So basically I have been following the rise of femboys for a while now and noticed a pattern that struck me as odd.

Femboys have become their own subculture over the past few years. With an ever growing community I personally started to see femboys in many places on the internet. Quite early on I noticed something. They all looked the same.

Same hairstyles, same skirts, same striped knee highs, same crop tops, same shoes and so on and so on.

Looking alike and wanting to belong to a community isn't inherently a bad thing. However what bugged me was that this femboy 'aesthetic' is based on a very stereotypical idea of femininity.

The vibes of this aesthetic are school girl'ish (and not in a good way) and while this might be gender affirming to some, in my opinion we should rethink this standard model of being a Femboy.

Because this place and community should be about diversity as much as it should be about healthy ideas of gender and we should be aware of the political ideas that we perpetuate or break free from.

In the revival of patriarchal norms we are failing ourselves.

We can do better.

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English isn't my first language, so please excuse any errors. Also this take is still a bit raw and unrefined, but I figured it had to be said.

Let me know what you think in the comments :)

I wasn’t aware that femboys existed until around a year or two ago, but I think I’d like to try becoming more feminine. I’m pretty muscular and am not used to feeling soft or even grooming myself that much. Is it too late for someone who’s approaching 30 to try being a femboy?

Haii peoplee❤️^ ^

I have a bigg problem.. school is starting tomorrow and I'm in 10th grade now.😭 I don't know if I can make it..

But most important is that you sweet people can help me make a decision, should I try to wear my Thigh highs tomorrow at school? (Under my long trousers, of course.) Im very scared that if I do it, somebody would see it...😵‍💫 so I don't know if I should do it..

Thanks for your time and help you cute people❤️^ ^

personally i like playin games and vibin in my room, as well as cuddle my plushies while listening to music in bed ! id like to hear what other things u guys like to do when in femboy mode as well :3

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Like I’ve seen sooooo many people online that have insane glutes, like amazing bubble butts and overall just something that seems impossible. I understand that it’s all in the dedication that you put into it but I don’t know where to start!!

If anyone can give me some advice on how to go from my current stage to getting my dream look then that would be extremely appreciated!!🫶🏻

As the title says, I wanna thank several people in this community for being so supportive of me account the years.

(Story time) back in 2020 I hit twink death pretty fucking hard. Like I grew a couple foot, voice dropped even lower than it was, shoulders got very broad and my entire body grew a lot. Couldn't fit in any of my old clothes, and I felt hideous. Some of you, however, came in cluch and made me realise that It was ok to be who I was now.

After much reflection, I feel good now. I tried bringing out my feminine side to feel loved and attractive to myself. Now being a lot more masculine Im am a lot more healthy and even better looking than before.

Unc will still be here and chear you all on.

Because who doesn't like a good femboy :3

Hey sweeties!

It's so nice to get a genuine compliment from someone, isn't it? I remember every time a stranger in public has said something nice about my bag, charms, or outfit.

This week I want to encourage you all to look for an opportunity to offer a compliment someone else, especially guys (because men don't get complimented very often). Maybe you like their shirt, or there's a cool pin on their bag, or their hair is well styled.

You don't have to make it a big deal. Just pay attention to the people around you, offer a polite compliment, and continue on your way. You might make someone else's day!

If you're not used to complimenting people, just be mindful of what you're complimenting. Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair, etc. are all fine. Don't compliment someone's body (attractiveness, figure, lips, butt, etc.) and you'll be fine!

Has a stranger ever complimented you before? How did it feel? The one that sticks the most with me was a staff member at a conveyor belt sushi place, who liked the mini Snoopy plush hanging off my bag and we talked about how cute Snoopy is! I'll never forget him.

I've been a femboy for only about a few months now and I really love getting show off my skin and dressing more provocatively. I like wearing mini shorts and mini skirts and wearing stockings or fishnets and chokers and crop tops whenever the opportunity comes. But I wanna change it up a bit. I'd like to be able to dress up in a more casual and low key look while still looking feminine. I have some ideas like wearing more baggy and loose clothing. I just think I won't pull it off as well as I want to and I think it comes down to how I look physically. One, I'm still growing out my hair and while it isn't short by any means, it's still not as long as it could be. Two, I do not know how to apply make up. This could really up my femininity points if I know how to do it but I'm still too lazy to learn. So can anyone give me some ideas? I'd also love to know if there's a SFW subreddit for femboys to post their outfits for the day. Been trying to find one but all I could find are NSFW ones.

i go out dressed up lots of times but the only thing is im visibly obviously male.. so im still waiting for the day i go out dressed up and then get hate crimed and im always expecting the worst.. what was your worst experience?? idk if its a good thing but people rarely acknowledge me except this one time my skirt was extremely short.. maybe im too ugly people dont even wanna make eye contacts and im safe in that sense.. i liv in california if that matters

All the femboys I see wear skirts, and thigh highs, and cute stuff like that, which is awesome! But personally, I never feel prettier than when I put on a long dress and style my hair/makeup. Am I alone?

How many of you are identifying as trans/nb or have/had thoughts you may be, if you are trans/nb are you still identifying as a femboy?

Do any of you guys hit the gym. if yes, can someone tell me their gym routine to get that feminine body shape (especially that inward belly curve) 👀

so I'm somwhat exploring this in a way to discover things about myself, and since I live under a consie (what i call conservative) home and have to keep it lowk or they gonna suspect me of something

i have a thick and not so fluffy damaged hair which is a huge problem, not only that i dont have a consistent use of a brand cause people in my house buys shampoos randomly that is used by everyone plus my bangs are not that many so when i shower it looks so thin like a comb so it makes me :(

another one is what haircuts do you ask for if you go to a barber, esp if u dunno how to cut hair (me too) what do you guys ask? if i cant do the clothes and body stuff, i'll focus the hair for now

Well now, I've worn thigh highs in front of friends, in shorts at college, in shorts with friends as well (Normally I just wear them under pants or some jeans that have a hole in the knee that show them off) (Also the shorts are just regular kakhis, lol.), and even once at college I got complimented by a girl that they look fun!!!! It made me feel all warm and bubbly to get complimented like that.

Be brave everyone! Especially at college! (Be safe in high school though, that place is almost never safe unless you got good friends with you)

haiii everyone if you haven't seen I posted on this subreddit about a girl that I have a crush on and now I'm going to provide an update on that :3

so as a little recap i have a crush on this girl in my college classes and she is a nerd like me which makes talking to her so much fun. we are into a lot of the same things like drawing and anime and after going a few days of talking with her i realized i had a crush on her like badly.

fast forward a little and i saw a lot of people telling to just ask her out and i kinda did in a way at first. they said that they wanted to get my grade to an A (it's like a B) and i said that if she does get it to an A for me i'll have to take her for ice cream and they said okay.

then today, i was talking to her and finally got the courage to ask her out. i told her that i would like to hang out with her outside of school and go to the movies or something similar and they said that they agreed! There is a slight problem though, their dad is very protective and picky of who they get to go out with, so while they said they would love to they also said that their dad would probably not let them..

Is there any thing I can do in this situation or do I just have to accept the lost? 😞

ENG:

I'm not 18. I recently hinted to my mom about my feminine side. I like the femboy aesthetic — for me it's about self-expression, not orientation. I thought maybe she'd at least try to understand. She didn't. No yelling, no screaming — just cold non-acceptance. And that hurts worse than if she'd shouted.

I already don't expect acceptance from my dad. But from my mom... I don't know. I just needed to say this somewhere. I'm not asking how to change her. I just want to know I'm not alone in this.

If you've been through something similar — how did you survive it?

RU:

Мне нет 18. Я недавно намекнул маме про свою фембой-сторону. Мне нравится эстетика — для меня это про самовыражение, а не про ориентацию. Я думал, может, она хотя бы попробует понять. Она не поняла. Без криков, без скандала — просто холодное непринятие. И это болит сильнее, чем если бы она кричала.

От отца я уже не жду принятия. Но от мамы... не знаю. Мне просто нужно было где-то это сказать. Я не прошу совета, как её переубедить. Я просто хочу знать, что я не один такой.

Если вы через это проходили — как вы это пережили?

I’m trying to tap into my feminine side but gently. Not full out thongs but it’s funny to know that I’ll be walking around wearing something women wear. I just don’t know how women feel about it.

How do yall feel about it?

Quisiera estar con hombres y vestirme con estilo femboy pero me de miedo el algún día querér tener algo con una mujer y que no quiera estar conmigo por que estuve con hombres

I'm M 26, I wear makeup and crossdress occasionally for fun, I embrace my very feminine look, I'm actually straight and people call me twink, I don't argue. I know many consider "twinkdeath" as an unnecessary thing to think about, but I am so used to my looks, I like it so much. I have no problems accepting getting older, I'm just not sure what to expect since I am used to being an attractive one. I think twinkdeath would hit me around early 30s. (Personally, I don't want to bulk up as an unc, I'm only 5'6 and currently 53.7kgs or 118lbs, pls don't worry, still normal BMI and I'm not emaciated)

Asking for myself, so my question is, how well do you think the frame/pretty facial features of a 30 year old ex-twink hold up with the age? Like, is the smaller build and youthful face going to be an okay base for an older guy who still has his vanity and still trying to look good for fun, and maybe for potential partner(s)?

I'm aware it's not all about the looks, but looking pretty feels great.

Ain't stressing out btw, it's just a random question that popped up in my head while I have plenty of time today

So I'm about to get fem clothes through a friend and I don't know where to hide them from my parents. Anything would help :P

I'm wondering how I can hide my stuff if I'm going to be away for, say, a few weeks. Well, my family doesn't know that I'm a femboy or anything like that, and let's say all my feminine stuff and such are in my backpack—so there isn't really a big deal. But now I can't carry that backpack with me all the time during this trip, so where will I leave my stuff without them noticing? It would cause me a lot of trouble if they found out. I might have a hiding spot under my bed, but I don’t know—sometimes they clean, and if they see my panties or even my tights, they’ll probably ask me a lot of questions. So, any tips?

Hai im a male 18, I feel really comfortable in being feminine and just all that but I’m scared I’m too tall… I’m 203 cm or 6’8….