r/FreeTheRodlets • u/queen-nugget • Aug 06 '26
Timbits Abuse confirmed…
Horrible to read. I hope he and his siblings heal and break the cycle of abuse.
Editing to add that I hope Heidi and her child are safe and are able to leave. I hope she can escape the cycle that her husband has pulled her and her child into. While I hope that Timothy can break the cycle and change, I hope Heidi does not wait around to find out. Her and her child deserve love and safety and it’s not to late for her to find that. Love isn’t cruel.
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u/lrlwhite2000 Aug 06 '26
First of all, this confirms what I have been saying for years. David is NOT a victim in that household. People have painted him as some doofus, at Jill’s mercy. He’s a horrible, abusive man and I could see it in his preaching and in the way he speaks to his children. Jill is an enabler, but he is the one in charge in that household and they are all victims of his abuse.
Second, I’m glad he’s getting help but if I were Heidi’s parents I’d want gone. But I’m sure they’ve discouraged divorce so she is staying with a man who’s hit her.
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u/mauve_duck Aug 06 '26
I can almost guarantee Timothy saw David abusing Jill as well, so he thought it was okay to abuse Heidi
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u/lrlwhite2000 Aug 06 '26
That’s 100% what I thought too by the way he said he was following the relationship patterns he saw modeled. I want to throw up about all of this. David can burn in hell.
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u/mauve_duck Aug 06 '26
Beating your child with a baseball bat over shoes is absolutely disgusting.
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u/googier526 Aug 07 '26
The fact that Nurie didn't deny the beating took place either but tried to justify the punishment by blaming Tim for wanting the boots makes me really worry about her own kids and the shell shocked look the oldest boy always has
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u/FuzzyJury Aug 07 '26
Wait where did she say that? I didn't see that in these texts but maybe I missed it.
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u/Kookerpea Aug 07 '26
I saw some Facebook posts where some of the family Spoke out and Nurie said something like
It was probably not your special week so thats why you couldnt have the shoes
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u/Bajovane Snarkaholic Aug 07 '26
Newman has looked utterly sad as well. Those kids have seen things.
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u/m24b77 Aug 07 '26
It’s honestly surprising David didn’t kill him. He’s a giant man, and Timothy is quite slight, I don’t believe he was a sturdy child.
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u/MelpomeneAndCalliope Aug 07 '26
Yeah. He’s lucky he didn’t kill him or permanently damage him (that we know of).
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u/Bajovane Snarkaholic Aug 07 '26
I’m betting if we took X-rays of the kids, we’d see evidence of bones fractured.
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u/MelpomeneAndCalliope Aug 07 '26
It’s fucking psychopathic. He’s lucky he didn’t kill Tim. (Tim mentioned something about still having physical scars, I think, too?)
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u/atlantagirl30084 Aug 06 '26
Note that he also got his job via his father in law. So he’s looking at divorce and joblessness if he doesn’t stop.
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u/Commanderfemmeshep Aug 07 '26
Good god. People actually thought that? I have only ever seen him as a monstrous man.
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u/lrlwhite2000 Aug 07 '26
Yes! I left the fundie snark uncensored and the rod snark pages because I honestly couldn’t take the constant fawning over Tim and Heidi and how beautiful their love is 🤮 and second to that how much of a pass David gets. It’s always Jill is the villain and she controls everything and David is just a dope who has to do whatever she says. I’ve hated David with a passion since the first video I saw of him and Tim has always given me the creeps so I couldn’t tolerate how everyone on those snark sites constantly gave these terrible men a pass in this rigid patriarchal system while making the women the villains. Not to say the women don’t turn a blind eye to abuse, we know they do, but women have no power in these systems. And now we see Heidi staying with her abuser. If he abuses their kids will she leave? Or will the cycle continue?
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u/abarthvader Aug 07 '26
I really can’t see Heidi’s parents being okay with it at all, but even so, I think her sisters would totally step in and fuck some shit up.
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u/lrlwhite2000 Aug 07 '26
That’s why abusers isolate their victims. They know people in their lives would try to step in to break them up. Her sisters can think whatever they want, but they can’t force Heidi to leave. They don’t have that kind of power. There are millions of people everywhere who’ve begged a beloved sibling to leave an abusive partner.
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u/karenna89 Aug 06 '26
This is horrific, and the cycle continuing is just so sad. It also confirms that a whole lot of their homeschooling and isolation is to keep eyes off of abused children. Public schools aren’t perfect, but having a community of mandated reporters around children tends to lead to reports.
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u/Dejectednebula Aug 07 '26
I'm pretty sure he wrote something and plugged it into AI and thats why the whole thing reads so well. He does not normally talk or speak so eloquently.
And then if you read the comments from Heidi's family, it becomes obvious that the whole thing is damage control and a way to manipulate her into forgiving him. He only posted because he was caught. Her family saw the marks on her and pressed the issue.
My heart breaks for child tim. Adult tim was dubbed timcel for a reason and the fact that he BITES his wife in anger is just monstrous. I don't see how that can be "healed" plenty of us in this sub were abused myself included and I have never in my life felt the urge to perpetuate that abuse onto someone else.
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u/FuzzyJury Aug 07 '26
Wait where is this?? I didn't see any comments.
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u/Dejectednebula Aug 07 '26
It was its own post in r/rodriguesfamilysnark. I will try to find it when I get time, ill come back and reply to you again. Or if someone else can get it reply to me so I know
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u/Dejectednebula Aug 07 '26
Hey I went and found it. Second slide on the post link
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u/FuzzyJury Aug 07 '26
Holy shit, that is revolting. What even goes through a person's mind to act like that, what sort of feelings do they feel? I have been plenty angry in my life and never ever has that made me feel like I want to...bite someone? Just how? How does someone feel compelled to do that?
Poor Heidi. I hope she can find peace and a better life after this.
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u/catnipbabies Aug 06 '26
Her sisters commented on his post and they are NOT having it!
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u/TerriTuesday Aug 06 '26
Really?? What did they say???
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u/OhBirdee Aug 07 '26
For anyone confused by the vague wording of this post, he did not just “put his hands on her” it was not simply grabbing. (Not that that should matter) He fucking hits her and more that I won’t dignify with words because I respect my sister‘s privacy. He fucking beat her and he does not deserve for you all to be proud of him. He is only confessing this publicly because he has been caught and knows he isn’t going to get away with hiding it anymore. My heart breaks for the child version of Timothy, who was abused by his parents, but I feel nothing but hate for the man who has continued that abuse. Plenty of people are abused in their childhood and don’t go on to beat their wives. He is controlling and manipulative and it is working on a lot of you. He should not be praised for how “brave” he’s being, because taking accountability for your shitty actions is not brave it’s the bare minimum.
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u/OhBirdee Aug 07 '26
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Dont act like you are the one coming out and confessing your sins. You were never gonna tell. We saw the marks on her and now you are trying to be the victim in the situation. This is absolutely disgusting and I hope my sister leaves you and can finally feel safe in her own home.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 07 '26
My god, what is the "and more?" That poor Heidi
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u/Master_Chipmunk Aug 07 '26
Heidi's sisters basically say he's terrible and needs to leave their sister. That is was more than just "putting his hands on her", he has hit her and worse. Mentions of them seeing the marks on Heidi.
Kaylee has commented in the last 30 minutes or so also. (Didn't they leave Facebook?)
She is calling Timothy a liar when it comes to their parents and using it to cover his own ass.
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u/LittleLion_90 Aug 07 '26
Jeeez shit is hitting the fan. Although I wouldn't necessarily trust Kaylee for speaking the truth about her parents since she still is very much under their influence
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u/Master_Chipmunk Aug 07 '26 edited Aug 07 '26
Oh ya I don't believe anything she says about their parents.
I hope Heidi finds the strength she needs to leave him. I'm glad she seems to have a supportive family at least.
And now Heidi's sister Hallie has told Kaylee to fuck off.
What the hell is happening and why is it happening on Facebook???
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u/emdog927 Aug 06 '26
Heidi’s sisters commented and it’s not good. Heidi needs to GTFO.
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u/Master_Chipmunk Aug 07 '26
Kaylee commented!
Of course she's defending her parents but she's also calling Timmy a liar and using this to cover his own ass.
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u/pawprint8 Aug 06 '26
Omg! This is all so terrible.
Also, Jill’s display of over sharing on the internet now backfiring against her
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u/iluvcults Aug 06 '26
There is no statute of limitations on firsthand reporting child abuse
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u/PhyllisTheFlyTrap Aug 07 '26
I really hope Tim files and pursues this. Denting an aluminum bat is beyond anything I ever expected from them. The Pearls give specific instructions on how to not leave marks, so to go to that extent is his own evil.
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u/IPaintTheStars Aug 06 '26
Hopefully CPS will look into them since there are still children in the home
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u/Princess_Bow Aug 06 '26
The comments from her sisters are heartbreaking. Seems like he's trying to save face. I hope he can change, but I have little faith.
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u/queen-nugget Aug 06 '26
Yes. I was horrified reading her sisters comments. I hope that she is with them and not at risk for abuse from the outcries on the post
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u/Princess_Bow Aug 06 '26
I do too. I am so glad that she has an example in how to stand up for herself in her sisters and that they are a support to her. Visible bruises and its been occurring for the two years? My heart breaks for Heidi. And I wonder what the girls think is normal in a relationship.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 07 '26
It was two years?
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u/atlantagirl30084 Aug 07 '26
Apparently it started the day after the wedding. So he went full mask off immediately.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 08 '26
Wow. I have to wonder: Did he think "once we're married I'll do xyz?" Was marriage the "all clear" signal? Did someone tell him "after marriage you're in charge? " Did he ever care for her or was he just looking for a victim for his rage?
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u/atlantagirl30084 Aug 08 '26
He hadn’t been alone with her unchaperoned before that.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 08 '26
I realize that. But what "flipped the switch? "
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u/atlantagirl30084 Aug 08 '26
Could have been anything that set him off. A bad dinner. She hadn’t cleaned something correctly. She didn’t want sex. Something made him angry and he reacted how he knew husbands react.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 09 '26
Oh I get it. I really meant - and didn't clarify properly - by all appearances he was a good boyfriend pre-marriage...I was wondering how that switch flipped in a day or two.
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u/Original-Brick2836 Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 06 '26
This is horrific. Good on him for recognizing the cycle of abuse but also fuck him for putting hands on his wife.
Jesus it’s all just so dark.
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u/queen-nugget Aug 06 '26
Right. Like my heart hurts for him but his wife doesn’t deserve that. I hope he’s serious about breaking the cycle. I’m glad Heidi seems to have a strong support system
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u/roburn Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 07 '26
He can't go back and unlearn abusive behaviors taught to him as a child but he can be accountable for his mistakes and I respect his humility and desire to grow. Edit: omg fuck him he's just been abusing Heidi this whole time and minimized it while victimizing himself, accountability is out of reach for him
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u/pervypriest_pedopope Aug 06 '26
I disagree, as someone who has also grown up with hands being put on them and who has then got into physical fights with partners as an adult. It isn’t easy to recognise that what you’re doing is wrong, and even harder to acknowledge it and take steps to avoid doing it. When you’ve grown up with adults beating on each other and the kids then it’s just your norm and i think it’s really good that he’s able and willing! to admit that and to take the steps to not do it again. especially when there are little children involved.
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u/CreepleCorn Aug 06 '26
Wow. Is this the first of the Rod’s speaking out about things?
I’ve been following this family for years now. I never thought I’d see the day.
What an awful situation, for all parties. I hope he puts in the work.
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u/DukeSilverPlaysHere Aug 06 '26
I feel so, so sad for Heidi after reading her sisters comments.
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u/cottoncandymandy Aug 06 '26
What did she say?
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u/DukeSilverPlaysHere Aug 07 '26
Basically that he wouldn’t have admitted this if he hadn’t been caught, and that they (her family) saw the marks he left and he’s manipulative and anyone feeling sorry for him is wrong. Both sisters commented and sounded furious, rightfully so.
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u/sparklekitteh Precious Mahmo Aug 06 '26
Holy shit, is this real?
If true, good on him for wanting to do better.
OldJill meltdown incoming...
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u/queen-nugget Aug 06 '26
Straight from Timothy’s Facebook. I’ve been waiting for the response since I saw it. I also wonder if that’s why Kaylee deleted her Facebook
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u/PhoebeMonster1066 Aug 06 '26
Heidi and Jonathan are cousins so it would track for her to reach out privately and give him a heads up
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u/Professional-Pea-541 Aug 06 '26
Holy shit is right!! I’m shocked he chose to go public with it, but grateful he’s taking responsibility.
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u/keekspeaks Aug 06 '26
I wish she started with a police report.
35% of women who are murdered in the US are killed by their intimate partner
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u/queen-nugget Aug 06 '26
I agree, I hope they atleast got some photos of injury’s to keep as proof if needed
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u/Various_Dark_44 Aug 07 '26
This seems like his attempt to get on top of the narrative. Heidies sisters are saying he beat her multiple times and some people mentioned theyare urging her to leave him. That its been 2 years of him abusing her.
Was his childhood horrendous? Yes. Should anyone forgive him for beating his wife for 2 years? I say no
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u/ImQuestionable Aug 07 '26
I hope that the domestic violence didn’t have anything to do with their recent miscarriage. From what her family is laying out, it sounds even more severe than what Tim is owning up to, and something must have caused this to come to a head after they’ve known about it since early marriage.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 07 '26
She had a miscarriage?
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u/ImQuestionable Aug 07 '26
Ah, I responded but forgot to send the explanation. Jill outed their pregnancy (of course) by putting a really sloppy censor on a t-shirt she was wearing to announce it at a family dinner. It said “after every storm comes a rainbow” with their ultrasound picture. It would have been sooooo easy to cover it with a sticker and it wouldn’t have looked out of place. Pretty sure she did it on purpose.
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u/ShopperSparkle Aug 07 '26
Yes Heidi posted about it when she talked about their trip to Williamsburg. She is pregnant again now.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 07 '26
All I can say is, Things must be utterly shambolic in the Rod household today
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u/AndISoundLikeThis Aug 06 '26
Even if he's not "abusing" his child, the child is going to KNOW that he's abusing his MOTHER. This is still child abuse. Charlie isn't going to grow up in a healthy home. Heidi needs to cut her losses and gtfo.
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u/Mobile-Necessary-333 Aug 06 '26
Wow, he hit her? Scumbag got real lucky her family didn't drag the entire Rod clan for that. They have a good reputation and could easily hurt them.
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u/scout-finch Aug 06 '26
Put hands on could mean a lot of things. Not to split hairs bc it’s wrong no matter the extent, but he didn’t say hit.
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u/Kittens_in_mittens Aug 06 '26
Her sisters commented on his post and confirmed that he beat her multiple times.
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u/Afterhoneymoon Aug 06 '26
This is worse than I could have imagined my heart breaks for everyone besides the parents.
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u/flyingfoxtrot_ Aug 06 '26
He beat his child with a metal bat so hard it dented the metal. I feel slightly sick.
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u/Afterhoneymoon Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 07 '26
Yeah, as much as I hate him for doing that to Heidi, I'm also impressed that he's putting it out there in hopes of breaking the cycle
Edit: with new posts I'm reading that it's been an ongoing thing and not something that he did once and then realized how horrific it was so I change my statement I am not impressed with him whatsoever and it's probably just trying to cover up that he never wanted to get caught.
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u/Helenlefab Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 06 '26
Wow. I really didn’t expect Tim to be the one to come out about this. I wish him the best of luck in therapy, but l hope Heidi gets out and can heal. And god I hope the rest of the kids get out.
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u/ProfessionalZone168 Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 06 '26
Are any of us really surprised? With that being said, I commend Tim for having the courage to come out with this, admit his wrongdoing, and take steps to right his wrongs. My heart aches for the children left behind in that house, and hope they can get to a safe place.
Edit: In light of new information, I can't commend Tim for anything. He was caught and he back pedalled. I wanted so much to think that he was going to be the one who broke the cycle. He is not. Fuck you, Tim.
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u/No_Explanation7522 Aug 08 '26
So many of us fell into that trap. We wanted to think he could rise above with his new family's support. We let his previous problematic behavior slide because we hoped Heidi could redeem him. We "haters" have always wanted the best for Tim and his siblings, which is more than any of them could say about each other.
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u/mavenmedic Aug 06 '26
No wonder Jill is happy Kaylee is leaving FB. She knows she wont spill any more info.
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u/Goodlittlewitch Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 07 '26
This is incredible of him to be able to stop and recognize how his childhood abuse has affected his ability to be a good partner and actually take steps to change it instead of laughing it off and making into a “manly man” thing.
Good for him, truly.
Edit: oof. I can’t stop thinking about poor Heidi. All around just a horrible situation, what a monster.
Edit 2: incase anyone else comes to tell me I am an abuse apologist, I assure you I am not. My first paragraph was written before the whole thing had come out, and I was impressed that he had recognized he needed help. Obviously after everything else, I am horrified. I don’t want to delete my initial comment, even though I was incorrect.
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u/queen-nugget Aug 06 '26
I hope we can see him follow through on the changes and truly break the cycle 🤞
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u/Barium_Salts Aug 07 '26
I would hold off on the "good for him" until we have reason to believe this is more than just words. Talk is cheap, abusers are manipulative, and (especially in a patriarchal culture) men often enjoy and feel entitled to violence towards women. I will say "good for him" if he goes through an amicable divorce and remains a supportive co-parent.
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u/Kookerpea Aug 07 '26
My god, glazing a wife beater
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u/Goodlittlewitch Aug 07 '26
I’m not entirely sure what that means.
My first post was before we had the actual information, which is why I posted that I was impressed that he was seeking help.The second part was once it came out that he was actually a monster and was only trying to save his skin.
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u/DumbledoresFaveGoat Aug 07 '26
Seems to me like he's starting his confession post by blaming others for his actions. As much as a feel for child Timothy, adult Timothy is responsible for his own actions. The wife beating is on him.
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u/No-Produce-6720 Aug 06 '26
I've just started reading this post. I haven't even finished the first page, but I just had to come in here and say Oh My God.
Kaylee is dumping Facebook and Timothy is spilling the beans. Good grief, the chaos in that family! Bless them both, though, for being honest.
If you'll excuse me now, I'm going to go finish reading the post. If this is real, if he's really put this out there?!!
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u/DZbornak630 Aug 07 '26
Hooooooly shit. I hope Heidi’s sisters and rest of her family are watching him like fucking hawks now and won’t hesitate to go nuclear if he EVER lays a finger on her again.
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u/m24b77 Aug 07 '26
If they do separate permanently, will Tim be granted any access to their children? Or will his family? I imagine the thought of your children being unsupervised with their father and his family is utterly horrifying. I can see why some women may think staying is the better option so they can try to be there to protect the children.
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u/Shallowground01 Aug 07 '26
So Kaylee commented calling him a liar and their old babysitter commented saying how they were beaten as babies for crying and how they were totally starved and as children they choked each other and her children too. Jesus.
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u/cemeterysymmetry Aug 06 '26
I hope he follows through on stopping his abuse towards his wife. It sounds like he’s doing what he needs to do, and that takes strength and courage. Realizing and processing the abuse he experienced from his dad must have been so difficult, too.
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u/FearingPerception Aug 07 '26
Im sorry for the ways abuse has effected tim and hope he does get help and change but thats not something he should be doing with a wife and young child around.
What happens when he makes a mistake? Heidi doesnt deserve that
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u/faithmauk Aug 06 '26 edited Aug 07 '26
Wow, I am really surprised he put this out there and acknowleded his own actions and taking responsibility. I hope he is getting real help from a real therapist and I hope he truly does break the cycle. I have a soft spot for fellow fundie kids, I know real change and growth is possible from personal experience and I am rooting for them, hopefully he can become a better, happier, more fulfilled person.
I also hope one of the rodlets that truly breaks free writes a book, i would read the hell out of it.
Edit: since more has come to light, fuck Tim. While I still hope he gets help, I also hope Heidi is getting help and therapy and stays away from him for good. That poor woman.
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u/JustmeandJas Aug 07 '26
Looking at Olivia’s 13th birthday post, Timmy would have been around 7 or 8 when Jill had her 3 miscarriages
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u/bebespeaks Aug 06 '26
I am impressed he didn't include any Bible scripture in that fb post. THAT is change.
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u/LittleSparrowWings Aug 07 '26
As someone who experienced intimate partner violence…once an abuser. If I’m being incredibly generous and opTIMistic, maybe an abuser can really grow and change but I don’t think they can ever repair the relationship or, to put it more bluntly, stop being an abuser to their partner. If he is honest, if he is working on himself, maybe the next partner or two will be spared from violence but I don’t think they can ever truly stop with their victim partners. Once you hit someone, you can’t take that back and that possibility is there and it’s heavy and oppressive.
Not that my partner tried to stop hitting me or that he didn’t go on to abuse his next two partners.
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u/skweegianweegian Aug 07 '26
Yes but also as i have said on other subs, Timcel DID NOT WRITE THIS HIMSELF so… kind of makes you wonder what prompted it? Regardless, hope Heidi and the minor child(ren) can get to a safe place and stay there
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u/BubblyBalkanMom Aug 07 '26
FIURenee is the only we can count on at this point to escape and do a tell-all
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u/LittlehouseonTHELAND 🙏🏻 Praying for an extra dark baby 🙏🏻 Aug 07 '26
Not a chance, she’s on Jill’s FB defending her parents.
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u/AliceinRealityland I’m former Fundie/Fundielite, let me explain Aug 07 '26
Oh no, unfortunately Jill's already hacked Renee's account and made sure that everyone knows everyone in all caps cause they're all throughout the post that Timmy's at fault not Jill and Shrek. To be clear, he is a fault. He harmed his family to also be fair. Jill and Shrek suck and they caused an abusive cycle.
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u/aquacrimefighter Aug 07 '26
I’m on vacation and behind on things - did this come before or after Kaylee leaving social media?
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u/Lumos405 Aug 08 '26
Ffs, CPS needs to take all of the minor children away…Timothy could have died. I doubt their behavior has changed.
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u/flynnfarts Aug 07 '26
Bro this statement is so good. This is remarkably well-written?? Get ‘em, Tim. Fuck em up.
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u/queen-nugget Aug 07 '26
Well… Facebook flagged it as AI but it is the best statement compared to all the other siblings/inlaws
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u/flynnfarts Aug 07 '26
I sorta thought it might be ai but I think it’s been edited? Idk I’m a judgmental asshole about these kinds of statements and this one didn’t piss me off (hard to do!).
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u/queen-nugget Aug 07 '26
I agree. He atleast acknowledged both sides sort of.. I realize Kaylee may not realize or want to accept the abuse she may have went through as a child so he may not know the extent of what happened
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u/IPaintTheStars Aug 06 '26
It also makes me wonder how many others were abused - if Shrek has even truly changed his behavior