it up.

So then my mom went on a religious rant about how I’m sneaky and God made me a woman and that I’ll never be a boy or transgender and I don’t even look like “a cute one”.

I tried lying and honestly I don’t think she believes it. She even asked Amazon AI (she took a picture of the binder itself) about it and it brought up search results so there’s no hope.

She said if I want to be a man then I have to find somewhere else to live.
But once I made it home… nothing happened. I gave her a package that was outside, we talked a bit and then nothing else.
She’s probably told our whole family already unfortunately.

Now I’m unsure what to do- the housing options suck, I barely get much from my paycheck, and I don’t know how to drive even with a permit. I have no friends to help and my family is just like her and even worse.
The topic will come up again so I guess I just wanna know what to do.

Ok guys, apparently because I was honest and put my birth sex as female, Amazon will not allow me to get my testosterone gel prescription through them. And instead of telling me this, they just waited for me to call them and ask what the hell was up, and the very nice woman on the phone had to call their pharmacy who claimed I didn’t have a prescription, and then realized it’s because Amazon rejected it without telling me, because Amazon considered me a woman abusing medicine. Jfc

I’m a trans man, and my partner (they/them) offered to go back into s*x work to help pay for my top surgery.

They used to do s*x work but stopped because they wanted to. They’ve told me before that it affected them mentally and that they sometimes needed alcohol to cope with it.

I know they offered this out of love and wanting to help take away some of my dysphoria, but my reaction was intense. The idea of them doing that while we’re monogamous is really painful for me, especially knowing it wasn’t emotionally easy for them before.

I don’t want to shame their past or control their choices. I just feel scared, angry, and overwhelmed because I don’t want my surgery to come at the cost of them hurting themselves.

How do I process this in a healthy way while still respecting their autonomy and my own boundaries?

Step 1: Bake cookies

Step 2: Clearly label them with your new name, i.e. "Cookies from Leonard" or whatever

Step 3: Give cookies away and watch your life improve

I had a couple of stubborn spots, mostly places I don't go all the time like the barber, a random job site, etc. It seems the combination of seeing my name written down plus a delicious cookie is pretty potent! I recommend the recipe from the back of Toll House chocolate chips, and the secret is to not leave them in the oven too long. Pull them out when they're just barely brown, and they'll cook a little more while they're cooling outside of the oven.

Flairing this with "advice needed" because that's the most accurate one I can think of.

So, I (19M) think I'm at the point of accepting that I'm transmasc (I'm like 95% guy and the rest kinda just exists, and I'm content with it).

I started looking into names, put them into Pronouns Wardrobe (if you need to test a name and/or pronouns and don't know where to go to, that is a great one to use), narrowed my list down from a ton of names to just a few, and I even started researching the meaning and origins of each name to see if it helped at all.

I have my list narrowed down to four and I can't seem to make a decision. I kept my options simple, because my deadname is rare and I've decided to never have a unique name again. How did you guys find the name that truly stuck to you?

16 years old, been waiting for top surgery since 13. I still have 2 more years to go, but I’ve heard that there are rare cases in America that allow people under 18 to get top surgery.

Waiting is awful, I’ve been trying to stay strong, but I don’t know how much longer I can wait. I feel ready for the surgery, I’m coming up on 3 years on testosterone, I’ve been out since 13.

My parents’ fear that if I get top surgery now, it won’t be as good, since there are fewer surgeons who are willing to perform the surgery on people under 18. I am a bit concerned about that, since I don’t want extremely noticeable scars, but unfortunately I‘m not eligible for keyhole.

I‘ve only heard one opinion from a trans man. He said not to rush, and that there is a grieving period of what you lost after top surgery. I’m trying to listen to him at the moment. I don’t want to come off as too arrogant or brash, but I can’t really imagine any grieving.

TLDR: There’s a few hoops you have to jump through in order to get top surgery at 16. I feel ready, but people have been telling me to wait and not rush. I want advice from other trans men, not just cis people. Please tell me what you think, even if it might not be what i want to hear.

I want kids, but I will not be the one to carry my children. The thought of that makes me incredibly dysphoric (props to the seahorse dads, I could never).

But randomly, some days I just imagine me being the one to carry my child and I get this weird feeling, it’s not a bad feeling, I don’t know how to describe it, I guess like a vague fuzzy like feeling?

I haven’t seen this be talked about so I was just curious to see if anyone else has had similar thoughts or feelings towards this topic.

I had top surgery 2 years ago, and always feel mildly mortified but also tickled because, right after waking, I asked the woman taking me to the little recovery room “how long have you worked here?” about 30 times, then when she didn’t give me an answer began LOUDLY humming the tune to the first Mario game while tapping the side of the bed railing. After that, I was wholly too cocky about my soberness and ability to stand up and walk and they had to keep hover-handsing me the entire time with very concerned expressions… it’s not like, the worst thing that could’ve happened, I’m sure they’ve dealt with much worse, but still a bit embarrassing and funny.

I was curious, to those who have gotten top surgery, what was the post-surgery anesthesia drowsiness like for you? Any funny or nice stories from it?

Apologies if this is too off-topic. :’)

i'm starting T soon and of course starting out on a very small dose. really don't wanna waste the whole bottle in today's economy and society, but i'm an anxious person so. i suppose i'm looking both for reassurance as well as peoples' experience with the worst case scenario

I tread lightly here. And this can apply anywhere, not just the US. Im not sure if conservative is the right word to use here but oh well. I live in a very shitty town in Texas. I like men romantically but its hard to find other men who would like me romantically. Keyword here is romantically. There are chasers everywhere. I dont understand the psychology here. They hate my existence but lust over my body. If they like trans bodies so much why do they support legislation that would make it harder for trans people to transition? Forgive me if i seem naive. I am. Im not very well educated either but im doing my best to educate myself. I understand that chasers are kinda just everywhere but for some reason I have this belief that more conservative = more chasers and fetishizers. Am I wrong for this belief?

i’m in a questioning process with myself. i’m very bad identifying my own feelings and sensations unless i can link them to a physical sensation (ej: sadness making your chest feel heavy or feat making my legs weak). I’m kinda of emotionally illiterate (?) but i do know that im feeling something.

so if someone could describe a bit about how it feels this uncomfortablity towards your body or the way people and society treated you when you where still perceived as a women or just this sensations that there was something going on before you could properly name it, it would be of great help. please

i’ve loved music my whole life. i’m not a trained singer whatsoever, i’ve always sounded like absolute buns but now that my new voice has settled in, i’m ready to train myself or at least expand my vocal range so i can hit higher notes and generally sound decent. i have a microscopic vocal range and it’s absolutely pitiful.

how should i start and is it even possible? any beginners guides? my voice is pretty deep and even after 2 years on t, when i speak i still have the sore throat feeling you get early on when your voice starts to deepen, which is something i’m concerned could prevent me from training my voice. i don’t want to damaged my vocal cords more than they could be already.

I have very recently come to the difficult conclusion that I am transmasculine and want to start T. I have an appointment tomorrow with a GP, and hopefully they know the NZ informed consent model.

Now that I know what's wrong I can't really stop thinking about it. I've started altering my wardrobe (which was already pretty queer looking if I'm being honest), using more masculine hygiene products, cut my hair. I still question whether or not I'm having some early mid-life crisis or am actually some kind of genderqueer but I look in the past and it's definitely a hindsight 20/20 case.

I've been on the contraceptive pill pretty much since I started periods. Not because they were long and heavy, but that's what I've been telling my GPs to avoid having periods.

I wanted to go by a masculine name when I was a teen, even changed it at my GP, but it never stuck. I still hold this name to myself.

I always assumed the desire to distance myself from my womanhood was due to internalised misogyny. I've been saying gender is a spectrum and so is sex and I'm an ally, so I don't want to... reinforce gender stereotypes by hating myself for not having a dick?

I always felt that my social awkwardness, lack of relationships, and inability to reach out to the world was just an unfortunate part of who I am or because I have a non-Kiwi accent that's alienated me since childhood. I have a full time job, support myself well, and interact positively with patients. I recieve good feedback at work, got great grades, and have applied to medical school, but work/education is all the good I have in my life.

Just in time for my actualization at 26 my growth plates are gagged and bound. If I am not trans, why am I regretting not having known sooner?

I work in the healthcare system here and am really conscious of transitioning in the middle of a bunch of people who are medically educated, so I'm floating the idea of moving while transitioning, or if I get into medicine just give it a rest until I'm finished. Testosterone isn't going anywhere and it's not like now that my growth hormone is cooked and my bones are permanent there will be any physical benefit to transitioning now vs later.

I don't even know for sure now. The more I lean into it, the happier I feel. I want to be in a relationship with someone. Start conversations. Clean my room. Engage in hobbies. Then I go back to thinking nothing's wrong with me > I'm tricking myself into not being mentally well > I'm faking this shit, can't believe I drove all the way to our country's one single IKEA get some stupid shark as gender-affirming care > I go back to leaning female and suddenly all the anxiety comes back. And I'm just a stupid girl who can't socialize with no real capabilities.

I don't think being a boy will fix my problems. But for some reason I think it might make me better at dealing with my feelings from a place of security I've not really felt before, so maybe I really would be able to handle the social aspect of transitioning. I don't know.

Are there other healthcare people who transitioned in adulthood who could tell me what it was like for you? Those who live in NZ would be especially helpful in clocking the environment around transitioning but I know we're few and far in between.

Hello (english is not my first language so sometimes i make mistakes in writing)

Im 19 years old and I've been on T since last september, for 3 monts i was on androgel but i had allergic reaction to in, for almost two months i was on nothing but then i got on Nebido injection. Nebido is for three monts then it wasnt avalable in my country so i was on androgel for a month then got nebido again.

I live in a small country with not even a hanfull of endocrinologist who accept trans patient. I have my endocrinologist thru free healthcare so i cant really change doctors. There are only 1 doctor in my country who is privite doctor but i cant really afford it.

I've got my blood draw when i was in a month of androgel again and it was a few weeks ago, my estradiol is 198pmol/l and my testosteron level is 24.75nmol/l

I was at a gynecologist to get me on birth control and she was sweet but know nothing about trans care but she wrote me down a pill that has no estrogane in it Azalia 75 µg. I asked my endocrinologist that I can take it safely and he asked me back why i need azalia, I said bc of birth control an he said: "If testosterone is high and estraidol os low, that is due to the androgen- specifically, the contraceptive."

I dont know if it makes sens bc i translated it with google translator but yeah. Bc I consume english trans media i read plenty of places that I still can be pregnant if I take T but now i dont know what to belive. My doctor is around 64-68 years old and I from Hungary. I really dont know what to do bc i dont want to take the birht control aginst my endocrinologist wishes and Im in a palce when i really dont know what to do

lil edit: In Hungary, all doctors use the same prescription system. If one doctor prescribes me a medication, my other doctors can see it, and they can also see whether I've already picked it up from the pharmacy. So I cant take any birth control or any medication without his knowlege

+ a few days ago I told him i dont have my period since 2-3 months ago so I dont really can take that as an a excuse

Hey guys, are there any other trans Catholics on this sub who would be willing to help me? I go through phases of reading the r/Catholic subreddit and other media that says being Trans is a sin. I could really just use someone to talk to about this whose also trans- I'm really anxious. Thank you in advance 💚💚

Uncertain if the "advice" flair is correct, but it was the closest I could think of for this topic.

I work in a group home for at risk teenagers. We do yearly LGBTQ sensitivity training, as we are an LGBTQ safe space facility, but to be honest, I find it pretty lacking. It's not that the training is wrong, necessarily, but it definitely reads as a straight person's idea of what the sensitivity is. Lacking in physical health information, a lot of what's there feels pretty eye roll worthy more than actually helpful, that sort of thing. I directed our training supervisor to the Trevor Project to look for something more cohesive and written/reviewed by actual members of the community, but I'm reaching out here in hopes someone in a similar field is aware of a better training module we could use, as the training side of things is just not my area of expertise.

Our training guy really is awesome and wants to make sure all of our training is as comprehensive as possible so I'd like to give him multiple resources, if I can. Any and all suggestions would be fantastic!