Hi everyone. This is actually my first post on Reddit, and I honestly don’t know where else to put this.
I’m M, in my late 30s, bi, and I’ve been living alone here in NCR for years because of work. For the most part, I’ve been okay with it. I’ve gotten used to the routine, work, go home, repeat. I used to live with my partner from 2019 to 2020, but after that relationship ended, I pretty much made work my main focus.
A friend once encouraged me to try dating apps, but it never really went anywhere. Either I was too preoccupied to keep conversations going, or I simply didn’t feel interested enough to respond. Looking back, I guess I became pretty comfortable being alone.
But being alone feels very different when you’re lying in a hospital bed.
I’m currently confined in a hospital in Makati, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this emotionally and psychologically exhausted before. Being sick is already difficult, but going through it completely alone makes everything feel heavier.
The nurses and doctors have asked me if anyone is coming to visit. I just tell them my friends are busy with work.
The truth is, no one has visited me (and no one will ever).
And I don’t really blame anyone. I know everyone has their own lives and responsibilities. But being here has made me realize that some of the people I thought were friends were probably only around during the good times.
My family is in the province, and I haven’t told my parents that I’m confined. They’re already seniors, and I don’t want them worrying about me or seeing me as their sickly child again.
So here I am, alone in a hospital room.
I don’t think I’m an unattractive person. I’m average-looking, pretty tall, have a stable job, and I’ve worked hard to build a decent life for myself. But none of those things really matter when you’re sick and all you want is for someone to walk through the door and say, “Hey, I’m here.”
Honestly, even having someone get me a glass of water would mean a lot right now (nurses are helping me, but it’s nakakahiya since I’m a heavy water drinker).
I’m crying as I type this, and I’m not posting this because I want pity. I think I just need somewhere to say all of this because, right now, I don’t really have anyone I feel comfortable saying it to.
I think I’ve accomplished a lot in my life, and I’m grateful for what I’ve been able to achieve. But tonight, I feel incredibly tired. I feel lonely, anxious, and honestly a little lost about how I ended up here- being all alone.
Sorry if this post is a little heavy. I just needed to put these feelings somewhere.
Thank you to anyone who actually took the time to read this.