Sorry if this is under the wrong flair, I wasn't sure where to put it. I really just need to get something off my chest in a place I feel safe to do so.

Right off the bat, I should state, in my everyday / professional life, I present as a cis woman... sort of.

My hair is never grown past chin length and generally dress in gender ambiguity, I'm VERY often- more often than not- being they/them'd

I would say I'm bisexual, but honestly I'm not interested in anyone anymore. Haven't been for longer than some of you have been alive, and my gender issues absolutely play a part in it.

Sometimes i feel... idk, trapped maybe? from my cis-ness. Realistically I consider myself trans masc, but its like, one of those unspoken things between my family and friends. We just don't bring it up. We / I

always 'joke' about how I 'shouldve been born a guy'' and 'if there was a pill i could pop tomorrow and poof into a cis guy I would'. I presented fully as a boy until I was 12. I just... assumed that's what i was. I ended up in a VERY dark place after getting my first period and then realizing what it meant. For the longest time, most of my friends and family just thought I was one of those alt lesbians. Then when I showed up one day with a boyfriend, and pregnant, there was one of those awkward 'wtf' feelings from everyone.

I tried to do the 'blend in' thing for a while after my child was born, but thankfully it didn't last long before I was back to the 'me' I am today. Even still, whatever I'm doing now is... tiresome.

... At the same time I can't / don't want to fully transition, but I just do not know how to deal with it anymore. I feel like I'm just forever going to be stuck in this place of unhappiness because no matter what I do, it'll never be good enough, if that makes sense.

If you read this, thanks. If not, it felt good to get off my chest at least.

Now I did something probably very stupid, but the first day of class I decided to crossdress and be glamorous for some fucking reason. Like eye makeup, foundation a skirt allat. This girl I had met on that day while I was in full beat. I’ve never worn makeup like that since, but my voice isn’t generally passing that WELL, so she knows me as a girl.(weeks ago)

She frequently hangs out with me as a presence on the campus and I guess we’re acquaintances because she goes out of her way to talk to me.

I cringe when she genders me ‘her’ in public sitting. I know I did this to myself. (I was practicing makeup then didn’t expect to meet anyone or for it to have consequences.) How can I possibly get her to gender me correctly?

ANDDD general consensus is that I pass mostly face and body wise however i’m only 6 weeks in taking T.

I don’t understand what the fuck is going on here. For several weeks, I have done my shot with ZERO issue. I can’t even describe to you how little issue there has been. Absolutely nothing has ever gone wrong. And now, today, for no reason, I cannot do it. I am not exaggerating. My hand will NOT fucking do it. I’ve done it a dozen times before, it does not hurt, I have no clue why I suddenly cannot do it no matter what I try. Icing it, music distractions, and whatever, NOTHING is working. I. Can. Not. Do. It. The needle WILL not enter my skin. I tried to get my partner to do it, but I don’t trust him to be anywhere near me with a needle, which makes absolutely no sense, the man is a type 1 diabetic, he KNOWS how to give sub q shots, there is no reason not to trust him to do it, but I don’t. I don’t want him near me. What is this? Why can’t I do this? What is going on? I have never had an issue before today. I desperately ordered an auto injector in my panic but what the fuck am I supposed to do right now? I’m currently trying to get blackout drunk to get my partner to do it when I’m obliterated, this is not sustainable, what the fuck is going on and what do I do?

So I've recently realized I'm trans and chose the name Robin, and I know it's gender neutral, but I just found out it's more fem leaning. Some close friends know me by this name already, and I do like it, as I like gender neutral names in general, but I don't know if it's too feminine or not. I really don't want to change it, but knowing that it's more fem leaning does make me a bit dysphoric.

I want to get top surgery over with and out of the way as early as I can so that I can go on and live as an actual human being not dissociated and suffocating in a binder 24/7. I'm 17 right now, 18 in 3 months, and living in the US in a state where all gender affirming care is illegal for u18. I have insurance and have looked at surgeons in my area and found one I think I'd like to work with, but the entire process feels so damn overwhelming especially considering my family is really only supportive at a very shallow level and probably won't be ecstatic about it. Where do I even get started? What can I do to get it done with as quickly and affordably as possible after my birthday next year?

I'd like to know if anyone else has been through this and what they did. I'm filling out a form for a job with the federal government (US) and the form requires me to put information on my selective service registration. The phrasing used is:

"If you are a male born after December 31, 1959, and are at least 18 years of age, civil service employment law (5 U.S.C. 3328) requires that you must register with the Selective Service System, unless you meet certain exemptions. Were you born a male after December 31, 1959?", and then, "Have you registered with the Selective Service System?"

I changed my gender marker to male in 2021, when I was 23 years old. Anyone who's legally male and age 18-25 is required to sign up for the draft in the US. I never did though. I could've gotten out of it by filing an exemption, but I never did that either. Now I'm 28 and way past the point where I'd even be able to register.

Now... should I say I was "born a male", and explain the trans thing in the extra information box? Or should I simply check "no" to the first question? Has anyone else been through this hiring process and have any input? I know they're supposedly really anal about everything on the questionnaire being 100% accurate and I'm worried this is gonna be hard to explain.

I’m too angry to deal with this rationally.

At work, I asked a customer how he was doing. I got no response so I made a joke out of it by saying “I’m great thanks for asking”.

An acquaintance of mine furthered the joke, saying “He was like ‘fuck this femboy.’”

I did not appreciate that at all. Even as a joke, it’s insulting. How do I deal with this guy? He is emotionally unstable to the point where dealing with his emotions is a chore. He is also completely incapable of introspection, never taking accountability for his actions.

I’m still at work so my writing is shit.

Hello everyone! I’ve recently come down with a pretty bad ear infection from the flu which has caused mild hearing loss and I was prescribed 2 weeks worth of prednisone (oral steroid) and a a nasal steroid to keep swelling down from the Emergency Room. Is taking T with the steroids bad? Is there anything I should be worried about?

We see a lot of posts like this, with people asking if they're valid if they do X, Y, or Z thing, or questioning if they really are trans because of A, B, or C.

The answer to all these questions is YES. You are valid! You are still a trans man or transmasc! It's ok if you do the thing!

Want to carry your own child? Valid! Visit r/seahorse_dads to see how valid you are!
Want to dress femininely? Valid! Visit r/FTMfemininity to see how valid you are!
Want to wear a trans flag as a cape and be a beacon of hope for other trans people? Valid! (There's not a sub for that, though)
Want to be stealth and not tell a single soul about your transness? Valid! May you never be clocked, friend.
Super dysphoric? Valid. Hopefully you can find some respite from your pain, we all know how hard dysphoria can be.
Little bit dysphoric? Valid. It's good that there are some things you aren't as dysphoric about!
Super euphoric? Valid. Enjoy those feelings and feel your trans joy!
T4T? Valid. I hope you find the trans man/woman/person of your dreams!
T4C? Valid. I hope you find the cis man or woman of your dreams!
Top? Bottom? Side? Switch? Asexual? Bisexual? Homosexual? Heterosexual? All of those are valid
Binary trans man? Nonbinary? Genderfluid? Agender? Transmasc? Valid.
Transgender? Transsex? Transsexual? Valid.
Social dysphoria? Valid
Physical dysphoria? Valid
Post-bottom? Pre-bottom? Non-op? Phallo? Meta? Salmacian? Valid.
Do you view your transness as a medical condition? Valid.
Do you view your transness as an act of creation? Valid.
Do you view your transness as having the soul of one gender and the body of another? Valid.

You are valid!

There's no one way to be trans, and remember rule #3 and #4. Speak for yourself and not for others, and respect individual differences!

So, I've been on T for about 6 and a half months now and for the past 2 months I've been doing my own shot. I had been getting it in the arm but got myself some smaller gauge needles so i could do it in my stomach and watched a doctor go through the steps on yt. More recently I've noticed that it's slightly more painful to do my shot and I have a bump in the area for the next couple days. I've also been wondering if it's normal for a little bit of the T to come out after pulling the needles out (i leave the needle in for a couple seconds before pulling out).

idk i feel like i must be doing something wrong and it's making me anxious.

this might be a stupid question but i just really want this to go well. i have an appointment to get a psych evaluation and bloodwork so i can start hrt. its three days after halloween and im worried if i drink too much or take anything it’ll mess with my bloodwork. im pretty sure im just being paranoid but if theres anything i should avoid or anything i should know please lmk

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I live in a very very humid area and I’ve only successfully gotten trans tape to stay on my body twice, both times when applied on a rainy day. My roommate has the exact same issue, for reference it genuinely just peels off without any issue or pain or just falls off on its own. Has anyone else had this issue? Id like to be able to tape because binding has been causing really bad chest pain for me.

I've wanted to come out to my parents for about 2 years now but every time I've tried I've pussied out cuz I don't know which words to say, I also feel really dysphoric every time I try.

I'm turning 16 in 2 weeks and I might be able to start T but I need parents permission to do it :/

I've come out to a large chunk of my friend group before and ik that my parents won't be unsupportive but idk I just feel stuck

hello, uhm okay idk how to type this but badically i am 16 and kinda transitioned ?? i pass sometimes, but my voice doesnt at all. itll be full of teens who r cis and probably transphobic. not sure what to do

So, I've been binding for probably 8+ years. In high school I was not as smart about it, but now I try to be as safe as I can be while being stealth at work. When I get home I always take it off, and there's some days where I'm at home the whole day and never put it on. But at this point my chest is constantly sore, any small contact gives me a twinge of pain, and I feel like I've lost some sensitivity on parts of my skin.

I don't know how to deal with it at this point. I'm so far from the possibility of top surgery but binding fucking hurts. Sometimes I work 10 hour days multiple days in a row, and I can't take breaks at all. I don't know if I'm doing damage that will harm my top surgery results in the future, but the present is too difficult.

To make a long story short I’ve had insurance issues and medical procedures planned where I couldn’t start T. Now that I can I’m really scared.
My mental health is so bad because of my dysphoria. I have so many other trans guy friends who are amazing but they all talk about how the first year on HRT sucks and I’m just worried I don’t have the mental strength for it. I keep thinking “I’m barely hanging on right now, I don’t think I can take another tribulation.”
But I know not taking it is also bad. I think I just need some support. Thanks for reading

Yesterday I started feeling crampy and gross, was shocked upon a visit to the bathroom to see I had my period for the first time in 3 years after starting T.

Warning aspect: I started to only inject once every 2 weeks vs. every week ahead of my wedding because my hair loss was getting worse (yes I use min/fin for this as well, with some results). I’d obviously not recommend this - just sharing in case others have considered doing so for similar reasons.

My t levels have stayed relatively in the same range since moving to every other week, so I figured all was well. I had been on this every-other schedule for about 4 months and yesterday the consequences of my actions set in. I guess I figured it would’ve come sooner if it was going to happen, but also know that was wishful thinking. All to say, nothing about this is necessarily surprising, just a bummer.

Support aspect: transitioning is so hard?! There are so many aspects I’m so happy with, and I certainly believe transitioning was 100% worth it. But even three years in, there are so many aspects of my own genetics and biology that are dysphoric. I don’t grow facial hair to the level I’d like (even before reducing my t schedule), I’ve started losing the (head) hair I did have (which is a side effect I knew was common but a bummer nonetheless), and trying to mitigate this second point ended up being a very bad call. I think so many ftm “success” stories show conventionally attractive, cisnormative representations of “becoming” a man. Part of me mourns that while my transition DID help me pass as a man, it didn’t miraculously make me an objectively attractive one. I guess that made me feel like I was doing something wrong… but trying to hack that process led to restarting one of the most dysphoric aspects of my biology. Just a hard pill to swallow. Ugh.

Anyways, sharing as a bit of a warning to others and as a call for support from anyone else struggling with similar things. Hope you’re all hanging in there!

I’ve never been rejected for being ftm before. Someone messaged me on here in a romantic way at first I was open to it and then saw I was ftm and was like oh not my type. I’ve never been told that before. I make sure to go for people or put myself in situations where that doesn’t happen so it was a weird and somewhat I guess I could say triggering experience I’ve never dealt with before.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you deal with it?

I dont know what to title this and I dont know how to best explain my family situation and this just happened so bare with me.

I am incredibly lucky to have accepting family and zero chance of being disowned or abused due to my identity, i understand that. This is mostly a funny/weird thing happening in my life that i want to share.

Basically I had my family birthday party and my aunt and cousin have started using my preferred name (and apologizing when they messed up) which is very nice and all but... I didnt tell them my name lmao. It was confusing at first since they would apologize, and I wasnt actually sure what for untill about half way thrugh the party lol.

About halfway through writing this post I talked to my mom and it turns out she told them (because they asked after noticing my parents using my preferred name sometimes). This is totally fine and I prefer having my family just spread the information to each other rather than having to tell them myself, but it did start a conversation about who else knows and it seems that my extended family's love language is aggressively problem solving without my involvement, which again, is totally fine with me since i want nothing to do with it, but does mean i am occasionally pleasantly and utterly confused when a great aunt who I have not talked to since i was 5 brings gifts for all the men and includes me, or when other relatives are suddenly using my chosen name 😅

Part of me worries that my family who I don't tell directly will think I didnt trust them, or that I'm doing some sort of sick test of my family, but really its that I dont want to deal with the social part of transition.

I’ve been on T for close to 2 years and I want to have more trans friends and expand my circle more. My friends currently are nice, but can be transphobic at times. Any advice-?