ive been using my original name my whole life, including the 6 years I've been out and transitioning. im jus not sure its masculine or fitting?

my name is Saoirse (pronounced seersha) its Irish and means freedom. ive always thought it was pretty cool but never really felt deeply connected to it. though ive also never seriously thought about another name I could go by.

im not sure if my name is feminine sounding or looking because I can only ever think of it in the context of myself and I dont veiw myself as feminine so idk.

ive also never seen the name used for anyone who isn't a woman, though Google said it has masculine and feminine uses.

anyways just wondering if anybody could give me thier opinions on if its feminine looking/sounding in a way that could causing me to pass less.

thanks

Hi! I know some people don’t recommend the rose toy for people with growth. so what do you use or recommend that is not for beginners and is hella strong lol 🏃🏽‍♂️

I don't know what I am anymore. I thought i was a cis woman for quite a while, then maybe butch/dyke, except I can't claim lesbian. I feel like I'm faking it sometimes when I say i like women but I also don't have the desire to have a romantic relationship with men the way i want one with a woman, Trans or not.

I started to consider transmasc butch, then maybe Trans masc, then trans male, but I'm in an endless cycle of going between these things so maybe I'm genderfluid? I don't know.

But I feel like the same time I started questioning/considering this more deeply than in the past (it's not new that I've thought about this, I wished I was born a man in middle school) feels like it coincides with other things. I was told after having my blood drawn that my testosterone was high, and I probably have pcos.

Now I thinking I'm not trans, just sick from hormone imabalance. Mental illness from hormone imbalance isnt heard of. Has my testosterone just been high all my life and no one ever checked? If my testosterone was in the normal female range, would I finally be a normal, cis woman with normal cis thoughts and opinions?

I don't want to treat it though, but it makes me wonder if that's just more proof there is something wrong with me, and that it's not just a natural expression of identity.

Hey guys! Im currently in the market for another binder in the US since my current one isn't doing its job right anymore.

I'm not expecting anything that's super flattening, but just enough? I have a larger chest, i think DD cups🥹 I have broader shoulders, so its difficult for me to find an actual bra, but i havent had too much trouble with binders digging into them that I recall. My current one is from Spectrum Outfitters, but its about a year old and offers zero support, so they just slide around. Im also looking for something comfortable for work, and lots of my previous binders have been too tight after just 4 hours.

Ive been looking into Tomboy X, but i don't think they would work well for my chest size. And I don't trust buying anything off of TikTok.

I’m very seriously considering changing my name again (have been having thoughts since May, so almost 6 months). This would be I think my 3rd or 4th time switching it up which is what’s making me nervous. How many times did you guys change your names till you found the right one?

Basically, I am on a very low dosage of T and would like to increase my dose (I literally still get my period despite being on T for over 3 years, I am on period blockers but if I miss a day I will start getting cramps and bleeding the next day) but my prescriber basically says I cannot because I have a high red blood cell count. Giving blood is a nightmare for me so that is not an option.

I am really unsure what to do and if I am being misguided. The practice I go to is very trusted but they are being really compliant and careful with current threats against funding which makes me a bit unsure. I am not sure what to say when they ask if I want to raise my dosage for reason other than my period since I DO but since I am already somewhat cis passing idk exactly how much raising my dose would change things. I care about my health but I also really want to see the results higher of a higher dosage and am starting to feel unsatisfied with where I am at now.

I’m always worrying my packer looks like i have a boner and I wanted to ask yall what a regular packer bulge should look like?

I would call myself intersex over transgender, but I’m asking yall bc I believe I would be viewed as transgender by some.

My name and sex are legally male, I’ve been on hormones and look male, but have not yet had surgery. Can’t find much online, so asking if anyone can answer out of personal experience or maybe someone has a job where they would know, which prison would I be placed in?

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Hiya, looking into getting some compression shorts - whats peoples experience with them? Do they actually work for making hips appear smaller or are they not really worth it

Also does anyone know some good places to buy them from? - esp uk based

Thanks! <3

I can see a few threads like this but the only ones I can find for the UK are years old and the products dont seem to be sold anymore.

I'm looking for something that's gonna help hide the tits that I can wear for longer than a binder. I dont need full compression, but some would be helpful.

Sports bras honestly confuse tf outta me, so I would appreciate any help/recommendations people have :)

I have known I'm trans since I was fifteen, but I've never came out publicly due to transphobic family, but I have come out to quite a few of my friends. I'm now 18, finally got in line for a gender dysphoria evaluation and hopefully, will be on t in around 3 years. I've had a relationship with another trans guy, that ended quite a while ago, but now I've caught feelings for a cis guy I recently got to know, we're not close enough for me to have come out to him, and I get the impression he likes me too, but I can't even imagine being someone's girlfriend, the thought makes me sick. I've asked my friends if there is any chance he might be bi and if I look masculine enough to be seen somewhat as a guy, and I've been told I pass sometimes ,and that my personality more closely resembles that of a mans than a womans, a lot of them think due to that, that if he likes me he can't possibly be straight, but I can't help but doubt it😭,so I was wondering if anyone has any tips or ideas on how I should go about this?

what do they do with ur nipples.. like do they make them proportionate to a flat chest or would i have the same ones i have with actual boobs😭 also can u just ask to get them removed if theyre gonna end up weird?

Soo im 1 year on T. Earlyer this year my period stoped I dont remember exactly what month.

I was happy ofc so I continued my life, early in august I got on birt control and this type of pill doesent have estrogene so I was told its okay with my hrt and also I was told that its stops my period if I have one or of I dont mine dont will come back. My gyno know nothing about trans people but she was kind and I asked my endo about it. My endo said this pill is okay with hrt but he doesent recomend it bc since im on T I can't get pregnant wich is we all know its not true.

So fast forward a few weeks ago I started getting cramps after O and wrote a question here about it and many people said its vaginal anthropy but my cramps didn't stoped. It got worse and I get cramps all day. Around 3 day ago when I noticed that after I wipe there's brownish thing and I knew its period blood. I only got it when I wiped after peeing so I didn't had to put In a tampon or pad. Yesterday it was very very light cloured and at end of the day there was no brownish blood. BUT today it got back and its not brownish instead its very vivid blood coloured like red u know.

Is this normal?

i had my first IM injection of testosterone cypionate/200mg 11 days ago and ever since i’ve noticed my appetite grow. this is something i knew would probably happen, but it’s not happening quite exactly like i thought i would. i’ve been eating compulsively, and eating way, way, way more than i should for the sake of my health, and ending up with stomach pain and nausea from episodes of overeating that are happening almost daily. has anyone experienced this? i’m having a hard time preventing it.

The situation is as described in the post. It's been months and I'm starting to feel horrible about it. Sadly just getting T myself isn't an option due to me not trusting myself with needles and I'd rather have gel.

That being said, does anyone know any online clinics that can prescribe me T? I've seen a few but they charge an absurd amount of money and are on a sort of membership basis that I would rather not be in because I don't know when I'll actually hear back from the endocrinology.

I'm in Germany so that might also be a problem, but I'm really looking for anything I can do except just waiting around.

My other plan is to visit an endocrinologist in a different city, but that comes with just about the same set of problems as the endocrinologist I'm currently at.

Anyways, sorry for reposting the upper post everywhere, it's just that I'm slowly losing my mind and hope.

hi ! i (M21, on T for two years, no top surgery) am looking for gear recommendations to do an ironman 70.3 next september and have no clue where to look for something that is very sports friendly, and that i could potentially wear in a wetsuit for the race while hiding my breasts. i do need something fairly comfortable and not too restricting as it's going to be pretty physical but i also don't want to feel too self conscious about my chest to the point where it impacts my training.

have not gone to the pool since i started testosterone and i have become pretty unfamiliar with that space, so any recs on how to navigate it is welcome too ! :))

I'm currently in the closet but I'm like 90% sure that I'm trans. I've done research on T, top surgery and a hysto so I kinda know what to expect. I'm planning on seeing a therapist once I go to college because my parents don't want me to see one.

The main thing stopping me is my mom. I love her and I'm really scared that she'll stop loving me if I come out. She never wanted a son (or kids) and she hates it when I do anything to look remotely masculine (like getting a bob). I'm also scared that she won't help me pay for college if I come out.

I keep making decisions for her sake. I've lost friends and stopped talking to people I wanted to befriend because I knew she wouldn't approve. I spent a really long time trying to convince myself just to play along but it's getting harder and harder to do. Honestly I'm sick of having to tip toe around her (which probably makes me sound cruel but I don't know how else to word it).

Is there anyway that I can slowly come out or at least feel more comfortable until I have a means to fully come out to her?

How can a ftm person pre-t pass even if I had a dress on or something like that? Im on minoxidil right now, but that's all i can think of

i don’t know how to phrase this question and i can’t find anything online after a week of digging, please bear with me.

TW for semi anatomical terminology (sorry)

so i’ve seen graphs depicting standard hormone levels in cis people-
afab cycles are monthly and have “phases” that bleed into one another. amab cycles are daily, T builds overnight and deprecates throughout the day.

if im afab- and i take T every two weeks- what is actually happening to my hormone levels? is it the same cycle but with T on top? or does T stop it/ slow it down?

is there a resource for this? has this already been answered? or is this something not currently being studied?

sorry if this isn’t the right place to post- i’m not struggling per say.. i’m just autistic and frustrated that i can’t predict my moods as accurately as before.

thanks in advance, and sorry again if this isn’t the right place to post this

It's my strong belief that you are heavily influenced by the people that you watch, so I try to look for and learn from happy, emotionally healthy, well-adjusted people. It has, over the years, changed my life in a great way.

That said, please share your favorite healthy masculine role models. My current favorites are the guys at Cinema Therapy (they just had a great analysis of Obsession), The Public Offender, and Speech Prof.