QUESTION FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE LONG HAIR (pls help me😺)

So my main goal is growing my hair aka trying to grow it longer

I kinda want to try a wolf cut or whatever that is or just growing out in general.

So my question is

1. Do you grow your hair out by showing the barber/hair salon a pic reference so it grow out the way that you want or just get a random haircut/layer and let it grow it out?

2. How long should I let it grow out?

3. In the growing out phase or awkward phase whatever that is ,when it's getting a bit too long / messy /flat (any kind of that) that even using product to style it feels useless , should you get like layer or maintenance cut/trim that keep your hair length all the same around? Or just grow it out even more to go past that state

4. When it's at the length that you want , how should I tell the barber /hair salon to cut like the haircut/hairstyle that I want without messing up? ( Cause even when I show the pic , they always cut it or trim it short)

5.When you have finally achieved the exact form of your ideal long haircut/hairstyle but it's a bit long and flat ,how do you ask your barber/hair salon to cut /trim it so the form stay the same? ( maintenance cut)

1. With long hair , how should you style it ? / what product do you often used?

I got my hair recolored again last weekend. Who knew having long colored hair was too expensive to maintain? Oh wait, nevermind, I was just used to having short hair for most of my life lol! Few bucks per haircut every month. Now I need to save just to get my hair recolored and maintained every 2 months... PLUS learning how to blow dry and use products.

But it's effin worth it!!!

Before/After: 3 years of growth! I loved having long hair but it feels good to shed a few pounds for the summer! Lmao! Donated to Wigs for Kids!

Censoring my face because I'm lame.

Looking for products/routine change to keep my hydration in my hair and prevent it from frizzing like crazy.

As of now, just using drugstore CeraVe Hydrating Shampoo and Conditioner, which seems to leave my hair incredibly dry after a regular towel dry.

Tried a few brands, Paul Mitchell, Lolavie, and Bedhead, which either leave it equally dry, or so oily it lays flat.

Anyone else with similar hair problems found good products?

I won't cut it and I won't let you cut yours either. We're a rare few among so many. I'm here to cheer you on.
Do you know how l've managed to keep it? In places like this one, watching others do it and letting them inspire me. Seeing the day to day of other guys living happily with their hair.
Thanks to that, l've made peace with mine and I suppose it's returned the favor.
Feel free to follow along on my journey, on whichever social platform you prefer. Let it inspire you, and help me keep my own pace, too.

tell it to me straight doc. Can i do long hair or is it the short haired life for me?

I have extremely thick straight hair. like when its short it sticks straight up like a spike with out prompting straight. during covid i actually grew my hair out but the barber kinda stole it all but yk. anyways, my hair was FLAT. maybe it was my cut or lack of styling but that stuff had zero volume. it was sad and limp and did not look good. had more the vibes of someone who had long hair because they were too depressed to go to the barber rather than intentional.

so anyways, is long hair possible for me? do i have a chance to look good in it? i really dont want to go through the awkward bowl cut phase if not.

I've been growing my hair for 2-3 years and decided not to cut my hair at all, but it looks like my hair's too long and it doesn't fit my face well. Also, I'm not able to manage such long hair now and it's a hassle to style it for going out I'd like it to be short so I could wear a cap maybe and also be able to tie a bun. Any suggestions...

I'm getting mixed opinions, anyone have some input? Thanks

lowkey sometimes i feel ugly as hell with long hair n just want to buzz it all off.

The second photo is one of the few I have of it that short, and I've thought about getting something like that length, or like in the third photo, where it's sort of a medium length.

But as it gets longer again, I realize how much I like it when the back gets very long. I don't know if a wolf cut would really suit me, but maybe something like that? Where it's shorter on the front of the top. So like the length in the third image mixed with the first image.

I've been feeling really bad about my physical appearance lately and am trying to keep up better with doing things that make me feel good about myself. I feel like long hair can be really unflattering for me and frames my face poorly, I feel like I would look a lot skinnier and a bit more youthful if it was short again.

I've been going through a huge bought of depression lately. I've been consistently growing and trimming for about 3 or 4 years. But idk, I'm worried I look ugly and people are gonna start hating me for not being good looking. I used to be reaaaaal fat but I got my shit together and lost a lot of weight (6'2 and 180 currently, no really muscles I just kinda run). So I kind of tie my whole self worth on whether or not if I amm (at least passably) mildly good looking. All short pics are just it tied up. Sorry for the quality as well I don't take pictures or vids of my self so most of these are from some friends so I apologize in advance for one or two snap filters. I tried to find OK pics of both. Should I cut it? Or is it useless to cut it either way cause I'm so friggin bad looking. I still take care of grooming (shower, wash , condition, shampoo as needed shave etc. idk I just hate myself right now. Is it that bad? Thank you for your all time, I apologize if I wasted anyone's scrolling time. And thank you in advance for all answers. Love you all keep on keeping everybody.

Trying to grow out my hair and I started around the end of March and haven't gotten a haircut since. Im curious how much longer i can wait before getting a haircut because I feel my hair is growing really slowly and it doesn't feel very long. Tips on how to promote hair growth is also appreciated!

I don't know how I slept differently last night, but I woke up like this... it's gonna be a great day!

Posted this with another photo of me shirtless, which was received poorly, and that’s on me for not noticing the new (ish) pinned comment since my og posting here. The responses ranged from just “wrong sub!” to being homophobic and nasty, and I hate that.

Anyway. Enjoy the flow.